My MBF is regarding my last US. But really just the freaking doctor that ISNT EVEN MY PROVIDER trying to scare the hell out of me and tell me there’s a problem only to follow it up with ‘but that’s normal.’ (Please see the AS thread for the extended version)
I decided to bake some cookies today. DS loves to help me bake, so I got all the ingredients and the mixer together, and he got on his stool to help. Here is what happens.
We put in the butter and sugar, he helps me measure. Turn the mixer on high.
Toddler: chucks clothespin on floor that was holding brown sugar closed. Me: Please pick that up and hand it back to mama so we can put the brown sugar away. Toddler: gets down, gets clothespin. Climbs up, chucks clothespin directly into bowl of mixer, still running on high. Me:
It shattered and splintered all into the mix, so I'm now waiting for nap time to start over and make (and eat!) Cookies by myself. #MeanMom
At least he did it at the beginning, not the end. I'm almost out of chocolate.
So I'm not scheduled for my GTT for another week or two but since I had GD last pregnancy I occasionally spot-check my fasting levels and my b*tchfest is that RIGHT ON SCHEDULE they are up now (after perfectly normal readings all first half of pregnancy). Thanx, haunted placenta! I'm resigned to having GD again and know how to handle it with military-level precision but it's still a bummer to have your body do things you have no control over!
Once diagnoses start rolling in in a week or two I'll kick off a weekly GD support thread!
@WinchesterGirl You are a brave soul for baking with a toddler. My 2y/o goes NO WHERE NEAR food prep because I’m a perfectionist (aka horrible mom).
@cato99 - I didn’t have GD last pregnancy but I know I’m at higher risk for it with the twins. I’m gonna be super sad if I have to give up my jelly beans. Actually, I have no idea how I’d survive b/c carbs are still the only appealing food for me this pregnancy.
My B*fest...I’m a mom so why the EFF am I in charge of planning Mother’s Day!??? My mom isn’t going to be around, so it involves coordinating with my in-laws (aka, not MY family). I took charge the last couple years, since I actually wanted things to go smoothly, plus my mom was around last year so I wanted to do stuff with her. I’ve been nagging DH to figure out timing etc. with his parents so I could make our brunch reservations, which I usually do right after Easter. DH and his family are notorious for not getting their sh*t together in a timely manner, thereby reducing the available options. Sure enough, I looked today and there are no reservations available at our regular Mother’s Day restaurant. I’m beyond pissed. I look forward to this stupid brunch all year, and now I have to figure out something else, and I’m guessing my 2nd choice place is probably completely booked too. 😡😡😡
@aecm I would be so mad too. DH and I usually celebrate on that Saturday instead of Sunday because restaurants aren't as busy and that way I get the full day vs having to share it with my ILs.
Me 31 DH 34 TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15 NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
@EmilyA724 - ohhhh I didn’t even think about checking to see if they had a Saturday brunch! I’m pretty sure the bottomless mimosas are a Mother’s Day only thing, but since I won’t be enjoying them this year I’m a bit more flexible 😜
@cato99 - 1. I can commiserate (I had GD with my second, and I am pretty certain I will have it again) and 2. "haunted placenta" made me laugh so hard I cried
Were you able to control with diet and exercise last time?
@peachy0709 yes, I was able to manage it without meds (it was kind of a borderline case to begin with; I only went over one of the 3 GTT levels and only by a couple of points) and after a few weeks of close monitoring I got discharged from the MFM with instructions only to check fasting levels a few times a week. But I know both risk and severity go up the older you are, so this time may not be as easy to control. How about you??
I have no idea why, but I could not manage my levels no matter what I did so I was on glyburide. I really hope if this happens again my body will let me tolerate meat (which is a big reason I had a really hard time managing the diet).
I ended up going home from work at 11 because I felt really off with Braxton Hicks and RLP, but DH had a really shitty day at work so guess who’s taking care of who
Me 31 DH 34 TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15 NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
Awwww @aecm, I'm so sorry I do need to remind DH to buy a mini-bottle of champagne so I can - at least - have a mimosa with whatever fresh-hell is Mother's Day breakfast. I'm not a huge breakfast person, so ... I'm really just wanting the mimosa.
