H went back to work today. I'm not awake enough to deal with BS that my kids will inevitably drop at my feet today. Ds1, who's 3, has already asked 20,000 when H is coming home.
I'm so done. My kids district gave them today off and labeled ot as an inservice day!
I've had enough. My daughter doesn't take care of anything. I am done buying her anything unless it is a need. Got her a really nice pair of boots for christmas. I reminded her over and over to keep them up from the dog. She didnt. So the dog ate her damn $40 boots that she never even left the house wearing yet.
I'm done. Done done done with this mf christmas break.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@psychobutthead I’ve seen so many schools doing this?! What the heck? That’s so annoying.
Today is Three King’s Day. My son woke up way too early but patiently waited for his sister and dad to wake up to go get his present. They got play doh and a cash register and you would have thought they won the lottery.
It kept them entertained enough for me to get my crap in order and get everyone/everything ready to drop my son off at school.
It's my least favorite time of the year. I hate January and February. Christmas is over, but it's still cold and snowy. It's just such a blah time. Does anyone have anything they look forward to during these months? I might have to schedule some type of vacation in future years at the end of January for a little pick me up.
Married July 2014 DD born June 2016 Second due August 2020 (team green!)
I'm one of the unlucky ones back to work today! I've made it halfway through the day and I am keeping my nausea under control. I've been sooooo anxious about coming back to work because of it. The morning sickness has been terrible the last few days.
I can't remember how I survived this last time. I've had the flu but I've recovered from that. My ruptured ear drum isn't causing me pain anymore. Before I got sick mid December I was biking 11 miles a day on my stationary bike and finished my workout with some yoga.. today I decided I didn't care how tired I was, I was getting back on the bike, and I aimed for 5 miles. I managed the 5 miles, the pace wasn't great but flu recovery time and early pregnancy exhaustion, I wasn't worried about it. As soon as I stepped off the nausea hit me like a wave and I flew to the bathroom, didn't get the lid up on time.. cue repeated vomiting from cleaning the vomiting. Then I had to make my kid lunch and my stomach is just turning. I'm sipping some sprite and slowly eating some butter crackers trying to soothe the beast. I don't remember being this exhausted last go around. I feel all the defeated this morning. I'm not attempting the yoga. I'm calling my current state survival.
As a kindergarten teacher I would love an Inservice day butting up against a break. I don’t work on breaks and it would give me time to get the classroom ready and lessons prepared. I get that parents don’t like them but they’re really necessary evils
TTC1: May 2015
Primary IF May 2016; Failed HSG; Scheduled Lap Sept. 2016
I don't know if it's just worse the third time, being a little older than the last times, or what but this pregnancy is running me down so hard. I worked as a teacher the last two pregnancies and this time I'm home and I can't even comprehend having to go into work. I'm in total survival mode, my house is a disaster, kids are bored, and I have no motivation to do anything productive. Between the extreme fatigue and the all day nausea I'm just a blob on the cob over here.
Married 6/1/13
BFP #1 7/2013 MMC 9/17/13
BFP #2 5/2014 MC 6/15/14
BFP #3 11/13/14 (Found in ER with ruptured cyst) Diagnosed MC 11/15/14
BFP #4 4/2015 MC 7/1/15
BFP #5 10/21/15 EDD 7/3/16 Praying for our rainbow!
I am now 11 weeks and I swear MS is getting worse. Ugh! I have been puking daily since 5 weeks and I am SO OVER IT. I have also been waking up in the middle of the night because of nausea - anyone else have this? I take nighttime nausea medication that my RE prescribed but clearly that is not doing the trick. I am hoping that it lets up soon for my own sanity. Plus, I am sure my kiddos would love to have their Mom back.
@samsonator these two months are rough. My oldest’s birthday is at the end of this month, and even then January, February and March seem to draaaag.
@Mommy2Boys87 I feel you with this morning sickness. It’s ramped up 10 fold. I asked my doctor for an RX and she doesn’t want to give me zofran yet but it was seriously the only thing that kept me alive with my second.
