Weekly Randoms 4/1

moon1417

I've been sick all weekend! What are your random thoughts for today?

thirdtimesacharm2019

Does anybody else feel like pregnancy is a roller coaster? Like, you are standing in line (TTC) and you cannot wait - you’re totally pumped!!! Then you start up the big incline and your stomach feels a little woozy, but you convince yourself “this is fun, this is a great idea!” Next, you get near the top of the big hill (me currently)... and you’re like “oh s#it, oh s#it, what am I doing?!?” 

I’m slightly over being pregnant today, hip pain is getting bad... very few clothes fit.... then I realized I’m only going to get biggggger and it’s going to get hottttter 😒. 

Can’t wait to meet my newest little dude!

wabash15

@thirdtimesacharm2019 it definitely is a roller coaster. such joy at the end but also feelings of what did I do to myself. Get some comfy maternity cloths, it will help with the outlook

@moon1417 I hope you feel better soon. 

we had a shift in work time schedule today and it's going to mess with me all day... well probably all week till I get used to the new "normal"

mkrel

@moon1417 I hope you're starting to feel better!
@thirdtimesacharm2019 Perfect analogy! 

My husband and I are taking a weekend trip to celebrate my birthday/babymoon on Friday.  It's the first time I'm going to be leaving my daughter overnight, and I'm getting so much anxiety about it.  I know she'll be totally fine and have fun with Grandma and Grandpa, but I can't help the feeling of guilt and worry.  Also, if someone told me before I had kids that it would be almost 22 months before I'd feel comfortable leaving my daughter for a weekend I would have laughed at them.  It's crazy what being a parent does to you, in a good way though.

mrosek91

@mkrel DH and I are taking a trip in June, part work/part babymoon, and my mom will watch the boys. She's been coming down for a weekend every month or so, so they will get used to her (we video call every week, but it's not the same.) and DS#2 is still wary of her, he prefers my dad, but he can't get a week off of work. I am so nervous....

lilmamabebe3

Yes pregnancy is a total roller coaster!! I am in the phase of excitement. I really struggled with the idea of having a girl but after our anatomy scan went well and I feel her little baby body moving all around in there, I really think we'll be okay. My relationship with my mom was so terrible. I have a lot of empathy for her now that I am a mom, but she was still a terrible mom. Her parenting was like being stuck in a job that doesn't suit your skillset--you still need to show up but you are not good at it. Therapy is helping, prepping for this little lady is helping, and knowing she will be named after my grandma is also helping. 

It's definitely challenging though. The boys were animals this weekend and my husband was so grumpy that by last night he and I were like how the fuck are we going to manage three of them? I know we will, but man. It's hard enough with two. I feel like that comedian who said having a fourth is like you're drowning and someone says, 'Here's a baby,' ha! Sorry, I have very random thoughts this morning.

WinchesterGirl

@thirdtimesacharm2019 Yes, 100%!

@moon1417 Feel better!

@mkrel My DS is 2 and we've never left him for a night. Other than a practice sleepover or two with his grandma before this LO is born, I have no plans to leave him overnight. 

mkrel

@WinchesterGirl I'm glad I'm not the only one.  I am one of the few in my daughter's BMB that hasn't been away overnight so it makes me feel like I'm overly anxious for nothing.  I just love that little babe so much and just don't have much desire to leave her, although I know it will be nice having some one on one time with my husband.  
@mrosek91 That is great that she's able to come once a month so they are used to her.  I'm sure they'll be just fine and enjoy getting spoiled by Grandma!

peachy0709

We found out this weekend that DD1 got into the program we wanted for her for Kindergarten!!! We're really excited. 

Avrilmai

@peachy0709 congrats! that is awesome and must be such a relief. 

wabash15

@mkrel I wasn't away from the twins until DD2 was born.....they were almost 3...

WinchesterGirl

@mkrel All of us and our LOs are different. There is no right or wrong answer! Some of the ladies on my first BMB went on trips without their LOs when they were only a few months and loved it. But, that would be stressful for me! So we haven't. 

thirdtimesacharm2019

DS1 stayed with my parents a good bit, and from pretty early (maybe a few months?). But my mom passed when I was pregnant with DS2, and my dad doesn’t “do” babies, so we didn’t have a night without DS2 until he was like 3 or 4 (and it’s probably been less than 10 nights total - he’s almost 7). It will be the same with this baby, but we knew that going in. It’s super special when we get a night to ourselves. Honestly, before the baby comes there isn’t much difference after the kids go to bed and I’m too exhausted to stay up late or do anything fun! I would love to take a vacation just DH and I, but we can only afford one per year, so it would be rude to not take the kids, lol. 

sourlemon

My wedding anniversary is this Saturday. Instead of buying each other stuff we dont need and going out to a nice dinner, we bought a projector and outdoor screen so we can watch movies with the kids in the backyard this summer.

purplg8r

@thirdtimesacharm2019 yes!  And don’t forget the ups and downs of all the worrying, especially early on!


