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PGAL Check-in w/o 1/30

This check-in will be posted every Wednesday. Welcome all new members. No TW needed here for loss discussions, but please use a TW to discuss living children. 

How far along are you/EDD?

Current mood?

If you haven't already/want to again, please share your loss history, if comfortable.

Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs?

Rants/Raves/Dear Diary?

GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with?

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  • 40momma40momma member
    250 Love Its 100 Comments First Anniversary Name Dropper
    edited January 31

    How far along are you/EDD? 6w1d

    Current mood? Currently ecstatic, just received the phone call that said my betas have risen exactly the way they should be. I've been holding my breath since my BFP

    If you haven't already/want to again, please share your loss history, if comfortable. 3 mc in 2017 all between 5w and 8w. No living children

    Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs? waiting for the phone call for my first u/s appt

    Rants/Raves/Dear Diary? what an absolute roller coaster of a ride. I'm so relieved to hear my betas are rising, but I'm still so scared knowing all to well that I'm not out of the woods yet

    GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with? travel. I love to find travel deals and research travel places.


    @kiddiesandkitties I am so sorry about the loss of your baby, I can't even imagine the roller coaster of emotions you must be on. 

    @nomangos23 congratulations on hearing the heart beat. That has to be the most beautiful sound to a momma's ears 

    maserrano714MsBeachNJflowerintherain
  • @40momma Yay for betas rising beautifully! That must have been such relieving news. Is that a milestone or did you have no problems with betas in the past? My two MCs I didn't have doubling betas, so when they doubled this time, I was so hopeful for a heartbeat. 

    Me 30 DH 31
    MC 1/4/18 @ 21 weeks 
    CP 5/6/18 @ 5.5 weeks
    MC 6/22/18 @ 6.5 weeks


    40momma
  • @nomangos23 I've never gotten to the point of having great rising betas, until now! I keep reminding myself that this is a different egg, different sperm, and I'm loaded with more power to get this nugget across the finish line. I'm on baby aspirin, extra folic acid and shots of fragmin daily to thin my sticky blood. Praying so badly that this will do the trick. 
    MsBeachNJ
  • @40momma One day at a time, but today's beta news is a reason to celebrate :) 

    Me 30 DH 31
    MC 1/4/18 @ 21 weeks 
    CP 5/6/18 @ 5.5 weeks
    MC 6/22/18 @ 6.5 weeks


    40momma
  • I'm out ladies. There was no heartbeat at my ultrasound appointment today. Baby stopped growing at 6 weeks and I should be 8 weeks. Feeling kind of numb right now. Thanks for all your support. Wishing you all the best of luck with your rainbow babies.
  • How far along are you/EDD? 
    5+0 today!

    Current mood? 
    Exhausted and anxious

    If you haven't already/want to again, please share your loss history, if comfortable.
    4x early losses (Sept 2014, Nov 2014, Jan 2015, July 2015); we ultimately moved on to IVF with PGS.

    Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs?
    First ultrasound is the 11th at 6+5, so I'm just trying to survive until then, when we can hopefully see a heartbeat. Fingers crossed so hard.

    Rants/Raves/Dear Diary?
    I had no idea pregnancy heartburn could start this early. Oof. It's waking me up at night already. Also, having to fight with insurance about covering my progesterone supplement is beyond stressful -- they have it misclassified as an infertility-only drug when we're using it for maintaining the pregnancy, and it's about $1800/mo out of pocket so I really need them to approve it ASAP.

    GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with?
    Fixing their computers and other technical issues, heh.

    ---
    ♥ Married since June 2009 ♥
    TW: Living children & Losses:
    Mom of sons "Alpha" (Feb 2012) & "Beta" (May 2016)
    Pregnant after 4 losses via IVF/FET with daughter "Gamma" (EDD Oct 2, 2019)
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    MsBeachNJflowerintherain
  • @kiddiesandkitties Wow I don't know if I had seen you post your story about losing your LO before. I'm so so sorry and cannot imagine the pain you went through/are still going through. Wishing you all the best during this pregnancy <3

    @maserrano714 So very very sorry to you as well. You need to feel however you need to feel right now, numb, angry, sad, whatever works! Praying for peace and comfort for you <3
    maserrano714
  • klpv415klpv415 member
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    edited January 30
    How far along are you/EDD? 6w1d // EDD: 9/24

    Current mood? Feeling okay. Nausea has been better today but I've had heartburn since yesterday. But I've also been eating like sh*t so that could be the reason. Super sleepy, didn't get good sleep last night thanks to my POS neighbor (apartment living) who was SINGING and slamming doors at 4am this morning.

