@ktholysz yes agreed!! People usually love to show off their sonograms I’m surprised we don’t have more randos doing that lol! I know a lot of people complain about the app and then when it’s time for FB or whatever everyone comes out saying they want to join because they hate the app 🤷🏻♀️ (From my lurking in the past)
@mflowers929 agreed as well! I personally would rather have a smaller group than a huge one (With people who don’t really support each other) when it comes time to migrate. I know a lot of the lack of posting comes from life/anxiety and I fully understand that. Hopefully they come around once it’s closer to baby time.
@jennifer_louise that’s so funny! I was up early today even though I’m off so I was bored and went through it. I know why a few haven’t posted a lot but the others I’m just like hmmm?? I’m also surprised we don’t have those threads either, I posted some of them but since I’ve been working early I usually don’t have time to bump in the AM and then it’s later in the day when I can. I also don’t wanna feel like I’m posting too many threads! We didn’t assign threads in the beginning because i thought we would have a big group and they would just get started but obv I was wrong 😂
I have a small group of ladies on my other site and we all hang out on the cloth diaper forum, even though most of them already have kids out of diapers lol. It's so lovely because I know all of them and their lives and kids and we can support each other through the tough times and cheer each other on during the good times
Momma to 3 angels and two amazing children
F born June 2018 W born September 2020 #3 due November 2022
I keep thinking it must be because of these strange times that we started off with a big group but ended up small.
It has been so easy to get caught up in everything else and almost forget about being pregnant sometimes. Maybe now that we are more in the thick of it people will return.
@beaandthebabes I was wondering if I was the only one who feels like they forget they're pregnant sometimes lol. Could be because I'm not feeling much movement yet either.
Momma to 3 angels and two amazing children
F born June 2018 W born September 2020 #3 due November 2022
@beaandthebabes definitely! I think once everyone has a big bump and are feeling the babies more it will be different. I still feel not pregnant sometimes (except after I eat and my work apron makes my bump look bigger) . I can barely feel him either but they should be getting stronger soon!
@mflowers929 I’ve just started feeling this little guy wiggling around in there more regularly. It is so funny because I’m still having days where I throw up all day which should be a pretty good reminder. Lol
Up until about a week ago I kept forgetting I was pregnant too. But now it’s like someone flipped a switch - kid moves a lot, I’m hungry all the time, can’t wear my pants anymore (so now it’s leggings or overalls lol), heartburn half the time. 🤷♀️
@greyl I have done a terrible job participating on the board. I like the idea of skimming back over the intros. It would probably help me engage more. Also, I miss WTF Wednesday, UO Thursday and FFFC - it think they were actually a good way to get to know folks too.
I like how small our group is and I think we will get to know each other better because of it, but I do sometimes get bummed when I log on and there are no new posts.
Anyways, today had been a good day! I went to the store for the first time in a months and a half. I went to Costco and it was strange, but nice to get out! I also ordered a new duvet cover from West Elm. Also ordered some super cute cloth diapers for the babies. I seriously love the girl prints. Excited for my purchases to arrive.
And then someone posted on our church resale page that they were selling their double stroller, a Contours Elite, for $50. Yes I’ll take it. We are going to look at it tomorrow. I’ve been really conflicted on what to do for a stroller. We need a triple but who wants to push a triple or let alone pay for one. I think this should work for awhile until we figure out this twin thing, and 3 under 2, Maybe we will use it while they are in their infant seats so we can just click them in and get a Bob duallie at a later date.
Ivy: July 2010 | Stella: Dec 2012 | BFP#3: MMC at 11Wk's, July 2017 | Wyatt: April 2019 | BFP#5: Twin Girls due Sept 2020
I think I'm going to do the crazy thing and hit up once upon a child for its reopening this Friday morning 😂😂 so many chances to be exposed to the virus but I'm exposed as it is when I go to work and get groceries and whatnot So like, it's not adding that much more risk and I really need to find these thrifty baby things! I managed to score a pack and play for $10 at Goodwill that's a bit finicky but otherwise stainless and new-looking and I'm hoping I can get lucky enough to find a stroller and bouncer/activity center/swing. I need to tour an apartment anyway so might as well make the trip worth it
Albeit small, This group is so much more nice and mature than my Feb 2016 group I was in, some of those women were so darn mean!!! It felt like a high school in there! I feel like we are all respectful in here and engage in good convos with one another !
Omg, I'm so awkward lol. My brother told me about this girl a while ago and said he was interested in getting to know her better, but because he's got (mild) Aspbergers he's been dragging his feet because he's afraid of misreading the situation. Sooo, with being pregnant I have very little patience for his foot dragging so I went ahead and messaged her today and she said she's interested in him too. I feel weird about it but at the same time oddly encouraged and accomplished.
