I don't think it is directly my pregnant self but I have been getting really emotional on my Peloton rides recently. There was a top 50 of 2020 series from the end of the year that I decided I was going to do. It took me three weeks to complete because I was scared of the difficulty level on some of the classes but last night I took the last one and not only was I emotional because I actually did all of the rides, and they didn't kill me, but it was the last ride of 2020 and the instructor was lamenting that last year the way we all have and I just started bawling as I was finishing my ride.
Seriously though that bike is much cheaper than therapy and so far has proven just as effective.
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Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
We’ve started looking for a new house, heard back from our agent this evening that the lots we were looking at in a new development (that’s already in progress) are slated for the second half of development, not expected to be done until May’22. So I cried because we love the floor plans and we’ve seen the development in progress and thought the whole development was going to be done by this summer. Just super disappointed 😞
I was listening to a podcast on my run this morning and they started talking about birth and postpartum during covid, and how it’s ok to be sad/upset that maybe you can’t be around your tribe, or you can’t introduce your little one to immediate family after birth. Then I started thinking about how special it was when my dad and his wife came from CA to MA for a week after I had my son and how much my dad was glowing. Then about how my dad went through a serious battle with tongue cancer in 2020 (remission now) and that we were going to see him in April but had to cancel due to covid, and how we were going to start trying right after that trip but decided to wait to see if we could still get to see him before adding another human to the mix. And then about how it’s now been almost three years since I’ve seen my dad, he’s my best friend and I miss him and .... there was So. Much. Crying.
I never cry about things like that, but this was absolutely the snottiest run I have ever had.
@grizzlymama86 that would make my cry too! I hope you get to see him soon. We haven’t seen our families in over a year now... I can’t imagine 3
Not nearly as worth of tears but I cried this week when the the food delivery I was counting on got messed up. It was a long story and dumb mess but I just lost it. I wad feeling so sick and looking forward to eating it. My husband was like what is wrong with you??
Yesterday was my oldests babys birthday (she turned 7) and she was so looking forward to a big birthday party with her friends. We obviously couldn't do that so I tried to plan a super special day for her. Last night my SIL told me I did a great job with her birthday, and there's no way she wouldn't have loved it. We baked a cake in the morning (we still have to decorate it which we will do today), had lunch, DH made her a big birthday party world on Minecraft that we all played with her aunts and cousins while video chatting. Then we went out to get pizza and dairy queen. Dropped pizza off to my SIL and nephews and came home and had pizza with my other SIL and the 7yo video chatted with the one we dropped pizza off to and opened her presents from them. Then she got to stay up later than the boys and open/do her present from the SIL that came over for dinner, and then stayed up later to watch DH play xbox.
There was a (Canadian) government-sponsored COVID spot on TV that had the format of “Every time you wear a mask, it’s so we can do this” and images of people getting together and hugging and seeing grandparents and it 100% got me going last night.
I saw the absolute state of my kitchen and walked into another room to cry.
My husband is an excellent cook but when he does cook he seemingly uses every dish in the house and leaves it all out. I chalk it up to him working in a lot of kitchens where there is someone there solely to clean up after you.
@law_and_little1 I do this to myself a lot! Thinking of my son starting school, making his first friend(that isn't my friends kid), bringing home his first girlfriend, learning to drive, even going for his first non-family sleep over.
Today I’m crying because DS1 preK teacher told me he’s still struggling to pay attention and that I should consider having him evaluated for hyperactivity before kindergarten. She also said he’s super smart, tries really hard, and is good at making friends but still crying cuz I don’t want him to be “different”
@whatabout2ndbreakfast I'm sorry to hear that! Some encouragement: a variety of my maternal cousins have been diagnosed with ADHD as adults, and my mom meets the criteria for inattentive ADHD. My one cousin told me she was relieved when she received her own ADHD diagnosis. My mom has not yet been officially diagnosed but she seemed happy knowing she likely is as it helped explain a lot of her "quirks" (and learning struggles in the past). My relationship with her was up and down a lot but now that we have realized she may have ADHD I have some insight into how she thinks and we get along really well. All this is to say, your son's teacher sounds optimistic about his social skills and passion for learning, and I hope that no matter his evaluation results, you'll be able to understand how he thinks etc better, and I hope it only helps him for the better.