A carryover BF from a previous week: so last month, I tried to get DH to step up and carry *some* of the mental load and it ended up with him making us a week behind (we normally pay a month in advance because we only get paid once a month) at daycare and we almost lost our spot for our summer pool membership (CRUCIAL in the Deep South). Today, I just bit the bullet and wrote out the check and put it by his wallet (and his phone, which I unplugged so that EVERYTHING was ALL together). Guess what was sitting on said-counter when I was walking out the door 15 min later!? WTF. So I grabbed it and am going to put it in the box at daycare when I leave to pick up DD1. Ugh. Whyyyyyyyy.
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
I’m 27 weeks and 3 days pregnant. I’m also not showing as pregnant - not even a little bit. Nothin. Nada. I've gained weight, sure. But no cute belly or bump pictures to speak of- I literally took this picture today in the dressing room.
I still have all of those glorious seven-months-pregnant symptoms (even if you can’t tell), including but not limited to: swelling, back aches, heartburn, leg cramps, bloody noses, Braxton Hicks, getting winded, and overall discomfort, just to name a few that are not too TMI. Even if I can’t name them all here, trust me, I got ‘em. All of the symptoms, none of the sympathy from kind and well meaning strangers.
Today, while waiting for my nail appointment at the mall, a lady older than me (not elderly by any means, not visibly disabled) made a snide comment about how I didn’t give my chair up for her. I’d been on my feet all day- walking my dog through downtown and walking around the mall. My feet were swollen and ached. I needed to be off of them.
I just want to put it out there: it’s okay if you are/were pregnant but nobody could tell by 8 months, or if you are pregnant and started showing at 12 weeks. It’s okay if you have a B Belly or D Belly. It’s okay if you are all stomach, or if you show everywhere including your hips/butts/thighs/face too. It’s okay if you had a petite pregnancy or plus sized pregnancy. Stretch marks are normal, or if you got away with none, that’s cool too. It’s okay if you didn’t bond with the idea of pregnancy until seven months or later, but if you felt like a mom right after a positive pregnancy test result, that’s lovely. It’s okay if you glow with happiness and love every second, or feel the insecurity of a new and adjusting body, or feel indifferent because nobody can tell the difference anyway.
I just wanted to let you know: Your feelings and symptoms are valid either way.
Sitting here stressing about planning mother's day because now MIL will be visiting (last minute change of plans) so I'm responsible now to do it all. Usually we just go to my moms and it works and is easy but my mom thinks since mil is going to be here that it needs to be on neutral ground. I get it...I'm just annoyed. DH should be doing it but he cant cook at all so we'd probably starve or be poisoned if I made him do it.
I'm sorry to all of you planning your own mother's day stuff! We don't usually do anything too crazy, but we will be out of town this year, and I'm not reminding DH. Honestly don't know if he will do anything.
PS, nap time cookies came out perfect. I may have MeanMom'ed earlier but he was very happy to wake up to these!
-cream the butter & sugars together until they are a lighter color and super fluffy. If it's less than 5 minutes minimum you're not done yet. - I only had half a bag of chocolate chips, so I chopped up a few handfuls of leftover Easter candy to make up the rest.
@EmilyA724 my back has been killing me for days. MH tells me he’ll rub my back, cook, clean and take care of the kids when he gets home from work. He comes home with a headache. Guess who is cooking cleaning and taking care of the kids + him 🙄
@flagchic Giiiiirrrllll... you can borrow some of my mega-bump and the presumptious comments that come with it 😂😂😂
- you must be due any day now! (Nope) - it must be twins! (Nope) - August?!? (Yes, that August!) - it must be a boy, boys make you bigger (third actually!)
And this doesn’t include DH’s comments.
@WinchesterGirl I’m gonna need some of those cookies... not the recipe... the actual cookies 😂😂😂.
