Annoying Things Others Say to Pregnant People 🤬

mc0303

People seem to lose all manners with pregnant people! Especially ILs and perfect strangers 😡

Maggie1202

DH's grandma told me I wasted money on my glider for the nursery because babies need to be rocked in something that squeaks........... What?? 

sgrn18

I’m ready for this thread!  My MIL and FIL were FaceTiming my son last night (they do this regularly).  They saw me get out of the bed, go to the kitchen, and walk back to bed with a snack.  My FIL made sure to comment that “that doesn’t look like bedrest”.  Like WTF? What do you think I do when I go to the bathroom?  

Last pregnancy my MIL (who is MORBIDLY OBESE) wouldn’t stop commenting on my weight gain.  I had gained 45 lbs by the time I delivered and all she could talk about was how back when she was pregnant she could only gain 18 lbs.  

laurad75

My mother is naturally very thin and barely gained any weight when she was pregnant with me. She loves to tell anyone who will listen how small she was. It’s annoying and insensitive. 

marebear15

My mom has already comments on how big I am, asked if I was sure the dates were right, and made remarks about how I'm never going to make it to my due date. The funny thing is she's done this with every pregnancy, and I've gone over my due date every pregnancy. She just forgets how big I really get.

klj0228

Do I see a little something there? - while also reaching out to touch belly

You have to try for a boy - when they find out we are having girl #2. First, we are done after this one. Second, can I birth this baby before we talk about future babies? Third, why is it your business whether I have another or not? Fourth, are you going to help pay for all expenses related to baby #3 you’re so sure I need? 

remi1014

I'm being selfish and not telling anyone we know that sex of the baby already. We have 2 girls and that all anyone every talks about is how this one NEEDS to be a boy. It is. And I don't want to see gloating faces about how "right" everyone is. 

sugarcoateddonut

@klj0228 & @remi014 the comments about "needing" a boy drive me crazy!

My SIL told me (MULTIPLE times) that she is praying I have a boy so I know what that kind of love feels like. Like I don't love my daughter as much as she loves her son?? 

Also so many comments from people about how DH must be really hoping for a son this time.

akoros

Wasn't directly said to me (as very few know I'm pregnant), but my mom's friend insisted that she organize a prayer session of all her friends so they can pray together for us to conceive and that it's a boy, since boys are easier. My mom (who is only lightly religious, and more the Catholic solitary-prayer type) just told her that plenty of people are praying already. Kind of awkward...

remi1014

akoros said:

Wasn't directly said to me (as very few know I'm pregnant), but my mom's friend insisted that she organize a prayer session of all her friends so they can pray together for us to conceive and that it's a boy, since boys are easier. My mom (who is only lightly religious, and more the Catholic solitary-prayer type) just told her that plenty of people are praying already. Kind of awkward...

Oh ew. That's really uncomfortable.

marebear15

@remi1014 _ I'm having a boy after two girls, and I'm getting those "Oh finally!" comments. I would have really liked three girls, and I'm actually kind of terrified to have a boy, so those people can shove it.

Omie_Wise

We have two boys so the “I hope it’s a girl” comments are constant. I really want a girl too but I don’t want it constantly brought up because I’ve consciously chosen to be actively excited about either a boy or a girl. I don’t like constantly revisiting how much I really would like for it to be a girl. 

_orchid_

Having my 3rd boy and dreading the comments about that! Are people getting covid quarantine comments?

We literally have only told maybe 10 people outside of DH's family and my dad/stepmom, and everyone knows about our struggles so no one's really said anything bad. Comments are part of the reason I don't want to tell more ppl! 

Worst comments I got with my first were AFTER I went back to work. I worked in a public library at that time so we had so many random people who knew I had been out on maternity leave. So many comments about how terrible it was I was back at work, that he was in daycare, etc. First day back I had a random MALE patron follow me around the building talking to me about breastfeeding and how formula was the worst etc. FIRST DAY BACK. I had supply issues and he was supplemented with formula and I spent the whole day off and on crying. 

sgrn18

When we announced we were pregnant with DS my brother’s girlfriend kept saying she “just knew it was a boy.”   It was horribly annoying when all we wanted was a baby not a specific sex after trying for 2 years with a miscarriage under our belt.  They were unaware of our struggles but still.

Then when we found we were having a second boy people started asking about a girl and I just straight up told them I’m getting my tubes tied after this one.  Stopped that crap in its tracks.  Two children is two children I don’t care what genitals they have. 

laurad75

Why do people think they are Nostradamus when they guess the sex of a baby?  You literally only have 2 choices, it's a 50/50 shot.  

remi1014

marebear15 said:

@remi1014 _ I'm having a boy after two girls, and I'm getting those "Oh finally!" comments. I would have really liked three girls, and I'm actually kind of terrified to have a boy, so those people can shove it.

Same here, I'm honestly scared to have a boy and how different it will be. All I know is girls. In my head I know it can't be *that* different but still. I'm kicking around the idea of just not telling our families that its a boy and just having it be a "surprise". I'm so petty. lol

Maggie1202

@_orchid_ Constantly hearing "Oh, I see what you were up to during quarantine!" Yeah, not funny. What we were "up to" is finally trying again after trying for almost 3 years, and taking a 2 year break because my mental health was NOT okay. So yeah, that's what we were "up to". Massive eye roll...

legallykate

@Maggie1202 Big hugs. We got a couple of those comments too, and I had to bite my tongue to not respond "if you are referring to many months of trying unsuccessfully followed by devastating test results and then months of injections and invasive treatments and monitoring, a surgical egg removal, MH doing his thing in a cup, and me ultimately getting knocked up by a fancier turkey baster by a doctor whom I have only ever seen in a mask and vice versa, all of which was accompanied by many tears and fears that we would never have another child" then yes, you know what we were up to... 

laurad75

@Maggie1202 I have not heard that one but when I do I'll be quick with a response of 'yes, it was a relief when my IVF clinic opened again.'  

akoros

@Maggie1202 Yeah...I'm not sure exactly what my response will be if get that comment, but it'd be blunt and not very pretty.

