I'm home with DD because her daycare is closed. She's finally down for her nap. I should use this time to do some work, but all I want to do is sit and watch TV. Sooooo I'll prob just do that.
Mom Vent: I spent $100 on my daughter highlights and a haircut on Friday, then my mom asked if she wanted to go to Ulta with her on Saturday, so OF COURSE she went and then came home with $200 in makeup. Meanwhile I haven't had a haircut since August. I'm jealous of my teenager. I want someone to spoil me.
Struggling a bit today. Other than my occasional pulls and stretches. And my horrible headache from hell (spent all day in bed yesterday). I don’t feel pregnant really. Ready to feel movement. And have a good bump going on to maybe help reassure me. I have a regular appointment tomorrow so I’m excited to hear baby. (I feel like 3-4 weeks has been too long lol)
*TW* it doesn’t help that the last few weeks there have been more of not good outcomes. Which messes with my head even more. *End TW*
@nursejenn5 sending you some extra love today- I cant imagine being pregnant and working your job. I hope you get some major comfort at your appointment tomorrow.
@stlbuckeye132 ewwwww I can’t. Hopefully you found some better coffee
@nursejenn5 lots of love your way, that’s not easy at all.
I should be doing laundry....and I’m binging ‘a discovery of witches’ instead (I lovveedd the book series). Also conned DH into picking up food for dinner because i don’t feel like cooking
weird random: DH has had pneumonia 2x in the last 2 months. His PCM refused to send him to a pulmonologist like the Urgent Care requested. We got a call from the Urgent care that he has a weird bacterial strain resistant to pretty much everything except a z-pack (which he already had a month ago). I’m at a loss. I’m worried it’s related to his exposures to burn pits while deployed, but I can’t force his PCM to do what I want (they outrank me....) and the VA is not help. Ugh. He is otherwise a healthy dude that runs ultramarathons and now he can barely get up the stairs without hacking. End rant.
@nursejenn5 wow... that has to be so triggering to be there for. I'm so sorry. I hope you feel good about things after tomorrow's appt.
@modoodles you need to treat yo'self mama! But also, that gives me anxiety My dad owns a salon and day spa but will absolutely be retired by the time DD may want to get her hair done (more than just a cut). I've never (well, once b/c I didn't have time to make the drive home to get it done) paid to have my hair done and cannot imagine having to pay for both myself and DD!
@footdrbritt that sounds awful! Your poor H. Why are they being so restrictive with his care? I can't understand why you wouldn't want to make sure he's getting the appropriate treatment(s)... like, if it gets really serious b/c you wouldn't let him go, that would be on his PCM's conscience.
@blaf322 honestly I have no idea. I’ve written to the patient advocates and his PCM on his behalf so if anything happens they’re at fault.
Military medicine is notoriously poor, and although his PCM has been great in the past, he told me he ‘didn’t believe the urgent care could read his chest X-ray’ (it looked awful anyone could have seen something was wrong) and so I uploaded it into the hospitals system and instead of a consult they got him another scan and an appointment with his PCM tomorrow, which I will be attending.
The VA was slightly better, but wanted him to go through the major VA center in SC, which is a 2.5 hour drive and not happening (he has little leave and trying to save up for the baby, since the federal paternity leave won’t go into place until 2021)
+1 with the tired, not focusing, want to sit and veg all day vibes. I was literally crying at home before I left for work today (thank you pregnancy hormones for all the overreactions) because I just don't feel great. It's nothing truly terrible, but man I so wish I could just stay at home and sit on the couch with no one to take care of today. Headache and what I think is probably a sinus infection are wearing me out. Got a very sugary coffee on the way in, eating some junk food, and hoping that actually getting something productive done will help my mood.
@modoodles I haven't had a haircut in forever either. For quite a while, I got them from my cousin (not free but cheap!), but she's way out of my way now that she only works out of her house instead of a salon. I finally found a little salon that isn't a chain, doesn't charge much, and does a decent job, but I'm bad about making time for it. I don't color my hair and I hate wearing it down so just get a super basic trim, so it's not even a huge time suck. Just one more thing to think about fitting into my schedule.
Speaking of which, I have a spa gift certificate that MH got me for MOTHER'S DAY last year that I still haven't used. I had an appointment scheduled once but had to cancel because work stuff came up. I think I'm going to use it soon. Can't decide between a massage and a facial, though.
@nursejenn5 I'm sorry for the tough work situations, that's got to be hard.
