@Allycat11 I really struggled with pelvic floor weakness after my last. I even brought clean pants and underwear everywhere in case I accidentally leaked. Its better now (not 100% but better) but I am so worried that things will get bad again with this baby. andplusalso you have to do SO MANY damn kegals to make a difference....
*TW*
TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@wabash15 I had great control before kids but it gets worse with each. I did kegals and clearly it did not help. Pretty much all of my friends by baby 2 or 3 are dealing with some level of pelvic floor weakness.
11/2010 Diagnosed with PCOS
10/31/11 M/C at 9 weeks 1/12/13 DD was born 4/9/16 DS was born 9/17 CP 6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
@wabash15 and @allycat11 - so much pelvic floor weakness. I did all the things after DD2 to try and help - pilates and expensive PT. It's work. Made me consider a goop jade egg (/s, that thing is ridiculous).
The cut off is Sept 1 here. Both of my kids will be summer birthdays, and unless there is a blatant reason that they need to be held back, we plan on sending them to Kinder as soon as they can go.
I am a Sept 1 birthday and my brother is an Aug 31st birthday. We both started school when we were 4. I thrived academically and socially . My brother did not. He was immature and struggled academically the first few years. My parents say they wish that had held him back.
And as a K teacher of 9 years and now in my 5th of first, it honestly depends on the child. Yes, most often boys are immature and struggle being young but that’s certainly not the case for every young boy. And while most girls seem to be mature enough, that’s not the case for every girl.
All this to say...I think it’s too early to worry about it now. After a few years you should be able to tell whether your child is ready go K socially and academically
My NT scan for Friday 2/15 that I’ve been looking forward to for A MONTH just got rescheduled to next Friday 2/22 bc the office they scheduled me at can’t do NT scans. Why didn’t they figure this out when I scheduled it a month ago?!?! I’m so annoyed. Thankfully I still have my OB appt on Monday and will hopefully hear the heartbeat, but I’ve been nervous since having some bleeding and just wanted to see the babe!
All this to say...I think it’s too early to worry about it now. After a few years you should be able to tell whether your child is ready go K socially and academically
@purplg8r thanks for sharing this. I hadn't even thought about pre-k/K at this point, but this makes me feel a lot better about that.
Also, totally random, but I happened upon the dog show last night and watching some of those dogs just prance around the ring brought me genuine joy (and made me laugh out loud, so cute.)
TTC#1 10/2016 TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each. BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021 planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks, some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
To the conversation about school, you really have to consider your kid. My son has ADHD and Sensory Processing Disorder. He has a late June birthday and many people from my BMB held their sons so they would be better at sports. I think it's effing ridiculous to hold your kid for bullshit reasons like that. I think it makes it impossible for a teacher to manage a classroom of 4-6 years old children, considering the vast span of cognitive abilities.
Off my tangent--I sent my son at 5 and sending him to public school was the best decision I have ever made for him. So many resources opened up and he has grown so much in the two years he has been in school. With his 504 plan, he is thriving and would be bored out of his mind if he were in K this year. Not to mention, he is almost five feet tall at 6 years old so I think being so much bigger than everyone else (which he is regardless) would've been an insecurity of his. I don't regret it for a second. But I made the decision when he was four based on what I knew of him and our school district. This is not a decision you have to make today by any means.
The thing I really dislike about the school cutoffs is that the choice is taken out of my hands if they’re born after the cutoff date. If my kids are born July 31st I’ll have the choice to send them or hold them back when they’re 5, based on their development. If they’re born on August 2nd I get no say and will have to wait until they’re 6....unless we move to a different state or I can find a private school willing to take them, which seems like an absurd amount of effort to get a kid into school if they’re ready for it.
While I shouldn’t have to think about it now, it is completely possible that I could end up in a situation where we debate delivering a bit early vs. going on bed rest or other medical interventions. If that happens around the end of July, the school cutoff date is inevitably going to play into my decision-making.
It feels like we are just treading water at our house. There is a consta-mess, we're eating out way too much, and we're doing just enough on everything else. I'm so ready to be out of first tri and hopefully an end to the nausea soon!
small soap box... maybe an UO... DON'T drink raw milk. There is a reason pasteurization was invented. really brucella (not to mention tuberculosis...)?!? come on people is a bacteria that causes miscarriage and so many other issues, plus this strain is resistant to one of the biggest gun antibiotics out there.
*TW*
TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@aecm generally speaking every second they bake is better for baby. That being said just about all docs won't let twins go past 38 weeks due to increasing risk of loss. The average twin is born at 35 weeks.... hopefully it won't be something you'll have to worry about.
