@BusinessWife Hugs, hun. I dunno how working moms do it. I barely survive the SAH life.
I'm so tired today. Ds2 (16mo) is either having nightmares or the start of night terrors. The last week he's been waking up screaming. Last night he was up multiple times and I only got 3 hrs of sleep. I'm so tired and I cant keep up with getting less than 5 hrs a night. I'm just at the end of my rope.
@wildrainbow (((hugs))) that sounds so scary, and the lack of sleep thing is harrrrrd.
@RedBaramid the plan was always for me to SAH/WFH for the family business. IF changed all that. When we got our dx and found out the only way we could have biological children - if at all - was through surgery for DH, and IVF, I got busy. I found an employer with no lifetime cap infertility coverage, and I said, THAT's where I'm going to work! And the rest is history. So now that we have made it through his surgery, my surgery, two egg retrievals, five transfers, one THB and God-willing the second on the way, I'm at that point where I just need to push pause. And MIL is helping me get FMLA paperwork in order. 🎉 So time will tell if we decide to go back as cash patients, or with different insurance, or I come back part time just for the coverage and we do this again. So I mean, I am beyond grateful for this opportunity and for all it has already done for our family. But it's time.
@BusinessWife I'm glad you were able to find a company that provided the coverage you needed for this season of life. Also glad you are getting things in order for you to do what you really want to do for the future
Thanks ❤️ @fitandnerdy I honestly can't even imagine life without DD. Gosh, <img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/pu/hu402q4kpfvp.gif" alt="">
I was thinking the fatigue was over, but falling asleep while eating lunch sitting in a chair in front of my laptop watching Gilmore Girls seems to have shown me that no, the fatigue is not over. At least I woke up with the fork in my lap and my neck didn't hurt all day. I asked my child why she let me sleep like that and she told me "I liked the quiet."
Apparently I had a head cold that left my head congested. Congestion is draining down my thrkat making me violently cough. Also since the congestion didnt drain all the way I'm getting a sinus infection.
Same thing happened in August and it turned into sinusitis. I'm royally screwed if this turns to that so I am netti potting like a crazy woman.
Also felt good enough after using my inhaler finally to clean. Cleaned my living room and did 3 loads of laundry!!! Also my husband and I finally agreed on a new middle name for a girl!
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@psychobutthead Well, that sounds awful but at least you know what’s going on!!! Hope you feel better soon and that the Neti Pot works its magic. And yay for agreeing on a middle name!
Im too exhausted to go back and tag the few mamas who have had rough nights and are exhausted but I just wanted to say - solidarity! I’m right there with you. I get 3-6 hours of sleep a night, depending on the night, and it’s always interrupted / punctuated by the baby screaming and needing to be comforted back to sleep. Ugh. 11 months old and I still haven’t figured out how to sleep train or let her CIO without waking up the rest of the house
So grateful to be feeling better, though! I’m 13 weeks and haven’t felt sick in 3-4 days (touch wood). I really hope the morning sickness is gone for good now, because the bloating and exhaustion are enough to deal with right now!
My younger DD starts daycare next week. I can’t believe it! And I’m gearing up to go back to work after my year long mat leave. Excited to see my coworkers and to do “adult stuff” again but dreading breaking the news to the bosses that I’m pregnant again....
@psychobutthead Oh, man. That sounds terrible. Hopefully it doesn't escalate into something more serious. Keep using that Neti! It sounds like a good sign that you were feeling well enough to clean a little. And congrats on choosing a middle name! We're still at square one over here in the name department.
@laur84ns I can see how it would be a little stressful breaking that news after coming back from maternity leave, but I'm sure they'll be understanding! Also, fingers crossed that your morning sickness is gone for good!
@psychobutthead I hope you start to feel better and can get over all that sickness!!
@laur84ns Sorry about the sleep troubles. That is so rough. Good luck with heading back to work and the conversation with your boss! I know that conversation will be nerve-wracking but I hope everyone is understanding. I agree with looking forward to the return to work. I savor my childless lunch time and adult conversation throughout the day.
