Randoms 7/23 to 7/31

telicious2

Starting August 1, should we just do monthly randoms? 

dogmom5

It seems like it has died down in here but if we do monthly randoms, do you think it will get even more quiet? 

andrawrmeda2

I may not be so hard to keep up either I suppose! 
I got DS to poop on the toliet for the first time!! Finally😂 he lost a pair of undies but I have been struggling with this for a while lol

dogmom5

andromedacorrine2 said:

I may not be so hard to keep up either I suppose! 
I got DS to poop on the toliet for the first time!! Finally😂 he lost a pair of undies but I have been struggling with this for a while lol

🙌🏻🙌🏻 I just got my oldest to finally poop in the toilet this week too! Such a great victory in the house 😂 now if I can get the second child to be potty trained by October, I will only have one kid in diapers haha

telicious2

Getting DD potty trained by October is my goal too, but she is too resistant right now.

@dogmom5 I guess doing monthly randoms could go either way. My thinking was that doing it monthly would allow the comments to keep rolling, especially for those that want to comment, but don't want to start it.

So we are finally getting our new roof today. It has been a slow moving process because we needed our solar panels removed and that took 2 months from the time it was scheduled to be completed. I take a nap after work because I work 3am-11am. I would have asked to work first shift today, but I have a midwife appt after work. I'll try to nap with all the roof noise, but an extra coffee may be needed today and definitely have an easy dinner planned.  

andrawrmeda2

Well by the end of the night he was asking for a diaper again😑 but a step is a step and I'll take it 😂

cooaladolly

Congrats @andromedacorrine2 and @dogmom2 on the potty training! I wish my kiddo was ready to get started. Ummm and @andromedacorrine2, what exactly do you mean that DS lost a pair? Dirtied? Clean but lost in the toilet, or just around the house somewhere? I'm hoping not dirty and lost around the house 😂

@telicious2 good luck trying to sleep with the work getting done. Shift work can definitely be rough when you've got stuff you actually have to do during the day as well.

Personally I feel like the Randoms thread is only going to be as quiet or as busy as people let it be. Whether it's an every week thread or monthly thread, the quantity/quality is going to be the same depending on the group's participation.

andrawrmeda2

@cooaladolly no they were dirtied and I was not about to try to clean them 😂 thankfully they were a smaller size he'll be getting out of here soon(he has a skinny butt😂) but this preggo lady couldn't handle trying to clean them up 😂😂

telicious2

@andromedacorrine2 Cleaning poopy undies is such a pain! And I just thought about Hmm I wonder if a panty liner would be helpful? 

Our roof is done! But it wouldn’t be a typical home project unless another problem arose. We have all this wood rot that was covered by siding. We now get to get estimates on how much to repair but it may just need to be covered back up and dealt with next year when finances are better. 

mrsinterweb

@telicious2 That is a hilarious suggestion about a panty liner! And so sorry about the wood rot! I hate unexpected home repairs!!

steminist

I have been touring rising freshmen around the school all week, and it is KILLING my pelvis. SPD is the worst. Only 3 more months...

cooaladolly

Oh no @telicious2! So sorry more work was found to be done. At least the roof is completed though. Unless the wood rot is a structural issue I would totally be covering it back up until next spring at least. Roofs aren't cheap!

kats0727

Hi all. I was wondering if anyone had to take a class for gestational diabetes from their hospital? I got the wonderful news I failed both tests yesterday and they want me to come in for a group class over how to check blood and the diet. Problem is, they're at 9 or 130 on weekdays with no alternative times. I work in healthcare and was trained to test blood sugars and was wondering if there were any STMs who went through this. I was hoping to just get a nutritionist and not have to waste a sick day on a training. TIA.

sammygirl18

I’m a FTM. I got diagnosed two weeks ago and got a dietician. I didn’t have a group class. I’ve met with her twice so far. I could see the first visit being good in a group setting though. It was mostly going over carb choices and good carbs vs bad carbs and making sure I got enough carbs. 

kats0727

@sammygirl18 thanks. I was hoping to just see the dietician so I'm gonna push for that with my doctor

jcbh2018

Is it me? 
Or did the board completely die, after the PG was created? 
I feel like the people who won the popularity vote are no longer active on here anymore. Blah, I miss us being one big community and the activity on here. Why even separate ourselves from one another? 

dogmom5

jcbh2018 said:

Is it me? 
Or did the board completely die, after the PG was created? 
I feel like the people who won the popularity vote are no longer active on here anymore. Blah, I miss us being one big community and the activity on here. Why even separate ourselves from one another? 