Today at work, the front office brought me a balloon, a vase of flowers, and a card. It was from somebody I used to work with at Disney  years ago who now has a son in kindergarten at our school. She just gave me all that to congratulate me on getting pregnant because she knew it was such an exciting time. I felt like a little kid. It was such a nice surprise and totally made my day.

Allycat11

I always thought I would not have a problem leaving my kids but I did. DD was 3 years 3 months when I first left her for 1 night and that was when DS was born.  When DS was 15 months I went on a 5 night work hard play hard trip. Next May I am heading to Jamaica for a work/play trip so I will have to leave this one earlier than I want to. Part of the reason I don't leave them often is due to lack of family support, we struggle enough with getting help for appointments, date nights, and sanity breaks. 

jmesue1030

@sourlemon What a great idea!! 

olivemomma

We have done a few big trips without kids. The first was for 2 weeks when DD was about 18 months old. It took a lot of convincing on my husbands part that a trip away would be good for me and I had a lot of anxiety leading up to it but she did great and it was one of the best times of my life (we came back pregnant with DS!). We have since done a few more international trips without kids - New Zealand I had a little more anxiety just because I knew I couldn’t get back easily in an emergency, but all was always fine. It may be a little longer after this one though, I don’t think my in laws can handle 3 kids for a long period of time. FaceTime makes the traveling easier!

suzycupcake

@moon1417 Hope you feel better quickly. 

My facial expressions need to learn how to use their inside voice. 

mrosek91

So last night DH told me that he bought me a gift, and it's coming on Wednesday. He refuses to tell me what it is, but says that he's going to set it up and see if I noticed. I think it's so sweet that he still buys me, "just because I saw this and thought of you" gifts, but I am not a patient woman, and the suspense is driving me crazy. I must resist the urge to log into his Amazon, and see if he got it through there...
In other news, I finally let it slip that I have his birthday gift, but I still managed to keep what it is a secret... Now I just need to make it to Sunday. We're doing a birthday lunch, because that's when his mom could take the boys.

emqbee

I’m trying to get caught up on TB after being out of state visiting my sister, so much fun!

 I do have a random question. I’m looking into taking myself and husband for a massage for our anniversary this weekend and I was wondering about how necessary the table with the cutout is at this point. I don’t have a big belly, and can still lay flat on our bed, I just usually don’t...I want to have my shoulders and neck worked on more than anything, is there anything wrong with going to a normal massage place and just letting them know I’ll need to prop myself a tad to be comfortable? And yes, I feel like I’m making this more complicated in my head than it has to be...

peachy0709

@emqbee - I have never had a pregnancy massage with a cutout table.  They usually just have you lay on your side and rotate to the other side at this point in pregnancy. 

EmilyA724

@emqbee when I went for my last pregnancy, they just gave me a pillow so I could lay on my side with my belly resting on it

emqbee

thanks ladies! I figured the cutout table was a little extreme at this point, just needed a little validation

agpandme

@sourlemon I love practical gifts like that! They just keep giving. 

 Our 10 year anniversary was 4/1.  We really tend to not do big things or even go out to dinner. I'm not sure why. I know I don't like planning things or celebrations centered around myself.  I really struggle with the baby shower idea.  We definitely adore each other but find happiness in small day to day things, I suppose.   We did go out on sunday and buy a new rose plant. He gave me a "rose in a bag" with a bag of soil and a pot for our first V day 9 years ago. It was literally 2 dead sticks in a bag. I've since tortured it but its hanging in there and now that I know they hate pots, I'm going to put it in the ground.  Anyway, we bought another one to torture for our 10 year.  They are the only 2 rose plants I have so its significant and enjoyable every year.  From my mama, I developed a great dislike for dead flower bouquets so I always prefer live plants.  Having a live rose to give me flowers every year is perfect.  I'm rambling.  This new rose plant is Orange, the first plant is classic red.  