Off topic / Random, but is anyone else doing anything to... "celebrate" Lent?
Among other prayers / devotionals, there are a couple books I have been putting off reading, and I thought now might be a good time. <div class=" Spoiler"><img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/mt/8ce6j6hkynhl.jpg" alt="" title="Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/mt/8ce6j6hkynhl.jpg"><span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">And omg I just read the forward and I am sold. FD, it looks like a Christian book, not strictly Catholic, nor athiest, or anything else, but for those who may be interested in stepping outside of the technology for a moment to gain a little perspective on our modern usage, it might be a good read!</span></div> <div class=" Spoiler"><img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/yu/sglyt99oibmb.jpg" alt="" title="Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/yu/sglyt99oibmb.jpg"><span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">This one seems like it has a lot of the same information (but not sure about the theological aspect). And not necessarily throwing your phone under a bus, but putting it into it's rightful place as a tool for us, not being slaves to it. And then there is also a 30-day breakup plan. :)</span></div> So, anyway just thought I'd share and curious if anyone else wants to read either of them with me? Or has any other Lenten ideas for spiritual growth they might like to share.
@psychobutthead Oh no!!! At least you know what is going on now and hopefully you can get ahead of it! Hoping you feel better soon!!
@laur84ns Ugh, hope you can get some real rest soon. Good luck going back to work and sharing the news with your boss. It's totally nerve-wracking, but I'm sure they will understand. Keep us posted.
@BusinessWife I'm really struggling to find something to give up for lent this year. I usually give up chocolate and just no way, can't do that now. Last year was FB and chocolate. Since then, I haven't been on FB/social media as much. I use my phone a lot for work, so not sure that's a great option for me... and I don't want to give you girls up lol... What's a preggo to give up??!!
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Ha! @ziggymama06 yeah that's the cool thing, I think both of these authors treat it realistically enough that we can't very well just give them up entirely. But unlike the notion that it's mindful and IM the one in control of my usage, not falling prey to their addictive nature and just getting sucked in. Or being less present with my kid. I think it's worth a read anyway, and then let it work on your heart! I don't think lent always has to be about giving something up, but drawing closer to the Lord, and there are lots of ways to do that. ;)
@BusinessWife I am definitely interested in reading a book like those. I feel like I am definitely too absorbed in my phone and with a baby on the way I want to be more conscious of being on my phone instead of just mindlessly scrolling.. especially as baby grows up so they don't think it's normal/ok to be so absorbed in technology!
@BusinessWife this would be perfect! I’m great about the phone around my kids but I’m super guilty of ignoring my husband. For lent the last several years I’ve tried to not necessarily give something up but make me do something that turns my focus to my husband. And this is it!
Also, my random is that I’ve been trying to tell my friend that’s been battling IF after a loss that I’m pregnant. I’m gonna see her in a few weeks and I’m dreading this. I hate how this may make her feel. My heart is shattered and I just need her to be home tonight so I’m not blindsiding her in public.
@BusinessWife I've really been trying to be conscious of the time I spend on my phone in front of my family. I don't want my daughter to remember me attached to my phone and not playing/listening to her. I love the idea behind these books so please share how they are!