    If you haven't already/want to again, please share your loss history, if comfortable. CP in December 2017, MC at 11 weeks in April 2018

    Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs?
    First official OB appointment and second ultrasound on February 7th. FX till then.

    Rants/Raves/Dear Diary? I feel like I'm trying to detach myself from this pregnancy. I've held back from being excited the entire time because of the previous losses, and I feel like now I'm almost pessimistic about it. Especially gven all the recent members we've lost even since I've been active here. My heart just hurts and I don't know why it has to be so damn hard for mothers wanting to have children.

    GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with? Their feelings lol. I'm a mental health counselor so I get a lot of people needing someone to listen; which, can be super draining. I'm working on setting better boundaries with friends and loved ones, especially during this time.


    ETF EDD

    soraletteMsBeachNJflowerintherain
  • @maserrano714, I am so, so sorry.  I hope you can take some time to grieve and process.  We will be thinking of you.

    @kiddiesandkittens, I want to echo what @kplv415 said.  I can't imagine what you have been through and are feeling now.  Wishing you a smooth pregnancy, with as little anxiety as possible.  And I hope your long, busy day goes relatively quickly!

    @nomangos23, so glad you had a good ultrasound yesterday!  Your comment on prophetic dreams made me laugh - I dreamed at the beginning of my first pregnancy of my husband skiing with a little girl, which I took as a sign I was having a girl (nope).  This time I'm assuming boy because that seems to be my trend.

    @40momma, yay for good beta results!  So happy for you. 

    @soralette, sorry you're dealing with insurance issues, and I hope they get resolved quickly.  $1800 a month?!  Is that for shots or pills?  I have been taking progesterone suppositories but never imagined they'd be so pricey (fortunately no insurance issues yet).
    maserrano714
  • How far along are you/EDD? 8+1/EDD9/11

    Current mood? Nausea, super sleepy, migraines 

    Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs? February 12 is the first doctor appointment and sono

    Rants/Raves/Dear Diary? It is so hard keeping the secret from everyone other than DH and our parents.  I need the nausea to go away because its making me not want to eat which causes my migraines.  

    GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with?  They are usually seeking free legal advice.

    MsBeachNJ
  • How far along are you/EDD? 6w3d

    Current mood?  My cautious optimism shifted more to anxiety in the last week, but I'm keeping it somewhat at bay most of the time.  I'm both looking forward to and dreading that first ultrasound.  

    If you haven't already/want to again, please share your loss history, if comfortable.  We lost our first baby in 2017 around 22w gestation.

    Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs?  First ultrasound on 2/8

    Rants/Raves/Dear Diary?  Lots of anxiety this week (about pregnancy and other things - I think pregnancy hormones do not help my anxiety!), but today has been okay so far.  I am wishing time forward in a big way, as I know many of us are...  

    GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with?  Legal documents (I'm an attorney but usually unqualified to help, unfortunately).  Or sometimes advice - I tend to be pretty good at being objective and comforting when it comes to other people's lives - not so easy to turn that inward.

    My heart is really hurting for the women going through losses.  This journey is so tough.  

    I'm also thinking of those of you with appointments yet today - I recall 1/30 being a common appointment day <3

    MsBeachNJflowerintherain
  • @eller-2 I hope so, too! The doc has submitted the appropriate letter to them, but I don't know if insurance will agree to backdate it for the existing Rx. In my case, it's Crinone 8% -- which is about $29 per dose at the insurance-negotiated lower rate than full retail, which I have to do 2x/day up through 10wks. :pensive: The problem is that my insurance company has it classified as infertility-only, but it's obstetric.