Agreed.  It really seems like a dead zone anymore

shesha15zap

@jcbh2018 you're right. I guess the rest of us need to try to be more active? It does suck that it's gotten so quiet. 

Anyone have any ideas how we can bring those of us that are still here together more? What would make everyone more active or want to be more active?

sarahnugget2

jcbh2018 said:

Is it me? 
Or did the board completely die, after the PG was created? 
I feel like the people who won the popularity vote are no longer active on here anymore. Blah, I miss us being one big community and the activity on here. Why even separate ourselves from one another? 

I agree. I think people are just upset that we were left out. Plus we created a Facebook group since we were really upimpressed with the process they chose. Sucks that the rest of our pregnancy we won't have the support on here. 

andrawrmeda2

I'm in a stay on the couch all day mood today 😂😂

prpl11butterfly

Re: the board being dead.....those of us who moved to were planning to stick around. And a handful have. However, I personally (and I know at least a few other regs) was seriously put off by all the complaints and comments about how the PG was handled. Everyone had a say. We all agreed, either by outright expressing agreement or by simply not expressing disapproval. The conversations went on for a while before anything actually happened. Every single time I popped in here to see what was going on, there were more and more complaints. So I stopped checking in as often. It's especially annoying when someone who never even participated before the move comes in and says it seems like it was handled badly. We did things as diplomatically as possible and kept everyone in the loop as to what was happening. I am really not sure how much longer we are going to beat this dead horse......

shesha15zap

@prpl11butterfly I don't know that @jcbh2018 comment was a complaint so much as an expression of disappointment at the quietness of the group. I think it's okay for people to express their feelings of disappointment at the quietness of the group. Perhaps it's a way of saying they miss the input of those that were active and expressing disappointment at the fact that no one else will be added to the PG.

Everyone knows how it feels to be left out of things and no one likes to be rejected. I can understand not wanting to hear complaints, but also you can understand the other side right?

prpl11butterfly

I was expressing my reasoning for not participating over here. My comment wasn't directed at JCBH2018 or any particular PP. Just a general statement as to why I (and a few others) dropped off in participating.

cheznet

As someone who was invited to the private group, but kind of pleasantly surprised due to the fact that I wasn't the MOST active here, I think that perhaps there should be some more people invited, who *I* think were about as active as me. But it's a democracy. I voted for everyone because I like being inclusive, but I understand why some people didn't get enough votes - because they were not well recognized by the majority of the group. I definitely understand why some of the newer members and people whose screen names I didn't recognize were not let in. 

This is the first message board I have ever been apart of and TBH, I didn't really expect or totally understand the voting process. I don't know what I would have done differently, but originally I thought people would be let in just with a picture including bump and sign that said screenname and date, to try to rule out catfish. Maybe I'm naive.

trapperkeeper87

For what it's worth, and to add to what @prpl11butterfly said, several of the private group members still check in over here regularly (some silently to see if anyone needs help, some by actually posting). They are more than happy to provide support and input to those who request it, the same way it was always done. However, very little activity has taken place over here that requires any sort of input or answer outside of complaining about the PG. PG members can't be expected to put on a show of asking all the questions and giving all the answers while others silently lurk; that isn't how a stable and supportive community works. If you want positive change, you have to put something positive forth to get it.