@ziggymama06 I'm no longer a practicing Catholic but my parents are. My dad told me you're exempt from dietary restrictions for Lent when you're pregnant. So technically, eat ALL of the chocolate
@tyrion_ def tell her BEFORE you see her. That way she has time to process things on her own without feeling like she needs to put on a brave face for you. I went through that with 2 of my friends last pregnancy (there's a happy ending they both have babies now 14 & 11 months old). But both were coming off loses the same year I got pregnant the first time. TW One of them had a 2nd tri lost like a week after announcing to everyone it was devastating (she ended up keeping the next/ successful pregnancy a secret until 34 weeks). The other had 3 loses, the last one I was there for right in the hospital, and she was really delusional for a long time afterward (she kept taking test thinking they were positive when they weren't, calling in the MOTN asking for me to look at pregnancy test for her). I told both of them separately they were VERY distant from me the entire pregnancy... and honestly it wasn't until they each got pregnant that they reached out to me. I know it was hard for them both bc they both wanted it so much. But luckily they both have babies now. I was fully prepared to be their surrogate after DS, but in less than 3 months after his birth both were pregnant again and this time they stuck
STM DS (June 18 BMB vet) Married Aug 2016 Me 30 / DH 34 CS scheduled 7/26-8/12 Due 8/30
@BusinessWife those both seem like great books. Up until recently I've always felt like I'm pretty good about not being on my phone too much. But lately I've been having a lot of anxiety about baby/ pregnancy stuff that I find myself mindlessly scrolling through my Instagram so that I'm not thinking too hard about anything. So, maybe I'll look into reading one of those books.
@tyrion_ I'm in a similar situation with one of my coworkers. She has PCOS and has has a lot of IF issues. Recently her sister-in-law announced her pregnancy and she confided in me that she was heartbroken by the news. It's hard when you don't want your happiness to hurt someone else.
@maelove Thank you! I was super close to hacking mine off, too. I get overwhelmed with so much hair and have cut it shorter many times. Then I don't go to the salon for forever, and it all grows back. I'm glad I decided to keep the length this time, though! I'm happy with the result.
I got up early to get to the DMV this morning and DD woke up before I got back. Of course MH was here with her but holy cats she has been clinging to me all day acting like I've been missing for days. I'm tired, and now I'm all touched out. She sat on my bed while I worked out and looked at books and colored in coloring books the entire time while trying to talk to me (that is unusual for her, she typically just plays in her room or watches cartoons and leaves me alone for that hourish). Have you ever attempted to do yoga while a 5 year old just talks at you? I do not recommend it. If I get off the couch to do something she is under my feet and if I sit down to watch something she wants to sit in my lap and talk about it. Right now she is sitting at my feet playing with a polly-pocket type toy and I just want her to go away and go play in her room.
She has a karate class tonight and I don't want to take her, I want MH to take her so I can just be by myself for a while. I doubt this will happen since he will likely have work he needs to do when he gets home but crap I just want to be alone.
@chrissyw0618 oh, for sure! I’ve been trying to get her at home but she’s been out every night so far I’ve sent a text. I want to give her as much space to react how she wants but also want to make sure she’s in the privacy of her home. I’m hoping tonight she has no plans.
@ziggymama06 thank you. MH was actually cool with me being their surrogate bc I actually met both of the women through him. One is his class brother's (frat) wife, the other is his college roommate's wife. I think he took the losses harder than me LOL. But I rules: I would only do it once for each, they had to try for twins, and they had to promise to do a post nup bc I wasn't about to have babies for people who would later get divorce.... if they do they had to agree to the potential custody terms BEFORE I had their babies.
STM DS (June 18 BMB vet) Married Aug 2016 Me 30 / DH 34 CS scheduled 7/26-8/12 Due 8/30
@BusinessWife man thats so rough. I hope you get some sleep! Maybe you can meal prep some lunches in the weekend to make it easier?
Today was such a bad day. I tried to tell myself it wouldn't be and that things would be ok but I was so wrong. Tried to take my son to speech and the only way I know how to go was closed. 45 was totally shut off do to a bad accident. They made us all get off at a exit saying Galveston! I have really bad anxiety with driving and cars. I also get lost really easy which adds to it. i had no freaking clue where I was at all to even call to get help. I called thr husband just freaking the fuck out. I finally was able to get traffic to let me over to an exit. I was just sobbing the whole way home.
This is the 3rd appointment hes missed because I was sick the last 2 weeks.
It doesnt help my head and face hurt and I know this is turning into a bad sinus infection because everything is bloody when I use the netti pot.