_orchid_

Just that quarantine comment potential makes me want to announce on social media more bc if anything I'm going to be like yeah, 18 months of trying, multiple miscarriages, daily shots, tons of pills and here we are. I have no poker face and am very open about my losses and am not going to want to do the whole thing with every person we tell. 

MelissaMay82

My mother made a quarantine comment when I told her. 

akoros

@_orchid_ Yeah, I'm thinking about holding on social media until after birth (hopefully), but when I do I'm planning to include some language about how it was a rough journey to get to that point. Most of our families know about our second loss, but not a lot of friends do and even fewer people (family or friends) know about the first. 

halfanewt

Luckily we haven’t been hit with the quarantine comment, but my MIL responded with about 7 “goods” in a row and then said she could finally stop asking when we were having #2. Sorry, but you repeatedly asking had exactly zero to do with our timing... 

ashaislurking

The only quarantine comment I've gotten, thankfully, was in the form of a Christmas onesie from my dad (who knew how long we had been trying, did not do it in poor taste, and is literally the only person who could joke like that and I'd find it funny).

angelz429

This wasn’t pregnancy related but body related. 

I was in the freezer aisle buying my hubs popsicles and ice cream (on a liquid diet post surgery) and a very (sweet meaning I’m sure) older gentleman told me that I better stay out of that section if I wanted to keep my figure 😳

like
1) why is it important to men that women take up as little space as possible?
2) why was my first reaction to say “it’s for my husband” rather than ignore it or say something awesome like “Mind your own body” or “it’s rude to comment on stranger’s body” 🤯

marebear15

@_orchid_ - Oh my gosh, that's the worst. I can't believe what come out of some people's mouths. 

Thankfully no one has made the quarantine comment, but I have gotten asked if this was an oopsie. I think I don't mind that one as much, because it is the third baby, way closer in age than our first two, and the only one that it didn't take 10-12 months to make. I just expected it to be harder again this time around, so I guess in a way it was an "oopsie", but we were NTNP, so I can't be too surprised.

mrs_massie

@akoros i saw a really sweet announcement photo on pinterest of a onsie that said something along the lines of "1 in our arms, 2 in our hearts and 1 in our hopes." It could easily be changed to fit your specific situation, but I thought that was a great way to announce, but also let people know what's really up so they can save their rude comments.

akoros

@mrs_massie That is cute, thanks! 

ellieemc26

Last night I told mh that the doc said baby weighed 10 ounces at my appointment Monday.  He said, really?  Your stomach looks a lot bigger than that.  🤨

DoubleUp8

For some reason, the quarantine comments make me irrationally pissed off. We actually purposefully didn't try during the lockdown in our state from March-May. We were both working full time jobs from home and splitting child care of an active 5 year old between us throughout the day. Playing the when are your meetings game or the who can take a meeting and be available to the kid if he needs something. Making a baby or whiling away the "down" time during quarantine were the last thing from our minds. We were extremely lucky that we happen to become pregnant in August/September a time where our state was the least restricted it's been since COVID started, so no, quarantine had nothing to do with it. 

Maybe I take this the wrong way because we live in an area where the joke is always snow storm babies. People being trapped at home for several days due to bad weather and trying to keep busy or keep warm. 

ashleyjillian15

@angelz429 bless your patience, I would’ve channeled my mother and made a SCENE at a rude comment like that!!! 

My annoying comment came from a friend who was just recently pregnant and gave birth about two weeks ago. We were texting and I sent her a picture of me now at almost 19 weeks and she says back.... “You still don’t have a bump! With girls your weight seems to go in the butt and thighs... I only got belly with Derrick!”  

mc0303

@ashleyjillian15 whatttttttttttt 😱😩

laurad75

@ashleyjillian15 Yikes.  Tone deaf!

remi1014

ashleyjillian15 said:

@angelz429 bless your patience, I would’ve channeled my mother and made a SCENE at a rude comment like that!!! 

My annoying comment came from a friend who was just recently pregnant and gave birth about two weeks ago. We were texting and I sent her a picture of me now at almost 19 weeks and she says back.... “You still don’t have a bump! With girls your weight seems to go in the butt and thighs... I only got belly with Derrick!”  

You're kidding?! Who thinks that is appropriate to say to someone else?? She should know better having just been pregnant. Ugh I'm sorry, thats awful

tilournextadventure

Whew!! That comment @ashleyjillian15. Not sure we would be friends again. 

ashleyjillian15

Truly thank you all ladies for confirming this wasn’t just my hormones overreacting!!! 

ashaislurking

@ashleyjillian15 Definitely not an overreaction. I'm not sure I could have continued that conversation with anything other than swear words.

_orchid_

@ashleyjillian15 what a rude comment!!! And as someone having a third boy, my thighs and butt get much bigger- I have the stretch marks to show it! Definitely not all belly!! 

sgrn18

@ashleyjillian15 yeah no.  My sister and I are both pregnant and my grandpa kept comparing our sizes asking “you sure it’s not twins” 🙄. We had a talk on appropriate conversations about pregnant people.  

@_orchid_  same!  I only got stretch marks on my hips/inner thighs with both pregnancies.  Both boys.  

halfanewt

With all the tact of a 19 year old: Hey, are you pregnant? 

Me: yes
Her: okay, because I saw your belly and was like there’s no way you just got fat. That’s good, your kid needs a sibling anyway. 

Me: .......