So my MBF is how terrible my workplace has become. We had to evacuate today due to an active shooter. But then an announcement was made this afternoon (about 4 hours after evacuation) there was no actual shooter yet I had multiple coworkers say they heard shots fired. So who knows what really happened. And a few months ago there was a shooting on 3rd shift (no injuries) so clearly safety is an ongoing issue here.
Regardless of it was legitimate or not it was terrifying and not something I want to be dealing with. No one should feel unsafe at work like that and clearly my company needs to implement better safety measures. Also when we evacuated we were just expected to stand outside. I had grabbed my purse so I decided just to leave. No sense standing around to see where the shooter might be.
@newmamakt That's really awful that you've had to endure such a horrifying situation on more than one occasion.
@aecm It could be your secret 'get back at them for not having their shit together' under the guise of 'you really really wanted to go to our usual spot, right?'
People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.
How I feel all of the time. My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI Back on Levothyroxine FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt, 1st Beta on 7dpt 93 2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule. Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017 New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
@newmamakt that is terrible. I'm sorry you had to go through that scary experience yesterday.
my TBF is what ever GI bug I picked up... I spent most of the evening with time-able take your breath away pain... then just about midnight it turned into multiple bouts of diarrhea.... its a little better this morning but man it was a long night
*TW*
TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@flagchic - You look great! And my "bump" didn't even really appear (I feel) until like ... 24-ish weeks? With DD1, not a SOUL asked if I was pregnant until I was 30 weeks. And - yeah - screw that lady. Preggo or not, you were there first and had a seat. You could have a debilitating autoimmune disorder, your could have suffered a loss in the family, or any number of things ... if you did not feel up to giving up your seat to another (regardless of situation), that's your choice. I swear, between the projection of Entitlement and Snowflake'ness, these Boomers are going to be the death of me. ETA: I'm pretty sure the only reason anyone noticed my bump this time around is because I was hovering in that "fat or pregnant" purgatory for a while and just started wearing tight maternity clothes to make it more *obvious* LOL. I can still get away in most clothing without "looking" preggo, even at nearly 26 wks.
Mine's pretty small, but my TBF is DD1 had better stop with this 6a wake-up shit. I've been having issues falling back asleep if my bathroom breaks are 3-4a, meaning, I'm really only getting about 5 or 6 hours of actual sleep a night and the last 4 mornings, I hear a *slam* from her room. Granted, she *is* going over to the room DH is sleeping in because she knows coming into mine means she's either forced to lay down and go back to sleep or she's being pushed back into her room & bed. And the headache that accompanies these shortened nights is awful. Bleh.
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
So I know it's Tuesday but this is about Monday. I'm annoyed at myself for being annoyed at DH for listening to me. Hormones right? My birthday was yesterday, but we were supposed to have a date night Sunday because that's the day the scheduling worked. DH has been trying to finish the next step in his PhD program for a few months now, and every time we think he's almost done something else comes up. The deadline is approaching very fast, and last week he was telling me he's worried about it getting done. I told him that I know that he loves me and I don't need dates to prove it. He should work on his research, and we would reschedule my birthday dinner for after it was done. He also gave me my birthday gift early at my request. (He bought me a cookbook I wanted, and I asked him to give it to me early because I wanted to make something in it.) I know that he's a very straightforward, and literal man. But the whole day I kept thinking maybe he's going to surprise me with something, even if it's just takeout for dinner. Nope. He wished me Happy Birthday in the morning, and that was it. It's so stupid that I'm annoyed because he did exactly what I asked, and he surprises me with, "I saw this and thought of you" gifts fairly regularly. I shouldn't care about one day so much.
@newmamakt That is so scary! They had better be taking better precautions for the future. I guess it is better to evacuate when you don't need to, than need to and not evacuate. But still, the communication is half the battle.
I spent 5.5 hours in the ER last night and was discharged before any results came in from blood work or the ultrasound on my leg (suspected blood clot is what sent me there). I hate our ER.
I am also jealous of 6am wake ups! My alarm goes off at 430 and I am out the door at 6 for work. Even on weekends, I'm up around 5am.
