Me: 34 DH: 35 | Together since 2007 | Married July 2016
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22
| biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX to maintain pregnancy
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins in 2023
Consultation with RI | TBD
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22
| biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX to maintain pregnancyDS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins in 2023
Consultation with RI | TBD
Re: TWW Thursday 4/11
CD/DPO: 25/10
Timing: great
Typical LP length: 15 days
Testing: maybe tomorrow
R/R: stomach virus is back, for dh and I. This is ridiculous, but I know it’s been happening to other people like this.
CS/Q:
Still fevered, or the most triphasic chart ever?
CD/DPO: 24/9
Timing: good
Typical LP length: 12-14
Testing: so I’ve decided on drink till it’s pink cause I’ll be in Cancun for a bachelorette weekend getaway the next few days. BFN today.
R/R: cancun!!!!!! Sorry if I’m not tagging as much this weekend!
CS/Q:
another temp spike this morning. FX
CD/DPO: 23/7 (or 9)
Timing: Good
Typical LP length: 12-13
Testing: not sure
R/R: I changed my chart to FAM and it changed my O date. After analyzing all my other charts, I tend to agree because I have always had a pretty clear shift.
CS/Q:
CD/DPO: 25/14?
Timing: -5, -4, -3, 0 (x2), 2, 3 {Probably not spot on as I don't do any ovulation testing and I'm just basing this on cervical mucus consistency.}
Typical LP length: no idea
Testing: Tested this morning. BFN
R/R: Feeling like an emotional wreck today. I woke up at 3 am from a nightmare that I got a BFN. To make things worse (in the dream), there was someone there telling me that I was worthless and useless and that I would never conceive. I was planning on early testing this morning, so I did just that when I woke up. My dream came true with a BFN, and I've felt like complete crap since then. I've been crying buckets. I think my hubby might have to change his shirt.
Now I'm pretty much just waiting for AF, which I'm expecting by the end of the weekend.
Dating Anniversary: 1999. Marriage Anniversary: 2001.
TTC #1 since 3/2019
@holly321 noooo! Time to bleach your house!
@flowntheloop so sorry about your dream and how it left you feeling today. TTC is such a mindf$&!. Do a little something for yourself today. You deserve it.
Month/Cycle: 29/2 AL
CD/DPO: 23/9
Timing: good according to ff
Typical LP length: 13/14
Testing: bfn
R/R: Not feeling it today. Really on the fence about starting clomid next cycle or throwing in the towel all together. We are inching our way closer
to 3 years of trying and idk how much more I can go. I’m just so tired.
CS/Q: progesterone does wonders for charts 🙄
@madcouplewithabox - I'm going to disagree with FF on your O day, and say that you are only 6dpo. So maybe bring some test to Cancun. Have an amazing trip!
@flowntheloop - I'm sorry for your dream and the BFN. After every BFN/AF, I tried to give myself a little break and do something that makes me feel better and not worthless or broken. Just remember only 30% of couples get lucky their first try, but 60% in the first 3 months!
@kbrown2385 - I'm so sorry that you are feeling discouraged and ready to give up. Just know that if you do make the decision to move on, that it's best for you and your family. If you make the decision to keep trying, it's also best for you and your family. Do what's right for you, and don't worry about anyone else's perceptions of you.
Hi all! Still here. AF is late by my calculations, but supposed to start today according to FF predictions. But, can't complain because I didn't track, lol. I got fooled by an evap yesterday and tested again super excited. I should know better than to get my hopes up by an evap, but hope is a crazy thing.
I still haven't decided what I want to do next cycle. One day I want to just stop everything, all the tracking and meds, and just let whatever happen. The next day I'm all about selling my car so we can have money for an RE. Obviously, I'm probably going to settle on a middle ground and get the SA for DH and CD3/7dpo workup for me.
I might venture into the IF thread to ask this, but a GP can do an SA for DH right?
