Thanks @raesky1111! It's been pretty consistent today without too much output 😂 so I'm guessing this little girl has figured out how to get her wiggle on ❤
I know I'm probably overthinking this, but it's beginning to become an increasing concern. My in-laws aren't taking the virus seriously at all. My in-laws are constantly going all over town and hanging out with groups of people. My MIL has even looked me in the face multiple times and told me she's not taking it seriously. When it comes time for delivery, my parents will be strictly quarantining themselves in the weeks before coming to stay with us. But I already know my MIL is going to buck the system and she is who is supposed to watch our older child while we are at the hospital because she is closest in proximity. Anyone have advise on how to handle this conversation with my in-laws or going through some of the same things? It's already stressful enough without my MIL basically telling me she'll do whatever she wants and I can't stop her.
@nikijdeleon this is just my opinion but I honestly take all these things super seriously. If it was me I would not let the in-laws even watch my older child if they can’t take it seriously and when the time comes for baby to be born I would ask my parents and have one stay at my place if they could so that you could just leave to go to the hospital. When my son was young if people didn’t have their flu shot/tdap they didn’t hold him. And when this little one comes we plan on no hospital visitors and people can come to our home when we are ready. As long as they are feeling well. The health and safety of my little family is my number 1 priority.
@nikijdeleon I second @ktholysz. I have very little patience for people who aren't taking this seriously. You can (and should!) advocate for your family's health to your MIL. If you're not comfortable doing that, maybe YH can do it, but one way or another, you should feel 100% comfortable with the situation so it's not one more thing to worry about when giving birth. That being said, things are changing fast and the situation might be different by the time we give birth - but you should still do what you feel is best.
@nikijdeleon I third what they're saying, if they won't take the virus seriously, then they sound like the kind of people who would expect to get to hug and kiss your baby without a second thought of RSV or any other dangerous illnesses the baby could get. As far as it goes, hospital restrictions might not be relaxed by the time we start delivering anyway which could mean your spouse would be the only one allowed to visit, but even if they do have visitors allowed, you could give them a list of pre-approved people and let the staff do the rejecting of anyone you don't feel comfortable visiting. Feelings will get hurt, unfortunately, but better to have hurt feelings and tense relations than a funeral or two because they were too dismissive of yours and the baby's health.
I was also like @ktholysz and nobody got to even hold my son who didn't have an up to date whooping cough vaccine until he was like 8 weeks old (we had outbreaks on and off in the local high schools around that time too). Don't be afraid to squash a few toes in order to keep your family safe. They'll probably be mad but they'll either start realizing that they need to take it more seriously or they'll get over it
Momma to 3 angels and two amazing children
F born June 2018 W born September 2020 #3 due November 2022
Our last kiddo was born during peak influenza season. No one met her until she was a month old because I’m a germaphobe and after that adults only were allowed to visit for another month or two. Overkill? Eh, it’s possible, but I don’t have any regrets and I’ll likely do something similar with this baby if all of this madness is still happening.
Personally I'm going to track down an info pamphlet on RSV and other baby illnesses and take it with me to family gatherings (Thanksgiving, Christmas) this year if social distancing has ended, just so I can hand it to my relatives when they get fussy about not being allowed to snuggle my baby. Like yes, I get it she's cute, but she won't be cute laying in a hospital bed fighting for her life.
Stand your ground. There are consequences for not taking this virus seriously. One of those will unfortunately be missing her grandchilds first days. You are putting your child at risk if you let her around.
@raesky1111 I love that idea. I'd never even considered doing that. I'll be in touch with my pediatrician to get whatever pamphlets I can get my hands on. It's difficult to fight science, right? lol
Thanks everyone! Pre-kids I was extremely confrontational and never worried about upsetting anyone. And even though my instinct is to protect my kids now, I always fear situations that will cause conflict. Having each of you tell me to stand my ground and not tell me I'm crazy has given me significant confidence. I really appreciate it.
Anyone receive a positive test from your QUAD screen for down syndrome/tri 18 and had to get an NIPT? FTM here and so nervous now.. all my ultrasounds have been good so far (last one at 14 weeks). I swear everytime I get a blood test back it's something! Midwife said it could be my dermoid cyst on my ovary creating a positive..
@tuesdayw1992 I know the NIPT is the best way to get results on Trisomys. And they are very quick to get back. The genetic counselor will be very helpful and have all the information you need.