@Mamak225 DD2 has been getting up between 5-5:30 and its rough... so I feel you. @mrosek91 that would make me a little sad too... no special desert or anything? @sourlemon that's crazy they discharged you without results... any word yet? hopefully its not a clot.
*TW*
TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@sourlemon oh wow that's so scary!! Given your history you'd think they'd shower you with attention and results information!
@mrosek91 that is totally understandable and will likely feel silly when you remember it in a few months, but right now it's a real frustration! And just... PhD deadline purgatory is the worst for everyone, not just the student but everyone who has to deal with them, so I know you must have the patience of a saint.
@wabash15 he did buy me cheesecake Sunday night to make up for the cancelled date. And last night he did seduce me, but let's be honest that was as much for him as for me. @cato99 thanks! it has been a long haul, he was already 2 years in when I met him, so I don't really know any other life with him, but it can get frustrating. I've learned to just triple any time estimate he gives me regarding his PhD progress.
@mrosek91 I know EXACTLY how you feel. I always tell my husband that I don't want to do anything for my birthday and this year I thought maybe he would do something nice but no, same old nothing. I can only blame myself but it would be nice for him to use his little imagination and do something. A good friend of ours took his new wife to a nice restaurant for their first anniversary and then a stay in a local hotel (tourist town, hotels are NICE). He even arranged child care (3 kids) and everything. I told my husband, you could take some lessons from J on how to surprise your wife. DH said, "You always tell me you never want to do anything and you don't like fancy restaurants". Okay bud, I didn't say copy him word for word but you could take me to the beach I've been wanting to go to, special trip, pack a picnic. Some effort LOL
No results yet and the hospital has hung up on me twice now after being on hold for half an hour (probably an automated hangup but still!). If it was bad I'd imagine they would have called me by now.
I'm almost walking normal but still feel the spot that hurts. And I just feel off.
@agpandme - Yes!! When I say "nothing," it doesn't mean literally nothing. It means don't do anything crazy. But some thought or something "a little nice" is perfectly fine.
@sourlemon - Were you able to be seen? How are you feeling this morning?
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
@MamaK225 in general the leg is pretty good today. There were a few moments yesterday that something caused a sharp pain to shoot through my leg and I actually fell down once because of it. Something isnt right. The hospital said they will release the results to my doctor (yesterday) and to me on May 21st. However I called my doctor and they said the results were "pending" still for the ultrasound and the blood work didnt even show up as ordered. I looked through my discharge paperwork and the patient portal and it says "No Labs Ordered"...so WTF did they do with the 6 vials of blood they drew?
I'm super annoyed. Probably not dying of a blood clot but just annoyed at the whole process and lack of professionalism from the local hospital. I am not delivering at that hospital this time thankfully (I did with my last kid, but a new company has bought the hospital since then and made all these stupid changes). I'll probably drive to the next city over for ER visits from now on, even though its 30 minutes away to the next small ER and 90 minutes to the fully capable one.
@sourlemon - WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT? I would be showing my bumptastic, hormonal ass up there (or over the phone, time permitting). 6 vials seems a bit extreme, but certainly unacceptable to have "no labs ordered" as the status. This makes me feel so stab-y for you.
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
Re: Monday B*fest 5/6
(Please see the AS thread for the extended version)
We put in the butter and sugar, he helps me measure. Turn the mixer on high.
Toddler: chucks clothespin on floor that was holding brown sugar closed.
Me: Please pick that up and hand it back to mama so we can put the brown sugar away.
Toddler: gets down, gets clothespin. Climbs up, chucks clothespin directly into bowl of mixer, still running on high.
Me:
It shattered and splintered all into the mix, so I'm now waiting for nap time to start over and make (and eat!) Cookies by myself. #MeanMom
At least he did it at the beginning, not the end. I'm almost out of chocolate.
my MBF... I spilled gas on my hand/pants and even washing my hands its all I can smell...
