Monday B*Fest 9/9

varimama

What has you riled up to start the week? 

varimama

Mine is fireworks. One of our neighbors was pissed off at another so they bought an entire truck bed of fireworks and set them off in bursts every 15 minutes from 6:30-10pm last last night. It was beyond obnoxious and this tired pregnant mama is pissed off. I wrote an email to our community board and am waiting to hear back if I need to take it to a town level or if our community association can do something. Unfortunately what they did was legal but they were still a-holes about it! 

mrsvp614

@varimama Oh hell no! That's a lame way to get back at ONE neighbor, since it impacts everyone around. As someone who has to wake up at 12:30am for work, I HATE when people set off fireworks, since it basically means no sleep for me the entire week of 4th of July. 

EmilyLove25

@varimama That is absolutely insane and not appropriate. I hate fireworks even on the 4th of July, but at least there is SORT of a good reason then. I'd be very annoyed.

Mine is a "staff meeting my office has at 10 AM where we are supposed to come in and say our two strengths as well as everyone else's two best strengths. Talk about a complete waste of time.

stassischroeder

Oh man, I am HERE for Monday B*tchfest.

@varimama WTAF??? I hate fireworks, and I hate them even MORE when it's not 4th of July. I feel like only half of the general population actually enjoys them, but all of us have to deal with them. 

@EmilyLove25 uuuuummmmm yeah that's really dumb and a huge waste of time. I would NOT be in the mood for that any day, let alone a Monday.


AFM,

1. *wakes up and drinks water like a good little pregnant lady*
    *brushes teeth*
    *pukes up all the water* 

2. DS was on antibiotics twice in one month for an ear infection. So, now I've been giving him some pre/probiotics because, well, it makes sense. My mom is an RN, so I grew up with common sense medical knowledge. DH, however, was the type that (before he met me) thought you take ibuprofen for a stomach ache, and refused to take cold medication. Needless to say, I've schooled him on the basics, but he still only knows what he's talking about 50% of the time. DS pooped 4 times yesterday, most likely because a.) he's getting his molars and b.) had some milkshake yesterday afternoon. DH mentioned that his stomach might be upset, to which I responded "yeah it might be. I'm sure the milkshake didn't help. I'm glad I've been giving him probiotics for a few days." And then DH proceeded to say that he hates when I give him probiotics (WHY?) and that it's probably making it worse. UM, WUT. Also, GO AHEAD AND SHUT UP ABOUT THINGS YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT.
Jaaay-zus.

chichiphin

@varimama what in the hillbilly is going on over there to set off fireworks in early Sept??

AFM - I'm really put off by how our office handles baby showers. it is SO effin' tacky (this may be a UO) that we pool together 300+ (sometimes 400+) dollars for baby shower gifts. I'm a personal believer that lunch & cake, with a small cute gift is appropriate. Our business administrator just sent out the list of gifts she purchased for the next one and included the prices. I was HORRIFIED. So much so that I went to her and asked that she not take up a collection for me (we do it for everyone as a "surprise") as I do not want to feel indebted to my coworkers for such a ridiculous amount of money. 

stassischroeder

chichiphin said:

@varimama what in the hillbilly is going on over there to set off fireworks in early Sept??

My thoughts exactly!

lemonlove86

@varimama okay the fireworks would drive me insane and I'd be so pissed too! But kiiiind of a funny way to get back at someone.

@EmilyLove25 you had to say two nice things about EVERYONE? That's kind of a thirsty activity, IMO.

We have a wedding this weekend, a wedding shower this weekend, and a wedding next weekend. We're only going to one of the weddings but had to buy gifts for all the events and I can't stop thinking on how I'd much rather spend that money on ourselves or the baby, lol. Guess I'm the Monday b*!

bygodsgrace20

I’m a cranky woman in general so here it goes. 
I work a random schedule. We get 6 weeks worth at a time but here’s the deal.... the schedule ends this Sunday and I still don’t know what I work next week! To top it all off my friend is getting married so she’s having a bridal shower weekend after next. I don’t know what the attire is and at this point I don’t even know if I work! Oh and it’s at a flipping winery! How fun? Would you like a glass? Glass of water thanks... will there be food? So last minute and no info!
DH has been working nonstop. So I get almost zero time with him. Well I work next weekend and he’s upset that he’s actually off for a weekend for once. I’m sorry? Please work a job where you don’t do OT every dang week! I can’t have every weekend off! 
I still feel like crap.. I can’t complain about anything because I’m pregnant! Tell me about it!!!! I’m the one that suffers I know darn well I’m pregnant! 
Thanks for listening ladies!!!

miss.sally

@stassischroeder which probiotics do you give him? I’ve been researching ones for DS because he’s been on (and still will be) antibiotics since he was 6 weeks old because of his kidney problems. He will hopefully be off of them in the next six months and then I plan to do ALL the probiotics. 

miss.sally

Ok y’all. This is probably going to be a freaking book, so get comfy if you feel like reading. 

So backstory. DD(9) is from a previous marriage. ExH is not very present in our lives. He sees her maybe once a year and talks to her once every 4-5 months. He lives across the country and is re-married and has two other kids. 