@samsonator Once Christmas is over and there's still at least two months of frigid winter left is the worst time of year. Hubs and I used to go to the caribbean around MLK day for a week. We haven't in a few years since we got married. Now I'm daydreaming of a caribbean babymoon.
I've been eating some dried Cheerios shortly after waking up and think its helping. My prenatals also have B6 and B12 in them so maybe that helps?
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
I think in our house it helps that we really wait till Christmas for it to be Christmas, kwim? Advent is the season of preparation and anticipation, and we actually didn't put our tree up till Christmas Eve the past few years. Baby Jesus doesn't go into the nativity till Christmas Eve / morning, the wise men, camels, elephants etc just got added yesterday; it's fun! And then it's still the octave of Epiphany now, so the Christmas season isn't entirely over. For us it works better than having the season start the day after Halloween and then just boom! All the excitement of Christmas Day, and it's done. 🤷 So we keep our tree up a bit later than most, but we haven't really had it up very long yet, it feels like, either. We will make some kind of announcement at a family party in January, send out mailed announcements around Valentine's, and then my birthday is late Feb., too! Feels like so much to look forward to!
Then March is the month when my dad died, and you get tax time to look forward to as well... 😣😣😣 Lol what I should be doing is working on pysanky starting around then, getting ready for Easter, but we'll see. One of these years....
@ziggymama06 a Caribbean vacation sounds so nice in January! I'd love to start a tradition like that.
@BusinessWife That's a good idea that you stretch everything a bit later. I hate the feeling after Christmas day that the celebrating is done and time to put it away and move on.
Married July 2014 DD born June 2016 Second due August 2020 (team green!)
I had enough energy after my workday and before bed to catch up on this one thread! That is a win! I had a student start with me today and I hit her car pulling out of my drive. That sucked but she acted fine about it and my insurance will cover it so I'll try to stop worrying. @wildrainbow my DS asked me to set a timer for when daddy came back during his first day back last week. It was 10am, DH doesn't get home until 4:30pm. My longest visual timer is an hour. Haha. I just had to tell him that I wanted daddy to come home too! @tyrion_ I don't know what Three Kings Day is, but what you and @BusinessWife have going on with delayed celebration sounds pretty good right about now! @Mommy2Boys87 that sounds so rough. I'm not even close to trying exercise. I barely move from my bed to the kitchen at mealtimes and my husband is doing everything! Like @riatortillaxo I was just nervous about getting through my day of work!
Aw, thanks ❤️ @tyrion_ yeah, it's hard. As a new parent too, there's just so much of the parenting / grandparenting experience you wish you could share with them, reflect on, just you can't. Only in your mind's eye, anyway. Hard to believe this March will be a DECADE. Since he passed. I was so proud of my mom for picking herself up (eventually) after losing him. Cos that was hard AF, and the thing I always feared would break her, but she didn't let it. Ugh, anyway. I'm definitely just rambling now. Lol
ETA what I was going to say! Was it sucks too bc DHs family is kind of fractured, so it makes us that much more critically aware of our own little mini family unit. Making our own traditions etc. Sometimes we kind of feel like an island. :/
@wife-and-mommy Three Kings Day / feast of Epiphany is when the three wise men came to visit and pay homage to Christ after following the star! 🌟 We also celebrated yesterday his naming at the temple, which is pretty cool. But if you count ye olde twelve days of Christmas, here we are, so it's also called twelfth night. ;)
@BusinessWife Ramble away! My dad passed away 1.5 years ago and my mom isn’t doing great mentally. It’s been hard figuring out my own grief while trying to help her navigate hers. My dad’s final year was traumatic for both of us, her especially. And I fear we’ll never find our footing in life without him 💗 I am sorry your husband’s family is fractured, mine is, too. And I didn’t realize how much that truly bothered me until after losing my dad.
@BusinessWife@tyrion_ I'm sorry for your losses Sometimes it seems like time doesn't really heal anything.
@BusinessWife My DHs family is fractured too. I hear you about being on a little island. My family is far away so we see them once a year usually. We try to set our own traditions but it does get "boring" sometimes. Especially when other families have all these Christmas/holiday get togethers and ours consistented of one 3 hour visit on Christmas. That was it for the season.