TW: I had a loss with trisomy 21 in my last pregnancy we didn’t do any genetic testing then. I have heard the quad screen can give false positives.
Hello Everyone. Bump app question. I updated the app a few days ago - and it seems that there is no way to access this board now. Has anyone had the same problem? Or know how I can find access? I pretty much exclusively use the app when I have insomnia at night and don't get out my laptop. I hope there is an easy solution! Sorry if I'm more MIA due to not having access!
@balletnerd you have to click on the three lines in the top left. Then you have to click the little arrow > at the far right of one of the topics like pregnancy. Scroll down and community is under tools.
@emohay1988 I was thinking about asking about this too! i actually have always been a side sleeper but of course now that I’m really supposed to be I find myself waking on my back a lot too! I also cannot get myself to sleep only on my left side and often switch between left and right to fall asleep. I plan to talk to my doctor this week about this during my televisit. But does anyone know how important it is and ways to help?
@momofmiracles31889 Hopefully not too important because up until recently I couldn’t get myself to not wake up on my stomach with my belly slightly to one side but definitely a bit under me. Now I mostly wake up on my back and rotate between let and right sides.
With DS I slept mostly on my back until the end. The reason it's recommended to side sleep is because baby puts pressure on your artery going down the right leg, which can cause you to feel lightheaded and nauseous, amongst other things. If you're able to sleep on your back without those things then it's just fine to continue. It is recommended to at least put a pillow below the right hip, and that slight incline is enough to relieve the pressure. If you do back sleep, just remember to roll to your side to get up. You don't want to sit straight up.
Momma to 3 angels and two amazing children
F born June 2018 W born September 2020 #3 due November 2022
I have chronic back problems so I had to teach myself to back sleep, and now I'm having a hard time breaking the habit too. I do notice I breath heavier and feel pressure when I'm on my back now though so it's a reminder for me. The only way I've been able to ensure I stay on my side is using my big body pillow which has thin pillows either side and basically sandwiches me between.
I’ve been researching sleep positions too because I’m a half side/half belly sleeper. I have a body pillow, but find myself still wanting to get on my belly. I pretty much switch between left and right sides all night long now and still lay on my back while I’m on the couch relaxing. As I get bigger I’m sure I’ll find a way to get comfy on my side with the pillow behind me, but for now I still side/belly sleep while I can.
Yes thanks ladies! It makes me feel better to know I can just do my best and not over stress about it. I had read something online about sleeping on your left side to prevent still birth and got really freaked out but my husband was saying if it was THAT cause and effect all OBs would be warning you like crazy about it and having you strapped to your left side to sleep lol
Ok another random question from my over worried brain- I feel like I’ve been getting this dull ache, mostly on my right side but sometimes left, whenever I have to poop or when my bladder is really full and sometimes immediately after relieving myself and then it goes away. Any ideas what this could be? Sorry for tmi but it’s been happening for a while now and I just find it odd. Could it be round ligament pain?
@mflowers929 thank you!! I am way too much of a hypochondriac sometimes now I’m feeling it more consistently though so getting a little more stressed about it again but laying down while my son naps and seeing if that helps, maybe I’m just going through a growth spurt. It just feels like this dull uncomfortable pull but it’s not going away. And of course I start stressing like what if it’s my appendix or something wrong with baby etc 🤦🏻♀️
What's the best way to deal with swelling? My knees keep getting huge! I've tried Epsom salt baths which help but then it's swollen again within a couple hours, and even with applying cream after every shower there's more stretch marks than clear skin it seems!
@momofmiracles31889 I get pretty sore too especially if I hold my bladder for a while. I think our muscles/ligaments just get really tired from holding everything so we feel it more. Lots more pressure on everything in there. If it’s dull I wouldn’t worry about it too much but it’s always worth mentioning to your provider to get some peace of mind!
Today I worked a little too hard And started getting that sharp quick pain right around my pelvis that went away right away but then would come back. So I took a break and had some water and food and i haven’t had it in a bit. Of course my brain goes to the worst case scenario as well.
