SIL and her family of 4 are coming today and staying for the long weekend. There will be 7 of us in our not very big house. Send vibes for patience. I’ll either be scarce this weekend or on here all the time.
SIL and her family of 4 are coming today and staying for the long weekend. There will be 7 of us in our not very big house. Send vibes for patience. I’ll either be scarce this weekend or on here all the time.
Will the weather cooperate? Can you send them out for lots of excursions?
I also have had maternity photos booked for a while (early September, around 33 weeks). My photographer also tentatively booked a newborn session for us given my MFMs induction date for me. She said October gets really busy with people wanting photos for their Christmas cards and she was already starting to book up in April when I scheduled!
@grapeskittles4lyfe I hope so! We came up with so many ideas of fun things to do and even rented a van to take us all in the same car, and then SIL said she doesn’t want to do anything on the first day (meaning first full day, tomorrow) and later said something like “we probably won’t be doing much.” DD won’t tolerate just being at home for 4 days so we’ll be going out with or without SIL’s family.
@emily1052 definitely keep checking back, things go in and out of stock on that site with the snap of a finger. I had a number of things picked out from there for DS and gave up when it was inconsistent 😂 @grapeskittles4lyfe yeah forget that. That's how my great grandfather is. Every couple years he changes his will up(big farmer, so lots to spread and the farm, but we're sure that's going to 2 cousins of my dad's) and when he does, he used to call my dad to be reminded how to spell our names(we do have odd names) and now he'll call me. I always know what he's up to lol cause there's no random visits or calls, we have to do that. I still go to see him but a lot of my family (dad, grandma, aunt and cousins) avoid him cause of how he is.
This is turning out to be a weird day. My boss just called me and offered me the role of Chief Strategy Officer (I work at a software company). While this is exciting, it is completely out of left field and I'm totally waffling for a few reasons:
1. This requires forming an entirely new organization and most of the functions are not my areas of expertise. While I'm confident I could hire the right people and lead them successfully, it would absolutely bring a huge set of challenges I'd have to overcome and I'd have a helluva lot to learn along the way. 2. I've finally gotten my current organization (I run the Customer Success department, for those familiar with software industry functions) humming, and have been able to scale my personal work load back to a very reasonable 50 hours/week or so. Accepting this role would mean scaling back up to my previous 70ish, at least for the first year or two, and I'm not sure I want to do that with a baby on the way or after she arrives. 3. It is likely this will require a lot of travel, and I was planning to travel as infrequently as possible after baby arrives and I go back to work.
I honestly don't know what to do. I know that if I turn this opportunity down, I am turning down what could be my only shot at the C suite, which has been my goal all along. But since getting pregnant I just feel like my ambitions have shifted - I still want to excel at work, but there are other priorities that feel more important. Ugh. I should be excited right now and instead I'm just sitting here with my thoughts bouncing all over the place!
Sorry for the long rant! I feel a little better having typed it out, at least.
@jenferlee82 That is a difficult decision 😔 have you talked to your SO yet? Maybe a second voice chiming in would help out? That is a big leap it sounds like!!
@jenferlee82 Well...congratulations I mean that sounds amazing. Though I would feel the same way you do right now. I hope your boss gave you some time to think as this is a huge decision, especially given you have a baby on the way. I would maybe write down all of your concerns and go over some of them with your boss, maybe they can be accommodating with timelines/assistance
@andromedacorrine2 I have, I called him right after I got off the phone with my CEO. He is really great and will support whatever decision I make. We definitely have a lot to discuss though, so I'm not planning to provide an answer until next week at the earliest! That way we have plenty of time to weigh the pros and cons before making a call.
@Cass005 Thank you! It is an amazing opportunity, just not the best timing. I'll definitely be writing a list of concerns - luckily he told me to take as long as I need to respond so I can approach it very thoughtfully.
@jenferlee82, congrats on the amazing offer! I totally understand your waffling, it's a very hard choice with a baby on the way. Best of luck with your decision.
@jenferlee82 Congrats on the offer! FWIW, I know many women who accepted a position with more responsibility right around the same time as having a baby and they made it work. I also know many women that made the decision to reduce their responsibility or just keep things status quo for awhile after babies. There’s no wrong answer. A mentor recently advised me, regarding juggling career and kids, to make decisions that feel right for the next [insert short period here - 6 months, 2 years, whatever]. There will always be trade offs.
@galentine@greenbean-2 Thanks, ladies! Great advice from your mentor, GB2. I really have no idea which way I'm going to go with this one, but I'll let you all know what I decide. I appreciate the support so much!
