August 2020 Moms

Weekly randoms 2/16

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  • @BusinessWife I'm glad you were able to find a company that provided the coverage you needed for this season of life. Also glad you are getting things in order for you to do what you really want to do for the future 
  • @psychobutthead Oh, man. That sounds terrible. Hopefully it doesn't escalate into something more serious. Keep using that Neti! It sounds like a good sign that you were feeling well enough to clean a little. And congrats on choosing a middle name! We're still at square one over here in the name department. 

    @laur84ns I can see how it would be a little stressful breaking that news after coming back from maternity leave, but I'm sure they'll be understanding! Also, fingers crossed that your morning sickness is gone for good!
  • @psychobutthead I hope you start to feel better and can get over all that sickness!! 

    @laur84ns Sorry about the sleep troubles. That is so rough. Good luck with heading back to work and the conversation with your boss! I know that conversation will be nerve-wracking but I hope everyone is understanding. I agree with looking forward to the return to work. I savor my childless lunch time and adult conversation throughout the day. 
  • Off topic / Random, but is anyone else doing anything to... "celebrate" Lent?

    Among other prayers / devotionals, there are a couple books I have been putting off reading, and I thought now might be a good time.
    <div class=" Spoiler"><img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/mt/8ce6j6hkynhl.jpg" alt="" title="Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/mt/8ce6j6hkynhl.jpg"><span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">And omg I just read the forward and I am sold.  FD, it looks like a Christian book, not strictly Catholic, nor athiest, or anything else, but for those who may be interested in stepping outside of the technology for a moment to gain a little perspective on our modern usage, it might be a good read!</span></div>
    <div class=" Spoiler"><img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/yu/sglyt99oibmb.jpg" alt="" title="Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/yu/sglyt99oibmb.jpg"><span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">This one seems like it has a lot of the same information (but not sure about the theological aspect).  And not necessarily throwing your phone under a bus, but putting it into it's rightful place as a tool for us, not being slaves to it.  And then there is also a 30-day breakup plan. :)</span></div>
    So, anyway just thought I'd share and curious if anyone else wants to read either of them with me?  Or has any other Lenten ideas for spiritual growth they might like to share.
  • @psychobutthead Oh no!!!  At least you know what is going on now and hopefully you can get ahead of it!  Hoping you feel better soon!!

    @laur84ns Ugh, hope you can get some real rest soon.  Good luck going back to work and sharing the news with your boss.  It's totally nerve-wracking, but I'm sure they will understand.  Keep us posted.

    @BusinessWife I'm really struggling to find something to give up for lent this year.  I usually give up chocolate and just no way, can't do that now.  Last year was FB and chocolate.  Since then, I haven't been on FB/social media as much.  I use my phone a lot for work, so not sure that's a great option for me... and I don't want to give you girls up lol...  What's a preggo to give up??!!
    Me: 33  DH: 36
    Dating 4/2008
    Married 6/2016
    TTC #1  9/2019
    BFP 12/13/2019!
    EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl  <3
  • Ha! @ziggymama06 yeah that's the cool thing, I think both of these authors treat it realistically enough that we can't very well just give them up entirely.  But unlike the notion that it's mindful and IM the one in control of my usage, not falling prey to their addictive nature and just getting sucked in.  Or being less present with my kid.  I think it's worth a read anyway, and then let it work on your heart!  I don't think lent always has to be about giving something up, but drawing closer to the Lord, and there are lots of ways to do that. ;)
  • @BusinessWife I am definitely interested in reading a book like those. I feel like I am definitely too absorbed in my phone and with a baby on the way I want to be more conscious of being on my phone instead of just mindlessly scrolling.. especially as baby grows up so they don't think it's normal/ok to be so absorbed in technology! 
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    @BusinessWife I've really been trying to be conscious of the time I spend on my phone in front of my family. I don't want my daughter to remember me attached to my phone and not playing/listening to her. I love the idea behind these books so please share how they are!

