Facebook?

mamahmh2

A lot of other BMB’s are talking about moving to Facebook when the time comes. I’m not an avid FB user, but I would be interested in keeping in touch with you mamas and our July bebes. 

Would anyone else be interested? If so, how would we like to go about a screening process for safety? Open for discussion as I did not move to a FB group with my last BMB so the process would be new to me. 

Cbeanz

I'm not on FB so if you all move I'll be sadz.

nopegoat

So my other BMBs first created a private group on here first then moved to FB after getting to know each other a little more intimately after weeding out the random lurkers. You were voted into the group solely based on if you were an active poster or not. That's worked rather well. 

mamahmh2

@Cbeanz from what I’ve read some have left early! But I like this format until after babies are born... would you still be active on this board after your bub is born? And I’m not on FB “officially” but I have a “pseudo” account with no friends that I use to shop on FB marketplace 😂 and would use for this group. Would you consider something like that?

@nopegoat yes I’ve seen a fair amount of that! But without established group admins, who would be responsible for the “voting in”? Just the regular posters?

Cbeanz

My first 2 BMBs were active here for over a year after the babies were born! My 3rd slowed down after the babies were a few months old.

I personally avoid FB but if you guys decide to move I understand. I just want to see the babies at least.

mamanbebe

I'm with @cbeanz -- I'm also not on FB and will be bummed if everyone moves over. 

nopegoat

@mamahmh2 on my other groups a team of 3-4  people started the private group on TB and added the most active posters, names that you recognize immediately and have been there since the beginning. Once those have been added then the voting starts on the less active posters. 

cindler

+1 to not on FB. I went inactive a few years ago and it has been wonderful!

I would maybe consider a pseudo profile like @mamahmh2 suggested. 

jenniferjoy37

With my Feb18 BMB group, we went to FB shortly after the first child was born (around the end of December.) I LOVE my Feb18 mama’s on FB. We had a weeding out process too, people had to be voted in. We never did a PG though on here. But I’m down to go to FB once we all get to know each other better and maybe when the kids start coming! 

nerdtoyourmother

My last BMB for sure died after the majority of the active users went to FB, and this basically happened as soon as babies were born.

I think a motivated individual created a poll of the MOST active users and we all voted (here) on a handful of admins for the FB forum. Those 5 (or 7?) women were responsible for deciding who made the cut for the new group. 

mamahmh2

@Cbeanz wow, that’s awesome! The Aug16 board died shortly after and I was bummed to lose the connection, so I can understand that. I think ideally I’d like to ride things out here until after birth announcements.... but I know some people are wary of sharing baby photos on TB for privacy concerns. 

@nopegoat that makes sense! I also like @nerdtoyourmother ‘s suggestions. 

@jenniferjoy37 how did your “weeding out” process go without the creation of a PG first? 
 I’m not wanting anyone to feel left out or excluded by a potential move in the end. I also don’t want things to end too early here, as I like TB discussion format and many people have expressed they aren’t on FB. 

Happyin14

We migrated in O14 also. Some stayed active here, including me. But eventually.... 

I am still in touch with a lot of folks via FB. It’s much easier to get to know folks and more private. I’d be up to move over, I think. But I still feel like I only know like 3 or 4 people here. 

jenniferjoy37

@mamahmh2 I believe we created a private FB group, then you answered a question: what is your Bump SN... then the current members of the FB group would vote yes or no. If we didn’t recognize the name, they wouldn’t be let in the FB group. If we recognized you, you were let in. So the more active you were, and the more people who knew you got into the FB group. I think there are about 40 of us now still really active on the FB group. 

tova24

My last BMB group moved to Facebook and it wasn’t a pleasant experience. People got nasty and created a separate “shit talkers group” just to make fun of the main group. 

mamahmh2

@tova24 Ugh so sorry to hear that! I definitely think we have a more supportive group than other BMBs. Some have gotten pretty nasty and I hate to see that. I’d be surprised to see our group go that way.

indulgentgypsy

I've never been on a BMB here until the end. I am on Facebook quite a lot more and am down for  group however we go about it. I can totally wait until some babies are here though 

bartonolivia

I’m totally down for a FB group. I think it always goes better once the babies start to come  

Bear14+

I'd like to get a Facebook group going before the babies get here...mostly because I always feel so weird that this is a public forum. I'm much more comfortable in a private FB group. 

hestia-is-wearie

I also vote for a Facebook group with some kind of vetting process. I'm still a bit leery of sharing on here because this is a public forum. (That's why my head is always cut off in my HDBD pics )
I agree that we have a really great atmosphere here in July '19 and I wouldn't want to lose that in a FB transition. But I doubt that there would be much drama if we changed platforms--have we had any drama? Maybe a few snarky one-off posters in our first tri days? We have a wonderful and truly supportive group of women here. We deserve to preserve this however we see fit.
Maybe one of our screening questions can be "What is @nopegoat 's cow's name?"  

nopegoat

For both the private group on here and the FB group we had to post a selfie with our screen name written and date written in a piece of paper and a random object like an assigned random object like a comb or brush to help prove you are real. 