Married July 2014 DD born June 2016 Second due August 2020 (team green!)
@BusinessWife I can relate a but. I lost my Dad just over a year ago. I thank God that my Mum is still here but it will never be the same. I wish more than anything that I could share the excitement of a new Grandchild with him.
DH has a fractured family and sharing this pregnancy with many of them will be more stressful than joyous unfortunately.
On a completely different topic...I was back to work today and I'm beyond exhausted. It seriously feels like Friday and that's just depressing....back to school wasn't too bad but I think by the end of the week the exhaustion will kick in.
Oof @samsonator yeah, it's just not like it used to be. The aunt/ uncle's houses we went to every holiday, the FEASTS, we would always serve up! And I would spend all day helping my parents get the holiday meal on the table! I remember it so fondly... Now it's like these quiet little get together a on DHs side, where everyone "keeps it casual" i.e. just hanging out in the kitchen or whatever with not that much food bc everyone is on their low carb / keto or whatever anyway, so no one really wants to FEAST, and then just like, okay, gnight. 🤷. We didn't make it out of state to see my side either this year, so that didn't help. Christmas Day, after Church, DH and DD mostly napped while I made baked chicken and rice and a batch of cookies. Bc it's Christmas dammit. Ugh! And then I had to like, twist DHs arm to get him to do presents with her in the evening. <img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/oc/tnogh2cfwnpc.gif" alt=""> I'm hoping it'll get better as the kids get older and we get to step up our game for their benefit, or finally have a place we can start hosting (and show 'em how it's done!) Lol
@tyrion_ I'm so sorry. <3
<div class=" Spoiler">Yeah, I mean I really think getting through that loss was about the hardest thing she ever had to do in her adult life. Without a doubt. And it was actually several years I think before the haze cleared. And I mean, she stopped opening the mail and everything. It was bad. I think it got worse in a lot of ways before it got better. But then she found some new direction and focus for her professional life, and I think that helped a lot. I think too as hard as it was, losing the house was the biggest help. Because 1. It was a reality check. She finally had to wake up and see what was going on around her and take action. And I mean of course we were there to help her through, and TBT, that was a really hard time for me, too, and DH was indispensable throughout the packing and moving process, (we had just gotten engaged), and that really cemented for me that he was a keeper. And 2. It pushed her to move through her grief in a tangible way, going through every room of the house they lived their entire married life in, packing up and starting over. Getting that not so little apartment (in a nearby 2-family) I think gave her a new lease on life. It had been three years since daddy passed, 40+ years in that house, and now finally she had a new place all her own. With all her favorite familiar things, in a familiar neighborhood, in a house of a similar era so it had a lot of the same touches we loved about our old house... So I mean, not everyone is going to have such a huge change in their surroundings to shape things up, but I mean, I guess I'm saying you don't know what you're able to get through until you have no choice but to walk that path and keep on walking, till you look around and find yourself on the other side. (((Hugs))) Do you have any special ways you could keep helping her pay tribute to your father? I think that's one of the hardest parts, is seeing the rest of the world go by like nothing changed. So maybe it would help her to have those loving reminders that someone else misses him all the time and is going through life now with that same hole. KWIM?</div>
I went back to work today and it was fine. I may have actually felt a bit less nauseous than usual. But now I need to go tomorrow, too. And the day after that. And the day after that.
my husband's family lives in Puerto Rico and they've been having earthquakes for the past week and a half. A pretty strong one hit this morning, and now they don't have power. My husband wants to do something to help his family, but there is nothing we can do from here... I'm hoping the earthquakes stop before there's even more damage
Ok y'all, I am putting it out there. My boys are both redheaded with no members in either of our families having it, so if this babe comes out redheaded, I'm playing the lotto. I mean, I should win, right?
@tyrion_ it's giving me flashbacks to Maria. We didn't hear from his family for more than a week and my husband was just walking around listening to the radio for updates from his family's area. Hoping these earthquakes stop and it doesn't get that bad again. Do you have any family on the island?