For those needing support, you still have this board to ask for it. If someone wants to give it a try, you might find that this is true (no snark intended).

melanier26

I just ordered a handful of things from Walmart.com. I’m outgrowing some of my maternity stuff and am mad I have to spend more money so I’m scouring sales. The one pair of pjs are so comfy if anyone is looking for some! It looks like they only have size small left though: https://www.walmart.com/ip/Nurture-by-Lamaze-Maternity-nursing-short-sleeve-and-pants-sleep-set/376809830
I like that I can wear them now and they will work pp for nursing too

alinic916

@meagan-t I think you hit the nail on the head! While I'm not posting much on here (mostly because I've been extremely busy) I'm still checking in to both boards and no one has really been posting on this board asking for support or questions or anything. So there isn't much to contribute to. Like you said, those that were invited to the PG can't be the only contributors!

I don't think there was a right or wrong way to add people to a PG. Did I agree with the way we did it? Not sure because we did it different in my last board that I thought worked better but everyone was given plenty of opportunity to object or voice their concerns before it was done. No one said, can we do something different or I don't like that idea. So it is what it is.
Not to mention this was probably one of the smallest BMB groups ever to begin with! 

cooaladolly

meagan-t said:

They are more than happy to provide support and input to those who request it, the same way it was always done. However, very little activity has taken place over here that requires any sort of input or answer outside of complaining about the PG. PG members can't be expected to put on a show of asking all the questions and giving all the answers while others silently lurk; that isn't how a stable and supportive community works. If you want positive change, you have to put something positive forth to get it.

cooaladolly

shesha15zap said:

@prpl11butterfly I don't know that @jcbh2018 comment was a complaint so much as an expression of disappointment at the quietness of the group. I think it's okay for people to express their feelings of disappointment at the quietness of the group.

I'm pretty much done with all this. And calling BS that she wasn't being snarky when she said winners of the "popularity contest". Anyone continuing to think that is exactly the problem. It wasn't popularity it was participation. And except for a few of you really trying more recently, there are some that just continue to complain. I don't care if I'm being nasty right now but posting a pic of your bump every week is not participating in true conversation. @jcbh2018 there have been plenty of opportunities for you to be supportive in the last week or two; someone getting through construction, new questions being asked, birthday wishes to be wished, just as examples, but you stay silent until you want to complain about inclusion. That right there is why you didn't get voted in. @shesha15zap it was nice of you to defend her but that activity has been consistent over the last 6+ months. Thank you also for asking for suggestions on how to make the group more active amongst yourselves. Posting more GTKY's are perfect, but here's the thing, it's not an instant gratification process. It will take you guys just as long as it took us to get to know each other. That's why people who only started interacting in the last month or so did not get the necessary votes to be included in the PG, and there are a few of you that we see really trying, but we just didn't know you well enough. You must also understand, there is nothing unfair in that. And for those who are saying that now the PG people aren't around anymore there won't be support for anyone, well that's just proof you were only taking and not giving, which is not how a true relationship should work. To think otherwise is pretty damn selfish in my opinion.

kindbytealikat

@cooaladolly

jcbh2018

I guess since I loaded the gun and some of you pulled the trigger. I’ll try and end it.
I’ve already expressed that I was disappointed in not being “voted”  in for the PG group. What I was really trying to say ^above, was, that the activity of the people who were voted in, kinda stopped putting in their two cents. It’s not about you PG members (as @meagan-t said)  “putting on a show of asking all the questions and giving all the answers”. I wasn’t suggesting that. I also know some of you in the PG are FTM’s, so quite frankly, you, yourselves, would have questions and not know all the answers. 
Some of you have not liked the backlash that was given. But what did you expect? I dunno. 
A lot of you said that you’d still stick on this board, but haven’t.

cooaladolly said:

@jcbh2018 there have been plenty of opportunities for you to be supportive in the last week or two; someone getting through construction, new questions being asked, birthday wishes to be wished, just as examples, but you stay silent until you want to complain about inclusion. That right there is why you didn't get voted in. 

Ha! I laugh at this. Before I packed/moved, I was always putting in my two cents. As of late, being back in my home state has been very hectic. I’m what some of you would consider “lurking” but, I’m still chiming in here and there. Overall, my issue is, that the whole board seems dead. Like I said above. Most of you that went to the PG haven’t been as active on this original board anymore. You are also “lurking” until someone triggers you, then you chime in. 
If I really have to quote myself and make myself clear for my OP “ I miss us being one big community on here and the activity, why even separate ourselves from one another”.