*TW*
TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@WinchesterGirl You do what you have to do to get through this season of life. It will not last forever, and will only be a few months in your family’s whole life. A drop in the bucket. You’ll get past this 💜
@peachy0709 It does! So raw milk (besides the obvious pasteurization) is different in several ways. 1. Milk is sweetest straight from the cow. So it has a higher sugar content. The longer it sits the more enzymes (I'm not a scientist but I believe it's enzymes) break things down and the sweetness fades. 2. It is not homogenized, so it separates into a milk layer and a cream layer. You can actually siphon some of the cream off & make your own butter or just have separate heavy cream if you're so inclined. They do sell pasteurized but not homogenized milk at specialty groceries, but it has a slightly different texture due to being heated. 3. When it goes "bad" it is called clabber. You can still use it in baking to add extra tang to things almost as if you added yogurt or sour cream. You CAN NOT use pasteurized milk at that point, it will make you sick.
I am a big proponent of raw milk, but only if you are not in an immune compromised state & have a reputable source. We have several good quality grass only farms here where we can source it safely.
I'm sorry if that's more info than you wanted! I really am passionate about good quality food & sourcing.
@WinchesterGirl we are in the same boat. Barely treading water. House is a wreck. Eating out way to much. And when we do it at home it's still garbage because I have no energy. I'm afraid too that this pregnancy is going to be like my pregnancy with DD where I was just exhausted the whole time for no damn reason.
We are also in survival mode over here, house is a mess, lots of fast food and easy meals, and WAY too much screen time. I am giving myself grace and recognizing this is just a short season of life that will pass. Early in pregnancy, late in pregnancy and right after we have a new baby, this is what our life looks like and that is okay!
11/2010 Diagnosed with PCOS
10/31/11 M/C at 9 weeks 1/12/13 DD was born 4/9/16 DS was born 9/17 CP 6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
@WinchesterGirl my daughter turned 3 yesterday! I feel you on allll the fronts. We’re in survival mode and I kind of hate it. Yet here I sit on the couch
So Texas has been in the news for having 6 cases of measles already this year(last year, we had a total of 9, so 6 by mid-Feb is insane.) We got a notice from our daycare yesterday that there was a confirmed case of measles in the center, just happened to be next door to DD's class. This would be the first case in our city. So, needless to say, DH and I freaked out. Thankfully DD has had her MMR vaccine, but it's still scary to think about. We got another notice that it MAY not be measles and further testing is need, per the Health Dept. Now we're just waiting for another email telling us if it is or is not measles. Scared the shit out of us.
Putting me in the just surviving boat. My MIL came to babysit Sunday night, and I came home to find her washing dishes! I was so embarrassed but grateful at the same time.
To the discussions of raw milk, my dad grew up on a farm where they owned their own cows. When he married my mom he moved to "the city." For the first few months my mom couldn't figure out why my dad shook the milk every time he took it out of the fridge. He finally broke the habit.
Glad to see others are just surviving. That’s how I felt until about two weeks ago and I’m slowly crawling out of the whole. Just remember - surviving beats the alternative!
Just surviving around here, too. After a sinus infection, now just recovering from a nasty stomach virus that's going around here in Germany apparently. I feel like I'm nowhere near as active on this board as I was with my first. Which, I guess is understandable with illness and a toddler. But it kinda makes me sad. Hoping to connect better as time goes on.
This week's random rant: I was unable to do 1st trimester screening with NT, because they told me at about 12 weeks that I had to go through a genetics class before any screening could be scheduled - and they're only held once a week, one being while I was out of town. So while I still can get the Quad, I'm kinda irritated at how this was presented to me. Especially since the midwife teaching the class (aka reading a powerpoint) acted like it wasn't a requirement.
I'm all for making sure patients are educated and informed about these tests and I thought the information was great - that's not the problem. But this is my second child, I know this stuff, and if it's not REALLY a requirement, why did I have to do this before scheduling?! /endrant
I unpacked the tub of maternity clothes today! I figured I may as well get some use out of the few long sleeve things from last pregnancy (Dec 16) while it’s still chilly here.
I got 2 pair of nice maternity jeans in between pregnancies, and while they are a bit baggy now, I’m pretty excited to have a few nice things bc I’m super cheap and will avoid buying new. I am sure I’ll need some things but hopefully minimal.
@aevan011 that is on my to do list in the next few days. My other babies were January and April so I know I will need more new things due to the season.