    Which of the suppositories are you on? :) Crinone or Endometrin?
    ---
    ♥ Married since June 2009 ♥
    TW: Living children & Losses:
    Mom of sons "Alpha" (Feb 2012) & "Beta" (May 2016)
    Pregnant after 4 losses via IVF/FET with daughter "Gamma" (EDD Oct 2, 2019)
    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
  • @maserrano714 Oh noooo, I am so so sorry to hear this. What heart wrenching news. Please be kind to yourself through this process. Sending BIG hugs. 

    @eller-2 Will keep my fingers crossed for your first appointment. I'm sorry for all of the anxiety.. I think that's just how the PGAL brain works. If you're really on edge, you could ask your doc to see you sooner. Is this the same ob that saw you for your last pregnancy? I would think he/she would be understanding. How are you feeling? (physically?) 

    @callmedot how are you doing with fruit? Its the only thing that doesn't make my stomach turn. I keep berries, pineapple and apples around at all time. Sorry about the migraines. I can't imagine exhaustion, nausea AND migraines. 

    @klpv415 Well, that's certainly one way to start your morning.. Good for your neighbor but a little inconsiderate. I don't know about you but since I got KU I've been naturally waking up at 5am. WTF? I can understand feeling pessimistic about your pregnancy. I think those are normal feelings. The Bump is great for SO many things, but can also trigger feelings of insecurities and anxiety that you wouldn't have had otherwise.  My heart aches too for all we've lost b/c I've been there. We all have. And it hurts. Deeeeep calming breaths until your appt next week. 

    @soralette Are you using the injections? I can not stand insurance companies for this reason. Have you seen a heartbeat with any other previous pregnancies? FX for you!

    Me 30 DH 31
    MC 1/4/18 @ 21 weeks 
    CP 5/6/18 @ 5.5 weeks
    MC 6/22/18 @ 6.5 weeks


    klpv415maserrano714
  • @maserrano714 I'm so sorry, lady. So much love and hugs to you.

    @kiddiesandkitties ;So sorry to hear about your loss last year--though this pregnancy seems to be special the way it happened like that. Big hugs to you!

    @nomangos23 I also have a gut feeling I have a boy too? But my cousin who is also KU had that feeling & I just got a text the other day--they're having a girl. 

    @40momma <3 glad you can cherish yr good news!

    @eller-2 I agree w/ our friends about the PGAL brain being prone to anxiety. I'm so glad for those moments/days of optimism--it makes me, like, glad when I have terrible PG symptoms bc I'm like "well this must mean everything is okay for now." . also, like you said--my heart hurts to when we hear of others' losses.

    @callmedot yes on it being super hard. I've been writing down the list of everyone I've told--I think 5 total ppl? DH laughed that he was on that list. that way if I don't make it to second tri, I know exactly who I need to tell. & I've emphasized to ppl that this is a PGAL, so they really shouldn't tell anyone.

    @klpv415 There's a lot of singing going on this morning apparently (IDK if you checked out the Randoms thread yet today.) I am so sorry you're in a pessimistic place. I had a bad day for anxiety the other day, definitely, so I am extending my sympathy. / Ppl also come to me w/ their feelings & such-my friends this summer declared me "the patron saint of emotional labor" lol. I think it can be hardest for the ppl others lean on bc they don't always think that we need the same good emotional support they come to us for? I think that's probably one of the reasons i'm drawn to TB.

    How far along are you/EDD? 7w2d / 9/16

    Current mood? lazy, congested

    Loss Hist. cp in 10/2018

    Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs? 8 week appt on Monday

    Rants/Raves/Dear Diary? I have a million rants today, so here they are in brief: I have a sinus infection. I just got a splinter in my foot& it hurts (side rave: DH is being a DEAR & coming home to get it out for me); back to rants: I have to buy plane tix to a conference but they're all like "3 stops; 12 hours of travel" & like cost way too much; I have a lot to do, but I'm being super unproductive today. 1 rave bc I need something positive...: my antibiotics for my sinus infection were free? that's all i got.

    GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with? Grammar! I get texts from even my fellow English-major buds asking me grammar questions. 

