PAIF w/o 2/22-2/28

MamaK225

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How far along are you?
Any symptoms?
Rant/Rave?
Next appointment?
Questions?

GTKY: Have you started decorating or planning the nursery - or are you going to be doing so?

MamaK225

How far along are you? 15w0d
Any symptoms? I've been really stressed this week, which hasn't been good for me; I haven't been able to eat much, sleep has been bad, and I feel like I'm perpetually on the verge of throwing up.
Rant/Rave? Rant: If I hear DH make one more mention of how tired *he* is, I might be visiting a lawyer or a bail bondsman. Also, I've been so stressed that I've completed spaced on my birthday next week - which is practically a National Holiday in my eyes. So I'm pretty pissed/mad about that, too. Rave: My Instant Pot has saved my ass this week; I've made several meals out of thin air - watching hundreds of hours of Chopped has finally paid off! - which has allowed me to immediately get into pajamas upon walking in the door every night. (DH prefers to eat out as much as possible, also refuses to ever eat leftovers - staying home is next to torture for him    )
Next appointment? 2/28 for 16 week appt and gender scan (even though we know it's a girl).
Questions? n/a

GTKY: One of the perks (insert eye roll) of my job is that I get paid monthly (we also go 6-7 weeks between our December paycheck and the next one, joy!), soooooooooo at some point next week I'll finally have some funds to start buying stuff for the nursery. I plan to do a Harry Potter theme, but nothing too overboard. I'm also secretly wondering what house DD2 will be sorted into ... I swear, DD1 is a straight up Slytherin. I'm secretly hoping for a Hufflepuff to complete the set: I'm a Ravenclaw and DH is a Gryffindor.

wabash15

@mamak225 I'm sorry you've been so stressed this week. I hope what ever it is works its way out and you can enjoy monday!!  I too have not been eating well this week... but sometimes its still survival and what this kid deems OK. I don't eat oreos often but usually love them. I tried one yesterday and it was AWFUL.... it took forever to get the taste out of my mouth... this kid is ruining sweets for me.

MamaK225

@wabash15 - I wasn't able to eat many/much sweets with DD1 and certainly not with DD2. Have you tried a sour/sweet combo like pineapple? For some reason, that seemed to satisfy the sweet that I was craving. Unless it's Nerds. I can eat the hell outta them. But cookies, cakes, etc? Nope. Also, I've decided that if I do get dismissed for jury duty (one can hope! and I'mma try my damndest), I'm going to work on Tuesday to lead a big meeting ... and then I'm going to take THE REST OF THE WEEK OFF. "Peace out. Don't call me, don't text me, I need a break from work."

Avrilmai

@MamaK225 so sorry to hear you're having a rough week. hopefully the stress will lessen for you and you do get your WEEK OFF! Also, happy birthday! 

How far along are you? 14+1
Any symptoms? nope, except for some apparent RLP when i cough...
Rant/Rave? Rant: I have a cold. it is miserable. I took a half day Wednesday and just slept, felt a bit better yesterday, but now it has moved from my chest (coughing and rlp) to my head...I hate having a stuffy nose. Rave: DH went out of his way to get me potato soup (it is my fav sick food) and a half day of work today as well. 
Next appointment? next week! 
Questions?

GTKY: Have you started decorating or planning the nursery - or are you going to be doing so? Not really. we know which room it will be and we've talked generally about where stuff will go. We cleaned out the closet in that room, but so far nothing has been moved and no real "themes" have been discussed. I'd really just like to use items we already have to decorate. 

wabash15

@mamak225 a friend made me some pineapple mango salsa this week that I ate the snot out of Monday and Tuesday... it was sooooo good. Taking the rest of next week off sounds like an amazing idea

@Avrilmai I hope you start feeling better soon.

 How far along are you? 15+2
Any symptoms? some fatigue and RLP but overall not bad
Rant/Rave? I'm really glad its friday. we're supposed to get more snow tonight/tomorrow but at least we can take our time dealing with it in the morning. 
Next appointment? in 1 week
Questions? nope not today

GTKY: Have you started decorating or planning the nursery - or are you going to be doing so? we basically plan to move DD2 in with the other kids and this one will get the baby room. Maybe we will actually finish the art work we planned to have on the walls for DD2 that we started oh 18 months ago and still isnt up!

cato99

@MamaK225 I'm sorry about your crummy week--I'm right there with you! Both physical and emotional symptoms and I'm ready for it to be over!

