@ale9687 @klmcguire Thank you both--this is helpful. Honestly, after the comments about the baby from MIL yesterday (asking of money from BIL isn't anything new, he's shady like that, and easy to ignore at this point), I damn near called her myself (she said them to DH, not me) to scream at her...but I know that's not good for myself or baby, and that's just giving them fodder to work with. It's just hard--he's so sweet, and I always wanted to have in-laws that were nice, but I didn't get that. These are the same people who tried to sabotage our wedding two years ago--literally, on our wedding day, his mother tried to make him late, and then AS SHE WAS WALKING WITH HIM DOWN THE AISLE while he was seating her, she kept whispering to him, "You don't have to do this. It's not too late. You can still back out."Such is life.