I just feel so defeated by everything.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@psychobutthead So sorry about your rough day. I am also terrible about getting lost. I hope your cold doesn't turn into a bad sinus infection, you've had enough sickness to deal with! Lots of fluids and I hope you can go to bed early tonight. Tomorrow will hopefully be better! ♥️
@psychobutthead Driving and traffic terrify me. I am a chronic google maps user, I use it to go places I've been before all the time. I've devolved into tears while driving lots of times. Try not to beat yourself up over it.. cars really can be death traps. They are giant metal machines we control moving at higher speeds than we'd like them to be moving sometimes. Also lots of traffic means other people driving death traps and you have no control over how careful they are being. It's totally okay to be nervous navigating cars no matter how long you've been a driver and no matter how many times you have or haven't driven a particular road.
@psychobutthead I’ve been in your shoes before with breaking down while lost in traffic. It can be so scary. It also sounds like you’re in the Houston area, which is one of the scariest places to drive IMO. DH is from there and whenever we visit I insist he does all the driving. I hope tomorrow is better ❤️
Ugh, I'm sorry you had such a rough day. @psychobutthead a sinus infection can be so painful, too! Don't be afraid to ask for pregnancy-safe abx if need be. (((Hugs)))
@psychobutthead What a stressful day. Being lost, especially on a time constraint, is enough to freak anyone out, let alone being sick on top of that. It's okay to feel defeated today, but tomorrow is brand new. Feel all those feels, then shake them off, and give it another go tomorrow. It'll be okay. And try to get some rest, if you can! I feel terrible that you're still so sick.
@psychobutthead Ugh, I’m sorry you had such a rough day! I also get stressed out when going places I’m not super familiar with and I use my phone’s GPS even to get to places I’ve been several times before but am not 100% familiar with. I really hope today is a better day for you!
@gomillis yea i'm on the outskirt of houston and was basically driving into houston traffic. Houston drivers are such aggressive assholes. i really hate driving here and I wouldn't mind moving out of Texas but I don't think the husband would ever be able to adjust to a major move.
@RedBaramid I have a Garmin and I use it for everything. Once I got it I used it just to see the best way to go to places like my local target instead of my normal route just to make life quicker. I really like having it and I have my kids schools and doctors offices all preprogrammed in so I can just go to saved address quickly.
To everyone else who commented I'm glad I'm not alone. My husband talks so much crap about how easily I get lost or my bad sense of direction so I'm glad I'm not the only person here that has that issue.
@BusinessWife I'm not catholic but when I worked as a custodian most my coworkers where. We would all give up cokes for lent. I joined in with them just on the solidarity aspect of it. And the school district would take large orders of fish so admin would host a fish fry and everyone would buy a plate. I think it went to support someones church I can't remember for sure.
OK I have something weird to share.
So my mother called me today. Shes pretty crazy and our only relationship is via phone. At this point she knows what buttons to push and what not to because I have no issues with being no contact and have gone no contact with her for entire years. She called me to tell me that she went and got life insurance with my stepdad. I told her thats great. She told me its enough to cremate them both. She told me for her policy its to be spent on her cremation and the rest split between me and my sister. It's for 15k so there won't be anything left to split. Then she told me if my stepdad dies first (I doubt because he's 16 years younger than my mom) that she gets the money.
But the bomb she dropped was that my stepdad the most abusive prick ever to me decided if he dies hes making me the beneficiary and not leaving it to his daughter or his siblings. Because he knows I will make sure hes cremated and I won't blow the money. And those where the words he used to describe why. I was really shocked and just told my mom thats fine he can I don't mind because I will make sure he has a memorial and a viewing. I am really shocked by this. As badly as my mother and him had been and they see me as the most responsible and trustworthy.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
psychobutthead I truly believe that hurt people hurt people. I have also cut my mother out because of the drama that follows her. But at the end of the day, she knows I'm the most responsible out of my brother and I. But it's nice to hear that they trust you and that she told that to you. That has to mean a lot. But I would still keep them at a distance. Toxic people are not good for anyone and I have no problem cutting family out for the sake of my happiness.