Dull pains are normally just things growing and stretching. Your uterus goes from the size of a closed fist to the size of a watermelon in under a year so there's lots of things shifting in there! Sharp occasional pains on the sides of your pelvis are likely to be round ligament pain. It usually starts later for first time moms but that's not a hard and fast rule. Cramping pains running along the lower part of your abdomen are contractions. If you get these, slow down what you're doing, drink some water, and if you can, take a bath. If they go away within about a half hour they're just Braxton Hicks. If they don't go away, time them and give your doctor a call to let them know. I had a lot of Braxton Hicks starting in my late 2nd trimester with my son because of my work. It made life difficult at times
Momma to 3 angels and two amazing children
F born June 2018 W born September 2020 #3 due November 2022
Thanks ladies! I did call my Ob just for ease of mind and the nurse said it sounds normal and isn’t too concerning with how much everything is stretching out at this point! Just said to call again for sure if it gets severe at all or any sign of blood (which thankfully I haven’t had!) or if it’s like constant. So feeling better about it!
It’s crazy how many new aches and pains are experienced during pregnancy and can be completely normal! It’s been an adjustment for me to learn to disassociate discomfort with automatically being a sign of bad news.
@readytobemama Is it just your knees swelling or are your lower legs/feet swelling too? You can check by pressing into your shin to see if there is an indent. Either way, I would call your doctor to let them know...if anything is swelling that much (to the point of stretching skin) it needs to be looked at. In the meantime, drink a lot of water, cut out the salt, try some compression stockings/leg elevation and make sure you aren't wearing anything too tight around your waist.
Two Furbabies: Mika (american eskimo) and Gypsy (wire-haired terrier, dachshund mix)
Twins: Kaiden and Zara born 10/2018 conceived after 6 years of infertility via a medicated IUI
@robinj716 I have had this for awhile I feel like since one of my other pregnancies... and in between losses i had soo many tests done and before this pregnancy I had the slightly smelly discharge still and I had a thorough check for scarring from my last d and e and my endometrial lining checked for infection and everything was good. And had had internal vaginal exams to make sure everything looked ok. I’ve mentioned it to doctors so many times and it’s always been fine I guess 🤷🏻♀️ But of course mention it to your OB if you’re concerned at all or if it’s drastically different than normal for you- my Ob always said to tell them if it’s fishy smelling although idk exactly how to tell that since I just feel like my discharge has smelled weird to me forever 🤦🏻♀️
@robinj716 Oh yeah!! I mentioned to H that I have the nasty pregnancy smell and he gingerly said he noticed. Que me changing my underwear multiple times a day and wearing panty liners. 🙈 It is such a funk smell. I have had it with each of my pregnancies. I can’t remember how long it lasted though.
@robinj716 I've always had slightly smelly discharge as well, but it's been particularly worse the last few months. I've been battling a yeast infection though so assumed it was mostly that...
Re: The Great Question Thread
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
As far as it goes, hospital restrictions might not be relaxed by the time we start delivering anyway which could mean your spouse would be the only one allowed to visit, but even if they do have visitors allowed, you could give them a list of pre-approved people and let the staff do the rejecting of anyone you don't feel comfortable visiting. Feelings will get hurt, unfortunately, but better to have hurt feelings and tense relations than a funeral or two because they were too dismissive of yours and the baby's health.
Don't be afraid to squash a few toes in order to keep your family safe. They'll probably be mad but they'll either start realizing that they need to take it more seriously or they'll get over it
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
TW: I had a loss with trisomy 21 in my last pregnancy we didn’t do any genetic testing then. I have heard the quad screen can give false positives.
Sending prayers for you.
It’s a pain in the butt.
i actually have always been a side sleeper but of course now that I’m really supposed to be I find myself waking on my back a lot too! I also cannot get myself to sleep only on my left side and often switch between left and right to fall asleep. I plan to talk to my doctor this week about this during my televisit. But does anyone know how important it is and ways to help?
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
It is recommended to at least put a pillow below the right hip, and that slight incline is enough to relieve the pressure.
If you do back sleep, just remember to roll to your side to get up. You don't want to sit straight up.
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
Sharp occasional pains on the sides of your pelvis are likely to be round ligament pain. It usually starts later for first time moms but that's not a hard and fast rule.
Cramping pains running along the lower part of your abdomen are contractions. If you get these, slow down what you're doing, drink some water, and if you can, take a bath. If they go away within about a half hour they're just Braxton Hicks. If they don't go away, time them and give your doctor a call to let them know.
I had a lot of Braxton Hicks starting in my late 2nd trimester with my son because of my work. It made life difficult at times
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
Two Furbabies: Mika (american eskimo) and Gypsy (wire-haired terrier, dachshund mix)
Twins: Kaiden and Zara born 10/2018 conceived after 6 years of infertility via a medicated IUI
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20