So this is stupid and petty, but... I'm wondering if anyone else noticed/cares. The Bump stopped giving out the "Love It" badge in April of 2018, but has not taken it away from people who already earned it.
I'm about to go out of town to visit my mom so I scheduled an important meeting this morning to take care of things before I leave. Apparently the meeting was only important to me because no one showed up except my colleague. Gee, thanks everybody for delaying any progress I could make on this project until next week when I get back.
Me: 31 DH:35 Started TTC in June 2014 Started seeing RE in June 2015 HSG in July 2015 = normal, started Clomid/Ovidrel/IUI cycle in August 2015 Cycle #3 in October afforded 1st month of mature follicles - underwent IUI BFP on 10/27/15 - EDD 7/8/16 DD#1 born on 7/1/16
TTC #2 in September 2018 BFP on 12/2/18 - EDD 8/16/19
Team Green!
Haven't ridden my horse in a while due to the weather. Made plans to ride today in the sunshine. Woke up with a massive pinched nerve in my shoulder. So pissed
It’s school vacation week here! DS7 decided Saturday was his day to try to drive me insane. Today it has been DS11. He’s bored because he wants to play XBox all day and that is absolutely not how we’re spending our entire week. Yesterday was a great day though, so I guess I should just be happy with that. I’m just hoping the 11 year old gets over his tweenager attitude today.
Oh I just remembered one... at church yesterday a girl came up to me, gave my belly the side eye, then said "sooooo..." I said yes, I'm pregnant.... her response was oh, at first I thought you were just fat from the last one but then I looked at your belly and thought maybe there was more going on....
Oh and then someone else congratulated me on having my kids so close together.... Sigh.... I'm not a spring chicken and years of IF didn't give me much of a choice... but thanks? (though I am so grateful to be on this side of IF and that we were able to have any/more than one kid)
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TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@wabash15 What the what?!? I wouldn’t say that to anyone! Ever!
I’ve reached that awkward stage where strangers are commenting about my belly/ pregnancy. Im usually pretty outgoing and will strike up a conversation in the elevator, but it’s usually about the weather and not my anatomy... guess I better get used to it!
@olivemomma the post trip laundry can be so daunting... I am terrible about unpacking
thanks ladies... I just kept my shock to myself.... really people when will you learn the only acceptable comment on a pregnant woman's appearance is " you look beautiful"?!?
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TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@wabash15 I mentioned to a neighbor this weekend that I’m pregnant and no congratulations or anything, just “oh you’re expecting again? Well I guess it’s good to get it out of the way.” I’m in the same boat with AMA after IF delays, but it never occurred to me to think of 9 months of gestating, labor, newborn stage, etc as getting anything “out of the way” lol.
DH goes so quick to punishment and it drives me insane. Any time DD has a meltdown, he immediately starts taking her toys away, which just escalates the situation.
Me 31 DH 34 TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15 NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
@wabash15 I think I would have said something along the lines of “at least mine is from a baby - what’s your excuse?” I don’t care if she’s stick thin or crazy overweight, if you roll your eyes at my belly and comment on my weight I’m going to give it back to you - make them realize how awkward and rude it is
@olivemomma I always think of comebacks too late.... though just after (2-3months ish) after my last was born, a lady (different one) from church asked me when I was due... I had just been holding my baby and had handed her off to DH... I did tell her that I wasn't, and pointed to my baby... she looked pretty sheepish and walked away. uggg church ladies!
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TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@cato99 Mine are going to be 16 months apart and I've heard that a lot this time. "Getting them out of the way all at once, huh?" I've never, in my life, asked anyone to justify their family planning to me. I can't understand why other people think its totally acceptable.
Mine is a comment DH made this weekend. He was trying to be sweet, but he said something like "I can't wait for the first tri symptoms to be over. I totally get it, and wouldn't trade you places, but you're generally more helpful again in the second trimester." Blah.
@ash0625 DH said the other day that he “can’t wait until I start waddling, because it’s so cute”... not sure what’s cute about my body being so out of whack I can barely walk. He also told the doctor at our last checkup that i was miserable and making everyone miserable (thanks nausea). I think they mean well.
Ugh, people can be such jack-asses... I learned from one serious faux pas to NEVER assume anything about a woman with a rounded belly after I asked DH's friend's wife how her pregnancy was going... turns out she had a fairly late miscarriage and still looked somewhat pregnant - I've never felt more terrible. (My only excuse was that I was fairly young at the time and had no idea about ANYTHING).
My UO - and I'm sure everyone's complained about this already - but wow - TB looks so different on a computer compared to a phone - and holly advertisements batman - while all the additional features are great - omg are the videos / pop-up type things annoying
Yesterday I made a tuna casserole for dinner that was going to feed us for 2-3 days and DH left it out on the counter overnight. He's great and cleans up the kitchen every night, so I feel bad complaining but it's frustrating.
