@pocketrose see if the bathroom has a drain in the floor. If it does, pour some water down it. Sometimes sewage smells come up those and, apparently, pouring a cup of water down the drain typically fixes whatever the issue is. Either way, that sounds miserable.
I stayed up way too late reading my book last night, and I am STRUGGLING today. Idk why I thought I'd be fine with less sleep when I barely manage on a normal amount of sleep these days.
@blaf322@meanjellybean I've shifted to another part of the space where it does not smell like sewage/am going to let the staff here take care of a solution although they're useless so I doubt they'll do anything.
@pocketrose I'm glad you've escaped to a less smelly area. I thought I had it bad with the lady across from me wearing too much perfume, but I'd way prefer that to sewage smell.
So I've been having major SI joint issues. I now am wearing a stability belt (which is helping thank goodness), but I have to wear it fairly tight so it shifts all my "fluff" around.. the bulge is borderline hysterical/mortifying and going to be way worse to hide than a bump for sure. My husband and I died laughing when I modeled it for him yesterday.
@modoodles Yes! My belly has definitely "assumed the position" very early! I'm a TTM and my belly just said, ok, if we're pregnant then let's just look that way from the start! It doesn't help that I'm heavier this time around so all my fat is getting pushed out by the bloat. I look almost as big as before I delivered my first! We haven't told anyone yet so it's getting really hard to hide it!
Is there anyone else who hasn't told people yet? So far only my brother in law and his wife know. We told them at Christmas because it's a 5+ hr drive and we may not see them again until after the baby is born. Someone close to me had a loss right before my bfp so I wanted to wait until after the holidays to tell close family. After that everyone can know.... heck, my belly is already trying to give it away!
My sisters and my mom know, and my best friend. We haven't shared elsewhere, we had a loss in September and are waiting until after our appointment and ultrasound on Friday before we really start telling. We have pictures scheduled on Friday afternoon, so assuming the visit and ultrasound are all good news, we will do an announcement photo Friday afternoon and share that way once the photographer is done with editing/whatever. So, it could be another week or two.
@MrsB915 and @modoodles We've told my immediate family. My wife talked to her boss yesterday only b/c she's retiring at the end of semester to take for child and she's in a very difficult to fill teaching area. I mulled telling boss this week and decided to at least do 16-week appointment next week before doing so. I did have wife reassure me just "looking fat" not bumpy.
I am SO thankful, my union has been in contract negotiations for 14 months. We were set and ready to go on an open ended strike this month. And they FINALLY came to a tentative agreement for a contract. meaning no strike, yes to continuing paychecks and healthcare. Thank god.
Also our immediate family knows, and quite a few of my coworkers, because we work labor and delivery. It's part of the territory haha. But i feel like they're spreading it(which is fine) because a coworker i haven't specifically told kept randomly looking at my bloat bump last night. Its not inconspicuous at all. (Also this is my first time using a computer vs. the app and this is wonderful)
@nursejenn5 Hopefully they're not spreading anything without you giving the okay and she was just looking b/c you work in L&D so it's on everyone's mind already when someone grows a little bump.
@MrsB915@modoodles I'm shocked that we've told so many people (close family members and a few friends), just because I am so much more comfortable waiting until after first tri. I think the only reason I did was because of the holidays. Not drinking is honestly just a clear giveaway and instead of people speculating and us telling them in a few weeks and them saying "I knew it cause you didn't drink at Christmas" I figured we'd just tell them. The bulk of my friends will find out this weekend as I sit sober through one of my best friend's wedding lol.
My family was told at Thanksgiving, which I hosted, and my sister nearly said something about it five minutes before we shared because I was pouring everyone wine and she wondered why I let her use "my" glass that she had just gifted me a few weeks prior 😂 Oh, and my kiddo told his entire first grade class for sharing one day, even though we had talked about and packed his sharing together that morning.
Here is a pic of my 10YO snuggling our doodle Margot last night. She is 3 and just like a giant baby. This happens every single night. (*Also, her grooming appointment is on Friday, she's super long after we missed our December appointment) Now if only my kiddo were comfortable with babies and toddlers- he acts like picking one up is the same as picking up a bomb.
@MrsB915 I’m just over 11w, and we’ve only told my parents, my brother/SIL, and a couple close friends, who all know it’s still hush-hush. I just told two of my good friends yesterday. Oh, and MH’s brother and his wife know, because they were recruited to help cover for us on a family trip if anyone got suspicious.
