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Unpopular Opinions & FFFC 2/7 & 2/8

galentinegalentine member
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edited February 8 in October 2019 Moms
I figured since this UO hadn't been posted yet Thursday, and since we are still a small-ish group, that we could just combine UO and confessions into one thread this week.

Let's hear 'em!

Re: Unpopular Opinions & FFFC 2/7 & 2/8

  • @galentine HA! That’s great.

    Confession: My FIL is coming over for dinner and I am dreading it. I should be happy because we haven’t seen him in two months (lives 20 minutes away) but it irks me that he puts little to no effort into his relationship with my husband and our kids. He’s kind of been in a mid-life crisis for a few years and it wears on my husband. But I will put on a happy face and be a good hostess. 
  • @galentine I just wish "I'm figuratively dead every day" had a better ring to it
    galentinennaelilak
  • cmbt2cmbt2 member
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    @brownbarista I can’t stand my ILs,
    so I always dread their visits, no matter how long it’s been since the last! 

    I have horror stories—in a nut shell, they think they are parents #3 and 4 and have all the rights that go with being a parent, including being in L&D (haha haha haha. NO! She was really upset about that one)
    BFP #1 3/07, EDD 11/12/07, MMC 5/7/07
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
    BFP #3 8/19/16, EDD 4/30/17, DS2 4/25/17
    BFP #4 12/22/18, EDD 9/6/19 - CP 12/29/18
    BFP #5 1/18/19, EDD 10/3/19 
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    High Risk Dx (6/14):  Homozygous MTHFR C677T, protein C & S deficiencies
  • @cmbt2 I love my MIL and my SIL and BIL. It’s just that my FIL went off the deep end into constant selfishness since my MIL (she’s a saint) divorced him. After seeing him last night, I suspect he may be in a depression. He’s very machismo though so I know he wouldn’t admit it. All we can do is let him know we love him and we are here.

    😳 dude your ILs sound rough.  I can only imagine the stress that adds to your life. Are you and your husband on the same page about them?

    P.S. I was obsessed with Sailor Moon when I was younger. I watched it every day after school. Swooned over Tuxedo Mask. I wanted to have girls and name them Venus and Serena. I still have the manga at my parents house. 😆
  • cmbt2cmbt2 member
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    @brownbarista unfortunately, no. My MIL is a narcissist who will cry and call me a b*** when she doesn’t get her way. My H has only just started to realize this and is super unwilling to tell her no because he doesn’t want to deal with her temper tantrums (which are exactly what they are)

    example- we both had to travel the same week for work. My grandmother came up to watch the kids. MIL couldn’t understand why we both had to go that week because it was keeping her from seeing the boys as planned. 
    BFP #1 3/07, EDD 11/12/07, MMC 5/7/07
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
    BFP #3 8/19/16, EDD 4/30/17, DS2 4/25/17
    BFP #4 12/22/18, EDD 9/6/19 - CP 12/29/18
    BFP #5 1/18/19, EDD 10/3/19 
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    High Risk Dx (6/14):  Homozygous MTHFR C677T, protein C & S deficiencies
  • cmbt2cmbt2 member
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    @galentine my comments on it being small were more in terms of us trying to decide the way to organize check ins and such. I actually don’t mind small groups, to an extent. I was elsewhere for DS2, and that board completely died out by the time we gave birth. With my Jan’15 board, we started large and dwindled to about 40-50 regulars. We eventually all moved over to FB. Our group has dwindled more over the years, but there’s about 20 of us left, and we’re all super close!
    BFP #1 3/07, EDD 11/12/07, MMC 5/7/07
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
    BFP #3 8/19/16, EDD 4/30/17, DS2 4/25/17
    BFP #4 12/22/18, EDD 9/6/19 - CP 12/29/18
    BFP #5 1/18/19, EDD 10/3/19 
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    High Risk Dx (6/14):  Homozygous MTHFR C677T, protein C & S deficiencies
  • cmbt2cmbt2 member
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    My confession is two fold- I’m sitting at my desk eating and playing Pokémon go. I’m annoyed there’s no Pokémon when there’s usually tons. 
    BFP #1 3/07, EDD 11/12/07, MMC 5/7/07
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
    BFP #3 8/19/16, EDD 4/30/17, DS2 4/25/17
    BFP #4 12/22/18, EDD 9/6/19 - CP 12/29/18
    BFP #5 1/18/19, EDD 10/3/19 
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    High Risk Dx (6/14):  Homozygous MTHFR C677T, protein C & S deficiencies
  • My confession: I am on the bump at work instead of, you know, working. 