@wabash15 OMG it is insane what people think is appropriate to say about a woman's body. My stomach is never flat so I always look a few months pregnant and it makes me insanely insecure.
@EmilyA724 DH does the same with DD and it drives me crazy. With the way her brain works she immediately goes into fight mode and we all end up miserable. DS rarely needs to be asked to do something more than once and he is barely ever defiant, DD is starting to notice the difference in how we ask them to do things and it kiiiilllls me.
11/2010 Diagnosed with PCOS
10/31/11 M/C at 9 weeks 1/12/13 DD was born 4/9/16 DS was born 9/17 CP 6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
@Amdogger82 FFTC we regularly leave stuff out overnight and still eat it. If it smells fine and we plan on reheating it then I don't see a problem. Often it's a mistake that we left it out, but sometimes I do it on purpose. If I make a big pot of soup or something, and I finish late, I don't like putting it away hot, and I don't want to stay up any more, so I just let it cool overnight, and then stick it in the fridge as soon as I wake up.
@MollyH1987 - What dicks. Sorry ... hope you can - at least - enjoy your time away. @wabash15 - Like her pointing out you may possibly be carrying extra weight was ok!? I'd throat punch her, church or no church. @olivemomma - Girl, the other day I was having an "I wish a person would" day ... and that was going to be my exact line!! @ash0625 - I've never understood why people think it's even remotely ok to comment on others' bodies or family planning either @Amdogger82 - That is super frustrating. DH always brings home doggy bags from restaurants *but doesn't eat leftovers.* If you're not going to eat it later, either eat it all now or toss it. Don't bring it home for ME to have to address, since *apparently* cleaning out the fridge is MY duty.
I know it's Tuesday, but yesterday was so busy that I couldn't get it in. I'm just over it all. People at work are getting on. My. Last. Damn. Nerves. I can't get shit done because I have 2-3 people a day just pop in my office (my biggest workplace pet peeve for non-social calls - it's just rude to assume I have nothing going on). Also, DH made me cry last night because he was being incredibly insensitive and actually kind of a jerk. I had texted my daycare saying I need to save a spot for DD who will be attending in the middle of October. She was like "oh, there's 3 or 4 others in front of you, I don't know if we'll have a spot." First of all, ALL of the kids in the 2 and 3 y.o. (literally each of them) have either a sibling in the infant or toddler room OR an older sibling and their families are "done." I know because I'm friends with most of them. After all this shit with IF and having SEVEN failures in 18 months, I just lost it. I told her that I thought it was shitty that they would accept people asking for spots who don't have a medically confirmed viable pregnancy (i.e. 2nd trimester+) - if I knew you could just put your name down and wait it out, I would have done that ... and that after 7 lost pregnancies, I didn't think it was right to take up a spot of someone who was actually pregnant, even in the hopes at each point that I might *finally* be pregnant. So ... now I'm looking at other places (with is INCREDIBLY inconvenient, they're literally RIGHT around the corner from my house) for my 2.5 to start attending because I'm not going to wait until the last second to "see" if they have an opening and then uproot her - all in the middle of having a new sibling, etc. It's got me all levels of pissed off and DH was saying that I was stressing out "over nothing" and that it'll "work itself out." Uhm, no, the only reason it "worked itself out" last time was because I called ever damn place in town every week to find her a spot - zero effort from you pal, which is about what you're offering right now. Ugh. Now, I'm angry all over again and need a nap.
TL;DR - DH is being an asshole and the people at work aren't much better.
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
@mamak225 that sounds super frustrating. DH is the type that always says that we will figure things out, or things will just work out. Yeah, they always work out because I research, make phone calls and get crap done .
11/2010 Diagnosed with PCOS
10/31/11 M/C at 9 weeks 1/12/13 DD was born 4/9/16 DS was born 9/17 CP 6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
@Allycat11 - YES! There's not some magical flippin' fairy that gets it done, IT'S ME. If men bore the burden of pregnancy, they sure would be more in-tune with multi-tasking and getting things done before it's *really* stressful.
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
The last post made me think of my B*fest for the week. Several months ago the engine blew on my Traverse, which has been well cared for and only had 100k miles on it. Based on what we heard it was about a $5-6k fix, we owe too much on it still to just buy a new vehicle so we needed to suck it up and save for the repair. Finally got the finances figured out, paid to have it towed to the dealership over a month ago. They finally looked at it last week and came back with a quote of $9k for a new engine and low $8k range for used....um, no. So now we found a more local place that will do a new one for less and can get it done as soon as this week, awesome! But now DH is responsible for paying the first dealership for work they have done so far, having it towed to new place and ordering the engine. He drags his feet with everything so I am about to get really impatient because it is so close yet so far away from being done. Vehicles are not my thing but I am fairly certain I would have had all of this done much faster if it was in my control.