I think we need to tell MH’s family and our older daughter before we start telling more people. I wouldn’t want them hearing about it from someone else.
We’ll Facebook announce at some point. We have another US 2 weeks from Friday, and I think MH feels comfortable waiting until then. But he also tends to tell more people sooner than me, so we’ll see how everything goes.
Since my first US was at 9-1/2 weeks, I’m feeling pretty comfortable with our risks moving forward (they’re not really going to change), but I just haven’t really felt like talking about being pregnant. I’m getting past that, though.
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We've told my 2 best friends, H's best friend, and that's about it. I am a little scared to tell my family, I feel like we will be judged for having a 3rd. I know it's dumb but *shrug*. I am so glad to hear I'm not the only one whose stomach remembered how to look pregnant right away. I am going to have to reveal the news soon because I am having a hard time hiding it.
We’ve told everyone important (friends and family) but won’t be announcing on Facebook. I figure word will spread from just the folks we’ve told. I’ve been open on Twitter about our losses so I announced on twitter today. Technically that’s a wider audience than Facebook but Twitter still feels more private to me, probably because 85% of the folks I follow or who follow me are not people I know in “real” life. But I’ve made a number of great friends via twitter so still a support network I was comfortable sharing with.
@rachelredhead I totally get what you mean about Twitter. I’m not as active on mine as I used to be, but I always hated if someone I knew in real life followed me. I use Twitter more to nerd out over shows/books/etc
Currently standing on a stopped train mere yards from my stop waiting for a "signal problem" to be resolved and beginning to have a super rational panic attack about what would happen in this situation if I were "big pregnant." Commuting is fun!
@zande2016 I'm nervous about telling some people since it's our 3rd as well. My FIL has had notoriously bland reactions when we told them we were engaged with both of our previous pregnancies. He just changes the subject very quickly. I joked with DH that I'm setting the bar really low for when we tell them. I'm expecting his to say something like, "where are you going to put it?!" (We have a 3 br and will be a family of 5).
I know a number of us are waiting longer to tell after having had a loss. That was my first instinct when I got pregnant shortly after my loss. But I realized that if I had another loss I'd want my immediate family there to support me. I didn't want to have to give them good and bad news at the same time. So we ended up telling immediate family right away. Some of our close friends didn't find out for months though. I think everyone has their own comfort level on who they tell and when.
@MrsB915 I feel like my parents will ultimately be happy because more grandkids, but I think my dad will question how expensive it’ll be to have 3 kids (although to be fair he had 4 kids, but times were different then and I’ll probably never make as much money as him). My mom on the other hand watches my kids part time so I know for a fact her first reaction will be “oh great another one for me to take care of”. Don’t get me wrong, she loves watching them and they are her life, but it’s a ton of work. We did just find out we got low risk NIPT results and having a girl so I might tell my mom soon since I see her so often. Just rip off the bandaid.
I might be alone in this, but I generally just hate announcing pregnancy. Like it was something I dreaded every time. I don’t really know why, I guess it just feels awkward and I don’t like all the attention.
@zande2016 I'm dreading telling people outside my immediate circle. It definitely feels awkward. I'm probably not going to tell too many folks and just hope people figure it out when I look large.
We’ve told the whole family and some close friends. My close coworkers have known since day 1 but it’s not wide spread yet. Just told my manager this week. I work in the hospital where I also get my bloodwork/ultrasounds etc done, so news tends to leak anyway. I don’t really care about telling social media world til well into the second trimester.
@pocketrose we usually tell our parents/siblings and just let the extended family eventually find out from word of mouth. I am at a different job this time and we are a pretty small/tight knit office but I HATE the whole workplace announcement thing. I know I need to tell my boss at some point, but I am wondering if it's weird to just not formally tell anyone else and start letting my belly do the talking.
@zande2016 last pregnancy I told my boss, his boss, HR, and two coworkers I consider friends. It was so awkward and I hated it. This time, I was in a meeting with just my boss and his boss, and boss boss asked me what our plans were for having another, so I took that as my opportunity to tell them. While it was wildly inappropriate for him to ask, it actually made it less awkward for me. I also texted my two work friends after that, but I'm letting the rumor mill do the rest. The thought of announcing to the entire workplace actually makes me want to crawl into a hole and die.
