Randoms Nov 11-17

rox7777

@pirateduck Ive been decluttering and organizing like crazy. We can’t work on nursery stuff until we do the boys room and clear out the extra room, so I’ve been keeping myself occupied by cleaning out every closet in the house. I’m an anxiety cleaner so I tend to do this regularly. 

pirateduck

Exactly @rox7777 there are so many boxes I want to go through in closets.  We need to purge!  There’s no real nursery action until we have an empty room to work with.  I can’t wait until I get to a point where I’m putting things together instead of just tearing the house apart!

jhysmath

@pirateduck I had a huge need to set up DDs nursery. I got everything done except the furniture before my belly got big. It went from a guest /craft room to her room so they're was a ton of stuff I had to get rid of and organize. I needed MH's help to set the crib up because my stomach was too large and he put up a big stink about it because I NEEDED it done one weekend. There was more animosity over a year later when we were moving and she had never slept in the crib. She sleeps in it now that it's a toddler bed for half of the night usually. 

queenklau

pirateduck said:

Exactly @rox7777 there are so many boxes I want to go through in closets.  We need to purge!  There’s no real nursery action until we have an empty room to work with.  I can’t wait until I get to a point where I’m putting things together instead of just tearing the house apart!

Same, before our DD, we had a “crap” room, it was a guest room, office, “put the boxes we don’t want to go through but also don’t want to throw away” room. Once you have purged you will feel so good! It’s nice to work with a clean canvas. 

rox7777

@queenklau Funnily enough ours is actually DS2s room but he’s never used it. He sleeps in DS1s room. It’s full of toys and stuff the kids have basically abandoned and I’m dreading it because I totally call it a crap room. I think I have about 3000lbs of toys to donate. 

pirateduck

@rox7777 speaking of toys to donate, I don’t even have kids and I have toys to donate!  I’m totally sending my nieces and nephews boxes of old toys for Christmas.  They will love them!  Seriously a box of random toys and craft supplies in the mail sounds great if you’re a little kid.  

mamaj1220

@pirateduck I’m currently sitting in my bedroom surrounded by all the clothes, MUST GET RID OF THINGS!

pirateduck

So when making a registry is it ok to put things that will be needed beyond newborn age or is that poor form?  I have no kids yet, so we have nothing.  Can we put things like a high chair on there even though we can’t use it immediately?  The next size up diapers?  Etc.

mamaj1220

@pirateduck yes it’s fine I put all things that the baby would use in the first year or so (also things like the high chair I found people were happy to get because they knew it would be long term use)

JStill0603

How many of you are raising more children than you have rooms for? I currently have a 3BR house and 2 sons, each with their own room. The 3yo doesn’t use his room much, except the closet so it’s mostly toys and clothing storage and he still sleeps with me. The 10yo is my SS who lives with us all but every other weekend. I hesitate to officially make them share a room and fully plan to put the crib in my room but if baby is a girl.... idk if I can raise 2 boys and a girl in 2 bedrooms. I think I could raise 3 boys in 2 BRs since we have room for a potentially 4th BR in the basement once SS is old enough to make that decision for himself and not feel like we are banishing him to the basement for his sibs. 

Linsbins

pirateduck said:

So when making a registry is it ok to put things that will be needed beyond newborn age or is that poor form?  I have no kids yet, so we have nothing.  Can we put things like a high chair on there even though we can’t use it immediately?  The next size up diapers?  Etc.

Definitely. Buy Buy Baby gives you a list of things for the first two years, if you use their registry guidelines. I preferred to limit it to the first six months, just because I knew money was tighter on maternity leave and with a May baby, you’ll have people buying Christmas gifts at 7 months and then birthday gifts a little later. My DD was June and it worked well, but do whatever you prefer! I also make a small registry for Christmas and put about 5 things on there that she would like. I only gave it to my mom (because she has friends who want to buy her gifts, and she will give them the list on the downlow) and a couple of my friends who wanted a list. Plus I enjoy getting a list for kids I don’t know well, because I don’t want their parents to have to return anything. 

ruby696

@JStill0603 *raises hand* DS and DD currently share a room and we have an office. The office (which is full of crap) will be ther nursery, which the twins will share. But I'm not that comfortable with DD and DD sharing a room for much longer and the twins are boy/girl. So eventually we'll have to move or add a second story.

rox7777

We have 3 bedrooms and will have 3 kids. DS1 and DS2 will be combined into one room and the second room will function as a nursery with a daybed for out of town guests (just my mom and sisters). We have no plans to move any time soon, so it will just have to function for now. 

mamaj1220

We have a 3 bedroom so we are shifting DS to the larger room (which right now is a toy room) and the smallest of the three will be the nursery. 

mamaj1220

Also one of the most fun things about throwing up while pregnant, I peed myself earlier today because I gagging so hard. Ahhh it’s so glamorous to grow a human 

shamrocandroll

@mamaj1220 I have to wear panty liners because I was peeing a little bit whenever I puked, even if I had just peed. 😔

Austenista

I’m on baby #3 and snissing is just my life. Sneeze-pee, sneeze-pee, etc etc. I go through a lot of underwear. 