11/2010 Diagnosed with PCOS
10/31/11 M/C at 9 weeks 1/12/13 DD was born 4/9/16 DS was born 9/17 CP 6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
@Allycat11 - I'm sorry, I know exactly what you mean. That is so frustrating ... hopefully, once it reaches there, it goes MUCH more quickly (and less expensively!).
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
@thirdtimesacharm2019 YES!! DH does this thing where he says "calm" but like draws it out and uses what is supposed to be a low, soothing tone, and does a downward push thing with his hands. No matter how many times I tell him that makes it worse, he still keeps doing it!!!
@mrosek91 I know you're right and it probably is fine. I just get extra nervous about stuff like that when I am pregnant.
@MamaK225 I'm sorry for the daycare mess! That sounds so stressful and frustrating. I am definitely the planner and executor with most of the logistics in our house too...DH doesn't understand that sometimes things only "work out" because I work them out.
@Allycat11 Yep. DD has an idea and a plan in her head about the way things should go and is very determined and has a hard time when things do not go to her plan and just won't listen. DH sees it as her being a brat, but I like her determination and think it will help her in her life. I do not want to punish her out of it, I want to talk to her and teach her how to channel it and learn to adjust.
Me 31 DH 34 TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15 NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
@EmilyA724 exactly! DD is determined and strong willed which makes her very challenging to raise but I am determined to not crush her personality. The same traits that make her tough now, will serve her so well in the long run...and even already do now. My personality is very similar and the power struggles from my childhood still effect my relationship with my parents today. DH and DS are much more easy going so I think DH does not understand the lasting damage this can leave. Not that I am perfect in how I handle her, far from it actually, but I make a conscious effort to do my best.
11/2010 Diagnosed with PCOS
10/31/11 M/C at 9 weeks 1/12/13 DD was born 4/9/16 DS was born 9/17 CP 6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
@Allycat11 This is us exactly. DD has my personality through and through. DH always says how much he loves my determination, and I'm thinking how do you think I got that way? I definitely still have some issues with my parents from it, and I'm trying so hard to foster it with DD as well as teach her emotional intelligence around it.
Me 31 DH 34 TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15 NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
@Allycat11 my DD1 has my personality and is stubborn as they come. its so hard to raise her to be strong and self confident while not killing her in the process!
@mamak225 ugg I would have lost my shit too. We just reserved a spot at the center where my others go for this baby and she said it was a good thing I did because they were already filling up... its never been an issue before and man I might have lost it if they had said they didn't have a place.
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TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@wabash15 - I know! Because I certainly thought an EIGHT MONTH warning would be plenty (given there are 5 children in the infant room - and I know for a fact that the youngest is 5 months old, so there are technically 5 spots up for grabs).
If they *could* give me an estimated date, I could figure out a workaround like working from home or part-time or get a nanny for a few weeks ... but I can't even get that info. But like I said - I'm also not ok hanging around on hope and my 2.5 y.o. suffer through a last-second change in daycare while she's already going through another upheaval with a sibling.
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
OMG! I can totally tag most of you ladies here. DH does the same thing "let it go, it will all work out!" They must all live in fairyland where things happen just cuz they will it. Super annoying when he doesn't offer to take over and fix the problem. 😤
I called my dads previous care facility to see about having him go to live there again. It has been a constant struggle with him hysterically screaming profanity any time I ask him to go for a walk. Today he said "You will be a terrible mother and I hope you miscarry". I'm done. I'm so hurt and disgusted. He keeps saying he wants to go back so back he will go. I brought him here last year to improve the quality of his life and let him see his grandkids more often (my sisters kids), hang out in the garage and tinker on engines. But apparently going for a walk is too much for him and he would rather be nasty. I'm done. I can't have this toxicity in my home anymore. I've done all I can do to help him and he continues to be selfish and ungrateful. Love you Dad but goodbye.
(for anyone that doesn't know, my dad had several brain aneurysms about 4 years ago. He is mentally and physically handicap but VERY capable of going on a walk. It is much better than watching TV all day.)
@agpandme Regardless is your father’s condition, those things are awful to hear. I’m sorry & I hope that you’re able to process through them in a healthy way.
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Re: Monday B*fest 2/18
The Bump stopped giving out the "Love It" badge in April of 2018, but has not taken it away from people who already earned it.
Started TTC in June 2014
Started seeing RE in June 2015
HSG in July 2015 = normal, started Clomid/Ovidrel/IUI cycle in August 2015
Cycle #3 in October afforded 1st month of mature follicles - underwent IUI
BFP on 10/27/15 - EDD 7/8/16
DD#1 born on 7/1/16
TTC #2 in September 2018
BFP on 12/2/18 - EDD 8/16/19
Team Green!