11/2010 Diagnosed with PCOS
10/31/11 M/C at 9 weeks 1/12/13 DD was born 4/9/16 DS was born 9/17 CP 6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
@Allycat11 I’m hoping maybe I won’t swell as bad *knock on wood* or as early this time around, so the things that fit during mid-pregnancy (end of summer last time) can be used closer to the end this time. I anticipate needing a pair of shorts and maybe a few shirts. I think 95% of what I have is already second hand so I guess I can’t get too upset if I have to buy a few new things!
Re: Weekly Randoms 2/11
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
And as a K teacher of 9 years and now in my 5th of first, it honestly depends on the child. Yes, most often boys are immature and struggle being young but that’s certainly not the case for every young boy. And while most girls seem to be mature enough, that’s not the case for every girl.
All this to say...I think it’s too early to worry about it now. After a few years you should be able to tell whether your child is ready go K socially and academically
Now I hope @suzycupcake checks in soon!
*Live, Love, Laugh, Learn*
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Also, totally random, but I happened upon the dog show last night and watching some of those dogs just prance around the ring brought me genuine joy (and made me laugh out loud, so cute.)
TTC#1 10/2016
TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each.
BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021
planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks,
some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
Off my tangent--I sent my son at 5 and sending him to public school was the best decision I have ever made for him. So many resources opened up and he has grown so much in the two years he has been in school. With his 504 plan, he is thriving and would be bored out of his mind if he were in K this year. Not to mention, he is almost five feet tall at 6 years old so I think being so much bigger than everyone else (which he is regardless) would've been an insecurity of his. I don't regret it for a second. But I made the decision when he was four based on what I knew of him and our school district. This is not a decision you have to make today by any means.
While I shouldn’t have to think about it now, it is completely possible that I could end up in a situation where we debate delivering a bit early vs. going on bed rest or other medical interventions. If that happens around the end of July, the school cutoff date is inevitably going to play into my decision-making.
It feels like we are just treading water at our house. There is a consta-mess, we're eating out way too much, and we're doing just enough on everything else. I'm so ready to be out of first tri and hopefully an end to the nausea soon!
small soap box... maybe an UO... DON'T drink raw milk. There is a reason pasteurization was invented. really brucella (not to mention tuberculosis...)?!? come on people is a bacteria that causes miscarriage and so many other issues, plus this strain is resistant to one of the biggest gun antibiotics out there.
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
1. Milk is sweetest straight from the cow. So it has a higher sugar content. The longer it sits the more enzymes (I'm not a scientist but I believe it's enzymes) break things down and the sweetness fades.
2. It is not homogenized, so it separates into a milk layer and a cream layer. You can actually siphon some of the cream off & make your own butter or just have separate heavy cream if you're so inclined. They do sell pasteurized but not homogenized milk at specialty groceries, but it has a slightly different texture due to being heated.
3. When it goes "bad" it is called clabber. You can still use it in baking to add extra tang to things almost as if you added yogurt or sour cream. You CAN NOT use pasteurized milk at that point, it will make you sick.
I am a big proponent of raw milk, but only if you are not in an immune compromised state & have a reputable source. We have several good quality grass only farms here where we can source it safely.
I'm sorry if that's more info than you wanted! I really am passionate about good quality food & sourcing.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15
NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
To the discussions of raw milk, my dad grew up on a farm where they owned their own cows. When he married my mom he moved to "the city." For the first few months my mom couldn't figure out why my dad shook the milk every time he took it out of the fridge. He finally broke the habit.
+1 to having a house that is a disaster.. I've just accepted it, it is what it is
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
TTC#1 10/2016
TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each.
BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021
planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks,
some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
This week's random rant: I was unable to do 1st trimester screening with NT, because they told me at about 12 weeks that I had to go through a genetics class before any screening could be scheduled - and they're only held once a week, one being while I was out of town. So while I still can get the Quad, I'm kinda irritated at how this was presented to me. Especially since the midwife teaching the class (aka reading a powerpoint) acted like it wasn't a requirement.
I'm all for making sure patients are educated and informed about these tests and I thought the information was great - that's not the problem. But this is my second child, I know this stuff, and if it's not REALLY a requirement, why did I have to do this before scheduling?! /endrant
I got 2 pair of nice maternity jeans in between pregnancies, and while they are a bit baggy now, I’m pretty excited to have a few nice things bc I’m super cheap and will avoid buying new. I am sure I’ll need some things but hopefully minimal.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19