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
@blackgirlmagic i totally agree. Our relationship is not changing because of this. But it was still a surprise to be told they pick me out of everyone e he could pick. Probably because i have never asked for help or anything in 10 years since I left
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@psychobutthead I hope your feeling a bit better. I had a sinus infection November and I know how painful and awful it can be. I was still breastfeeding DS, and I was able to get a decongestant nasal spray over the counter, despite having similar drug restrictions to pregnancy (though as you can probably guess it turns out I was pregnant). It might be worth asking your pharmacist, there is no point telling you the band bc I'm in the UK. If you can get something similar it did help, especially when the only other options are a netty pot, hot drinks and paracetamol (Tylenol).
Also my father in law plays the 'who is going to be executor of my will' game on the reg too.
@cornichonmam yeah my fil liked to talk about who gets what when he dies. We already know his siblings will take everything. Dh would rather forfeit his share than fight any of them for anything. Pretty much neither of us want anything from anyone.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Ladies. I just had my first blind shave down there. I felt like it was too early for a blind shave, but I’m less than four weeks away from being half way through with this pregnancy and there was no way I could suck it in to see down there. When my husband gets home I’m going to ask him how I did. My feeling of touch is going to be my best friend now. Lol.
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
I know many of you ladies are thinking about doing Baby moons and I spoke with my doctor about potential summer trips and he told me that he advises no traveling after 24 weeks, I’m assuming that this is like a good long distance trip, but I will follow up with him in March. And especially no flights after 24 weeks. And then he no traveling after 32 weeks at all.
But I want clarification because I wanted to do a day trip to the beach, about 2.5 hours away in the same state.
I know that nothing is done the same across America, but I’m just sharing so that you all can start having those conversations with your doctor.
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
@blackgirlmagic are you high risk? If not usually travel up until 36 weeks is fine. With a day trip you obviously can play it by ear and see how you are feeling at the time. I’m planning on traveling early in my 3rd trimester but will stop around 32-34 weeks this time depending on how everything is going.
@blackgirlmagic Working NICU scared me out of traveling past viability. Also, I’m LOLing at the blind shave. I remember pulling many a muscle trying to hardheadedly sneak a peek.
Y’all. Remind me why I signed up for this 5k at Disney? I had to get up at 3am on a night my children forgot how to sleep. I’m dead and will be limping into nap time.
@roo_baby no I'm not high risk. I think that we will still do our day trip in early June since it's close to home. We were planning a trip to a zoo out of state, we have done a new state zoo every year since my daughter was born, but we may postpone this till after birth because my husband wants to go somewhere up north. @tyrion_ good luck with your run today. Do you have any more runs planned for this year?
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
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@BusinessWife Hugs, hun. I dunno how working moms do it. I barely survive the SAH life.
I'm so tired today. Ds2 (16mo) is either having nightmares or the start of night terrors. The last week he's been waking up screaming. Last night he was up multiple times and I only got 3 hrs of sleep. I'm so tired and I cant keep up with getting less than 5 hrs a night. I'm just at the end of my rope.
@RedBaramid the plan was always for me to SAH/WFH for the family business. IF changed all that. When we got our dx and found out the only way we could have biological children - if at all - was through surgery for DH, and IVF, I got busy. I found an employer with no lifetime cap infertility coverage, and I said, THAT's where I'm going to work! And the rest is history. So now that we have made it through his surgery, my surgery, two egg retrievals, five transfers, one THB and God-willing the second on the way, I'm at that point where I just need to push pause. And MIL is helping me get FMLA paperwork in order. 🎉 So time will tell if we decide to go back as cash patients, or with different insurance, or I come back part time just for the coverage and we do this again. So I mean, I am beyond grateful for this opportunity and for all it has already done for our family. But it's time.
<img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/pu/hu402q4kpfvp.gif" alt="">
I wonder where she gets the sass from...