    @ziggymama06 I'm no longer a practicing Catholic but my parents are. My dad told me you're exempt from dietary restrictions for Lent when you're pregnant. So technically, eat ALL of the chocolate :)

    Edit: Spelling is hard
  • @BusinessWife those both seem like great books. Up until recently I've always felt like I'm pretty good about not being on my phone too much. But lately I've been having a lot of anxiety about baby/ pregnancy stuff that I find myself mindlessly scrolling through my Instagram so that I'm not thinking too hard about anything. So, maybe I'll look into reading one of those books. 

    @tyrion_ I'm in a similar situation with one of my coworkers. She has PCOS and has has a lot of IF issues. Recently her sister-in-law announced her pregnancy and she confided in me that she was heartbroken by the news. It's hard when you don't want your happiness to hurt someone else. 
  • @maelove Thank you! I was super close to hacking mine off, too. I get overwhelmed with so much hair and have cut it shorter many times. Then I don't go to the salon for forever, and it all grows back. I'm glad I decided to keep the length this time, though! I'm happy with the result. 
  • @chrissyw0618 oh, for sure! I’ve been trying to get her at home but she’s been out every night so far I’ve sent a text. I want to give her as much space to react how she wants but also want to make sure she’s in the privacy of her home. I’m hoping tonight she has no plans.
  • @tyrion_ Good luck!  You're a good friend.    <3
    Me: 33  DH: 36
    Dating 4/2008
    Married 6/2016
    TTC #1  9/2019
    BFP 12/13/2019!
    EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl  <3
  • @psychobutthead So sorry about your rough day.  I am also terrible about getting lost. I hope your cold doesn't turn into a bad sinus infection, you've had enough sickness to deal with! Lots of fluids and I hope you can go to bed early tonight. Tomorrow will hopefully be better! ♥️
  • @psychobutthead Driving and traffic terrify me.  I am a chronic google maps user, I use it to go places I've been before all the time. I've devolved into tears while driving lots of times. Try not to beat yourself up over it.. cars really can be death traps.  They are giant metal machines we control moving at higher speeds than we'd like them to be moving sometimes. Also lots of traffic means other people driving death traps and you have no control over how careful they are being.  It's totally okay to be nervous navigating cars no matter how long you've been a driver and no matter how many times you have or haven't driven a particular road.
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  • @psychobutthead I’ve been in your shoes before with breaking down while lost in traffic. It can be so scary. It also sounds like you’re in the Houston area, which is one of the scariest places to drive IMO. DH is from there and whenever we visit I insist he does all the driving. I hope tomorrow is better ❤️
  • Ugh, I'm sorry you had such a rough day. @psychobutthead a sinus infection can be so painful, too!  Don't be afraid to ask for pregnancy-safe abx if need be. (((Hugs)))
  • @psychobutthead What a stressful day. Being lost, especially on a time constraint, is enough to freak anyone out, let alone being sick on top of that. It's okay to feel defeated today, but tomorrow is brand new. Feel all those feels, then shake them off, and give it another go tomorrow. It'll be okay. And try to get some rest, if you can! I feel terrible that you're still so sick. :'(
  • @psychobutthead Ugh, I’m sorry you had such a rough day! I also get stressed out when going places I’m not super familiar with and I use my phone’s GPS even to get to places I’ve been several times before but am not 100% familiar with. I really hope today is a better day for you!
  • @gomillis yea i'm on the outskirt of houston and was basically driving into houston traffic. Houston drivers are such aggressive assholes. i really hate driving here and I wouldn't mind moving out of Texas but I don't think the husband would ever be able to adjust to a major move.

    @RedBaramid I have a Garmin and I use it for everything. Once I got it I used it just to see the best way to go to places like my local target instead of my normal route just to make life quicker. I really like having it and I have my kids schools and doctors offices all preprogrammed in so I can just go to saved address quickly.

    To everyone else who commented I'm glad I'm not alone. My husband talks so much crap about how easily I get lost or my bad sense of direction so I'm glad I'm not the only person here that has that issue.