My husband also constructed a really nice step for me to get into bed more comfortably.  I've always had to CLIMB into our big bed so I will be using this even after the baby comes LOL.  Its about 18 inches by 4 feet long so I can't miss it in the dark of night.  It makes it a breeze getting into bed because when I'm on it, I'm almost as tall as DH    Its made out of lumber that was milled from redwood trees we cleared on our property so its a quality piece.  

emqbee

It’s interesting to read everyone’s experiences of  traveling without babies for the first and subsequent times...or not traveling. I like to entertain the idea that Baby Bee will be comfortable enough to stay at my parents for husband and I to have getaways. As of now it’s important to me for to ensure we get that quality time together, and also get to pursue our travel dreams. At the same time. I know when baby is here, the struggle is going to be very very real. I know me, and as hard of a time as I’ve had leaving puppies behind with family, I can’t imagine when it’s actually my kid!

@agpandme I love the rose idea! I think you just ‘planted a seed’ so to speak about future traditions! I love plants, but it’s never occurred to me to buy one together and plant it for different special occasions. I love it!

Edited because I tagged the wrong person. Palm to face ...... 🤦‍♀️

sourlemon

I travel for work a lot and the first time I left DD1 for a work trip I cried on the plane. I felt so bad until I got to the hotel room and checked in. I fell asleep at 7pm and slept all night! It was amazing. She was 6 months old.

With DD2, I felt a bit of guilt when I had my first work trip pop up...but no guilt sleeping for 14 hours straight that night! She was 8 months old.

I felt really guilty over the last 18 months because between DH and my travel schedule, at least one parent was gone 50% of the time. There were even 2 weeks that we overlapped and the kids stayed with my mom. It was too much travel and the kids definitely suffered. Luckily I'm not traveling while pregnant (my doctor said they'd write a note whenever I wanted/needed one) due to the temporary rotation I am on. DH also managed to get his travel reduced so he's only gone 25%. Just in the 3 months with less travel, we've seen a lot of behavioral improvements with the kids.

agpandme

I don't know how y'all leave your human babies. I have 3 dogs and one goes everywhere possible with me. I have left him behind for a few trips but always with DH.  DH and I have left him behind with my parents once for a weekend and it was awful  I would have taken him in a heart beat but the hotel wasn't dog friendly.  Hes 10 years old LOL

goldfishcraker

Is it too early to go to bed for the night? 😴😴😴

(It's not even 7 pm yet 😂)

goldfishcraker

Is it too early to go to bed for the night? 😴😴😴

(It's not even 7 pm yet 😂)

jmesue1030

I had my 20 week appointment this morning and am currently waiting for my anatomy scan... my husband is meeting me here for the AS because he needed to get my son up and off to daycare this morning. Of course he just called and told me he’s running late and sitting in traffic on the highway... I’m annoyed that he didn’t budget more time to ensure he would get here in time... he’s currently running at least 10 minutes late but sounds like it might be longer due to an accident 

wabash15

@chillycanadian never to early to go to the bed for the night!

EmilyA724

@jmesue1030 Hope he got there!

ElcaB

@thirdtimesacharm2019 the biggest roller coast over here are my hormones. EEK! 

@emqbee the cutout table is totally not necessary. You'll just lie on your back for a short time (or until you're uncomfortable) and the rest is done on your sides. They should have either a bolster or body pillow to help support you. 

@agpandme trust me, you will get used to it. 

bluebonnet15

@emqbee My massage place offers the cutout pillow, and I like it. Seems more comfortable than laying on my side and I feel like it helps her get deeper in my back. I don’t have anything to compare it to, though. 

It it finally happened. I peed on myself a little when I sneezed last night. MH could not stop laughing. I think the main problem was that I was sitting on the couch with my feet also on the couch (so bladder was more compressed). 

jmesue1030

@EmilyA724 thanks! He made it! Just a couple minutes late. I think he learned his lesson too 😁

Allycat11

@jmesue1030 so glad he made it! That would have stressed me out. 

Allycat11

@heml peeing yourself is no fun at all. I was fine with my first baby, pretty good with my second, but this one has been a struggle. I had a never ending cold and the coughing and sneezing fits regularly resulted in peeing myself. 

agpandme

@jmesue1030 I'm glad he made it!!  My husband was a little late but it was okay.  They didn't pull me back until 10 minutes after my scheduled appointment (My bladder hurt so badly!).  But they also didn't allow him back there until after the measurements were taken.  The tech wanted to get it done without distractions lol. I just laid there and took a nap in the dim room. Then about 20 minutes later he came back and we took another 30 minutes looking at the baby.  

grangerhp37

A male coworker said to me (jokingly?) “I don’t know what diet you’re on but I don’t think it’s working!” since I’m pretty obviously showing now. 

I’m not particularly self conscious and am generally pretty thin so I know he meant it as a joke, but come on dude you don’t say that to pregnant women (or anyone)!

WinchesterGirl

@dogmomma096 Well that was not an ok comment for him to make. That was pretty douchey.