It wasn’t until my ultra-evangelical workmate mentioned Easter that I learned this weekend was Easter. Oops.. (we don’t celebrate the religious aspect. The bunny brings book baskets)
I also LOVE the guess how many candies are on the jar type games. I am pretty good at it, and I love winning candy!!
This I think is a great idea because you don't necessary have to be actively engaged, like you can take a guess at any point. We didn't do alot of games at my shower but we did want people to have opportunities to win stuff so we did Bingo, while I opened presents (we thought that might make it less boring haha) We did do the diaper raffle, and we picked like 2 or 3 winners. We also did the gender reveal and whoever got the special cupcake won a gift. And I think we played a small game during lunch....I think...I don't' remember ha!
I just remember I did not want it to be 4 hours long because were worried about a stupid game. One of my friends showers was like this and it was sooo boring.
I think baby shower games can be fun. Though there are certainly many lame ones. It’s all about knowing your audience and picking the right games. I threw a shower in December for a good friend where all guests were friends only (no grandmas or kiddos) and we played a game called “Labor or Porn” and it was hilarious!!
Confession: I don’t know if it’s hormones or what but I’ve begun to smell soooo bad when I workout. Nothing else has changed except being pregnant. I wear moisture wicking workout clothing and wear underarmour underwear specifically made for working out. But when I get home now my husband makes me put my clothes immediately in the washer because they are so stinky. It’s super embarrassing but I’m not going to quit working out.
@quidditchcapn1120 yes!! It is reminding me of after I gave birth I swear I had this “funk” about me, MH actually swore he couldn’t smell it but it was right after a shower I could smell myself and it just didn’t go away for the first 1-2 months post partum, and I feel like it is back 😑 not amused!
@theglitteredpterodactyl Thank you for your response. I am so sorry that you feel alienated and ostracized. I am always learning more and trying to be better, but I apologize for the part that I have played in this. Please know that you have not burned bridges and that if you want to continue to participate in any capacity I will be here for you.
TTC History
Me: 38 DH: 52
Started trying June 2018
BFP Jan 2019 DD born October 2019
TTC July 2021 BFP, ended in MMC August 2021
TTC October 2021
BFP January 2022
MMC March 2022
Beginning May 2022 under the supervision of an RE - Benched while undergoing testing
Games of any kind are always fun. Once we get closer to baby shower times we should start a thread about them because at this point I'm thinking I'll just show up at an IHOP, eat pancakes, and ask strangers for diaper money.
This is me playing any and every game ever. Even if you don't know that we are playing.
TTC History
Me: 38 DH: 52
Started trying June 2018
BFP Jan 2019 DD born October 2019
TTC July 2021 BFP, ended in MMC August 2021
TTC October 2021
BFP January 2022
MMC March 2022
Beginning May 2022 under the supervision of an RE - Benched while undergoing testing
Confession: I'm nervous about becoming a mom. I know I can do it, and I know I'll be good at it, but I keep going back and forth on if this was the best move for us. I think this is normal, and I think it's my depression trying to lie to me, but there it is. 🤷
FWIW, my husband is completely supportive of me and knows how I'm feeling. He's been very reassuring and comforting, which is a total blessing.
@meagan-t So so normal. You’re leaping into a huge unknown that will change your life forever - of course you’re nervous. I love DD like crazy and I’ve seen that the other side of this is totally worth it, and I’ve still had days where I’ve wondered why we didn’t just decide to be one and done, or worried that we’re ruining our lives (those are usually the days when I’m feeling extra sick). I’m glad your husband is supportive.
@meagan-t totally normal. I feel similarly about having another. I had that feeling with both boys, too. It does eventually subside, though sometimes, it’s way later than you’d think (try 2 weeks post birth DS2 in my case)
Today is one of those days and nights where I feel like a completely inadequate mother. 😪 I thank my MIL for these feelings (they’re visiting this weekend. Send help)
Ok, UO time. I fully expect this to be a truly UO:
I don't like when baby showers have a diaper raffle or request a book in place of a card. I'm kind of old school with my shower etiquette, and I find it awkward that you are basically asking for multiple gifts. No matter how many people argue that books are "just as cheap as a card," that's just not true. Some people make a free card by folding over a piece of wrapping paper and writing on it, or just writing on the tag that comes on the gift bag. If someone wants to gift you with books, they will. If someone wants to gift you with diapers, they will. And if you want books and diapers.... register for them! That way you'd be more likely to get the ones you want, and less likely to receive repeats. Asking for them separately on the invitation comes across as extra gift grabby to me, especially considering you are inviting guests to an event already focused on gift-giving.