I don’t know why I totally missed seeing the randoms thread this week. I am late to the game but oh no on the underwear incident. Also kind of laughing lol @blaf322 Glad you were able to find a fix though 😊
I am also a plus one for early showing with 3rd baby. I’m only just over 11 weeks and maybe it’s also bloat but even first thing in the morning there’s a definite bump there but I’m also pretty short so maybe that’s why. I am feeling the need to put my hand on my stomach though in public so people will just think I’m farther along than I am haha
I have been so terrible lately with memory! We started school up this week and for some reason I thought all their other things like dance and the homeschool program started next week but it doesn’t so we have now missed dance but should at least make it to the homeschool thing. I am not going to lie but I used to be like how do people just forget their kids have stuff and now I’m in that club 😬🤷🏻♀️ Probably should just realize by now that it will eventually happen to me like when I used to say my kids will never act that way... 😂 right!
@zande2016 I agree. It is awkward. I think it's fun to tell people that you know will care (like very close friends and parents/grandparents), but everyone else it really is like rip off the bandaid, get through the small talk, then go back to normal interaction as quickly as possible. I'm 13 weeks and just got our results back from the NT scan/first trimester screen yesterday so I'm "telling" people now. As in, I'm telling people when I remember to tell them/they may need to know lol. My boss already knew because I was sick, and we had told family over xmas and I'd told my three best friends early on, but that was it. I don't plan on doing anything on social media until after the baby is born.
I need to tell my boss (principal). He is new this year and I've only worked with him for 5 months. He knows who I am and all, but I still feel like it is weird to be like "Hey person I hardly know...I'm knocked up!"
Maybe the secretaries will just tell him for me. 🤣
@zande2016 Part of the reason I always do a FB announcement is so that I don't have to tell many people in person. I know that as we see people in person they'll comment about it, but I only go out of my way to personally tell immediate family and a few close friends. MH and I work together, so he'll probably spread the news there. It's a small business so as soon as we tell one person, everyone else will know soon.
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Must be the FTM in me(and I’ve been a big sharer on social media in the past because I am guiltily a Beachbody coach🙈) but I’m excited for my social media post. But less excited to tell non family people in person(I really dislike being center of attention for anything... and hate confrontation good or bad lol). So I think I agree a bit with @treeofcheem on her reasoning for social media.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who dreads the announcements. I think I will tell my boss and one co worker who I am the closest with, and tell them it's not a secret in hopes word just spreads. My husband doesn't understand why I dread announcing. I guess maybe it's different for men.
I also feel a little awkward/guilty because my one coworker (he's actually the supervisor of my office but he does not supervise me) and his husband are waiting to adopt a baby - they finished their home study and are basically just waiting for a pregnant woman to choose them for her baby. So I don't want to rub it in his face or make him feel bad.
I’m dreading telling my boss. I was just hired in September and I won’t have been here a year before I go on leave. As I won’t qualify for maternity leave yet, my expectation is that I’ll do a chunk under our medical leave policy with short term disability insurance and then once Sept rolls around I’ll be able to get full pay under our maternity leave. But who knows??? I feel like I kinda want to talk to HR first, to see what’s typically done in this situation but then I don’t want my boss to feel like I went around her.
Im hoping this is all unnecessary worry. I’ve had positive feedback thus far. My boss talks the talk as far as supporting women in the work place and I trust her. It’s just kind of shitty timing because another member of our team has been on medical leave the past several months and we’re just kinda swamped. But hopefully the chat will go better than expected. 2nd tri technically starts for me on Saturday so I’m thinking I’ll tell her next week sometime. But it makes me so anxious to think about.
@nursejenn5 unrelated to announcing but omg! I joined Beachbody this summer and did 100 day morning meltdown. It's the only exercise routine/regimen I've stuck with since college and I'm convinced it's a big part of how I got pregnant. They have prenatal workouts too!
@zande2016 That's really considerate of you to worry about them... but, unless they've had a challenging journey with it, I bet he'll be excited for you vs excited for you but also sad for himself/his partner.
@mehugg I'm convinced that joining beachbody was the only way that I committed to working out consistently. I did the prenatal workouts early on in the first tri, but then felt so crummy I stopped. Today I actually restarted a different program, so I'm hoping to stick with it again. I haven't done much from MM100. But LIIFT4 is my jam. Which I'm hoping to get back into when I hopefully have energy. (Modified of course!)
@nursejenn5 my bestie totally turned her health/fitness around with BBOD. I use her account some but I have bad knees and find that so many require bending/squatting that they're just not right for me. I'll have to take a look at the prenatal stuff though!