@fitandnerdy I hope the tremors calm down and his family is OK. What side of the island are they on? I saw a famous natural landmarks was ruined from the earthquake (Punta Ventana). It's so sad to see the destruction!
@wildrainbow I have red hair and DD doesn't. Everyone was convinced she would. I'd say with 2 red haired babies, you're already lucky. Play that lotto, mama!
@BusinessWife Yes, Christmas is supposed to be something special!! With delicious food! My DHs parents didn't even do dinner this year, just snacks. It felt like just a grandparent visit. I hope it gets better for us! Maybe when our kids are old enough to help us cook up a storm.
@fitandnerdy Oh no Hoping everyone is safe and that they stop. So scary
Married July 2014 DD born June 2016 Second due August 2020 (team green!)
@fitandnerdy Tons of long time family friends. Also my siblings are my half siblings and they have tons of family on the island (but I’ve known them my whole life). And my cousins’ family is all over there.
So glad to be working from home this year! My nausea and fatigue are intense, and I don’t know how I would survive in my old office or classroom. I can puke in the privacy of my own bathroom and my husband (also wfh) checks in to make sure I’m eating.
Power to the ladies in a workspace and dealing with the same...
I did get Sea-Bands, and while they don’t make it go away all the way, they do help!
Dear Diary, while my first pregnancy left me unable to eat anything but Taco Bell for the first trimester, at least I could have some variety. This is my second day of ritz crackers, butter toast, salted pretzels, and baby carrots. I am over this. For my sanity, I hope this does not last for more than a few days. I sincerely someone lets the spawn in my body know that I am avid lover of cheese, zucchini, and strawberries, all things that it refused me today. I will not give into terrorist demands forever.
@stephdoes I'm glad the sea-bands are working for you, I got some for my last pregnancy and they would hold the nausea at bay-ish.. but then I would take them off and almost immediately vomit. I eventually threw them away because I was becoming afraid they were possessed by evil.
thanks thanks everyone! @tyrion_ hope all your friends/family are doing ok!! @kgrgreen my husband grew up on the west side of the island, so most of his family is still there but a lot of his friends and some cousins have moved to San Juan
@tyrion_ and @fitandnerdy oh my goodness that’s so scary! I’m glad your families and friends are staying safe. Hopefully the aftershocks let up soon.
@RedBaramid girl I feel you. There isn’t much this little mooch is letting me keep down. I tried the unisom/B6 trick a few weeks ago and it didn’t touch the nausea, but when I tried it again last night it definitely helped. It was the first time in 3 weeks I didn’t vomit at work at least once.
I don't know where to post this question so hopefully here. How do people find out the sex of the baby at 12 and 14 weeks? Is that test invasive? Does insurance cover it? I was team green for #1, found out away 20 week us for #2, and now I'm curious about all these people finding out so early. My OB always asks about heart tests, but they're not required so I've never done them.
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My kids district gave them today off and labeled ot as an inservice day!
I've had enough. My daughter doesn't take care of anything. I am done buying her anything unless it is a need.
Got her a really nice pair of boots for christmas. I reminded her over and over to keep them up from the dog. She didnt.
So the dog ate her damn $40 boots that she never even left the house wearing yet.
I'm done. Done done done with this mf christmas break.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
DD born June 2016
Second due August 2020 (team green!)
I've been eating some dried Cheerios shortly after waking up and think its helping. My prenatals also have B6 and B12 in them so maybe that helps?
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Then March is the month when my dad died, and you get tax time to look forward to as well... 😣😣😣 Lol what I should be doing is working on pysanky starting around then, getting ready for Easter, but we'll see. One of these years....
@BusinessWife That's a good idea that you stretch everything a bit later. I hate the feeling after Christmas day that the celebrating is done and time to put it away and move on.
DD born June 2016
Second due August 2020 (team green!)
I had a student start with me today and I hit her car pulling out of my drive. That sucked but she acted fine about it and my insurance will cover it so I'll try to stop worrying.
@wildrainbow my DS asked me to set a timer for when daddy came back during his first day back last week. It was 10am, DH doesn't get home until 4:30pm. My longest visual timer is an hour. Haha. I just had to tell him that I wanted daddy to come home too!
