@disgruntled_pelican I actually just interviewed for a new position yesterday. Totally different company and completely different role. I know it’s not required but I was completely honest about my timeframe for start dates and time off. Granted I knew these people professionally from a while back so it wasn’t weird for me to talk about things. I think I would feel better if I could start now and take maternity leave after I was trained than to have to wait 5-6 months to even start.
Feel like I’ve been MIA all week! We lost internet Monday, then cell service was crap Tuesday, power completely out on Wednesday. We finally got power last night so will be headed back home from my sisters this morning. I had my job interview yesterday virtually and it went really well! Hopefully I hear one way or another next week! I’m actually kinda excited and trying not to be since they do have to make some pretty big accommodations for me if they decide to hire me.
My heart is broken. One of my very good mom friends from here just found out her baby has a genetic neurodegenerative disease. He will die eventually. 💔💔💔 this baby is 2 weeks older than my son, they were due at the same time. She suspected something was wrong and kept pushing for a diagnosis every time the doctors tried to brush her off. How do you even cope? How do you survive? I am so devastated for her and that sweet boy. I love him so much. I just grabbed my son after she texted me and held on so tight.
hey ladies! This week has been pretty quiet for me. I did talk to my doctor yesterday. I had commented on a post the practice had about her and her cancer diagnosis and she commented back to me asking how I was. I PM’d her and we talked a little which made me feel better. It’s weird when this doctor has been there for me these last almost 10 years in the whole having a baby stage and now she can’t be. I’m praying she heals and she should be back in June. If not, the other doctors are great, but it’s still not my doctor that I know.
@mindyb2019 I used to hate maternity pants but I got used to them. If you find the right pair, it makes a difference.
@disgruntled_pelican congrats on the interviews and good luck with the process! I would say go for it, they can’t discriminate against you for being pregnant
I hope everyone who lost power got it back. I saw some did which is great! We had a bad storm this past summer and lost power for over a week and I know how hard it was. I couldn’t work for 2 weeks bc of the no power and luckily, we were able to get a generator but I made a 10 hour drive to get it. It was a hard time though!
@AKuzReve that's so awful about your friend's son. The only suggestion I have is to be there for her, without obligation. FWIW, a friend of mine went through a very traumatic experience (not child-related, her hotel was attacked by a terrorist group while on a work trip and a colleague was killed) so I got in the habit of regularly sending her short messages just saying that I'm thinking of her, am there for whatever she needs, but she has zero obligation to respond. I never got a response, but when I finally saw her a year later she told me those messages were some of the most helpful she'd gotten. In going through my own losses I agreed: it's hard to ask for help, or even know what to ask for, but immensely comforting to know that you haven't been forgotten. A lot of people tend to give someone space when they're going through something difficult, assuming they'll come to them if anything is needed, but usually you wind up just feeling like everyone has moved on. For those who do reach out proactively, when you're on the receiving end you can feel like you're obligated to respond in some acceptable way. It's exhausting to think up even the simplest response, so being clear that she doesn't have to is a relief. If you do talk, there's no harm in just bluntly asking what she needs: does she want to talk about it (in which case, shut up) or does she need a distraction?
ETA: I know you weren't necessarily asking and this was a lot longer than I anticipated (sorry). Been talking about this sort of thing with a friend so it was top of my mind
@AKuzReve I'm so sorry your friend is going through that 💔 I truly can't imagine. Hug your son tightly and I think @akoros has given some awesome advice about being there for your friend.
@akoros, no, thank you because I appreciate it. She’s meeting with doctors today to fully understand the prognosis and next steps. Once she’s ready, our little group will make sure that we can make this time as easy as possible (in regards to food and distractions) for her. We’re all expats here and it really forms a special bond between each other because we all have nobody else. We are each other’s family basically. So she will feel our immense love for her and her sweet boy no matter what.
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@mindyb2019 I used to hate maternity pants but I got used to them. If you find the
right pair, it makes a difference.
@disgruntled_pelican congrats on the interviews and good luck with the process! I would say go for it, they can’t discriminate against you for being pregnant
I hope everyone who lost power got it back. I saw some did which is great! We had a bad storm this past summer and lost power for over a week and I know how hard it was. I couldn’t work for 2 weeks bc of the no power and luckily, we were able to get a generator but I made a 10 hour drive to get it. It was a hard time though!
ETA: I know you weren't necessarily asking and this was a lot longer than I anticipated (sorry). Been talking about this sort of thing with a friend so it was top of my mind
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