@flowntheloop sorry about your BFN...sending love and positivity. Buy yourself something nice, maybe some ChickFilA??? ;-) I've been having crazy dreams as well that are so realistic I wake up and wonder what I've done or said and then I remember it wasn't real..lol.
@holly321 Feel better girl!!!
@madcouplewithabox So jealous of you being in Cancun! Just have fun, have a margarita for us all.
Month/Cycle: 1/1
CD/DPO: 26/ not really sure....maybe 9 or 10
Timing: I think we did pretty good
Typical LP length: 14/15? Still trying to gauge this
Testing: still really killing me to not test but that's because I'm alone all day thinking about it, but our relatives are coming and it will take my mind off of it, and allow me to wait until AF comes or doesn't come.
R/R: So excited to start Chelsea Handler's new book, heard such great things and I ordered it on Audible (which is now included with Amazon Prime?!). Also excited for our visitors and to eat so much pasta tomorrow night for Bday celebrations!
CD/DPO: 20/1 dpo (that's what I'm going with)
Timing: eh. -5, -2, -1 I think
Typical LP length: 13-14
Testing: nope
R/R: going on a date with SO to some dance/theater thing tonight so that's nice...
CS/Q: nope
@marebear15 Thank you so much. Those statistics really do make me more hopeful
@ktmaesim Thanks so much. I've been having crazy vivid dreams since I began TTC as well. I feel like my brain has been rewired!
@whitealbum29 Thank you for your kind words. *hugs back* And ohhhh! A date night sounds awesome! have fun!
Dating Anniversary: 1999. Marriage Anniversary: 2001.
TTC #1 since 3/2019
When AF comes, I usually give myself the day off of my "clean eating" and eat some carbs and chocolate, go browse Target and let myself buy a trinket that I don't really need, and do some yoga. Also, just allowing myself to cry and be angry at the world/pregnant people, instead of always telling myself to suck it up, move on, and that it could be worse.
I allow myself to have a day or two in that dark hole before I pull myself out of it. It's dangerous to stay in that mind frame for more than that amount of time for me.
@whitealbum29 - Have fun on your date with SO!
@madcouplewithabox Have fun in Cancun!
@kerco925 I am no expert but I would say the chart looks right to me w/ the O there!
@flowntheloop Sorry for the bfn & terrible nightmare =(
@marebear15 Sorry for the bfn & mixed feelings ttc.
@kbrown2385 I hope that book (cross-commenting!) helps you with decisions moving forward since you are uncertain? I found it encouraging, and informative. Sorry for the bfn.
Month/Cycle: 7/2AL
CD/DPO: 27/14
Timing: -2?
Typical LP length:
Testing: WFAF
R/R: A few rants: Been cramping like crazy I'm like "on with it!" This play my dissertation director is directing tomorrow night that I didn't know you had to get tickets for is SOLD OUT. And, I don't fit into one of my favorite teaching skirts as of this morning. =**( IDK what happened! I haven't gained any weight? I guess weight just... shifted. #old. / Rave: I am up earlier than usual today!
CS/Q: (ETA: spoiler for chart)
@madcouplewithabox Enjoy your bachelorette getaway! Sorry about the BFN.
@kerco925 I forgot to tinker with the FAM detector!
@flowntheloop So sorry you've been emotional and the BFN.
@kbrown2385 So sorry about all the feelings today
@marebear15 Totally agree about the hope thing! Sorry the decision is so tough! I think a GP has to refer a urologist for the SA?
@ktmaesim It's so weird tagging you because we have been texting all morning
@whitealbum29 Enjoy your date with YH!!!
@kagesstarshroom So sorry about the cramping. Hope you can enjoy your day!!!
Month/Cycle: 8/8
CD/DPO: 27/12
Timing: Not good enough!
Typical LP length: 9-15ish?
Testing: Not anymore.
PSA: Debbie downer below!