@jenferlee82 Congratulations! That is huge! The fact that your CEO wants to promote a pregnant woman who is about to go out on an extended parental leave really says something to me about your abilities and the trust he (she?) has in you. Remember, I basically hid this pregnancy for longer than I should have simply b/c I was waiting on a promotion and didn't want my own family choices to influence any decisions made at a higher level regarding my career. I know you didn't ask for advice, so take this with a grain of salt, but I feel like most people understand that family comes first. And it's been my experience that working parents are very efficient of workers. Congrats again!
@junebabyh Thank you! I do remember your story and that is some excellent perspective. I'm very, very lucky to work for a man who would offer me a promotion in the middle of a pregnancy. Obviously he is confident I can do it, even if I'm a bit uncertain. I needed that reminder as I think through this decision - thank you so much!
@jenferlee82 just wanted to chime in and congratulate you on the offer! I agree with the other ladies that just getting the offer is an accomplishment on its own. I’m sure you’ll make the best decision for you and your family 😊
@jenferlee82 well I'm glad he's there to support you!! It is a great opportunity I'm sure. Hopefully you can find a balance or figure a way to make what you want work great 😊 congrats again!!
@jenferlee82 Congrats!! That’s awesome and a big decision to make. I had a hard time figuring out what I thought my capacity would be when I went back to work the first time. After I went back, I found that I became a master of logistics, efficiency, and direct, clear communication. I didn’t have time to waste on what wasn’t important anymore! I saw my career take off after my first baby and it hasn’t slowed down since - and now baby 3 is on the way.
If you haven’t read Essentialism, I recommend it (or audiobook - I preferred it that way!). It pretty much sums up what I consider to be the key to having a successful, fulfilling career AND being present in your home life.
Remind me - how much time do you get off for maternity leave?
@jenferlee82 Congrats!! That’s awesome and a big decision to make. I had a hard time figuring out what I thought my capacity would be when I went back to work the first time. After I went back, I found that I became a master of logistics, efficiency, and direct, clear communication. I didn’t have time to waste on what wasn’t important anymore! I saw my career take off after my first baby and it hasn’t slowed down since - and now baby 3 is on the way.
If you haven’t read Essentialism, I recommend it (or audiobook - I preferred it that way!). It pretty much sums up what I consider to be the key to having a successful, fulfilling career AND being present in your home life.
Remind me - how much time do you get off for maternity leave?
I haven't read that book - I will definitely check it out! Love to hear that you hit your stride after your first, too. It's honestly a huge concern of mine because up until now it's been all about the career and I'm afraid I might lose my edge a bit when I return.
I'm still negotiating my leave package, but it will be 3-4 months. I don't think I could bring myself to stay away more than four, honestly.
@jenferlee82 Congrats!! That’s awesome and a big decision to make. I had a hard time figuring out what I thought my capacity would be when I went back to work the first time. After I went back, I found that I became a master of logistics, efficiency, and direct, clear communication. I didn’t have time to waste on what wasn’t important anymore! I saw my career take off after my first baby and it hasn’t slowed down since - and now baby 3 is on the way.
If you haven’t read Essentialism, I recommend it (or audiobook - I preferred it that way!). It pretty much sums up what I consider to be the key to having a successful, fulfilling career AND being present in your home life.
Remind me - how much time do you get off for maternity leave?
I haven't read that book - I will definitely check it out! Love to hear that you hit your stride after your first, too. It's honestly a huge concern of mine because up until now it's been all about the career and I'm afraid I might lose my edge a bit when I return.
I'm still negotiating my leave package, but it will be 3-4 months. I don't think I could bring myself to stay away more than four, honestly.
Unsolicited advice - take as long as you can! It will all be there when you get back. I’m fortunate to get 6 months and was so grateful to have some semblance of a normalcy established by the time I went back. I won’t sugar coat it - it’s really freaking hard when you go back, a total conflict of competing priorities. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need!
@jenferlee82 Congratulations on the opportunity! You’ve already received a lot of great advice. I’d also add that since they offered it to you, they obviously want you and this may give you some leverage if you want to negotiate some terms for better work-life flexibility. You may be surprised what they are willing to go for!
My BFFs epi only worked on half her body. She felt everything on the left. She was miserable.
I've heard back labor is pure hell and hope to never have that experience.
It's also really fun when your big headed baby gets stuck on your pelvic bone. Because he's facing 4/5 and not 6 and you push for 3 hours before the realize this 😰
@prpl11butterfly 😳😳 I have a friend who pushed for 3, breaked, and then another 3 before ending up with a c section. Baby was stuck on her pelvic bone and ended up breaking it 😬😬
This one parent keeps emailing me about her son's missing assignment from JANUARY. He claims he turned it into a sub. I have no proof either way, but the deadline for missing work from January was way back in March. I'm not going to change it now. If it was marked in error, he should have taken care of it months ago, not in the last week or so of school when he suddenly realized that he only had an 89 in my class.