@tyrion_ I don't know what Three Kings Day is, but what you and @BusinessWife have going on with delayed celebration sounds pretty good right about now!
@Mommy2Boys87 that sounds so rough. I'm not even close to trying exercise. I barely move from my bed to the kitchen at mealtimes and my husband is doing everything!
Like @riatortillaxo I was just nervous about getting through my day of work!
ETA what I was going to say! Was it sucks too bc DHs family is kind of fractured, so it makes us that much more critically aware of our own little mini family unit. Making our own traditions etc. Sometimes we kind of feel like an island. :/
@wife-and-mommy Three Kings Day / feast of Epiphany is when the three wise men came to visit and pay homage to Christ after following the star! 🌟 We also celebrated yesterday his naming at the temple, which is pretty cool. But if you count ye olde twelve days of Christmas, here we are, so it's also called twelfth night. ;)
@BusinessWife My DHs family is fractured too. I hear you about being on a little island. My family is far away so we see them once a year usually. We try to set our own traditions but it does get "boring" sometimes. Especially when other families have all these Christmas/holiday get togethers and ours consistented of one 3 hour visit on Christmas. That was it for the season.
DD born June 2016
Second due August 2020 (team green!)
DH has a fractured family and sharing this pregnancy with many of them will be more stressful than joyous unfortunately.
On a completely different topic...I was back to work today and I'm beyond exhausted. It seriously feels like Friday and that's just depressing....back to school wasn't too bad but I think by the end of the week the exhaustion will kick in.
<img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/oc/tnogh2cfwnpc.gif" alt="">
I'm hoping it'll get better as the kids get older and we get to step up our game for their benefit, or finally have a place we can start hosting (and show 'em how it's done!) Lol
@tyrion_ I'm so sorry. <3
<div class=" Spoiler">Yeah, I mean I really think getting through that loss was about the hardest thing she ever had to do in her adult life. Without a doubt. And it was actually several years I think before the haze cleared. And I mean, she stopped opening the mail and everything. It was bad. I think it got worse in a lot of ways before it got better. But then she found some new direction and focus for her professional life, and I think that helped a lot. I think too as hard as it was, losing the house was the biggest help. Because 1. It was a reality check. She finally had to wake up and see what was going on around her and take action. And I mean of course we were there to help her through, and TBT, that was a really hard time for me, too, and DH was indispensable throughout the packing and moving process, (we had just gotten engaged), and that really cemented for me that he was a keeper. And 2. It pushed her to move through her grief in a tangible way, going through every room of the house they lived their entire married life in, packing up and starting over. Getting that not so little apartment (in a nearby 2-family) I think gave her a new lease on life. It had been three years since daddy passed, 40+ years in that house, and now finally she had a new place all her own. With all her favorite familiar things, in a familiar neighborhood, in a house of a similar era so it had a lot of the same touches we loved about our old house... So I mean, not everyone is going to have such a huge change in their surroundings to shape things up, but I mean, I guess I'm saying you don't know what you're able to get through until you have no choice but to walk that path and keep on walking, till you look around and find yourself on the other side. (((Hugs))) Do you have any special ways you could keep helping her pay tribute to your father? I think that's one of the hardest parts, is seeing the rest of the world go by like nothing changed. So maybe it would help her to have those loving reminders that someone else misses him all the time and is going through life now with that same hole. KWIM?</div>
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@wildrainbow I have red hair and DD doesn't. Everyone was convinced she would. I'd say with 2 red haired babies, you're already lucky. Play that lotto, mama!
@fitandnerdy Oh no
DD born June 2016
Second due August 2020 (team green!)
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
DD born June 2016
Second due August 2020 (team green!)
@stephdoes I'm glad the sea-bands are working for you, I got some for my last pregnancy and they would hold the nausea at bay-ish.. but then I would take them off and almost immediately vomit. I eventually threw them away because I was becoming afraid they were possessed by evil.
I was team green for #1, found out away 20 week us for #2, and now I'm curious about all these people finding out so early. My OB always asks about heart tests, but they're not required so I've never done them.