So H and I are planning this big trip down to Colombia this winter. His sister lives there and is married to a Colombian. They have three small kids so it was easier for us to take our two there (plus Cartegena is basically the Caribbean of Colombia and I cannot freaking wait to relax on the beach). I emailed exH because he has to sign a consent form in order for me to get DD a passport. And he WON’T EFFING DO IT. He said Colombia is the most dangerous country in the world and he couldn’t believe I’d put her in that situation and blah blah blah. It was. Like 20 years ago. But we have been down there before and it’s beautiful and safe as long as you aren’t in the mountains with the drug cartels. Which we aren’t planning. Duh. 

So I tell him it’s safe. We are visiting family in a VERY touristy location and staying at a resort. He doesn’t respond. 

Two days later he says “how about DD comes here and spends Christmas with me instead”. Excuse me what? She’s never been there. She’s NINE. I’m not letting her fly alone. Plus this is a once in a lifetime trip with her whole family. I told him we would be going before Christmas so maybe we can work something out when we get back but she can’t fly alone so he’d have to fly back and forth with her. Now he won’t respond.

I think he’s literally trying to be a douche canoe just to be one. He’s uber controlling (can you tell?) but it makes no sense because he doesn’t care about her the other 99.9% of the year. Why now? So I’m off to the passport agent this week to see if there’s anything I can do without his consent. My concern is that we do it anyways and then he calls the police on me for taking her out of the country. (He called the cops on me another time because I wouldn’t let him see her because he was in a violent rage and the police actually laughed in his face). It was still terrifying and traumatic for me. And I think it would be even worse if I were out of the country (and hugely pregnant), to have something like that happen. Even if I didn’t do anything wrong. I just don’t want to deal. 

My pregnancy hormones aren't making this any easier and we are quickly running out of time to plan anything/book a resort/get flights but obviously cannot do anything without passports. So. Here’s hoping the agent will take pity on me and help a sister out. 

End of book. Thanks for reading if you made it this far 😂

jenEP

My Monday bitch is that I shared a few of our boy name ideas and did not get great feedback from DH's family. All the names we like are classic boy names, so nothing crazy, but they were not impressed. I am probably the idiot for sharing. Now I'm questioning the names that we love. 

jenEP

@miss.sally I'm  sorry your ex has to be so difficult. I really hope he comes to his senses so you can go on that trip; what a fun experience for your family! 

treetop19

@miss.sally, that sounds awful.    some people just have to cause drama for the sake of causing drama... your ex is being such an immature baby. hope everything works out!

@jenEP, I too made the mistake of sharing DS's name with family before he was born, and they didn't like it.  DH and I went ahead and used the name anyway.. lol.  It was disheartening at the time, but later on I heard lots of positive feedback about the name from other people (my coworkers and friends.)  So, some names just aren't for everyone.  (I've found with DH's family, they like popular, top 10 names.. so anything outside of that was 'weird' to them.)   I wouldn't question a name if you and DH love it.. maybe his family just has a different taste, that's all.  maybe seek out feedback from others who have a similiar naming style as you?   

thescarletmom

@miss.sally GIRL. My DS is also from a previous relationship and his dad is a real piece of work. I'm so sorry he's going out of his way to be difficult. I say do your best to get the passport and go on your trip as planned. If it's really about spending time with DD (which it's clearly not) then you can figure out that stuff later. He can't stop you from going on vacation, there's not even a smidge of a legal case even if you share custody of her equally. I hope he comes around though and stops being a PITA.

thescarletmom

@jenEP DH shared our names with his family and it did not go well. I didn't tell him not to, which is my bad, but I was way grouchy over the way DH's grandma responded to the names. It doesn't matter, we don't intend to change our names over anybody else's bad opinion. But it still stung for sure.

kagesstarshroom

@varimama w-o-w that is a dick move about the fireworks! 

@stassischroeder aw boo to throwing up all that water you drunk like a good pregnant citizen.

I didn't put my cloth bag all the way in my cart, and a (glass) jar of mayo fell out in the grocery store parking lot like, as I entered the crosswalk, and splattered everywhere--embarrassing, and a waste of $! The people in the grocery store were super nice and sent ppl out to clean it up for me (!!!) but like. ugh. I was mortified.

varimama

@EmilyLove25 wow that meeting sounds awful! I always hated those activities in school but to have to do it as adults at work is crazy!

@stassischroeder ugh I feel like men always question things they don’t understand not the obvious things like a milkshake 🤦🏻‍♀️

@chichiphin absolutely no holiday, they were literally to annoy another neighbor... also for my DS we had a work shower and I agreed to it bc I assumed it would be like cake and some diapers in the break room. I was mortified when I saw how much stuff they bought! If I had known I’d have said no. 

@lemonlove86 I get that! Weddings are so expensive to attend (or not even bc of the gift!)

@bygodsgrace20 I had a job like that and it was such a pain when the new schedule wasn’t out! Sorry YH isn’t supportive with it too!