Apparently I had a head cold that left my head congested. Congestion is draining down my thrkat making me violently cough. Also since the congestion didnt drain all the way I'm getting a sinus infection.
Same thing happened in August and it turned into sinusitis. I'm royally screwed if this turns to that so I am netti potting like a crazy woman.
Also felt good enough after using my inhaler finally to clean. Cleaned my living room and did 3 loads of laundry!!! Also my husband and I finally agreed on a new middle name for a girl!
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Im too exhausted to go back and tag the few mamas who have had rough nights and are exhausted but I just wanted to say - solidarity! I’m right there with you. I get 3-6 hours of sleep a night, depending on the night, and it’s always interrupted / punctuated by the baby screaming and needing to be comforted back to sleep. Ugh. 11 months old and I still haven’t figured out how to sleep train or let her CIO without waking up the rest of the house
So grateful to be feeling better, though! I’m 13 weeks and haven’t felt sick in 3-4 days (touch wood). I really hope the morning sickness is gone for good now, because the bloating and exhaustion are enough to deal with right now!
My younger DD starts daycare next week. I can’t believe it! And I’m gearing up to go back to work after my year long mat leave. Excited to see my coworkers and to do “adult stuff” again but dreading breaking the news to the bosses that I’m pregnant again....
@laur84ns I can see how it would be a little stressful breaking that news after coming back from maternity leave, but I'm sure they'll be understanding! Also, fingers crossed that your morning sickness is gone for good!
@laur84ns Sorry about the sleep troubles. That is so rough. Good luck with heading back to work and the conversation with your boss! I know that conversation will be nerve-wracking but I hope everyone is understanding. I agree with looking forward to the return to work. I savor my childless lunch time and adult conversation throughout the day.
Among other prayers / devotionals, there are a couple books I have been putting off reading, and I thought now might be a good time.
<div class=" Spoiler"><img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/mt/8ce6j6hkynhl.jpg" alt="" title="Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/mt/8ce6j6hkynhl.jpg"><span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">And omg I just read the forward and I am sold. FD, it looks like a Christian book, not strictly Catholic, nor athiest, or anything else, but for those who may be interested in stepping outside of the technology for a moment to gain a little perspective on our modern usage, it might be a good read!</span></div>
<div class=" Spoiler"><img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/yu/sglyt99oibmb.jpg" alt="" title="Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/yu/sglyt99oibmb.jpg"><span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">This one seems like it has a lot of the same information (but not sure about the theological aspect). And not necessarily throwing your phone under a bus, but putting it into it's rightful place as a tool for us, not being slaves to it. And then there is also a 30-day breakup plan. :)</span></div>
So, anyway just thought I'd share and curious if anyone else wants to read either of them with me? Or has any other Lenten ideas for spiritual growth they might like to share.
@laur84ns Ugh, hope you can get some real rest soon. Good luck going back to work and sharing the news with your boss. It's totally nerve-wracking, but I'm sure they will understand. Keep us posted.
@BusinessWife I'm really struggling to find something to give up for lent this year. I usually give up chocolate and just no way, can't do that now. Last year was FB and chocolate. Since then, I haven't been on FB/social media as much. I use my phone a lot for work, so not sure that's a great option for me... and I don't want to give you girls up lol... What's a preggo to give up??!!
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
@ziggymama06 I'm no longer a practicing Catholic but my parents are. My dad told me you're exempt from dietary restrictions for Lent when you're pregnant. So technically, eat ALL of the chocolate
Edit: Spelling is hard
@lachnessmomster your hair. is. gorgeous. I just chopped all of mine off recently and this makes me regret it so much haha.
@BusinessWife thanks for the motivation on what to give up/work on for lent. It will def be screen time.
@psychobutthead hope you are feeling better!
I had so many more comments but now they elude me!