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@wabash15 The smell of gasoline when you don’t want to smell it is awful. I like t at the gas station (pre-pregnancy, at least!) but not as a perfume!
Once diagnoses start rolling in in a week or two I'll kick off a weekly GD support thread!
@cato99 - I didn’t have GD last pregnancy but I know I’m at higher risk for it with the twins. I’m gonna be super sad if I have to give up my jelly beans. Actually, I have no idea how I’d survive b/c carbs are still the only appealing food for me this pregnancy.
My B*fest...I’m a mom so why the EFF am I in charge of planning Mother’s Day!??? My mom isn’t going to be around, so it involves coordinating with my in-laws (aka, not MY family). I took charge the last couple years, since I actually wanted things to go smoothly, plus my mom was around last year so I wanted to do stuff with her. I’ve been nagging DH to figure out timing etc. with his parents so I could make our brunch reservations, which I usually do right after Easter. DH and his family are notorious for not getting their sh*t together in a timely manner, thereby reducing the available options. Sure enough, I looked today and there are no reservations available at our regular Mother’s Day restaurant. I’m beyond pissed. I look forward to this stupid brunch all year, and now I have to figure out something else, and I’m guessing my 2nd choice place is probably completely booked too. 😡😡😡
TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15
NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
Were you able to control with diet and exercise last time?
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
I have no idea why, but I could not manage my levels no matter what I did so I was on glyburide. I really hope if this happens again my body will let me tolerate meat (which is a big reason I had a really hard time managing the diet).
TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15
NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
A carryover BF from a previous week: so last month, I tried to get DH to step up and carry *some* of the mental load and it ended up with him making us a week behind (we normally pay a month in advance because we only get paid once a month) at daycare and we almost lost our spot for our summer pool membership (CRUCIAL in the Deep South). Today, I just bit the bullet and wrote out the check and put it by his wallet (and his phone, which I unplugged so that EVERYTHING was ALL together). Guess what was sitting on said-counter when I was walking out the door 15 min later!? WTF. So I grabbed it and am going to put it in the box at daycare when I leave to pick up DD1. Ugh. Whyyyyyyyy.
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
I’m 27 weeks and 3 days pregnant. I’m also not showing as pregnant - not even a little bit. Nothin. Nada. I've gained weight, sure. But no cute belly or bump pictures to speak of- I literally took this picture today in the dressing room.
I still have all of those glorious seven-months-pregnant symptoms (even if you can’t tell), including but not limited to: swelling, back aches, heartburn, leg cramps, bloody noses, Braxton Hicks, getting winded, and overall discomfort, just to name a few that are not too TMI. Even if I can’t name them all here, trust me, I got ‘em. All of the symptoms, none of the sympathy from kind and well meaning strangers.
Today, while waiting for my nail appointment at the mall, a lady older than me (not elderly by any means, not visibly disabled) made a snide comment about how I didn’t give my chair up for her. I’d been on my feet all day- walking my dog through downtown and walking around the mall. My feet were swollen and ached. I needed to be off of them.
I just want to put it out there: it’s okay if you are/were pregnant but nobody could tell by 8 months, or if you are pregnant and started showing at 12 weeks. It’s okay if you have a B Belly or D Belly. It’s okay if you are all stomach, or if you show everywhere including your hips/butts/thighs/face too. It’s okay if you had a petite pregnancy or plus sized pregnancy. Stretch marks are normal, or if you got away with none, that’s cool too. It’s okay if you didn’t bond with the idea of pregnancy until seven months or later, but if you felt like a mom right after a positive pregnancy test result, that’s lovely. It’s okay if you glow with happiness and love every second, or feel the insecurity of a new and adjusting body, or feel indifferent because nobody can tell the difference anyway.
I just wanted to let you know: Your feelings and symptoms are valid either way.
Sit in the chair if you need to.
PS, nap time cookies came out perfect. I may have MeanMom'ed earlier but he was very happy to wake up to these!
Like....I NEED it....
https://www.bettycrocker.com/recipes/ultimate-chocolate-chip-cookies/77c14e03-d8b0-4844-846d-f19304f61c57
-cream the butter & sugars together until they are a lighter color and super fluffy. If it's less than 5 minutes minimum you're not done yet.