@miss.sally I’m sorry about your Ex being such a dick about it. Sounds like a good thing he’s an ex! Can you tell him the passport is for somewhere else? Then not give him the dates of the trip until you are back so he can’t call the cops?

@jenEP DH keeps sharing our name options too and we keep getting negative reactions. It makes me like them more but that’s the kind of person I am 🤣

@kagesstarshroom I hate when I accidentally make a mess and need other people to clean it up. Just know it happens to us all at one time or another! 

justlauren05

I would have to say that having a terrible weekend put a damper on my mood.

First, on Friday my husband's car gets towed from his friend's complex for no reason. He was the only car to get towed while other cars just received a notice. So we're out $400. Hopefully we can fight it by finding a fault in technicality. Then on Saturday, my 2-yr-old car decides to die in the Costco parking lot... in 93 degree weather. I'm still waiting to hear what's wrong with it. Even the service people are baffled. Fortunately, I have extended warranty. Lastly on Sunday, I got in a huge fight with my mother right before her flight home for making the very last insensitive comment I can withstand. And I was tired of her saying I was being confrontational when I ask simple questions. For example, my toddler was touching an unplugged computer tower that was sitting on our dining chair. She tells him not to touch it because it will electrocute him. I ask her how he would be electrocuted if it's not plugged in. That's when she said I was being confrontational. Like, huh? Her one night stay turned into 9 days. Honestly, she overstayed her welcome 4 days prior. Lastly, since my husband left to go out of town Sunday morning I had to get everything ready by myself this morning. I was so queasy and dizzy, I don't know how I managed to make it though. And I have to do it again tomorrow. Ugh. Hats off to you ladies who have to do this on the regular!

My only saving grace is that I got to see my healthy little girl at my doctor's appt this morning. She had the back of her hand on her forehead. I feel you girl. Most def.

The universe truly disliked our family last weekend. It was rough.

kantobean

@varimama fireworks make me ragey in July. September? No freaking thanks.

@EmilyLove25 but saying nice things on a Monday morning is hard. 😂

@miss.sally yeah sounds like a real douche canoe! I’m sorry he’s being so ridiculous and unreasonable.


@stassischroeder my H and I are similar! My parents are doctors and H is so weird about medication. Like complains of headaches or cold symptoms but refuses to medicate. Also he always thinks DD has a fever when she’s like 99.1. 🙄 He always says “She runs low normally.” Uh, no. 

no real bitchfest for me except I hate when people are know-it-all’s. 

mauvelousone

DH is away on business this week and I'm realizing just how much "being pregnant" has taken over as my "hobby", and now that I have no one around who cares as much as I do it's a pretty isolating feeling.

This is just a reality of starting a family in the US but it's driving me crazy. The lack of maternity leave entitlement is crippling any opportunity I could have seized for career growth for a while and I'm likely to be stuck in this same position (which I've wanted out of for a long time now) for at least 5 years.

silverhope

@EmilyLove25 omg I freaking hate pointless business meetings. Hugest pet peeve. I hated that at my old job. Drove me absolutely bonkers.

@miss.sally oof so sorry about your ex being so controlling and refusing to budge or respond. I agree with @varimama I’d lie about where the passport is for now. And then like riiiiight before we leave, text him “jk going to Colombia. Text u when we are safely home.”

@justlauren05 oof. That is a rough few days. Your mom sounds like my mom with blaming me for being confrontational when I’m just stating facts. 

mrsvp614

@miss.sally I'm so sorry about your ex. I understand why it's a requirement, but it also seems unnecessary for someone to have a say who sees their kid once a year. Hopefully it works out, because it sounds like an awesome trip!

@jenEP Sorry about the name judgement. This is unfortunately why I don't plan on sharing our name ideas. We won't decide for sure until we meet him, but I don't want someone's opinion to get in the way of what we love or what feels right to us. 

Malidocious

I know it's not Monday anymore but I just really want to bitch about things... it's been a really rough week and it's only Wednesday!  Work has never been busier for me lately.  I'm part of a labor union negotiation and it is brutal.  On top of that, every freaking person wants something totally random from me at work, so I'm unable to actually get anything productive done that I need to do.  Also, so much road construction started yesterday, it doubles the amount of time it takes me to get to or from work/home.  It's so annoying, and my hormones are everywhere, so today I just ended up crying and yelling at a bus that was taking entirely too long to freaking turn down a road I shouldn't have even been on if the main roads weren't freaking under construction.  /rant

Phew, sorry guys.

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@miss.sally I am so sorry your ex is being such a douche-nozzle.  I hope you're able to work something out and have an amazing, relaxing trip!

And to everyone who has shared names and gotten negative feedback, I'm in the same boat.  My partner and I went out to dinner with my parents and my sister, and they were asking us about names.  We threw out a few, mostly family names from my boyfriend's family, and my mom and sister were SO rude about every single name.  It was almost embarrassing.  Now they're sending me names they like and I'm just rolling my eyes.  

stac4056

@miss.sally yea you said it, your ex needs to get with the times, Colombia will be fine, anything can happen anywhere. Sounds like he's just jealous of the awesome experience you'll be providing for your DD and trying to hold her back, what a jerk.