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wildrainbow

@radiohd18 I get that. Ds1 is very sensitive as well. He doesnt really remember my mom since he was 1, but he sees her picture and knows who she is. I would say just answer her questions honestly, but keep it simple. That works for me. There was an awkward moment when my dad and stepmom came up, and ds1 asked is stepmom was my mom. They both sputtered, but I just answered that Nanny(what the grandkids called my mom) was in heaven. Grammy(what the kids call my stepmom) was my stepmom. He understood and moved on. He knows Nanny is in heaven with his lost brothers and sisters, so it was an easy thing for him to get. 

I dont know if I helped answer you or not...

radiohd18

@wildrainbow and @tyrion_ thanks to you both for your responses.

kgrgreen

@radiohd18 We are currently going through something similar with DH's close Uncle who has terminal cancer. He lives close and we see him often. We told DD he is sick and we may not get to see him as much since he is trying to get better. We bought him an Alexa so he can video-chat and don't have to worry about bringing germs if we visit. DD is 3.5 and hasn't asked many questions. I fear withholding her from seeing him since they have a relationship. The questions and process may be hard when the time comes, but outweigh the potential time lost. IMHO, if you're worried and DD doesn't have a relationship with this Uncle, it might be OK to not involve her in the trip.

chrissyw0618

@radiohd18 my uncle died last year. I did daily visits to hospice his last month alive, 90% of them with my son, who was like 8 months. my son also attended the funeral. I don't think its a bad thing. And you dont have to take her to all the visits, one is fine. The other visits during your trip one of you can stay outside with your daughter. 

radiohd18

thanks everyone for your responses. I think if we have an opportunity to see this Uncle, we should take it. He loves DD and a visit would brighten his day, I think. There might be questions and a bit of fear for all of us but like @kgrgreen said: "The questions and process may be hard when the time comes, but outweigh the potential time lost."

maelove

The amount of flu shot supporters in this thread makes me so happy! Ya'll are some smart cookies. I get mine every year and so does my family. I work in healthcare (Physician Assistant) and have so many patients who refuse to get it and it drives me NUTS.