- I only had half a bag of chocolate chips, so I chopped up a few handfuls of leftover Easter candy to make up the rest.
- you must be due any day now! (Nope)
- it must be twins! (Nope)
- August?!? (Yes, that August!)
- it must be a boy, boys make you bigger (third actually!)
And this doesn’t include DH’s comments.
@WinchesterGirl I’m gonna need some of those cookies... not the recipe... the actual cookies 😂😂😂.
Regardless of it was legitimate or not it was terrifying and not something I want to be dealing with. No one should feel unsafe at work like that and clearly my company needs to implement better safety measures. Also when we evacuated we were just expected to stand outside. I had grabbed my purse so I decided just to leave. No sense standing around to see where the shooter might be.
What a Monday 😩
@aecm It could be your secret 'get back at them for not having their shit together' under the guise of 'you really really wanted to go to our usual spot, right?'
@WinchesterGirl #clothespingate #laughedsohardisnorted
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
my TBF is what ever GI bug I picked up... I spent most of the evening with time-able take your breath away pain... then just about midnight it turned into multiple bouts of diarrhea.... its a little better this morning but man it was a long night
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Oh noooooooo @wabash15, I'm so sorry!
Mine's pretty small, but my TBF is DD1 had better stop with this 6a wake-up shit. I've been having issues falling back asleep if my bathroom breaks are 3-4a, meaning, I'm really only getting about 5 or 6 hours of actual sleep a night and the last 4 mornings, I hear a *slam* from her room. Granted, she *is* going over to the room DH is sleeping in because she knows coming into mine means she's either forced to lay down and go back to sleep or she's being pushed back into her room & bed. And the headache that accompanies these shortened nights is awful. Bleh.
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
I'm annoyed at myself for being annoyed at DH for listening to me. Hormones right?
My birthday was yesterday, but we were supposed to have a date night Sunday because that's the day the scheduling worked. DH has been trying to finish the next step in his PhD program for a few months now, and every time we think he's almost done something else comes up. The deadline is approaching very fast, and last week he was telling me he's worried about it getting done. I told him that I know that he loves me and I don't need dates to prove it. He should work on his research, and we would reschedule my birthday dinner for after it was done. He also gave me my birthday gift early at my request. (He bought me a cookbook I wanted, and I asked him to give it to me early because I wanted to make something in it.)
I know that he's a very straightforward, and literal man. But the whole day I kept thinking maybe he's going to surprise me with something, even if it's just takeout for dinner. Nope. He wished me Happy Birthday in the morning, and that was it.
It's so stupid that I'm annoyed because he did exactly what I asked, and he surprises me with, "I saw this and thought of you" gifts fairly regularly. I shouldn't care about one day so much.
@MamaK225 Early wake ups are satan. That is all.
@mrosek91 that would make me a little sad too... no special desert or anything?
@sourlemon that's crazy they discharged you without results... any word yet? hopefully its not a clot.
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@mrosek91 that is totally understandable and will likely feel silly when you remember it in a few months, but right now it's a real frustration! And just... PhD deadline purgatory is the worst for everyone, not just the student but everyone who has to deal with them, so I know you must have the patience of a saint.
@cato99 thanks! it has been a long haul, he was already 2 years in when I met him, so I don't really know any other life with him, but it can get frustrating. I've learned to just triple any time estimate he gives me regarding his PhD progress.
I'm almost walking normal but still feel the spot that hurts. And I just feel off.
@sourlemon - Were you able to be seen? How are you feeling this morning?
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
I'm super annoyed. Probably not dying of a blood clot but just annoyed at the whole process and lack of professionalism from the local hospital. I am not delivering at that hospital this time thankfully (I did with my last kid, but a new company has bought the hospital since then and made all these stupid changes). I'll probably drive to the next city over for ER visits from now on, even though its 30 minutes away to the next small ER and 90 minutes to the fully capable one.
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)