@cmbt2, I'm totally with you on the princess point. I frequently call my (female) dog "princess" as a nickname (mainly as a joke to how spoiled she is), and I've already talked with my husband about how I specifically do NOT want to call our daughter that. Our daughter does not need saving from any prince! LOL
I once had this train of thought and then I had two girls. 😂 Princess exposure becomes kind of unavoidable at a certain age, but the good news is that there are a ton of badass lead female characters nowadays - Merida from Brave, Moana, etc. The movies from my childhood are SO cringe-y.
I expose my girls to everything but it can be really hard when they get residual exposure to things I don’t love from friends, family members, etc.
@theglitteredpterodactyl I’m sorry that you feel singled out and are hurt by the opinions that were voiced here. I strongly agree that the debate is privileged. I hope you return!
@cmbt2 I'm sorry MIL is making you feel so lousy. Can we at least hope this is the last time you have to see her until after baby is born? Good luck coping and feel free to vent!
Me: 41 / Fiance: 35 + One DS, one dog & two kitties...
First BFP: 1/17/16 = EDD 9/21/16 (MMC)
Second BFP: 6/24/16 (CP)
Third BFP: 2/7/17 = EDD 10/20/17 🌈 *** BORN 10/23 *** 🌈
Ok, UO time. I fully expect this to be a truly UO:
I don't like when baby showers have a diaper raffle or request a book in place of a card. I'm kind of old school with my shower etiquette, and I find it awkward that you are basically asking for multiple gifts. No matter how many people argue that books are "just as cheap as a card," that's just not true. Some people make a free card by folding over a piece of wrapping paper and writing on it, or just writing on the tag that comes on the gift bag. If someone wants to gift you with books, they will. If someone wants to gift you with diapers, they will. And if you want books and diapers.... register for them! That way you'd be more likely to get the ones you want, and less likely to receive repeats. Asking for them separately on the invitation comes across as extra gift grabby to me, especially considering you are inviting guests to an event already focused on gift-giving.
I had a diaper raffle and it was great! Everyone that brought a box or bag, got a ticket and I think a lot of people were anxious to “win”. I made sure that the gift basket I bought was worth a box of diapers and even more. Diapers are also expensive. Not everyone participated and the people who did, didn’t buy the same kind either and that was good. It allowed me to figure out what brand works best for our son.
Since this is our second child, and we have absolutely everything for her already, I plan on just doing a “Diaper Party”.
I’m not gonna lie, I never heard of the books instead of cards. I think that’s a wonderful idea. My son LOVES books and being read to. He’s 14 months and will sit down for 30-40min just having me read to him. I agree with the 1 Year cards and +, but cards just sit in a box or a photo album. They don’t get use like books do.
DSs baby shower we did gift bingo, and a word scramble and guess the candy. I made up 3 prize baskets and gave the candy jar away(igot a giant plastic bottle at the dollar store and filled it up for the candy!) My DS had 3 showers, a small one at the library I worked in, my families and my ILs after he was born. ILs we didn't play games, just cooked out and kicked a ball around the yard and the kids swam in the pool a bit. DD didn't get a shower and neither will this one. My mom wanted to but I pretty much planned DSs even though she was supposed to and I don't wanna deal with that again. We did the optional book offer, but alot of my friends and family don't waste money on cards anyways, so we were good. I did ask for cards at DS first bday cause I made a big scrapbook for him and have them glue in there too. Same for DD. But just the 1sts. After that, nah no thanks!
Re: UO & FFFC 4/19
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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Me 39 - DH 41
Married 8/26/07
TTGP #1 Jan '15 -
BFP 9/11/15 - DS born 5/31/16
TTGP #2 July '17 -
CP July '17
Blighted Ovum MC Dec '17
CP June '18
BFP 1/30/19 - EDD 10/13/19
This is me playing any and every game ever. Even if you don't know that we are playing.
FWIW, my husband is completely supportive of me and knows how I'm feeling. He's been very reassuring and comforting, which is a total blessing.
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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I expose my girls to everything but it can be really hard when they get residual exposure to things I don’t love from friends, family members, etc.
Since this is our second child, and we have absolutely everything for her already, I plan on just doing a “Diaper Party”.
I’m not gonna lie, I never heard of the books instead of cards. I think that’s a wonderful idea. My son LOVES books and being read to. He’s 14 months and will sit down for 30-40min just having me read to him. I agree with the 1 Year cards and +, but cards just sit in a box or a photo album. They don’t get use like books do.