Momma to 3 angels and two amazing children
F born June 2018 W born September 2020 #3 due November 2022
@robinj716 I would use the infant seat until it expired and then switch over to a convertible. I switched my last babe around 6 months because I wanted to give my mom (who babysits) the infant seat for her car and so far I have no complaints. When we're out and about he's either in the stroller, shopping cart or baby carrier, so I didn't really feel the loss of the infant seat.
@jennifer_louise I brought travel sized everything too. My hospital supplied nothing.
@mflowers929 Ditto to @Louise_Belcher our old couches were super decorative Victorian style couches which were just structurally destroyed by years of abuse from our teenagers and I was having a lot of back pain from sitting there nursing or snuggling the baby so we got our new comfy set and it was sooooo worth it.
I’m sorry I’m guilty of being here in the beginning and dropping off! I’m trying to make more of an effort to keep up here. Things have just been crazy with everything going on and I honestly haven’t had much to add because of the lack of appointments/symptoms yet. But I’m trying to jump back in and support everyone as we continue through the second half.
@mflowers929 depends. New mattress? Definitely that first because good sleep is so important. Just new bedroom furniture? I’d go with living room stuff before that.
@mflowers929 I vote couch too. How many visitors to your home actually see your bedroom? Whereas a couch is enjoyed by all. Plus, I spend more time in my living room than couch.
@mflowers929 I agree with @elsie42 that if it’s the mattress then probably a new bed unless it’s just for aesthetic upgrading. but we upgraded our couch first and then got a new mattress/bed a few months later. We use our couch sooo much and I’m glad we got a new one as soon as we moved.
I was going to make a new randoms yesterday but then there were comments in here so I didn’t haha
@elsie42 girl I totally understand. I really enjoy chatting with everyone since I don’t have many people IRL to talk to so I'm on here a lot. But I don’t have much else going on. I just want everyone who wants to, to have the opportunity to join the private group whenever we move (I keep assuming we will but we haven’t even talked about it yet lol) I’ve seen too many sad folks on those FB group threads who get shut out because they didn’t participate enough in time. But I don’t even know how strict we are going to be? So maybe this ramble is all a moot point!
Okay, so consensus is living room. We do need a new mattress eventually, but the one we have now is liveable, especially if we put a topper on it, so we'll probably wait and get everything at the same time. I was going to get the bed from my parents guest bedroom when they sold the house, which was supposed to be this spring, but with everything that's happened they're not selling yet and we'll probably be visiting at some point before that happens
Momma to 3 angels and two amazing children
F born June 2018 W born September 2020 #3 due November 2022
Ok so here’s a mind blower. I feel like such an idiot too.
I work in a police station As a Civlian; my husband is a cop at a different station.
A male co worker of mine in 2016 asked to touch my belly when I was pregnant and I said no. My chief Overhead it and offered to speak with him about it and I said it wasn’t a big deal and not to.
So today my co worker walks in, I walk into my office area and he says “oh wow you’re expecting?” And I said oh yeah we sure are and he was like “wow can I touch your belly?” And my dumbass being caught off guard was like oh yeah sure and he touched my stomach and shook my hand and then said congrats and to tell my husband (who used to work with him) congrats too.
So tonight I’m speaking with my husband like oh hey I saw so and so today And he said to tell you congrats and my husband says “oh did he ask to touch your belly again” and since I have nothing to hide, I said yeah he asked and I said ok not thinking and being dumb and just making a poor decision. I told my husband that I was caught off guard And I was put on the spot in an awkward situation and just wasn’t clearly thinking rationally.
Well here we are an hour later just got done arguing about it, he says he can’t trust me, says he can’t trust me if I can’t make good decisions in awkward situations and wants me to call my supervisor tomorrow and tell him what happened and have someone speak with my co worker about asking to touch me and putting me in a weird spot.
So I’m in my room and crying and really just mindblown right now.
@robinj716 oh wow I’m sorry you’re dealing with that right now! 😞 honestly I probably would’ve done the same thing as you. There’s been like two times I’ve hugged people i work with in the past month or two that I didn’t think about beforehand. (Especially with rona around) Like if someone congratulates me or gives me a gift my reaction is to hug. So if someone I knew asked to touch my stomach I don’t really know what I would do but I don’t blame you for being caught off guard! And honestly I’m surprised your H is reacting like that! Especially to argue with you about it 🙁 but it sounds like something my H would do too, I find it interesting that this male coworker has such a desire to touch a belly though? I don’t get why people do this? I hope everything works out smoothly! ((virtual hugs))
Whoa @robinj716! That is wildly awkward of a male coworker and to shake your hand after. BIZARRE And your husband is being completely out of line. Not being able to trust you?! That is ridiculous. His reaction should have been "whoa doug is so weird! I am sorry he did that to you babe." And then you have a validating laugh about how strange people are. I am sorry his reaction made an awkward moment far worse than it needed to be.
@robinj716 that is super awkward! I agree with @Louise_Belcher, YOU didn't make it weird, HE did. You were totally caught off guard - hopefully you and YH can work it out soon.
