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Weekly Randoms w/o 4.19

chindimples04chindimples04 member
edited April 20 in October 2021 Moms

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Me: 26 DH: 26

TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019 | May '19 BMB

TTC#2 | June '20-Present


Re: Weekly Randoms w/o 4.19

  • cait32cait32 member
    @chindimples04 I have nothing to add but I'm loving this graphic haha

    DSS: March 2006
    DD: July 2017
    DS: February 2019
    BFP #3 TW ended in CP March 2020
    BFP #4 - TW ended in CP August 2020
    BFP #5 - due October 2021
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  • @cait32 @chindimples04 There is for sure a lot going on, lol
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  • I really wish I had a Nintendo 64 and Mario Kart right now 🤣 
  • @kitandcat MIL just sold her house so DH picked up his old original playstation and games and another console. But he has crash bandicoot, and I've been wanting to play it so bad!
  • @Kabazaba OMG  :open_mouth: I need an update from day 2!
  • @Kabazaba I think Zoom court might be the highlight of the pandemic. Recently a defendant charged with grand theft auto allegedly logged into a Zoom hearing FROM A DIFFERENT STOLEN CAR.

    I feel bad for attorneys who have to manage these people. Like, who would think that they needed to coach a witness about making sure they don't have porn in the video frame, "covered" or not?
  • cait32cait32 member
    Omg @Kabazaba — when you started that story I was like “no way this is as good as the guy who went viral with the kitten filter in zoom court” and then it was so much more! I don’t even know how to put backgrounds on zoom—was it like a video of porn or a still from a porn? I’m so confused but dying.
    DSS: March 2006
    DD: July 2017
    DS: February 2019
    BFP #3 TW ended in CP March 2020
    BFP #4 - TW ended in CP August 2020
    BFP #5 - due October 2021
  • @cait32 I think it was his real wall! The fake Zoom background kept getting confused about what was and was not a real human so was uncovering and re-covering parts according to whether it "thought" there was a living person there or not.
  • @noprobalo is right! And they did not recall him today :( So no more porn wall.
    Me: 36 | DH: 41 | Married: 9/29/07 | DD: December 2018 | BFP: 2/1/21, EDD: 10/6/21
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  • @Kabazaba that’s the best thing I’ve ever read 😂😂😂
  • DS's cousins (8 year olds) have been telling their classmates about the baby. It's so sweet that they're excited, but they seem to have forgotten to share one little detail: the baby is their cousin, not their sibling. Now their 54 yo mom and 63 yo dad are getting congratulations on the pregnancy from other parents at drop off/pickup. So awkward and funny.

    @kitandcat I love Mario Kart, but I was all about the GameCube. DH let me borrow his for a week when we were dating and he went on vacation with his fam. I spent that week beating all his high scores. He was not amused.
  • Big fight with my mom today. I’ve been talking about daycare being an option for DH and I and she’s been extremely vocally negative. Like I’m talking very passive yet manipulative snide comments. 
    I finally snapped and drew a line saying that her constant negativity regarding it does nothing for me beneficially and is literally designed to try and guilt/ make me anxious. 
    I then was told by her that it’s her feelings and she doesn’t want to bottle them up. 
    I replied with, you’re telling the wrong person. Vent to somebody else then. 

    Sigh. Haven’t talked since I ended the conversation. 
  • @madiirosee ugh so sorry. My mom has been like that in the past regarding my relationship (we aren’t married yet) and about things regarding my DS. The “my feelings” BS is so annoying. My mom and I didn’t talk for a while after she pulled some of those comments with me previously. Fast forward to now things are much better and I just let her know what I would tolerate and what I wouldn’t. Just because she’s your mom doesn’t mean she gets to say whatever she wants without consequence. 
  • @madiirosee Maybe share the following with her if she's receptive: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/promoting-hope-preventing-suicide/201705/ring-theory-helps-us-bring-comfort-in

    Although having a baby and making decisions is not a crisis (maybe a positive crisis? An upheaval at a minimum), you and your husband are at the center, and your mom is one ring outside. For healthy interactions, she needs to bring comfort and support to the center of the ring, and direct all complaining to someone in her ring or farther out. You were right when you said she needs to find someone else to vent to.

    If she's not, then I would limit interaction until she's done having whatever feelings she's having. Who needs that?
  • madiiroseemadiirosee member
    edited April 23
    @bcliffee1 I completely agree! We’ve had our issues in the past that’s for sure. I always set good boundaries but I think unfortunately sometimes she slides back into her old ways once we start getting comfortable again so I have to remind her. 

    @noprobalo wow! This is awesome- you’d think in all my years of therapy I would have seen something like this before LOL. thank you! She definitely struggles to take a step back and decide if it’s beneficial for the other party before “emotion vomiting” all over them. 
    Luckily this morning I did get an apology from her. I did tell her, mom, all I really need right now is your support. 
    Glad she’s being more receptive. Unfortunately- I’m sure this type of situation might come up again. Definitely will refer back to your link! 
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