My two boys share a room, and that works well for them. They’re 18mos apart and want to be together. The home we are currently in the process of buying has four bedrooms so I would have one for each child if I wanted, but I think at least for now I’m going to keep the boys together, maybe indefinitely depending on how they get along in the future. It’s possible we may have a forth. 

bananapanda

@jhysmath my DH also wasn't happy with me when I insisted we set up a nursery so early with DD and she's 2 now and has never once slept in her room except the rare occasion when my mom would stay over and take her up there with her to let us get some sleep haha we moved a big bed in there for her last weekend but haven't tried having her sleep up there yet because she's getting over croup so waking up coughing a lot and needing snuggles.  DH did say he isn't doing any more work on the bedrooms until one of the kids actually sleeps in them lol

We did a Christmas truck photo shoot yesterday on a farm.  DD was not having it and was mean mugging the whole time refused to smile.  Finally a little kitten showed up and had a standoff with our dog.  Then DD decided she needed the kitten and refused to let it go, but she did smile (I think).  Also our dog and the kitty just wanted to play and couldn't be near each other in pictures so instead of our beloved golden retriever who is part of our family and always in our pictures we have a random farm cat that DD was strangling half the time.  Lord help us lol

jhysmath

@mamaj1220 having a small maternity wardrobe made me realize I didn't need most of my clothing and by the time I was switching my clothes back over I got rid of 4 bags of clothes. Part of me is excited to go back to maternity and only have so many outfits to choose from. So much easier on laundry when you have to wash once a week because you have no clothes left.

@JStill0603 were currently in a 2 bedroom apartment and will have 2. Dd only spends from 7pm to 1 am sleeping in her room and her nap there too. This has only been in the last 3 months too when I realized my bump is going to need to cosleep with us more than she is. I figure we have about 2 years before we really need to worry about the two sharing a room and by then we'll move into our house in NY which currently is a 3 bedroom but one of those bedrooms is bils room. We should be adding another room on before we move back so we'll have a room for each kid. When I told MH that I was done with one because it was more work than I thought and he sucked at being a parent to a baby, he decided the extra room would be for his mother.... So, now I'm pregnant. 😂😂😂😂

mamaj1220

@jhysmath upstate NY? I love it here ❤️

jhysmath

@mamaj1220 Western NY south of buffalo over the PA border. I love the property, just not being that close to MIL. The 10 hour drive right now is great. We see her in the summer almost twice a week if not more and it drives me crazy. I'm from a family that we saw our grandparents maybe a couple times a month. My dads parents less because they spent their winters in Florida, but MH lived with his grandparents and single mom for much of his childhood so he feels we should see her every day. It's just not what I like. 

catem07

mamaj1220 last night I peed on TWO pairs of underwear while gagging. 

mamaj1220

@jhysmath I’m in the Finger Lakes region, love it here. 

@shamrocandroll and @catem07 I don’t remember peeing myself this early last time.

catem07

@mamaj1220 my bladder control never resolved itself after I had my first, so I'm definitely looking into medical options to fix it when I'm done having kids. 

shamrocandroll

Yeah I'm 100% doing pelvic floor PT after this one.  I didn't bother before this because I figured I'd just destroy it again. 

ruby696

@shamrocandroll Is it sad that peeing is the #1 reason I'm considering a c-section instead of another VBAC? Like what kind of pelvic floor damage will I have if two come through? Seems like a superficial worry, but I still have to clench when sneezing and DD is 3.5. 😂

shamrocandroll

@ruby696 Hahaha, I'm told with PT you can resolve it.  I had 3rd degree tearing because DS had a 99% head and was diagonally transverse, so they had to use vacuum assist.  So I'm hoping this one will be less traumatic...  

rox7777

I do all the kegels. I have been since I was pregnant with DS1. I heard so many stories about peeing yourself after kids and got super paranoid. So far I’ve been lucky, but I know it could go away with this VBAC. I had a first degree tear with DS1 and he was only 6lbs13oz. DS1 was a month early and 7lbs1oz so the OB is convinced this might be an even bigger baby. I’ve debated the repeat CS a few times because I can schedule it and no vagina damage, but MH has convinced me to do a VBAC. He watched DS1 being born and wants to do it again. 