    UO: Not all babies are cute. (Inspired by a friend's baby IRL who is decidedly NOT cute. But baby is its own category of lovable anyway so it doesn't matter.) 

    Of course I though both of my babies were cute so I'm not sure a mom would be able to tell, lol. 
    I agree. And I was more worried than I should have been that DS would be unfortunate looking lol. 
    TW: MMC
    BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
    BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
    ———
    Diagnoses and Treatments
    PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
    Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
    Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
    ———
    BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
    BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏

    wintersonggalentine
  • cmbt2cmbt2 member
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    My confession: I am on the bump at work instead of, you know, working. 

    UO: Not all babies are cute. (Inspired by a friend's baby IRL who is decidedly NOT cute. But baby is its own category of lovable anyway so it doesn't matter.) 

    Of course I though both of my babies were cute so I'm not sure a mom would be able to tell, lol. 
    I totally agree. Mine are adorable though with their perfectly round heads 🤣

    most look like aliens or wrinkly old men 
    BFP #1 3/07, EDD 11/12/07, MMC 5/7/07
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
    BFP #3 8/19/16, EDD 4/30/17, DS2 4/25/17
    BFP #4 12/22/18, EDD 9/6/19 - CP 12/29/18
    BFP #5 1/18/19, EDD 10/3/19 
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    High Risk Dx (6/14):  Homozygous MTHFR C677T, protein C & S deficiencies
    wintersong
  • cmbt2 said:
    My confession: I am on the bump at work instead of, you know, working. 

    UO: Not all babies are cute. (Inspired by a friend's baby IRL who is decidedly NOT cute. But baby is its own category of lovable anyway so it doesn't matter.) 

    Of course I though both of my babies were cute so I'm not sure a mom would be able to tell, lol. 
    I totally agree. Mine are adorable though with their perfectly round heads 🤣

    most look like aliens or wrinkly old men 
    The one perk to my c section! DS had a perfectly round head! 😂
    TW: MMC
    BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
    BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
    ———
    Diagnoses and Treatments
    PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
    Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
    Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
    ———
    BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
    BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏

  • cmbt2cmbt2 member
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    cmbt2 said:
    My confession: I am on the bump at work instead of, you know, working. 

    UO: Not all babies are cute. (Inspired by a friend's baby IRL who is decidedly NOT cute. But baby is its own category of lovable anyway so it doesn't matter.) 

    Of course I though both of my babies were cute so I'm not sure a mom would be able to tell, lol. 
    I totally agree. Mine are adorable though with their perfectly round heads 🤣

    most look like aliens or wrinkly old men 
    The one perk to my c section! DS had a perfectly round head! 😂
    Everyone always asked if my kids were because they didn’t have coneheads 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ No, they just came out wicked fast 🤣
    BFP #1 3/07, EDD 11/12/07, MMC 5/7/07
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
    BFP #3 8/19/16, EDD 4/30/17, DS2 4/25/17
    BFP #4 12/22/18, EDD 9/6/19 - CP 12/29/18
    BFP #5 1/18/19, EDD 10/3/19 
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    High Risk Dx (6/14):  Homozygous MTHFR C677T, protein C & S deficiencies
  • @cmbt2 mine too! 😂
  • @ceclarlinetlo I like you already 😉

    Me: 30 Him: 35
    Married: Oct 2015
    Baby G born June 2017
    TTC#2: July 2018
    BFP #2: 2/6/19