    MsBeachNJmaserrano714flowerintherain
  • @eller-2 -- Oh, man, the anxiety is the worst. A week and a half feels like forever right now, too. If the doc won't get you in sooner for an ultrasound, would getting a beta hCG draw (or two, to watch doubling) help calm the anxiety at all?

    @nomangos23 -- I was, before the FET, but I'm phobic of needles, so adding that level of anxiety on top of "normal" PGAL anxiety was not judged to be beneficial. Wrt a heartbeat in previous pregnancies, yes. :) But not this one yet (obviously; she barely has a heart yet, heh); hopefully on the 11th! Thank you for the luck-wishing! I hope everything goes as smoothly as possible for you, too!!
    ---
    ♥ Married since June 2009 ♥
    TW: Living children & Losses:
    Mom of sons "Alpha" (Feb 2012) & "Beta" (May 2016)
    Pregnant after 4 losses via IVF/FET with daughter "Gamma" (EDD Oct 2, 2019)
    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
  • @maserrano714 I am so sorry! My heart is breaking for you. Sending you so much love.
    *TW*
    Me: 31 │ DH: 34 
    Married 8/16/13
    BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
    BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
    BFP# 3 EDD 9/5/19 Please stick little one!!


    maserrano714
  • How far along are you/EDD? 7 weeks 3 days - EDD 9/15

    Current mood? Mood should be wonderful because we had our first appointment/ultrasound today, all is measuring right on track at exactly 7 weeks 3 days (as predicted) and heart beat of 147. (I say should be, because I've had a wicked headache all day and work is slammed and if I don't feel like I want to throw up I feel like I need to crawl under my desk and sleep). 

    If you haven't already/want to again, please share your loss history, if comfortable. One prior loss in November 2018 at 8+ weeks. I am anxious to pass that milestone, though by this point last pregnancy I had already begun spotting & feeling lack of symptoms so I am feeling confident. 

    Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs?  Excited that todays appointment went so well, I was super nervous and anxious for it. Next appointment is 2/26 with my doctor, and I have to schedule my first in depth ultrasound at the specialist for between 11-14 weeks. I think to ease my anxiety since my next appointment is at 11 weeks and change, that I'll wait until around week 13 so I don't have to go as long between appointments. 

    Rants/Raves/Dear Diary? I feel like I am super hungover from a party that I didn't get to attend. Wicked headache, constant nausea, SO TIRED. Praying for the 2nd tri to arrive VERY quickly... I know it wont (TW Living child- I have a 2.5 year old daughter and my entire first tri with her was equally rough). 

    GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with? I am an excellent listener, and I am good at giving objective advice. 

    STM - EDD 9/15 - Team Green <3 
    kagesstarshroomflowerintherain
  • How far along are you/EDD? 6 weeks today

    Current mood? Exhausted and nervous. We have our first appointment tomorrow.  Ultrasound isn't scheduled until the week after at 7 weeks.

    If you haven't already/want to again, please share your loss history, if comfortable.  2 early losses in 2015; TW: living child born January 17: and early loss in August 18

    Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs?  First appointment tommorrow; 1st ultrasound next Thursday

    Rants/Raves/Dear Diary? I work with children and its flu season.  I just hate when parents bring their obviously sick children in for therapy.  I mean if your child has been diagnosed with the flu or has the stomach bug and was throwing up all night, please keep them home.  We had one child have diarrhea while in therapy (through all his clothes) and another who threw up just outside the door of the building all within the last few days.  I'm so anxious about getting sick or getting the flu.  It doesn't help my anxiety and it means they are passing their bugs onto other kids.  Colds are obviously different and I totally get taking a kid with a cold out in public but the flu or the stomach bug....come on!

    GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with?  Not really help but I am often a good sounding board and good to just listen.  

    kagesstarshroomMsBeachNJflowerintherain

  • How far along are you/EDD? 7w6d, due 9/13

    Current mood? Good, actually. My symptoms have been so strong and work has been so busy this week, I haven't really had a moment to stress about things going wrong. I'm trying to take things one day at a time and just chill out/not worry about the potential for things to go south.

    If you haven't already/want to again, please share your loss history, if comfortable. 4 early losses (prior to 5 weeks) between my two older daughters.

    Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs? Next appointment is 2/19, which will be my first official ob appointment. It's with a PA, though, and I work with her professionally...so that should be nice and awkward.  :D

    Rants/Raves/Dear Diary? I can't find maternity pants like I had with my last kiddo (she's 4 now)! I had Motherhood black slacks for work with a full bell panel, and they were sooooo comfy. They do not exist anywhere now, and I don't know what I'll do once my regular pants don't fit anymore.

    GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with? Computer stuff. I always try to hide my "talents" when I meet new people or start a new job, but it eventually comes out and then everyone is at my desk with questions that are easily google-able, lol.

    MsBeachNJsoraletteflowerintherain
  • How far along are you/EDD? I think 7 weeks today? Or 6+6? I don't know... finding out next Friday for sure hopefully!!!

    Current mood? anxious, tired, head cold/congested/sick BLEH!

    Loss Hist. 4 MCs all between 6-10 weeks in the last couple years ::TW::one living child DS who will be 2 on Monday::END TW::

    Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs? Next Friday is our next ultrasound to see if there is a HB or fetal pole or anything... last one at what we thought was 6 weeks, GS measured 6w6d but there was no yolk sack, fetal pole, or HB so that was a little scary and has us hangin' out in limbo.

    Rants/Raves/Dear Diary? Stress times one billion. I've been WFH all week due to this polar vortex and our house is a mess, I have an awful head cold/congestion/sinus thing. My parents fly in tonight and bestie flies in tomorrow. We have DS's 2nd birthday party this weekend and I'm hoping I can keep the pregnancy hidden for now. My parents literally ask ALL the time when we're having another child (they don't know about any of my previous losses) and I know with DS being 2, everyone will be asking questions again this weekend. It is so frustrating and with being in limbo, I definitely don't want to say something and then have to backtrack in a week.

    I also just got asked to be in one of my best friend's weddings which is going to be in another state, approximately 4 days before I'm due. I said yes for now but am sad I'll have to tell her know as I will be the third bridesmaid to back out for pregnancy (which, I'd rather have to back out of her wedding than lose this pregnancy obviously so, brightside! Hopefully I do have to back out!)

    GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with? Hm... a lot of people look to me for advice or to calm them down. Math help, since I'm a nerd like that. Tech help for my parents which makes me want to stab my eyes out haha

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    klpv415MsBeachNJflowerintherain
  • @eller-2 -- A cheap generic sounds amazing, haha. If my insurance can't get its head out of its rectum, I'll have to look into that! I'm glad the anxiety's letting up a bit. <3 I hope the rest of the week and weekend goes smoothly, too!
    ---
    ♥ Married since June 2009 ♥
    TW: Living children & Losses:
    Mom of sons "Alpha" (Feb 2012) & "Beta" (May 2016)
    Pregnant after 4 losses via IVF/FET with daughter "Gamma" (EDD Oct 2, 2019)
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    eller-2
  • How far along are you/EDD? 8w / 9/12

    Current mood? Stressed, nervous, hopeful, TIRED.

    If you haven't already/want to again, please share your loss history, if comfortable. MMC @13w back in Oct.

    Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs? Just had an appt yesterday for an u/s and repeat blood work to check progesterone levels. 

    Rants/Raves/Dear Diary? I'm so relieved all looked good on the ultrasound yesterday for the most part. I have an SCH which sucks, but it should resolve on its own. I'll be going back in two weeks for another check. I am on pelvic rest until then. I also just got a call from my OB and my progesterone tanked again (was 25 and now it's 10), so I have to up my dose of Prometrium to 2x daily. I am toying with the idea of switching back to taking it orally instead of vaginally. That seemed to work better for me. Maybe I will do one orally and one vaginally.

    GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with? They usually just want an ear to listen or some advice. I am a really good listener and am very easy to talk to, so I get a lot of people that just like to vent to me which I am totally cool with. If they don't feel better after venting then we usually try to brainstorm how to fix their problem. 