@greyl@Louise_Belcher@jennifer_louise thank you ladies! Today he’s acting like everything is okay. I agree he was completely overreacting and I think he has some insecurities which is where the root of this argument stemmed. My husband is Mexican and this co worker is too; it’s somewhat of a cultural thing to touch bellies and “bless them” but my husband said that’s reserved for families and not male co-workers. Whatever. He hasn’t said much about it today and I’m going to avoid it like the plague! My H needs to get a grip!
@robinj716 not much to add that these ladies haven’t already said. But solidarity on the whole getting caught off guard thing. I *hate* when people touch my belly (regardless of whether they ask or not) but most of the time they get away with it because I’m so caught off guard that I either freeze or realize what’s happening too late and end up just going with it. 😬
@robinj716 How awkward. Hopefully he has realized that his initial reaction was off base and has moved along. My husband and I had a similar issue when I was pregnant with DS. It was hard to explain to him how even strangers seem weirdly comfortable and almost a little possessive of pregnant women I was working in a bookshop at the time and I had to fend of so many weird and intrusive people mostly complete strangers occasionally somebody catches you off guard and it just happens that they touch your tummy or say something rude. It is seen as socially acceptable and is 100% unwanted attention and 100% not your fault. There are a million articles on why that is and why it should be something we strive to change.
You can make a registry at each place, place one or two items on it and mark it private, only using the ONE registry you prefer to keep.
This is what I received from amazon. For amazon, you need to purchase one item from your registry for $10; I bought diaper cream, easy peasy. The box will say $35, but once you go to the end to ship, there will be a $35 credit, making it FREE!
I’ve also done registries for the free box at wal-mart, target, buy buy baby and Babylist($10 shipping for Babylist).
@robinj716 I have the same question as @momofmiracles31889 ! I’ll probably get the babylist one anyway at some point but wanted to know if it was really worth the shipping!
Re: Weekly Randoms 4/13
@mflowers929 agreed as well! I personally would rather have a smaller group than a huge one (With people who don’t really support each other) when it comes time to migrate. I know a lot of the lack of posting comes from life/anxiety and I fully understand that. Hopefully they come around once it’s closer to baby time.
@jennifer_louise that’s so funny! I was up early today even though I’m off so I was bored and went through it. I know why a few haven’t posted a lot but the others I’m just like hmmm?? I’m also surprised we don’t have those threads either, I posted some of them but since I’ve been working early I usually don’t have time to bump in the AM and then it’s later in the day when I can. I also don’t wanna feel like I’m posting too many threads! We didn’t assign threads in the beginning because i thought we would have a big group and they would just get started but obv I was wrong 😂
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
Anyways, today had been a good day! I went to the store for the first time in a months and a half. I went to Costco and it was strange, but nice to get out! I also ordered a new duvet cover from West Elm. Also ordered some super cute cloth diapers for the babies. I seriously love the girl prints. Excited for my purchases to arrive.
Maybe we will use it while they are in their infant seats so we can just click them in and get a Bob duallie at a later date.
So like, it's not adding that much more risk and I really need to find these thrifty baby things! I managed to score a pack and play for $10 at Goodwill that's a bit finicky but otherwise stainless and new-looking and I'm hoping I can get lucky enough to find a stroller and bouncer/activity center/swing. I need to tour an apartment anyway so might as well make the trip worth it
My brother told me about this girl a while ago and said he was interested in getting to know her better, but because he's got (mild) Aspbergers he's been dragging his feet because he's afraid of misreading the situation. Sooo, with being pregnant I have very little patience for his foot dragging so I went ahead and messaged her today and she said she's interested in him too.
I feel weird about it but at the same time oddly encouraged and accomplished.
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
@jennifer_louise I brought travel sized everything too. My hospital supplied nothing.
BFP: 1/26/20 | EDD: 9/20/20
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
We need both, just not sure which to get first
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
DS born 9/24/2020
BFP: 1/26/20 | EDD: 9/20/20
@elsie42 girl I totally understand. I really enjoy chatting with everyone since I don’t have many people IRL to talk to so I'm
on here a lot. But I don’t have much else going on. I just want everyone who wants to, to have the opportunity to join the private group whenever we move (I keep assuming we will but we haven’t even talked about it yet lol) I’ve seen too many sad folks on those FB group threads who get shut out because they didn’t participate enough in time. But I don’t even know how strict we are going to be? So maybe this ramble is all a moot point!
We do need a new mattress eventually, but the one we have now is liveable, especially if we put a topper on it, so we'll probably wait and get everything at the same time.
I was going to get the bed from my parents guest bedroom when they sold the house, which was supposed to be this spring, but with everything that's happened they're not selling yet and we'll probably be visiting at some point before that happens
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
my husband that I was caught off guard And I was put on the spot in an awkward situation and just wasn’t clearly thinking rationally.
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20