        Babysizer Cravings Pregnancy Tracker
    ceclarlinetlo
  • cmbt2cmbt2 member
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    @ceclarlinetlo oh my!! I'll definitely will be a fly on the wall feeling really awkward when that thread starts!! I'm not looking forward to telling half my family that yes, they have to see a Dr and get the Tdap vaccine if you wanna see my baby in the next year. And no, you cannot come near us smelling like an ashtray
    I also require the flu shot. I give no craps. MiL thought I would relent on that one and learned the hard way that she wouldn’t meet DS1 until May (January baby) if she didn’t get one 
    BFP #1 3/07, EDD 11/12/07, MMC 5/7/07
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
    BFP #3 8/19/16, EDD 4/30/17, DS2 4/25/17
    BFP #4 12/22/18, EDD 9/6/19 - CP 12/29/18
    BFP #5 1/18/19, EDD 10/3/19 
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    High Risk Dx (6/14):  Homozygous MTHFR C677T, protein C & S deficiencies
    manillabarnnaelilakgrapeskittles4lyfe
  • cmbt2 said:
    @ceclarlinetlo oh my!! I'll definitely will be a fly on the wall feeling really awkward when that thread starts!! I'm not looking forward to telling half my family that yes, they have to see a Dr and get the Tdap vaccine if you wanna see my baby in the next year. And no, you cannot come near us smelling like an ashtray
    I also require the flu shot. I give no craps. MiL thought I would relent on that one and learned the hard way that she wouldn’t meet DS1 until May (January baby) if she didn’t get one 
    Same! I gave people plenty of notice to get the TDaP and flu shot and didn’t budge.

    I’ve grown up my whole life being told I can’t get the TDaP. My entire leg swelled up from the first one so my pediatrician wouldn’t give me the second. (Spoiler alert - even after I had a legit reaction to that one, my mom still got me every other vaccine on time.) Knowing that, I asked OB if I should get it anyway and she said definitely not. She told me since I couldn't have it that anyone else who was going to spend any significant time around the baby should.
    TW: MMC
    BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
    BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
    ———
    Diagnoses and Treatments
    PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
    Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
    Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
    ———
    BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
    BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏

  • brownbaristabrownbarista member
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    edited February 9
    cmbt2 said:
    @brownbarista unfortunately, no. My MIL is a narcissist who will cry and call me a b*** when she doesn’t get her way. My H has only just started to realize this and is super unwilling to tell her no because he doesn’t want to deal with her temper tantrums (which are exactly what they are)

    example- we both had to travel the same week for work. My grandmother came up to watch the kids. MIL couldn’t understand why we both had to go that week because it was keeping her from seeing the boys as planned. 
    😬😬😬 I had the “yikes” face reading this. Oh man that would cause problems if my husband wasn’t on my team. You’re a saint for continuing the relationship. (With MIL)
  • cmbt2 said:
    My confession is two fold- I’m sitting at my desk eating and playing Pokémon go. I’m annoyed there’s no Pokémon when there’s usually tons. 
    Also, I feel like it’s an UO to like Pokémon Go if you’re an adult. My husband and I play too. 😆
  • cmbt2cmbt2 member
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    cmbt2 said:
    @brownbarista unfortunately, no. My MIL is a narcissist who will cry and call me a b*** when she doesn’t get her way. My H has only just started to realize this and is super unwilling to tell her no because he doesn’t want to deal with her temper tantrums (which are exactly what they are)

    example- we both had to travel the same week for work. My grandmother came up to watch the kids. MIL couldn’t understand why we both had to go that week because it was keeping her from seeing the boys as planned. 
    😬😬😬 I had the “yikes” face reading this. Oh man that would cause problems if my husband wasn’t on my team. You’re a saint for continuing the relationship. (With MIL)
    Not even remotely! I can’t stand her and she knows it. I don’t put up with her stunts and have no issues calling her out, same with FIL. 

    That story isn’t even the icing on the cake. I have stories that will make most people’s skin crawl off
    BFP #1 3/07, EDD 11/12/07, MMC 5/7/07
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
    BFP #3 8/19/16, EDD 4/30/17, DS2 4/25/17
    BFP #4 12/22/18, EDD 9/6/19 - CP 12/29/18
    BFP #5 1/18/19, EDD 10/3/19 
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    High Risk Dx (6/14):  Homozygous MTHFR C677T, protein C & S deficiencies
  • cmbt2cmbt2 member
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    cmbt2 said:
    My confession is two fold- I’m sitting at my desk eating and playing Pokémon go. I’m annoyed there’s no Pokémon when there’s usually tons. 
    Also, I feel like it’s an UO to like Pokémon Go if you’re an adult. My husband and I play too. 😆
    My H won’t play with me 😞 I caught a workmate playing one day. we now raid together lol
    BFP #1 3/07, EDD 11/12/07, MMC 5/7/07
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
    BFP #3 8/19/16, EDD 4/30/17, DS2 4/25/17
    BFP #4 12/22/18, EDD 9/6/19 - CP 12/29/18
    BFP #5 1/18/19, EDD 10/3/19 
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    High Risk Dx (6/14):  Homozygous MTHFR C677T, protein C & S deficiencies
  • cmbt2 said:
    cmbt2 said:
    @brownbarista unfortunately, no. My MIL is a narcissist who will cry and call me a b*** when she doesn’t get her way. My H has only just started to realize this and is super unwilling to tell her no because he doesn’t want to deal with her temper tantrums (which are exactly what they are)