How far along are you? 15 weeks
Any symptoms? ugh all of them, mainly massive migraine headaches and nausea, but also exhaustion and emotional volatility
Rant/Rave? On today's week-change description on The Bump and Ovia they're all YAYAY YOU HAVE ALL THE ENERGY NOW AND ARE ALSO FEELING SUPER SEXY, YOU SEXY PREGNANT LADY YOU and I'm like ??????
Next appointment? March 15, though I just had a work event get scheduled for that date so I may have to reschedule the appointment (since it's just a regular OB checkup and not a fun ultrasound appointment!)
Questions? I think I'm physically too miserable for any questions other than "when will I feel better" lol

GTKY: Have you started decorating or planning the nursery - or are you going to be doing so? This baby will be sharing a room with DD (currently 21 months), so we'll make a few changes but nothing major--we have a birch woodland stencil design on the walls in brown and green, with pink leaf accents, so I think I'll get some light blue accent leaves as well. When she turns 2 we'll probably convert DD's crib to a toddler bed, and add another crib for this one, but realistically he'll spend the first 6-10 months in our room before transitioning him to the kids' room. I think I can move around some toy storage to make room for his little clothing so I don't think we'll get an extra dresser. 

purplg8r

@MamaK225 I’m sorry you’re been so stressed this week!  That’s no fun!  And I have an instapot but I’m terrified to use it!

@Avrilmai ugh!  I’m sorry you’re sick!  It sucks normally and it’s even worse when you’re pregnant!

@wabash15 did you guys end up getting a lot of snow?

@cato99 yeah, super sexy what?  I don’t feel sexy at all!

How far along are you? 14w2d
Any symptoms? Heartburn has kicked up this week
Rant/Rave? Rant: This whole feeling full quickly thing is really annoying. Rave: I had a three day race weekend and had a blast!  (I’m exhausted but it’s my favorite races) 
Next appointment? Wednesday 
Questions?

GTKY: Have you started decorating or planning the nursery - or are you going to be doing so? That room is still a mess so I really need to get it cleaned out. But I know I want to do an elegant princess theme. I want to paint the walls pale pink and there’s some artwork I found. There’s also a vinyl I want to put on the wall of a carriage but H says our walls aren’t smooth so we can’t do that 

wabash15

@purplg8r glad you had fun at your race. we got some snow but not near as much as they thought. which is just fine considering its getting hard to find places for it.

suzycupcake

@purplg8r Are you gonna do Disney princesses only and various ones? Honestly, I think your little girl is the luckiest alive to have a Disney fan as a Momma  

@cato99 It makes me so happy to see someone else talk about this. Perky, glowy, and cute does not have to be the rule! 

@wabash15 What artwork is that?

@Avrilmai That RLP is no joke, right? Mine acted up at the dog park yesterday. My husband was like why don't you go sit down to feel better. I was like nope. It'll hurt no matter what position. Just gotta wait it out. Sorry you're sick. Have you gotten a pregnancy pillow yet?

@MamaK225 Happy Birthday! Sorry stress levels have been so high lately. Were the Instant pot meals a hit with your husband?

How far along are you? 15w1d
Any symptoms? RLP, mental health things. 
Rant/Rave? Rant; I worked out 7 days last week and didn't lose one pound of weight. Rave; I didn't gain a pound.
Next appointment? 2/26 for maternity tour, 3/4 for monthly OBGYN, have to schedule AS for sometime around 3/31, 2/28 to have some weird looking mole looked at. 
Questions? No

GTKY: Have you started decorating or planning the nursery - or are you going to be doing so? 
We planked one wall with wood, painted the ceiling sky blue, painted 1/3 of the other walls a tidewater color, and 2/3 cream, painted the ceiling fan blades white, and trimmed out the window. All we have left to do is build a custom closet and add the furniture. We're only putting a crib, nursing chair, and a changing table with baskets on the shelves to hold stuff. The only reason there will be a crib in there is because my MIL insists on buying the crib. I don't have the heart to tell her we will be co-sleeping for awhile. The crib will come in handy for later though. We found a really cute non-toxic one that will convert over time. There will be some floating shelves over by the window and a few pieces of art on the walls. I found a half rainbow canvas print for $5 when the same one goes for $50 at BB&B. That will go directly over his crib since he's our rainbow. There was also a white frame with a blue blinds looking kind of an inside that has a bunch of white plastic letters and numbers so you can spell out what you want it to say. I inserted, "You Are So Loved". 

cato99

@suzycupcake I’m sorry your RLP is acting up. But no matter how crummy you’re feeling it’s not a good idea to be hoping to lose weight in pregnancy, like your rant about not losing a pound suggests—don’t beat yourself up for gaining weight! Now that we’re all entering the second tri it’s going to start happening for real!