@footdrbritt I hope they get things sorted out with a good plan for your husband. That sounds so frustrating.
2/13 Blighted ovum, D&C -- 6/13 MC -- 8/14 DD born -- 3/17 MC -- 9/18 DD2 born Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
Ya know what’s (another thing that’s) bullsh*t about this whole 34wk CS thing.... the one good thing about being super pregnant during the summer is that you get to flaunt a big belly and not worry about sucking in. Now I’m just gonna be PP fat during swimsuit season 😑 total crap lol
@nursejenn5 I feel your pain **TW** when it comes to seeing poor outcomes at work. I do find even while pregnant I’m fairly good at separating myself from the emotions of it. Of course, since I’m on the ultrasound end of things, I’m not usually there when patients are finding out the results. I have been called up to L&D for some sad things to scan while quite pregnant myself. I always feel guilty when that happens, like I’m rubbing my belly in their faces. I give you all the credit for the work you do.
@kristinl492 I took care of multiple couples at some point in the process in the first weeks I knew(when work didn’t know). They try not to assign our pregnant nurses to those patients if possible, especially once there’s a noticeable bump showing.
@nursejenn5 We try to do something similar and keep any visibly pregnant techs off of those cases, but sometimes it’s unavoidable, depending on staffing or if it’s one person on call.
@nursejenn5 that would be hard and I’m feeling the same about needing to feel some movement. I feel it here and there a tiny bit but could be gas I just want to be able to say yep she’s good.
Today has been full of ups and downs. We got excited because the house next to good friends of ours is for sale and we’ve been casually looking but also really wanting to move. We are nervous about the whole sell your house then find one and also having 2 mortgages but houses go so quick here we are struggling. So we ended up loving this house and basically were told the market is too good and they probably won’t take a contingency which I get especially if you’re trying to move now it just stinks!**TW about our dog** Then we’ve been dealing with our dog having some rare virus and finally found someone to diagnose and treat him but unfortunately he’s older and his immune system isn’t kicking in. He’s getting really bad sores and tonight one was bleeding and he was crying. I felt so awful! We were trying to hold off thinking this would work and he’s just in pain. He’s got pain meds so I gave him some but I think it’s time 😭 I just can’t even imagine what life will be like after. He’s been with me for 13 years. ***TW over** Anyway, I’m ready to go to bed and start a new day but I’m not sure how much better it will be.
@hbird0723 sorry about the puppers. That’s so hard, especially with pregnancy hormones. Hugs and good vibes for you. Our female german shepherd has hip dysplasia and so she’s on borrowed time, when you know it’s time, I promise you’ll know ❤️❤️
@hbird0723 fur babies are so tough. I’m sorry you’re going through that. I still have a heavy heart from saying goodbye to one of my favorite pups a couple years ago, but @footdrbritt is right, when it’s time, you’ll know. Even though it definitely doesn’t make it any easier. Sending you hugs.
@footdbritt and @nursejenn5 thank you! I think I’ve known but kept holding onto hope the medication would work. Last night we decided it’s not fair he’s going through all this. He has an appointment today. Will be a rough day and then some. Was there anything you did to help? Like in memory of.
My parents vet had ceramic paws prints done of all our animals which was thoughtful. I’ve asked for prints of their paws on card stock, which we framed.
@hbird0723 I'm so sorry, love. I'll be thinking about you and your pup today. It's not fair that we get such a short time with our fur babies
ETA: I did a lot of research about how to tell DD when our dog died. LMK if you want/need any insight into what I read was best to say/how to say it. She was around 2.5 when our dog passed.
@hbird0723 oh I'm so sorry about your pup. My heart is breaking for you. We had to put one of our dogs down right before our wedding, and we also got a ceramic paw print. We got her ashes too and buried them at my ILs' house because we knew we'd be moving.
I had my regular OB appt today and got some good-ish (good for the situation) news. It looks like they're expecting to deliver me between 35-36 weeks (the 34wks he said was on the lower end of the range to level set expectations and if we go longer, great). She said that, given my history of going to 41wks with DD, they don't anticipate any issues with pre-term labor concerns. So, the longer I can go, the lower the chance of NICU time.
Additionally, she said she expects a, close to, 0% chance that I'll end up on bed rest or having to be admitted weeks in advance of my CS like I've read some do. Again, unless something drastically changes between how pregnancy went for me last time and this time, she expects a smooth, planned CS with as little NICU time as possible and, hopefully, no scares.