    example- we both had to travel the same week for work. My grandmother came up to watch the kids. MIL couldn’t understand why we both had to go that week because it was keeping her from seeing the boys as planned. 
    😬😬😬 I had the “yikes” face reading this. Oh man that would cause problems if my husband wasn’t on my team. You’re a saint for continuing the relationship. (With MIL)
    Not even remotely! I can’t stand her and she knows it. I don’t put up with her stunts and have no issues calling her out, same with FIL. 

    That story isn’t even the icing on the cake. I have stories that will make most people’s skin crawl off
    Ooooh! We can do an "MIL-March" themed thread next month. I've got a few doozies as well.
    The original: Aug2013
    The remix: Feb2017
    The encore: coming Oct2019

     
  • Yay for more science in Oct2019!
    The original: Aug2013
    The remix: Feb2017
    The encore: coming Oct2019

     
    elle-0409manillabar
  • @ceclarlinetlo oh my!! I'll definitely will be a fly on the wall feeling really awkward when that thread starts!! I'm not looking forward to telling half my family that yes, they have to see a Dr and get the Tdap vaccine if you wanna see my baby in the next year. And no, you cannot come near us smelling like an ashtray
    With DD1 we told the ILs and my parents we wanted to see some vaccinations first. I was really surprised at how recalcitrant my mom was. I mean, she and my dad went and got their shots, but she was majorly passive-aggressive about it.
    My MIL still hasn't forgiven me about it. Tough luck.
    The original: Aug2013
    The remix: Feb2017
    The encore: coming Oct2019

     
    wintersong
  • cmbt2 said:
    cmbt2 said:
    @brownbarista unfortunately, no. My MIL is a narcissist who will cry and call me a b*** when she doesn’t get her way. My H has only just started to realize this and is super unwilling to tell her no because he doesn’t want to deal with her temper tantrums (which are exactly what they are)

    example- we both had to travel the same week for work. My grandmother came up to watch the kids. MIL couldn’t understand why we both had to go that week because it was keeping her from seeing the boys as planned. 
    😬😬😬 I had the “yikes” face reading this. Oh man that would cause problems if my husband wasn’t on my team. You’re a saint for continuing the relationship. (With MIL)
    Not even remotely! I can’t stand her and she knows it. I don’t put up with her stunts and have no issues calling her out, same with FIL. 

    That story isn’t even the icing on the cake. I have stories that will make most people’s skin crawl off
    Ooooh! We can do an "MIL-March" themed thread next month. I've got a few doozies as well.
    Totally needs to happen!

    she messaged today asking for summer visit dates. I don’t know, lady. It’s only mid-February. I don’t have the year planned out yet, FFS! No one tell her I’m due the day after her birthday. I‘ll never hear the end of it!
    BFP #1 3/07, EDD 11/12/07, MMC 5/7/07
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
    BFP #3 8/19/16, EDD 4/30/17, DS2 4/25/17
    BFP #4 12/22/18, EDD 9/6/19 - CP 12/29/18
    BFP #5 1/18/19, EDD 10/3/19 
    ~~~  ~~~  ~~~
    High Risk Dx (6/14):  Homozygous MTHFR C677T, protein C & S deficiencies
    grapeskittles4lyfec.gardner37wabash15
  • cmbt2 said:
    @galentine my comments on it being small were more in terms of us trying to decide the way to organize check ins and such. I actually don’t mind small groups, to an extent. I was elsewhere for DS2, and that board completely died out by the time we gave birth. With my Jan’15 board, we started large and dwindled to about 40-50 regulars. We eventually all moved over to FB. Our group has dwindled more over the years, but there’s about 20 of us left, and we’re all super close!

    This is exactly what happened to my 2013 BMB. We started out with almost 100 women, and by birth down to about 50. In the almost 6 years since it's just like 20 of us in a super secret FB group that are still pretty close.
    TTC #1 6/2011
    BFP #1 10/2012
    DS#1 born 6/2013

    TTC#2 12/2013
    BFP#2 2/2019

    Due Date October 15th, 2019.
    wintersong
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