I went through that with 2 of my friends last pregnancy (there's a happy ending they both have babies now 14 & 11 months old). But both were coming off loses the same year I got pregnant the first time. TW One of them had a 2nd tri lost like a week after announcing to everyone it was devastating (she ended up keeping the next/ successful pregnancy a secret until 34 weeks). The other had 3 loses, the last one I was there for right in the hospital, and she was really delusional for a long time afterward (she kept taking test thinking they were positive when they weren't, calling in the MOTN asking for me to look at pregnancy test for her). I told both of them separately they were VERY distant from me the entire pregnancy... and honestly it wasn't until they each got pregnant that they reached out to me. I know it was hard for them both bc they both wanted it so much. But luckily they both have babies now. I was fully prepared to be their surrogate after DS, but in less than 3 months after his birth both were pregnant again and this time they stuck
Married Aug 2016 Me 30 / DH 34
CS scheduled 7/26-8/12 Due 8/30
@tyrion_ I'm in a similar situation with one of my coworkers. She has PCOS and has has a lot of IF issues. Recently her sister-in-law announced her pregnancy and she confided in me that she was heartbroken by the news. It's hard when you don't want your happiness to hurt someone else.
She has a karate class tonight and I don't want to take her, I want MH to take her so I can just be by myself for a while. I doubt this will happen since he will likely have work he needs to do when he gets home but crap I just want to be alone.
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Married Aug 2016 Me 30 / DH 34
CS scheduled 7/26-8/12 Due 8/30
Today was such a bad day. I tried to tell myself it wouldn't be and that things would be ok but I was so wrong.
Tried to take my son to speech and the only way I know how to go was closed. 45 was totally shut off do to a bad accident. They made us all get off at a exit saying Galveston! I have really bad anxiety with driving and cars. I also get lost really easy which adds to it. i had no freaking clue where I was at all to even call to get help. I called thr husband just freaking the fuck out. I finally was able to get traffic to let me over to an exit.
I was just sobbing the whole way home.
This is the 3rd appointment hes missed because I was sick the last 2 weeks.
It doesnt help my head and face hurt and I know this is turning into a bad sinus infection because everything is bloody when I use the netti pot.
I just feel so defeated by everything.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@RedBaramid I have a Garmin and I use it for everything. Once I got it I used it just to see the best way to go to places like my local target instead of my normal route just to make life quicker. I really like having it and I have my kids schools and doctors offices all preprogrammed in so I can just go to saved address quickly.
To everyone else who commented I'm glad I'm not alone. My husband talks so much crap about how easily I get lost or my bad sense of direction so I'm glad I'm not the only person here that has that issue.
@BusinessWife I'm not catholic but when I worked as a custodian most my coworkers where. We would all give up cokes for lent. I joined in with them just on the solidarity aspect of it. And the school district would take large orders of fish so admin would host a fish fry and everyone would buy a plate. I think it went to support someones church I can't remember for sure.
OK I have something weird to share.
So my mother called me today. Shes pretty crazy and our only relationship is via phone. At this point she knows what buttons to push and what not to because I have no issues with being no contact and have gone no contact with her for entire years.
She called me to tell me that she went and got life insurance with my stepdad. I told her thats great. She told me its enough to cremate them both.
She told me for her policy its to be spent on her cremation and the rest split between me and my sister. It's for 15k so there won't be anything left to split. Then she told me if my stepdad dies first (I doubt because he's 16 years younger than my mom) that she gets the money.
But the bomb she dropped was that my stepdad the most abusive prick ever to me decided if he dies hes making me the beneficiary and not leaving it to his daughter or his siblings. Because he knows I will make sure hes cremated and I won't blow the money. And those where the words he used to describe why.
I was really shocked and just told my mom thats fine he can I don't mind because I will make sure he has a memorial and a viewing. I am really shocked by this. As badly as my mother and him had been and they see me as the most responsible and trustworthy.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Also my father in law plays the 'who is going to be executor of my will' game on the reg too.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@tyrion_ good luck with your run today. Do you have any more runs planned for this year?