August 2020 Moms
wildrainbow
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PGAL Check In w/o Jan 26
wildrainbow
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I know several of our loss mamas have been feeling anxious, so I'm posting this thread to give us an outlet.
This is a thread for anyone who has experienced a loss at any point during this journey. Hoping we can support each other. TW applies to the entire thread.
This is a thread for anyone who has experienced a loss at any point during this journey. Hoping we can support each other. TW applies to the entire thread.
EDD/weeks+days?
Other children?
Previous losses?
Concerns or worries this week?
Any milestones coming up?
Questions?
GTKY: When do you think you will be able to breathe a little easier?
Other children?
Previous losses?
Concerns or worries this week?
Any milestones coming up?
Questions?
GTKY: When do you think you will be able to breathe a little easier?
Re: PGAL Check In w/o Jan 26
EDD/weeks+days? August 31 / 8w 6d
Other children? 2
Previous losses? 1
Concerns or worries this week? I spot in early pregnancy. I just do. All of my previous pregnancies were conceived with fertility meds and at least in my first pregnancy I had low progesterone so I’ve always taken supplements in the first trimester. With this pregnancy though, I conceived naturally and my dr said my progesterone looked normal at 6.5 weeks so I’m not taking anything. It’s stressing me out. I’ve had spotting off and on through this pregnancy too. At 6 weeks I had a lot and ran to the ER. US showed a baby and heartbeat, but suspicious free fluid in my pelvis so I had a follow up a week later. At 7 weeks all looked good, healthy heartbeat of 147. I had some pink
stringy stuff in cervical mucus (sorry for TMI) that lasted 4-5 days a couple times a day. I’ve had nothing for the last 5 days or so though, and have been feeling super nauseous so I finally allowed myself to relax a bit and look forward to this pregnancy. Well *TW* this morning I woke up to a fair amount of pinkish brown spotting. It is freaking me out all over again! So far today my abdomen feels achey so I hope it’s just from my uterus stretching out but man, spotting has a way of RUINING my day. Seriously. I’m trying not to panic, and reminding myself that chances of miscarriage at nearly 9 weeks after seeing a healthy heartbeat are around 4%. But still, someone has to be that 4% right? Ugh.
Any milestones coming up? Nope, with my loss it was discovered at 7 weeks that it was not a normal pregnancy and likely ectopic, by 1-2 weeks later it was confirmed ectopic. With this one I’ve seen a pregnancy in the uterus. My milestone that I’m holding my breath until is the end of the first tri!
Questions? I guess further to my long winded ramble above, has anyone else had spotting? Can anyone calm me down and tell me not to panic? Haha!
GTKY: When do you think you will be able to breathe a little easier? Once I’m out of the first trimester! *knock on wood* I’ve always had stressful first trimesters but easy pregnancies once I’m out of the first 13 weeks.
EDD/weeks+days? 10+5
Other children? 1
Previous losses? Chemical pregnancies x 3
Concerns or worries this week? See above. I’m tapering down my progesterone suppositories because I’m afraid to stop cold turkey.
Any milestones coming up? No
Questions? No
GTKY: When do you think you will be able to breathe a little easier? I will relax a little in 2 weeks when I get the NIPT results, have my NT exam and am fully off the progesterone. However, pregnancy is scary the whole time and I definitely know there are no guarantees at any point.
@tara4910 I tapered last time from PIO to suppositories for 2 weeks, and was done at 10w. This time I just stopped at 10w (that was Friday) and so far knock wood it's been fine! I know my doctor wouldn't recommend I do anything to endanger the pregnancy, and I'm grateful to have come off of it safely the first time, so it didn't really freak me out this time. (((Hugs)))
EDD/weeks+days? 8/22; 10w+2
Other children? DD is 16m
Previous losses? One CP prior to DD and two failed transfers prior to this one
Concerns or worries this week? FILs party was moved to next weekend, so we won't be announcing to DHs family for one more week. Which I'm kind of relieved about TBH. I have the NIPT draw on Wednesday, so I would love to have that back Friday before we see them, but of course I know I can't count on that.
Any milestones coming up? NT scan is still two weeks away...
Questions?
GTKY: When do you think you will be able to breathe a little easier? Once the NIPT and NT scans all come back well, I think I will be able to relax and enjoy this pregnancy again.
Other children? 2 rainbow babies, 3yo and 15mo
Previous losses? 5 losses including an ectopic, BO, and chemical
Concerns or worries this week? I go in for my NIPT and another u/s this week. I always have a slight worry for dr appts.
Any milestones coming up? End of first tri is right around the corner!
Questions?
GTKY: When do you think you will be able to breathe a little easier? Honestly, I dont breathe easy until baby is outside. My body and pregnancy are frenemies at best and I rarely have a time where I breathe easy. I'm high risk from start to finish.
Other children? DD, 2
Previous losses? MMC last July
Concerns or worries this week? Feeling pretty nervous for weeks now. I was fortunate and had a good early ultrasound done at seven weeks. I was supposed to get another scan at nine weeks, but because of major technical difficulties (whole other rant) at my provider’s office, it’s now been pushed back to 11 weeks (this Thursday). Going four weeks in between scans has been brutal, especially since I had a MMC at 9.5 weeks (baby measured 6-7, no heartbeat). I’m hoping so hard for a good scan this week then a good NT scan the next week (when I’ll be 12 weeks along). NIPT will be around then too.