R/R: Just a rant because I'm salty and AF is looming LOL. A girl at work is testing my patience. I have literally in an email step-by-step told her how to do something and instead of following what I asked - she decided to send me random emails and not even take care of the situation for the last two days. I kept responding with "Please follow the process I gave you". So today she asked me the status of an account and I was like "....". Meanwhile she's like doing some kind of art project at her desk and I'm like "is this real life"? LOL. Glad I'm not her supervisor because I would've given three warnings and got rid of her by now.
CS/Q: Temp drop today below the coverline. Womp womp. Might do some retail therapy because I'm so bitter about moving to my 9th cycle. Talked to DH about getting set up for SA and he kind of pushed it off saying he wants to wait until October because that's when we will hopefully be in our new home??? I need to hardcore research RE's and it's just giving me the worst anxiety. GAH!
Diagnosed with PCOS & Hashimoto's
CD/DPO: 28/14
Timing: good but not good enough
Typical LP length: 14
Testing: BFN on CD12
R/R: rave rave rave- out of town at a pretty chill work conference through tomorrow. Had no morning responsibilities so relaxing and got a massage. At the pool now before afternoon responsibilities. Cannot. Complain. Rant - work emailing me about last minute meetings (at home) that I obviously cannot be at.
CS/Q: noting to see because I stopped temping. Progesterone levels confirmed ovulation (corresponding to OPKs and Bbt) so that’s at least good. AF expected this evening tomorrow.
Diagnosed with PCOS & Hashimoto's
@flowntheloop sorry for the bfn
@kbrown2385 at this point I want to burn the house down. I am sorry for how you are feeling. We said until September we would keep trying, but honestly, I sometimes just want to give up.
@marebear15 sorry for the evap getting your hopes up.
CD/DPO: 26/9
Timing: Excellent
Typical LP length: 13-15 days
Testing: BFN with 3rd morning urine
R/R:Working from home today due to the snow storm we got.
CS/Q: Nice increase but I compared my current chart with previous ones and nothing out of the ordinary
10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml)
11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged
1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele
4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery
6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020
7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
TTC #2
9/07/2021: BFP - CP: 9/10/2021
10/07/2021: BFP - CP: 10/23/2021
12/23/2021: BFP! EDD: 08/31/2022
@madcouplewithabox a bachelorette in Cancun?! Sound FANTASTIC! I am jealous.
@kerco925 I agree too. It's clear your O day is CD16.
@flowntheloop sorry about the BFN.
@kbrown2385 sorry about the BFN. YOu have a lot of courage.
@marebear15 yes, a GP can order a SA. This is exactly what we did with my H. He gave my H a sterile cup and the address of a clinic where to drop it. Same for all the testing for you (CD3, ultrasound, HSG...). Your OB can order them.
@brookert615 Same thing, no need to go to a RE to get a SA. Your H should go to his GP and ask for one. If his SA is bad, you'll have to wait a few weeks and do another one. If the 2nd one is bad again, then his GP might refer him to a urologist to investigate further. It can take a while.
10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml)
11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged
1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele
4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery
6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020
7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
TTC #2
9/07/2021: BFP - CP: 9/10/2021
10/07/2021: BFP - CP: 10/23/2021
12/23/2021: BFP! EDD: 08/31/2022
@holly321 I haven’t really talked to dh about it but I think I’m willing to give it to the end of the year. I really hope this is the last of the stomach bug for you guys.
@lcking82 glad you’re having such a nice work trip!
@brookert615 I can’t stand working with people like that!
@kagesstarshroom I’ve definitely been enjoying that book. Idk if it will really help make the decision. I just need to get out of my own head. It’s hard being at this point with absolutely nothing to show for it. I haven’t talked to dh yet, but I think I’ll give it to the end of the year and be done.
@ktmaesim I haven’t seen audible is included with prime! I’ll have to check it out!
@marebear15 sorry for the evap. Unfortunately it’s me coming to that decision by myself. DH is happy with where we are now and would be completely content with stopping.
@whitealbum29 enjoy your date night!