m6agua

Late to the discussion, but I finally did pelvic floor PT around when my daughter turned 2. I was having issues with peeing a little with coughing and sneezing and sometimes just before I got to the toilet, constipation was also an issue. I went for 3-4 months, I think once or twice a month and it helped soooo much! So I highly recommend you ladies get on that as soon as you can. I wish I would have done it sooner. 

jhysmath

@ruby696 I've only had a c-section and pee a little when I have a coughing fit or my bladder is really full during a sneeze. Obviously less than those with vaginal births, but I think it all gets messed up either way. 

ruby696

@jhysmath I was lucky not to have an issue after my c-section. It didn't start until after my VBAC. But I know it will pro get worse this time around. I'm all for @m6agua and @shamrocandroll's suggestion of pelvic floor PT!

shamrocandroll

@rox7777 I do a lot of kegels because of how traumatic DS's delivery was (99% head, diagonally transverse, got stuck for 4 hours, and needed vacuum assist) and am at the point where a normal cough or sneeze doesn't make me pee, but when I was throwing up a lot in 1st tri, I physically could not hold in the pee while puking.  It was awful!

bananapanda

@rox7777 my DH watched DD's birth (vaginal) and said he was scarred for life (drama queen lol)

@m6agua what exactly do they do in pelvic floor PT?  Whenever I get a really deep cough I pee a little and it's super annoying.  Currently experience it right now.  I know I read somewhere that even though people joke about peeing after birth you really shouldn't have issues and if you do you should check out PT, but I just wasnt sure what it would entail?

rox7777

@bananapanda MH isn’t too bothered by much. I do remember him loudly saying “omg! You have one giant hole now!” Which made me cry. I had a first degree tear so I know it wasn’t that serious. He also told me years later that I did in fact poop. Rude. 

rachelg777

@rox7777 lol. MH told me “your butt turned inside out”. Thanks buddy. 

rox7777

I told MH he isn’t allowed to make side bar comments this time other than “you’re doing great”, “I suck for making you do this again”, and “I have your food ready and waiting”. 

Austenista

MH and I joke often that he’s seen what all my insides look like after two c-sections. Let’s just stay together, we laugh, we’ve been through all this, we’ve seen some things. We’ve been “training” and breaking each other in for a over a decade now. No use in starting over. 

bananapanda

Lol MH tried to comfort me while I was pushing and anytime he talked I just remember putting my hand up and telling him to shut up.  I felt kind of bad but also I just wanted to be left alone in my misery to puke and push.

m6agua

@bananapanda I'm not too sure if it is the same for everyone, but keep in mind I went in for pelvic floor, constipation, and some left hip/joint pain. Really after she assessed me, every part of it was so connected so it made sense to address all of it.

This got long so I put it in a spoiler.

So first we went over everything that was going on. She checked me out standing and walking (for my hip stuff), then while laying she felt around. She did some deep tissue stuff as she said my bladder, uterus and ovaries were not quite where they should be because things/ligaments were just tight all around. When she was done I could actually physically feel the difference in the placement of things. She also did some of that around my hip and was thinking I maybe had a minor labral tear. Then because of the constipation she checked that area... *TMI* she had to go in and physically move the tip of my tail bone because it was jetted to the right. That hurt a lot. I cannot remember, but I think she may of felt inside my vagina too, to feel the walls between the rectum and vaginal canal. *end TMI*

Then most of the follow up appointments were learning and practicing exercises. She taught me how to do proper kegels. She also gave me some floor exercises, ball exercises, and standing ones too that were meant to help strengthen my pelvic floor and core area. She had me try to walk differently to change the way I was compensating for my hip.

She also talked about the mental and physical part of the peeing issues. Mine was when I would get home I would need to go right away and sometimes would pee a bit before fully getting on the toilet. So she told me to break the cycle and stop going the minute I got home. Taught me how to relax my pelvic floor when I had the urge to pee and not rush in doing the potty dance, because tensing up to "hold it" can actually force pee out. Taught me how to sit and push properly for pooping. We decided that I was drinking too much water so I needed to cut back, and we figured out that if I had soda it would make the peeing issues way worse.

So overall I learned a lot of different things and it was really worth it.

bananapanda

thanks @m6agua that's very informative.  I guess we'll see how things go after this delivery and I might have to look into it.

This morning I wanted an extra loose shirt so I busted out a maternity top.  Now I look about 9 months pregnant instead of just extra fat.  I'm not sure which is better? At least I'm comfy though.