Weekly Randoms w/o 4.19

noprobalo · April 2021

@cait32 @chindimples04 There is for sure a lot going on, lol

kitandcat · April 2021

I really wish I had a Nintendo 64 and Mario Kart right now 🤣

gingermama46 · April 2021

@kitandcat MIL just sold her house so DH picked up his old original playstation and games and another console. But he has crash bandicoot, and I've been wanting to play it so bad!

Kabazaba · April 2021

If I haven't mentioned it I'm a family lawyer (divorce, custody, support) and in court fairly frequently. Which for the past year means zoom court. And by far the best thing ever to happen in zoom court happened yesterday at the end of day 1 (today is day 2, starting in about an hour).

The last 20 minutes of trial yesterday was opposing counsel trying to call this one witness. At first the witness logs onto Zoom Court and doesn't have his video on. The judge is obviously like sir we need to be able to see you. So sir turns on his video cam with the fake beach background. Only everyone is kinda confused because there's also... OMG IT'S PORN. HE'S SITTING IN FRONT OF A WALL FULL OF PORN THAT THE FAKE BEACH BACKGROUND THINKS IS HIM AND INTERMITTENTLY COVERING/NOT (you'd see a hairy leg here, then it would fade out and you'd see a boob, then actual dick, ...). I had to mute myself I lost my mind. The judge was like SIR STOP MOVING IT'S NOT WORKING LOG OUT. We spent the next 20 minutes I guess having the guy try to "find a better connection" aka a NONPORN wall. But it didn't work so theoretically they'll call him as a witness again today? What an idiot of a lawyer if they actually do that, and a laughing stock of a witness. I will 100% ask why did you call into court yesterday sitting in front of a PORN WALL. DO YOU PUT YOUR KIDS IN FRONT OF THAT PORN WALL. That's all. That's my random for this week. Oh! And tomorrow I get Pfizer shot #2.

gingermama46 · April 2021

@Kabazaba OMG

I need an update from day 2!

noprobalo · April 2021

@Kabazaba I think Zoom court might be the highlight of the pandemic. Recently a defendant charged with grand theft auto allegedly logged into a Zoom hearing FROM A DIFFERENT STOLEN CAR.

I feel bad for attorneys who have to manage these people. Like, who would think that they needed to coach a witness about making sure they don't have porn in the video frame, "covered" or not?

noprobalo · April 2021

@cait32 I think it was his real wall! The fake Zoom background kept getting confused about what was and was not a real human so was uncovering and re-covering parts according to whether it "thought" there was a living person there or not.

Kabazaba · April 2021

@noprobalo is right! And they did not recall him today

So no more porn wall.

kitandcat · April 2021

@Kabazaba that’s the best thing I’ve ever read 😂😂😂

aztecash · April 2021

DS's cousins (8 year olds) have been telling their classmates about the baby. It's so sweet that they're excited, but they seem to have forgotten to share one little detail: the baby is their cousin, not their sibling. Now their 54 yo mom and 63 yo dad are getting congratulations on the pregnancy from other parents at drop off/pickup. So awkward and funny.

@kitandcat I love Mario Kart, but I was all about the GameCube. DH let me borrow his for a week when we were dating and he went on vacation with his fam. I spent that week beating all his high scores. He was not amused.

madiirosee · April 2021

Big fight with my mom today. I’ve been talking about daycare being an option for DH and I and she’s been extremely vocally negative. Like I’m talking very passive yet manipulative snide comments.
I finally snapped and drew a line saying that her constant negativity regarding it does nothing for me beneficially and is literally designed to try and guilt/ make me anxious.

I then was told by her that it’s her feelings and she doesn’t want to bottle them up.

I replied with, you’re telling the wrong person. Vent to somebody else then.

Sigh. Haven’t talked since I ended the conversation.

bcliffee1 · April 2021

@madiirosee ugh so sorry. My mom has been like that in the past regarding my relationship (we aren’t married yet) and about things regarding my DS. The “my feelings” BS is so annoying. My mom and I didn’t talk for a while after she pulled some of those comments with me previously. Fast forward to now things are much better and I just let her know what I would tolerate and what I wouldn’t. Just because she’s your mom doesn’t mean she gets to say whatever she wants without consequence.

noprobalo · April 2021

@madiirosee Maybe share the following with her if she's receptive: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/promoting-hope-preventing-suicide/201705/ring-theory-helps-us-bring-comfort-in

Although having a baby and making decisions is not a crisis (maybe a positive crisis? An upheaval at a minimum), you and your husband are at the center, and your mom is one ring outside. For healthy interactions, she needs to bring comfort and support to the center of the ring, and direct all complaining to someone in her ring or farther out. You were right when you said she needs to find someone else to vent to.

If she's not, then I would limit interaction until she's done having whatever feelings she's having. Who needs that?

madiirosee · April 2021

@bcliffee1 I completely agree! We’ve had our issues in the past that’s for sure. I always set good boundaries but I think unfortunately sometimes she slides back into her old ways once we start getting comfortable again so I have to remind her.

@noprobalo wow! This is awesome- you’d think in all my years of therapy I would have seen something like this before LOL. thank you! She definitely struggles to take a step back and decide if it’s beneficial for the other party before “emotion vomiting” all over them.

Luckily this morning I did get an apology from her. I did tell her, mom, all I really need right now is your support.

Glad she’s being more receptive. Unfortunately- I’m sure this type of situation might come up again. Definitely will refer back to your link!

chindimples04 · April 2021

January 2022 BMB is up! There is no one in it but the fact that it’s open makes me excited! I love watching nee BMBs open! Reminds me we are one month closer to meeting our sweet babes!

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