I also work out every day and weigh myself like a million times a day. I try to remind myself it’s not just baby: it’s extra blood! And placenta! And amniotic fluid! And increasing mammary tissue! If this is something really on your mind and not just a momentary rant I’m always happy to talk  

suzycupcake

Thanks @cato99 but it really is momentary. Last week was 7 days because there was 5 days of 15 minutes on the exercise bike and two days of a lot of unexpected walking at a women's conference over the weekend. My feet go on my scale once a week and the scale was only bought during ER due to OHSS. It does weigh (no pun intended ) on me a little bit that 15 pounds were gained during IVF and 10 more in first trimester since I've never been more than 120 pounds, but that's so normal. Cardio has to happen more than the average person to keep my bp down since there is a risk of pre-eclampsia. It's not my intention to go over the 25-30 lbs of gain range recommended to me by my Doctor so I'll be keeping track to make sure it's not more than 1-2lbs/wk. I just think it's weird that all of that working out happened I and didn't lose one bit of weight. Maybe that's normal. Haven't had an exercise routine for a long long time /shruggyguy. 

cato99

@suzycupcake ❤️ totally understood. Also omg that pattern was almost EXACTLY mine last pregnancy: 10ish from IVF, 10ish first tri, and I have a bp history! (Add in an unexpected GD diagnosis later in pregnancy so that meant strict diet and lots of cardio too.) FWIW from then on out things kind of leveled off and I gained 15 more lbs in the next 2 tris. Pregnant bodies are really weird and to a certain extent they’ll do what they want!

wabash15

@suzycupcake from personal experience bodies do what bodies what in terms of weight gain.I have tried diligently with all my pregnancies to stay active and eat well and I gained 70lbs with my twins and 60lbs with my singleton.... So far I'm up 10-12lbs. Some women put on a lot of weight when pregnant and others not so much. So do your best to stay healthy but this isn't OHSS, its pregnancy and it its more than OK to step away from the scale. Hugs. It can be hard to adjust to our changing bodies both during pregnancy and post partum. It took me a long time to get comfortable with the changes (and there are days I still struggle). Your body is doing something amazing. 
     as for the art work... we had the twins to hand or foot print art in the shapes of animals to represent the alphabet. I put an example in the spoiler. we've done all the prints but need to add the detail and background for a few of them.

Avrilmai

@wabash15 that art work is so sweet. (I know that is the example) I love that you had your twins do it for their sibling. Such a special thing. 

purplg8r

@suzycupcake until last year, I had ran in every race weekend at Walt Disney World (plus a few at Disneyland). For now, we’re doing every Princess and Wine & Dine weekend.  Hopefully I’ll get back up to the Marathon in 2021.  You’ve already done the maternity tour?  I’m so behind—I haven’t even thought of it!!  I’m also with you in the weight gain during fertility treatments and the first trimester.  I’ve had to really keep myself in check not to freak out. 

@wabash15 I LOVE that artwork!!

MamaK225

You ladies are so sweet and supportive, I just love you guys! Still super stressed, but I'm finally into the IDGAF section of my pregnancy/life so it just is what it is and I'm not going to let it affect me (says Pregnant Me, at this moment ).

@suzycupcake & @cato99 - Your weight changes sound a good bit like mine: repeated FETs made me shoot up a solid 15 lbs. Though I am a little heavier (5'7" and got up to 184 at this last transfer), I'm falling in the same pattern with DD2. With DD1, I lost 15 lbs in Tri1, gained 15 in Tri2, gained 20 in Tri3 - for a net of 20 lbs gained. I left the hospital 35 lbs lighter: for 6 lb, 9 oz baby, there was 35 lbs of water, placenta, blood, and baby ... so, honestly, don't worry *too* much about that weight unless you start gaining more than 2 lbs a week (my doc prefers 1-1.5, on average). With DD2, I've lost about 12 lbs in Tri1. And still holding there a little into Tri2 (Friday is 16wks). I've got plenty of reserves so I'm not worried, I'm pretty sure it's just those artificial levels of hormones leaving my body.

You guys all have such cute nursery ideas and themes. I've done the bare minimum and just purchased a few wall decals to get things started: DD2 is going to have a Harry Potter nursery. Mostly because I want a lot of the decor anyway (we're both big fans) ... and I feel it can be done reasonably and easily.