mamahmh2

@hestia14 hahaha love the screening question 😂
@nopegoat that’s exactly a great idea!! I didn’t think about people possibly using fake photos..... clearly I don’t have a scam artist type mind lol 

erynpdx

My D14 group moved to FB around October. I stayed active both places, but by January the bump was pretty much dead. 
I really do prefer the FB interface and think it made it much easier to get to know people better, but I’d be bummed to lose any non-fb’ers. 
I want to say we had 5 women and it was basically like you needed 3 of them to be like- yah, that names been active. 
We started at like 80members- there was a massive split (election years are hard on internet groups) into multiple groups but I’m still in one and interacting daily with like 45 women. 

nolemomma14

My last BMB moved to fb about 2 months before due dates. There were 5 or 6 admins initially, and they started the fb group. After that, there was a thread asking who wanted to join the fb group and you had to receive 5 love tits from admins, which meant they recognized you as a regular poster. Once added to the fb group ylhbhad to post a picture with the date written on a piece of paper. 

I do feel like you get to know people better on fb, I loved my J17 group, but we still had drama, despite being a pretty laid back group. I left the group after about a year and a half after it was started, but am still friends with many on fb. 

mrscammack

@nopegoat that idea is actually great! Considering everything we’d be sharing via Facebook is private stuff involving our families/kids I would definitely feel better about that kind of vetting process! 

jennm0724

I like the idea of posting a pic with your name and date, like @mamahmh2 I never even thought about people not using real photos 😂 I forget this is a public searchable forum. 

mom2b77373

I have a Facebook and would love to stay in contact with all you ladies. However I am not sure what BMB stands for lol

ketomommy

Bump Message Board?

Bear14+

@mom2b77373 Birth Month Board... that's what this is.. July 19 BMB 

annewheeler2

We moved over after the babies were born. We had admins at the time for our bmb and they were the ones who created the fb group. They vetted people and some made it even if they weren’t super active based on who their labor buddy was. We stopped adding people about a month after it was created and made it a secret group so it couldn’t be searched. My second bmb made it a couple months before the babies were born and it exploded pretty quickly so I think it’s better to wait and get to know everyone more. 

Panaceia

+1 to not being on Facebook. Other than this I don't really use social media so I'll be sad if every one goes. @Cbeanz @mamanbebe @cindler maybe we can still keep eachother company over here:)

mom2b77373

@Bear14+ thank you for clearing that up for me. Not big on acronyms lol. 

pizzaplz

I would be sad to lose any of us who don’t use Facebook! I use it, and I would join a group if we create one, but I will also probably check back here esp since @Cbeanz and @Panaceia are in my same birth week (I think, right?? Am I making that up? Pregnancy brain...) and I would miss them. Are we able to at least make this current bmb group private, if it isn’t already?  That would be a good start.

finnflan

Another vote for looking to go private on the bump before moving to FB - I have it but it really would be a shame to miss out on those who don’t and to pare everything down too quickly. I know there are some people who post mainly in their weekly group rather than the other topics; I’m worried the ‘weeding out’ process may impact them if they’re not broadly known, although they’re still involved.

canuckmomma

+1 for the Facebook group. I don’t use fb as much anymore but I still have my account. I don’t love that the whole wide web can read and see what we post on the bump. I will not be posting baby pics on here . Would love to still keep up with this community and support each other after birth. 

Panaceia

@pizzaplz I would miss you too!!!

I would love to see this group go private here before moving to FB if possible. Even though I mostly only lurked my last BMB I found it so helpful after baby was born to have a group to refer to. They made the move when the babies were just over 1 year old I think. I would hate to lose touch with everyone on here:( 

fromcatstokids

I wouldn't want to leave behind people who don't use FB. There are several great mamas who I would miss hearing from. I'm down for a private TB group. Although, if everyone goes to FB, I would follow.

mamanbebe

I'm okay with going to a private bump group before the babies are born, or after. I do not share too many personal details or pictures on here because it is public. 

msimi

FTM here so I’m curious how private bump groups work. Do you have to get invited? Is it a whole separate board or would this board just go private? 

Also I’m down with moving to a Facebook group especially since I hate The Bump App’s functionality and I share some of the privacy concerns others have talked about. 

mamanbebe

@msimi Either you can be invited, or you can request to join. The person who creates the group can add admins, but of course the group as a whole can choose how they want to elect admins. The groups are not managed by The Bump moderators, but they can view it and can interject if something goes awry in regards to terms of use violations. You can access the groups via the app. The only known bug (to me) is that you cannot create polls posts on private groups. 

mizzmeg

I have been part of 2 BMB FB groups. I keep in touch with quite a few moms from my May 2011 board still and my Nov 2013 FB group is pretty active. Id actually participate more in a FB group then on here because I am not a fan of the mobile app. It keeps kicking me out and forcing me to log in all the time. 

If you all do move to FB, please don’t think I’m a dirty lurker. I just hate the app 😂

cindler

nolemomma14 said: 

... you had to receive 5 love tits from admins...

Hahahaha! That sounds like a lot of work. I'm sure my DH would volunteer to serve as admin! Don't you just love autocorrect?