    *TW*
    Me: 31 │ DH: 34 
    Married 8/16/13
    BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
    BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
    BFP# 3 EDD 9/5/19 Please stick little one!!


    kagesstarshroomMsBeachNJflowerintherain
  • How far along are you/EDD? 7 weeks + 2 days

    Current mood? content

    If you haven't already/want to again, please share your loss history, if comfortable. MMC & D & C 9/29/18 at 9 weeks 

    Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs? 2/6 first appointment & ultrasound

    Rants/Raves/Dear Diary? Rants: Heartburn/indigestion is a total Be--otch! Oh- and my emotions are so all over the place I am for sure a lunatic. Raves: I am really proud of myself for continuing to be active. I have been walking 3 miles a day at a nice incline 3-4 days a week. Dear Diary, I need a nap.

    GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with? I am a really good listener. So, I don't think people actually want my advice, they just know that I will actively listen & genuinely care. I am usually able to provide some comfort. 

    We have been off school the last two days with this polar vortex BS. I am definitely not complaining about being off, but now I really don't want to go back to work. I am not even exaggerating when I say my face actually hurt when I was outside for less than a minute just walking from the car (and I was bundled up). 


    kagesstarshroomMsBeachNJflowerintherain
  • @zuuls_mom I’m no doctor, obviously, but I think vaginal progesterone works more locally and doesn’t always make it into your bloodstream. I was concerned too when I had been taking it for a few days and my blood tests showed it was still low, but my office said it was fine and that it’s getting where it needs to be. 

    zuuls_mom
  • @40momma I am thinking of you & sending positive vibes. I completely understand your roller coaster of emotions. I am on that ride too. I have my first appointment & ultrasound Wednesday & instead of being excited I am just terrified. All the what -ifs are rolling through my mind. We need to stay strong together! 
    40momma
  • @omg1108 my first u/s is Tuesday. So many emotions. The days drag by. Praying for the best outcome for all of us on here
  • @RedBreast35 that's what I have been reading online! I'm surprised they didn't say that. The nurse just said "your level is now only 10 so we want you to start taking the second dose". 
    *TW*
    Me: 31 │ DH: 34 
    Married 8/16/13
    BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
    BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
    BFP# 3 EDD 9/5/19 Please stick little one!!


  • First off, I just want to say how sorry I am for all of your losses. It is truly heartbreaking to know that this happens to many. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. 

    I've been a little shy about posting here, but after my roller coaster of a day yesterday, I needed to write something.

    How far along are you/EDD? 9w2s, 09/04

    Current mood? Numb? Angry?

    If you haven't already/want to again, please share your loss history, if comfortable. I had 1 loss at 6w two years ago in August. DH and I have struggled with trying to conceive since then.

    Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs? 2/5 for glucose tolerance, 2/7 for u/s and 2/13 with OB.

    Rants/Raves/Dear Diary? A huge rave for my DH who has been so supportive with every rollecoroller of emotions. Especially yesterday. My rant... I'll put that in a spoiler only because it is probably lengthy...

    For the past week I have been having light spotting, sometimes bleeding and where I had started noticing small clots. I started having back pain  and cramping. I called our local "nurses hotline" who was extremely helpful in patient care by calming me down and going over my symptoms, my history and medications, knowing the fact that I am high risk. She couldn't see my blood type on file and I explained I didn't know. The nurse said that if I didn't know that it was important that I found out ASAP, that if my bloodwork hadn't come back to my OB's office to go to the hospital. 

    Called my OB's office, I can't even get past the receptionist to speak with a nurse even. She tells me that my results aren't in yet. I asked if it would be possible to speak with a nurse, the receptionist then asked what my symptoms were and after briefly explaining her response was this: "There's nothing we can do here, if you're going to lose it than you're going to lose it. You need to go to the hospital." I was furious! Absolutely livid that that was the level of service she provided. 