I was super excited to tell family the first time around and even announced on fb after the first trimester. I'm pretty sure there was no social media announcement with our second though. But like @treeofcheem said, it might be a good way to tell people we don't see frequently. Or maybe we'll wait till baby get here and surprise them all! 😂 Here's a picture of our fb announcement with our first. It was October and the caption said, "and baby makes three!"
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Yes! Me too! Also, when I have insomnia, I lurk other BMB's close to my due date. haha
Is there anyone else who hasn't told people yet? So far only my brother in law and his wife know. We told them at Christmas because it's a 5+ hr drive and we may not see them again until after the baby is born. Someone close to me had a loss right before my bfp so I wanted to wait until after the holidays to tell close family. After that everyone can know.... heck, my belly is already trying to give it away!
My sisters and my mom know, and my best friend. We haven't shared elsewhere, we had a loss in September and are waiting until after our appointment and ultrasound on Friday before we really start telling. We have pictures scheduled on Friday afternoon, so assuming the visit and ultrasound are all good news, we will do an announcement photo Friday afternoon and share that way once the photographer is done with editing/whatever. So, it could be another week or two.
Also our immediate family knows, and quite a few of my coworkers, because we work labor and delivery. It's part of the territory haha. But i feel like they're spreading it(which is fine) because a coworker i haven't specifically told kept randomly looking at my bloat bump last night. Its not inconspicuous at all. (Also this is my first time using a computer vs. the app and this is wonderful)
Here is a pic of my 10YO snuggling our doodle Margot last night. She is 3 and just like a giant baby. This happens every single night. (*Also, her grooming appointment is on Friday, she's super long after we missed our December appointment) Now if only my kiddo were comfortable with babies and toddlers- he acts like picking one up is the same as picking up a bomb.
We’ll Facebook announce at some point. We have another US 2 weeks from Friday, and I think MH feels comfortable waiting until then. But he also tends to tell more people sooner than me, so we’ll see how everything goes.
Since my first US was at 9-1/2 weeks, I’m feeling pretty comfortable with our risks moving forward (they’re not really going to change), but I just haven’t really felt like talking about being pregnant. I’m getting past that, though.
Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
@rachelredhead I totally get what you mean about Twitter. I’m not as active on mine as I used to be, but I always hated if someone I knew in real life followed me. I use Twitter more to nerd out over shows/books/etc
@zande2016 I'm nervous about telling some people since it's our 3rd as well. My FIL has had notoriously bland reactions when we told them we were engaged with both of our previous pregnancies. He just changes the subject very quickly. I joked with DH that I'm setting the bar really low for when we tell them. I'm expecting his to say something like, "where are you going to put it?!" (We have a 3 br and will be a family of 5).
I know a number of us are waiting longer to tell after having had a loss. That was my first instinct when I got pregnant shortly after my loss. But I realized that if I had another loss I'd want my immediate family there to support me. I didn't want to have to give them good and bad news at the same time. So we ended up telling immediate family right away. Some of our close friends didn't find out for months though. I think everyone has their own comfort level on who they tell and when.
I am also a plus one for early showing with 3rd baby. I’m only just over 11 weeks and maybe it’s also bloat but even first thing in the morning there’s a definite bump there but I’m also pretty short so maybe that’s why. I am feeling the need to put my hand on my stomach though in public so people will just think I’m farther along than I am haha
I have been so terrible lately with memory! We started school up this week and for some reason I thought all their other things like dance and the homeschool program started next week but it doesn’t so we have now missed dance but should at least make it to the homeschool thing. I am not going to lie but I used to be like how do people just forget their kids have stuff and now I’m in that club 😬🤷🏻♀️ Probably should just realize by now that it will eventually happen to me like when I used to say my kids will never act that way... 😂 right!
Maybe the secretaries will just tell him for me. 🤣
Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
I also feel a little awkward/guilty because my one coworker (he's actually the supervisor of my office but he does not supervise me) and his husband are waiting to adopt a baby - they finished their home study and are basically just waiting for a pregnant woman to choose them for her baby. So I don't want to rub it in his face or make him feel bad.
Im hoping this is all unnecessary worry. I’ve had positive feedback thus far. My boss talks the talk as far as supporting women in the work place and I trust her. It’s just kind of shitty timing because another member of our team has been on medical leave the past several months and we’re just kinda swamped. But hopefully the chat will go better than expected. 2nd tri technically starts for me on Saturday so I’m thinking I’ll tell her next week sometime. But it makes me so anxious to think about.
Here's a picture of our fb announcement with our first. It was October and the caption said, "and baby makes three!"