Ladies please keep me in your thoughts this morning. I’ve been feeling movement consistently for 2 1/2 weeks and have had a decrease in movement at the usual times since last evening. I’m going in at 11 for kick counts on the dopplar. Today is DH and my (sorry for incorrect grammar?) anniversary so hopefully this will put our minds at ease so we can have a happy one
@jenferlee82 congrats on the offer!! Whatever you decide, it’ll work out. At least it’s a good decision to have to make!!
@greenbean-2 eek, I hope the weekend goes by quickly for you!! It’s so hard having multiple extra people in your home.
@melanier26 I’m so sorry for the scare— I hope everything looks good!! And happy anniversary 😊
I feel like I’ve been gone forever!! I’m sitting in the waiting room waiting for my AS. I’m also a little salty that they had me show up with a full bladder and then weighed me before I could pee it all out cause no one needs to see a number higher than necessary. 😩🤣
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@grapeskittles4lyfe yeah forget that. That's how my great grandfather is. Every couple years he changes his will up(big farmer, so lots to spread and the farm, but we're sure that's going to 2 cousins of my dad's) and when he does, he used to call my dad to be reminded how to spell our names(we do have odd names) and now he'll call me. I always know what he's up to lol cause there's no random visits or calls, we have to do that. I still go to see him but a lot of my family (dad, grandma, aunt and cousins) avoid him cause of how he is.
1. This requires forming an entirely new organization and most of the functions are not my areas of expertise. While I'm confident I could hire the right people and lead them successfully, it would absolutely bring a huge set of challenges I'd have to overcome and I'd have a helluva lot to learn along the way.
2. I've finally gotten my current organization (I run the Customer Success department, for those familiar with software industry functions) humming, and have been able to scale my personal work load back to a very reasonable 50 hours/week or so. Accepting this role would mean scaling back up to my previous 70ish, at least for the first year or two, and I'm not sure I want to do that with a baby on the way or after she arrives.
3. It is likely this will require a lot of travel, and I was planning to travel as infrequently as possible after baby arrives and I go back to work.
I honestly don't know what to do. I know that if I turn this opportunity down, I am turning down what could be my only shot at the C suite, which has been my goal all along. But since getting pregnant I just feel like my ambitions have shifted - I still want to excel at work, but there are other priorities that feel more important. Ugh. I should be excited right now and instead I'm just sitting here with my thoughts bouncing all over the place!
Sorry for the long rant! I feel a little better having typed it out, at least.
That is a difficult decision 😔 have you talked to your SO yet? Maybe a second voice chiming in would help out? That is a big leap it sounds like!!
If you haven’t read Essentialism, I recommend it (or audiobook - I preferred it that way!). It pretty much sums up what I consider to be the key to having a successful, fulfilling career AND being present in your home life.
Remind me - how much time do you get off for maternity leave?
HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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I'm still negotiating my leave package, but it will be 3-4 months. I don't think I could bring myself to stay away more than four, honestly.
Me 39 - DH 41
Married 8/26/07
TTGP #1 Jan '15 -
BFP 9/11/15 - DS born 5/31/16
TTGP #2 July '17 -
CP July '17
Blighted Ovum MC Dec '17
CP June '18
BFP 1/30/19 - EDD 10/13/19
And thank you to all of you ladies for the support and advice. This group is really, truly the best!
ETA because autocorrect
This is not a graphic picture, as in you don’t see body parts. I thought it was cool to see what a woman’s body does in birth.
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DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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Both my active labor points were after pitocin was administered and I'm just hoping this one decides to just come on its own!!!
Just caught up on all of these. Helluva way to wake up 😂
My epidural with DS2 didn’t have time to take effect when he was ready, so I felt everything when I pushed. Such a waste of good drugs, too 😪
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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I've heard back labor is pure hell and hope to never have that experience.
It's also really fun when your big headed baby gets stuck on your pelvic bone. Because he's facing 4/5 and not 6 and you push for 3 hours before the realize this 😰
and then another 3 before ending up with a c section. Baby was stuck on her pelvic bone and ended up breaking it 😬😬
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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@greenbean-2 eek, I hope the weekend goes by quickly for you!! It’s so hard having multiple extra people in your home.
@melanier26 I’m so sorry for the scare— I hope everything looks good!! And happy anniversary 😊
I feel like I’ve been gone forever!! I’m sitting in the waiting room waiting for my AS. I’m also a little salty that they had me show up with a full bladder and then weighed me before I could pee it all out cause no one needs to see a number higher than necessary. 😩🤣