    @BusinessWife I'm not catholic but when I worked as a custodian most my coworkers where. We would all give up cokes for lent. I joined in with them just on the solidarity aspect of it. And the school district would take large orders of fish so admin would host a fish fry and everyone would buy a plate. I think it went to support someones church I can't remember for sure.

    OK I have something weird to share.

    So my mother called me today. Shes pretty crazy and our only relationship is via phone. At this point she knows what buttons to push and what not to because I have no issues with being no contact and have gone no contact with her for entire years.
    She called me to tell me that she went and got life insurance with my stepdad. I told her thats great. She told me its enough to cremate them both.
    She told me for her policy its to be spent on her cremation and the rest split between me and my sister. It's for 15k so there won't be anything left to split. Then she told me if my stepdad dies first (I doubt because he's 16 years younger than my mom) that she gets the money. 

    But the bomb she dropped was that my stepdad the most abusive prick ever to me decided if he dies hes making me the beneficiary and not leaving it to his daughter or his siblings. Because he knows I will make sure hes cremated and I won't blow the money. And those where the words he used to describe why.
    I was really shocked and just told my mom thats fine he can I don't mind because I will make sure he has a memorial and a viewing. I am really shocked by this. As badly as my mother and him had been and they see me as the most responsible and trustworthy.
    Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007
    Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
    Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
    Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
    Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020

  • psychobutthead I truly believe that hurt people hurt people. I have also cut my mother out because of the drama that follows her. But at the end of the day, she knows I'm the most responsible out of my brother and I. But it's nice to hear that they trust you and that she told that to you. That has to mean a lot. But I would still keep them at a distance. Toxic people are not good for anyone and I have no problem cutting family out for the sake of my happiness. 
    Married: August 2012
    TTC #1: July 2015
    BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
    TTC #2: September 2019

  • @blackgirlmagic i totally agree. Our relationship is not changing because of this.  But it was still a surprise to be told they pick me out of everyone e he could pick. Probably because i have never asked for help or anything in 10 years since I left 
    Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007
    Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
    Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
    Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
    Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020

  • @psychobutthead I hope your feeling a bit better. I had a sinus infection November and I know how painful and awful it can be. I was still breastfeeding DS, and I was able to get a decongestant nasal spray over the counter, despite having similar drug restrictions to pregnancy (though as you can probably guess it turns out I was pregnant). It might be worth asking your pharmacist, there is no point telling you the band bc I'm in the UK. If you can get something similar it did help, especially when the only other options are a netty pot, hot drinks and paracetamol (Tylenol).

    Also my father in law plays the 'who is going to be 
    executor of my will' game on the reg too.
  • @cornichonmam yeah my fil liked to talk about who gets what when he dies. We already know his siblings will take everything. Dh would rather forfeit his share than fight any of them for anything. Pretty much neither of us want anything from anyone.
    Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007
    Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
    Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
    Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
    Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020

  • I know many of you ladies are thinking about doing Baby moons and I spoke with my doctor about potential summer trips and he told me that he advises no traveling after 24 weeks, I’m assuming that this is like a good long distance trip, but I will follow up with him in March. And especially no flights after 24 weeks. And then he no traveling after 32 weeks at all. 
    But I want clarification because I wanted to do a day trip to the beach, about 2.5 hours away in the same state. 
    I know that nothing is done the same across America, but I’m just sharing so that you all can start having those conversations with your doctor. 
    Married: August 2012
    TTC #1: July 2015
    BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
    TTC #2: September 2019

  • @blackgirlmagic are you high risk? If not usually travel up until 36 weeks is fine. With a day trip you obviously can play it by ear and see how you are feeling at the time. I’m planning on traveling early in my 3rd trimester but will stop around 32-34 weeks this time depending on how everything is going. 
  • @roo_baby no I'm not high risk. I think that we will still do our day trip in early June since it's close to home. We were planning a trip to a zoo out of state, we have done a new state zoo every year since my daughter was born, but we may postpone this till after birth because my husband wants to go somewhere up north. 
    @tyrion_ good luck with your run today. Do you have any more runs planned for this year?
    Married: August 2012
    TTC #1: July 2015
    BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
    TTC #2: September 2019

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