    Rush off to the hospital now where I'm triaged fairly quickly at 10:30 AM. This is the hospital where I am seeing specialists throughout my high risk pregnancy because my local community hospital isn't equipped for it. I'm hearing horror stories from the patients waiting about how they've been there 14 hours, 10 hours, etc... I figure that because a nurse is going to draw blood that they'll do that and worst case scenario I end up waiting for the results. After 3 hours sitting, I speak with the nurse again because at this point my back is killing me, I started cramping again and I had nearly filled a pad. She told me to have a seat, but that the changes probably won't change anything. Another 3 hours go by and at this point I'm pretty antsy. My blood pressure is elevated because I'm stressing and despite DH's best efforts, I'm pretty much incosolable. After 9 hours of waiting for my blood  be taken, I go up to a new nurse and advise him that my pain levels have increased, etc... I asked if they have me listed as being a high risk pregnancy, he said no. That people have been sitting for 10 hours waiting that are ahead of me still and that it could be an additional 5 hours before a nurse calls me to take blood samples. Then, because they now have a backlog at the labs, an additional 2-4 hours for results. I was then told again, that they focus on the truly sick patients in the ER and that if I was miscarrying that they couldn't do anything about it anyway.

    Needless to say, we walked (I may have stormed as best I could) out of there and we made the long drive out to our community hospital where within two hours I was seen by a nurse, a doctor and then had blood drawn. 30 minutes later the doctor was calling me back in explaining that my HCG levels were elevated, my blood type is O+ and that while they couldn't do an ultrasound at 1AM because they don't have a tech to do it, could I come back when they are in and at that time do another blood test to make sure my HCG levels are rising. He also wanted to make sure I got some decent sleep in my own bed because rest is good for me.

    Of course I said yes.

    Long story short; My fears and anxieties about something being wrong were eased, I go back to the hospital for an ultrasound and fingers crossed that things are okay.

    GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with? Computer related stuff or resume writing.

    MsBeachNJflowerintherain
  • klpv415klpv415 member
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    @yoshi882 Wowwwww. First of all, that receptionist. What a c-u-next-Tuesday!! Though what she said may have been accurate, she can practice a LITTLE bedside manner! Would she have told a relative who was calling about a sick loved one "Well if they're dying then they're going to die and there's nothing we can do about it." Girl I'm livid for you. I'm also sorry about your experience at the hospital.
    FX that your ultrasound goes well and that things are fine. Good luck to you <3

    ETA: I deleted part of my story about my experience because you don't need to hear those details while you're already stressing.
  • @yoshi882 Your story is infuriating. I'm so sorry that happened, but am glad you were able to get treatment at your local hospital like a decent human being. FX for you US. Is it today?


    Me 30 DH 31
    MC 1/4/18 @ 21 weeks 
    CP 5/6/18 @ 5.5 weeks
    MC 6/22/18 @ 6.5 weeks


  • @yoshi882 Glad you finally feel comfy posting via the PGAL thread. You're always welcome here. And oh em gee wooowwww sounds like you had a stressful everything during pretty much that whole experience. FX everything looks good for you today & moving forward. I'm so glad YH was a champ for you. Whatta guy!
  • @yoshi882 what a frightening experience. That receptionist is a twat, who has absolutely no right working in health care. I'm praying for a good ultrasound to help put your fears at ease
    omg1108
  • @yoshi882 OMG. That receptionist and the staff at the first hospital! :rage: I am livid you were treated that way!! I'm glad the other hospital was much kinder and more prompt in helping you. I hope the u/s gets you good news -- when will you go back in for it?
    ---
    ♥ Married since June 2009 ♥
    TW: Living children & Losses:
    Mom of sons "Alpha" (Feb 2012) & "Beta" (May 2016)
    Pregnant after 4 losses via IVF/FET with daughter "Gamma" (EDD Oct 2, 2019)
    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
  • How far along are you/EDD? 6w1d

    Current mood? So nauseated all the time. So, gross.

    If you haven't already/want to again, please share your loss history, if comfortable. 1 loss at 4w5d on 12/20  

    Any upcoming appointments, milestones, loss anniversaries, EDDs? Ultrasound 2/14

    Rants/Raves/Dear Diary? Why do sick already?!? TW- with DS I was sick the whole time. Sigh

    GTKY: When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with? Music recs:)

    MsBeachNJ
  • @yoshi882 O.M.G I am so mad for you at how the receptionist and hospital treated you! So uncalled for and unprofessional. I am so sorry. I hope you were able to get in for an u/s today and all is well!
    *TW*
    Me: 31 │ DH: 34 
    Married 8/16/13
    BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
    BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
    BFP# 3 EDD 9/5/19 Please stick little one!!


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