@whatabout2ndbreakfast I work with preschoolers and I will say he’s pretty little for an ADHD diagnosis! Especially since he’s a boy. I would say if you’re not ready to pursue an evaluation yet that’s completely fine! Sometimes kids just need a little time to mature. And if he doesn’t, then you can always have him diagnosed later. Really, any kindergarten teacher worth anything will make automatic modifications next year if he’s having difficulty focusing regardless of if he has an ADHD diagnosis or not. Not sure if that’s helpful information, but I just thought I’d share!
@runningoncookies Thank you! I am really hoping he has a good kindergarten teacher! He does seem to be getting a little more self control so I’m hopeful
I just watched Pick of the Litter on Netflix, which is a documentary about puppies training to become seeing eye dogs. Cried through the whole thing...
@whatabout2ndbreakfast we are dealing with something similar with our 4yo and identifying the issue has been a huge relief! It’s too early to diagnose for ADHD but they have identified sensory issues which we would never have known was related if it weren’t for a specific faculty happening to be in his classroom this year. We’re now seeing an OT (for about 1-2 months) and the progress he’s already made is awesome! The earlier the intervention, the better. Your school district might cover services, I highly recommend pursuing an eval which could get him a head start into getting tailored support. I don’t feel badly at all about him being “different”- he’s always been a busy kid and us now learning to control his impulses better and making all our lives easier. The more you know! Hope things work out well.
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Re: Why My Pregnant Self is Crying
It's valuable and super relevant, but damn, if it doesn't make me sad.
Seriously though that bike is much cheaper than therapy and so far has proven just as effective.
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
I was listening to a podcast on my run this morning and they started talking about birth and postpartum during covid, and how it’s ok to be sad/upset that maybe you can’t be around your tribe, or you can’t introduce your little one to immediate family after birth. Then I started thinking about how special it was when my dad and his wife came from CA to MA for a week after I had my son and how much my dad was glowing. Then about how my dad went through a serious battle with tongue cancer in 2020 (remission now) and that we were going to see him in April but had to cancel due to covid, and how we were going to start trying right after that trip but decided to wait to see if we could still get to see him before adding another human to the mix. And then about how it’s now been almost three years since I’ve seen my dad, he’s my best friend and I miss him and .... there was So. Much. Crying.
I never cry about things like that, but this was absolutely the snottiest run I have ever had.
Not nearly as worth of tears but
I cried this week when the the food delivery I was counting on got messed up. It was a long story and dumb mess but I just lost it. I wad feeling so sick and looking forward to eating it. My husband was like what is wrong with you??
My husband is an excellent cook but when he does cook he seemingly uses every dish in the house and leaves it all out. I chalk it up to him working in a lot of kitchens where there is someone there solely to clean up after you.
@law_and_little1 I do this to myself a lot! Thinking of my son starting school, making his first friend(that isn't my friends kid), bringing home his first girlfriend, learning to drive, even going for his first non-family sleep over.
Set timer to 30 mins.
Accidentally turned oven off, unknowingly.
Returned 30 mins later to uncooked dinner.
Some encouragement: a variety of my maternal cousins have been diagnosed with ADHD as adults, and my mom meets the criteria for inattentive ADHD. My one cousin told me she was relieved when she received her own ADHD diagnosis. My mom has not yet been officially diagnosed but she seemed happy knowing she likely is as it helped explain a lot of her "quirks" (and learning struggles in the past). My relationship with her was up and down a lot but now that we have realized she may have ADHD I have some insight into how she thinks and we get along really well.
All this is to say, your son's teacher sounds optimistic about his social skills and passion for learning, and I hope that no matter his evaluation results, you'll be able to understand how he thinks etc better, and I hope it only helps him for the better.