@hbird0723 oh my heart hurts for you! I’m getting emotional just reading the comments. I gave my pup some extra snuggles this morning.
@blaf322 that’s such great news! Hopefully that’ll help ease some of the anxiety
I’m 20 weeks today! My body decided waking up at 4am and thinking about B&J Half Baked ice cream was a good way to celebrate. I seriously considered stopping at the grocery store on the way home from daycare to have a snack at the office.
@hbird0723 I kept his collar tag. I was gonna keep his collar but during the time I felt that it was his and wanted him to have it. Our vets office sent us a card about a week later with his paw print. Idk if yours does something like this. But it is nice to look back on(wasn’t as nice so fresh in the moment though). I still have that and his tag hanging up in the fridge. That was one of the hardest days of my life, still tear up thinking about it. And I cried for weeks after, I’m a big crier. I am definitely sending you and your family love today.
I'm so sorry to hear about your pup @hbird0723. Sending you extra love. I've noticed my senior pup slowing down a bit in the last few weeks and I know we will be there before I'm ready.
I’m so sorry for the pup sadness @hbird0723. Our pup is 10 and watching her age has been tough. Fur babies are so precious. I hope you’re comforted by lovely memories and are able to celebrate his life in a way that helps you heal.
@stlbuckeye132 shoot! I totally forgot about that. Thank you for the reminder! I'll post it really quickly With everything on my mind yesterday, I totally forgot!
@blaf322 I wasn't trying to bug you to post it, sorry! Is the master list somewhere on our board though? I couldn't find it, but I'm sure it's here somewhere.
@hbird0723 So sorry to hear about your pup. My family dog that we got when I was 16 is on her last weeks/months of life and it’s so sad to see this huge part of your life fading. The brutal reality of owning a dog. I have 2 of my own now and I dread that day, especially with the kids loving the dogs 😭.
@blaf322 sounds like best case scenario for what’s going on! That’s great!
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I'm home with DD because her daycare is closed. She's finally down for her nap. I should use this time to do some work, but all I want to do is sit and watch TV. Sooooo I'll prob just do that.
@nursejenn5 lots of love your way, that’s not easy at all.
weird random: DH has had pneumonia 2x in the last 2 months. His PCM refused to send him to a pulmonologist like the Urgent Care requested. We got a call from the Urgent care that he has a weird bacterial strain resistant to pretty much everything except a z-pack (which he already had a month ago). I’m at a loss. I’m worried it’s related to his exposures to burn pits while deployed, but I can’t force his PCM to do what I want (they outrank me....) and the VA is not help. Ugh. He is otherwise a healthy dude that runs ultramarathons and now he can barely get up the stairs without hacking.
End rant.
@modoodles you need to treat yo'self mama! But also, that gives me anxiety
2021)
@footdrbritt that's crazy. I'm glad you're going to his appt tomorrow and hopefully they'll take things seriously.
@modoodles I haven't had a haircut in forever either. For quite a while, I got them from my cousin (not free but cheap!), but she's way out of my way now that she only works out of her house instead of a salon. I finally found a little salon that isn't a chain, doesn't charge much, and does a decent job, but I'm bad about making time for it. I don't color my hair and I hate wearing it down so just get a super basic trim, so it's not even a huge time suck. Just one more thing to think about fitting into my schedule.
Speaking of which, I have a spa gift certificate that MH got me for MOTHER'S DAY last year that I still haven't used. I had an appointment scheduled once but had to cancel because work stuff came up. I think I'm going to use it soon. Can't decide between a massage and a facial, though.
@nursejenn5 I'm sorry for the tough work situations, that's got to be hard.
@footdrbritt I hope they get things sorted out with a good plan for your husband. That sounds so frustrating.
Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
(obviously making light of this situation)
ETA: I did a lot of research about how to tell DD when our dog died. LMK if you want/need any insight into what I read was best to say/how to say it. She was around 2.5 when our dog passed.
Additionally, she said she expects a, close to, 0% chance that I'll end up on bed rest or having to be admitted weeks in advance of my CS like I've read some do. Again, unless something drastically changes between how pregnancy went for me last time and this time, she expects a smooth, planned CS with as little NICU time as possible and, hopefully, no scares.
I’m 20 weeks today! My body decided waking up at 4am and thinking about B&J Half Baked ice cream was a good way to celebrate. I seriously considered stopping at the grocery store on the way home from daycare to have a snack at the office.
With everything on my mind yesterday, I totally forgot!
@blaf322 Yay for much better news today!