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
My MBF is that I'm going on a work trip next week and I don't wannaaaaaaaaaa.
Also we just got got back from vacation and I really don’t want to do all of the unpacking and crazy loads of laundry that have piled up
I’ve reached that awkward stage where strangers are commenting about my belly/ pregnancy. Im usually pretty outgoing and will strike up a conversation in the elevator, but it’s usually about the weather and not my anatomy... guess I better get used to it!
thanks ladies... I just kept my shock to myself.... really people when will you learn the only acceptable comment on a pregnant woman's appearance is " you look beautiful"?!?
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15
NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@cato99 Mine are going to be 16 months apart and I've heard that a lot this time. "Getting them out of the way all at once, huh?" I've never, in my life, asked anyone to justify their family planning to me. I can't understand why other people think its totally acceptable.
Mine is a comment DH made this weekend. He was trying to be sweet, but he said something like "I can't wait for the first tri symptoms to be over. I totally get it, and wouldn't trade you places, but you're generally more helpful again in the second trimester." Blah.
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
My UO - and I'm sure everyone's complained about this already - but wow - TB looks so different on a computer compared to a phone - and holly advertisements batman - while all the additional features are great - omg are the videos / pop-up type things annoying
@EmilyA724 DH does the same with DD and it drives me crazy. With the way her brain works she immediately goes into fight mode and we all end up miserable. DS rarely needs to be asked to do something more than once and he is barely ever defiant, DD is starting to notice the difference in how we ask them to do things and it kiiiilllls me.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
@wabash15 - Like her pointing out you may possibly be carrying extra weight was ok!? I'd throat punch her, church or no church.
@olivemomma - Girl, the other day I was having an "I wish a person would" day ... and that was going to be my exact line!!
@ash0625 - I've never understood why people think it's even remotely ok to comment on others' bodies or family planning either
@Amdogger82 - That is super frustrating. DH always brings home doggy bags from restaurants *but doesn't eat leftovers.* If you're not going to eat it later, either eat it all now or toss it. Don't bring it home for ME to have to address, since *apparently* cleaning out the fridge is MY duty.
I know it's Tuesday, but yesterday was so busy that I couldn't get it in. I'm just over it all. People at work are getting on. My. Last. Damn. Nerves. I can't get shit done because I have 2-3 people a day just pop in my office (my biggest workplace pet peeve for non-social calls - it's just rude to assume I have nothing going on). Also, DH made me cry last night because he was being incredibly insensitive and actually kind of a jerk. I had texted my daycare saying I need to save a spot for DD who will be attending in the middle of October. She was like "oh, there's 3 or 4 others in front of you, I don't know if we'll have a spot." First of all, ALL of the kids in the 2 and 3 y.o. (literally each of them) have either a sibling in the infant or toddler room OR an older sibling and their families are "done." I know because I'm friends with most of them. After all this shit with IF and having SEVEN failures in 18 months, I just lost it. I told her that I thought it was shitty that they would accept people asking for spots who don't have a medically confirmed viable pregnancy (i.e. 2nd trimester+) - if I knew you could just put your name down and wait it out, I would have done that ... and that after 7 lost pregnancies, I didn't think it was right to take up a spot of someone who was actually pregnant, even in the hopes at each point that I might *finally* be pregnant. So ... now I'm looking at other places (with is INCREDIBLY inconvenient, they're literally RIGHT around the corner from my house) for my 2.5 to start attending because I'm not going to wait until the last second to "see" if they have an opening and then uproot her - all in the middle of having a new sibling, etc. It's got me all levels of pissed off and DH was saying that I was stressing out "over nothing" and that it'll "work itself out." Uhm, no, the only reason it "worked itself out" last time was because I called ever damn place in town every week to find her a spot - zero effort from you pal, which is about what you're offering right now. Ugh. Now, I'm angry all over again and need a nap.
TL;DR - DH is being an asshole and the people at work aren't much better.
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
@MamaK225 I'm sorry for the daycare mess! That sounds so stressful and frustrating. I am definitely the planner and executor with most of the logistics in our house too...DH doesn't understand that sometimes things only "work out" because I work them out.
TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15
NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15
NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
@mamak225 ugg I would have lost my shit too. We just reserved a spot at the center where my others go for this baby and she said it was a good thing I did because they were already filling up... its never been an issue before and man I might have lost it if they had said they didn't have a place.
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
If they *could* give me an estimated date, I could figure out a workaround like working from home or part-time or get a nanny for a few weeks ... but I can't even get that info. But like I said - I'm also not ok hanging around on hope and my 2.5 y.o. suffer through a last-second change in daycare while she's already going through another upheaval with a sibling.
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
(for anyone that doesn't know, my dad had several brain aneurysms about 4 years ago. He is mentally and physically handicap but VERY capable of going on a walk. It is much better than watching TV all day.)