Insurance won’t cover Diclegis for my insomnia and nausea, so I just started taking Unisom + B6. Morning sickness was ROUGH today- I had to ask DH to leave work to watch DD. Really hoping for improvement soon. This is probably the worst my morning sickness has ever been. Silver lining, I’m
hoping it means a sticky baby?!
Any milestones coming up?
Questions?
GTKY: When do you think you will be able to breathe a little easier? Hopefully after my next couple of ultrasounds and testing (NT scan and NIPT). But realistically it’ll probably still be hard until baby is delivered happy and healthy.
@tara4910 Coming off progesterone is scary. Always. Remember that those babes are a lot stronger than we realize and your body knows what to do, even if you dont think it does.
@BusinessWife Hoping for a fast return on NIPT results after your draw. Which one are you getting, do you know?
@babytimeagain I am ridiculously pissed at your provider for their horrible care. What day is your scan this week? Keep us updated and I'm hoping your little babe is snug. Are you still looking for another provider?
@laur84ns I am so sorry for all the spotting. I can’t imagine how incredibly stressful and upsetting it is. I hope it stops soon for you and you can have a relaxing rest of your pregnancy.
@tara4910 I hope the next two weeks fly by so you can have the results you need to breathe a little easier. But I hear you on the “no guarantees”, that slight anxiety will always be there.
@businesswife Good luck with the NIPT draw. That would be an amazing turnaround time if you got them back by then! Here’s hoping you’re able to get them ASAP.
@wildrainbow White coat syndrome is so real for me, too. They had to take my BP a second time AFTER my scan last Thursday because it was high prior to. No matter what, I always have some sort of nerves and anxiety before appointments.
@babytimeagain I am just floored by how long that whole thing took. I’m sorry it caused you so much stress. Hope the week flies by so you can get some reassurance.
Other children? 4.5 year old son, 2.5 year old daughter
Previous losses? Early loss May 2019, loss of twin early in this pregnancy (vanishing twin syndrome)
Concerns or worries this week? I’m always worried. But this week (Thursday) is my empty due date. I’ve been trying to count my blessings every day but it has been sad thinking what could have been. Who would they have been? I can’t believe how quickly this date came.
Any milestones coming up? Not related to this pregnancy but I mentioned a sort of loss milestone above.
Questions? None.
GTKY: When do you think you will be able to breathe a little easier? Never 😂 but I do think the anxiety will dampen with each passing milestone (NIPT, second tri, anatomy scan, viability, birth). Then it’ll be a whole other set of anxieties.
@wildrainbow Ugh my heart goes out to you that you won’t get much of a chance to breathe a sigh of relief at any point, because of your high risk status. I really hope that each passing appointment / Doppler / ultrasound can provide you with moments of relief! I can’t imagine being as stressed as I am in the first tri, throughout my whole pregnancy. We’re here for support until these babies are born, and hopefully long after! My March 2019 BMB is still going strong both on Facebook and in a private bump group
@BusinessWife My excuse for not drinking this month has been “dry January” so despite my constant nausea it’s been relatively easy to keep my secret (I didn’t find out I was pregnant until the beginning of January, when I was 6 weeks) but that excuse runs out this weekend! We are having the private scan for peace of mind, in case we feel we need to come clean with our news in early Feb but to be honest I’d much rather wait until I am 12-13 weeks (I’ll be just shy if 10 weeks this weekend). Ugh. We’ll see how long I can keep this under wraps for. I hope your announcement goes well, if you decide to do it at the party!
Previous losses? MC in 2017
Concerns or worries this week? I have been able to keep a handle on my anxiety recently until this last few days as my scan is coming up very soon now, and I can't help but think what if I'm the tiny percent that won't get good news. This feeling hasn't been helped by the fact that my nausea has been getting a bit better recently which is concerning me because it hung abound until 19w last time. I'm sure everything will be fine, I haven't had anything to indicate to the contrary but im sure you ladies can appreciate it can be difficult to really engage your logical brain when being pregnant and a tad hormonal.
Any milestones coming up? Viability/dating/NT scan next week.
Questions?
GTKY: When do you think you will be able to breathe a little easier? Hopefully next week after my scan and finally hitting the second trimester.
Other children? Yep 2 hellions
Previous losses? Yes 2 previous losses
Concerns or worries this week?
I'm concerned with my lack of symptoms. Only symtpom i have is bad acne and its clearing up.
Any milestones coming up? Well the next week and. A half is around the time I learned of losing my last pregnancy. I go back in feb 7th for the ob and a nt scan. Really worried it will just show no heart beat again.
Questions?
Not really
GTKY: When do you think you will be able to breathe a little easier?
I dont think i will. I used to think I'd be ok last pregnancy after i passed my amount of weeks of my first loss. Now i feel like theres no safe zone. Terrified if its not lost next time i go it will be a rare late term loss. Or worried about a stillborn. Just knowing family history makes me terrified I will take after my aunt who suffered numerous losses.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Other children? 1 son who joined our family by adoption.
Previous losses?
Concerns or worries this week?
We go tomorrow for another ultrasound and I know it should bring some relief but I’m so stressed out until I can actually see that baby is healthy.
GTKY: When do you think you will be able to breathe a little easier?
just trying to think of the baby and that beating heartbeat whenever I start to feel anxiety.