FFFC 1/18

MollyH1987

wabash15

One big motivation to be team green is to piss people off...

grangerhp37

I wish we could wait much longer to tell my MIL about this baby. I love her but I know she will drive me crazy... we got a new puppy, and she has been sending us all this training advice (unnecessary, we already have a dog) and sent us this giant gift in the mail with all the stuff that we had already purchased for the dog. Like I appreciate the gesture but we obviously bought a collar and food bowls before picking up the puppy... at least ask us before buying tons of crap.

But H and I have a deal that his parents are next to know before we share the news with extended family and friends, and I’m itching to tell more people so we’ll just have to get it over with! Telling the IL’s next week 🙈

jrm_14

If I read a giant string of UO’s as FFFCs today, I may legit scream. 

jrm_14

@wabash15 Pissing off others is my main motivation to want to be team green. Also, I have HIGHLY considered finding out the sex & not telling a single soul. Not even my husband. On the flip side, I’m holding out for Team Green so then if I “give in” to MH wanting to find out, I have more leverage in other areas such as naming. 

deecherise

I'm lactose intolerant, but I've been eating all the dairy lately under the pretense of making sure LO gets enough calcium. The only one who is truly suffering is asshole labmate.

wabash15

@jrm_14

Allycat11

@wabash15 while I truly want the surprise of being team green with this one, it is a huge perk that it pisses people off. 

DD: Shared everything, chatted names, gender, etc... Hated that other people thought they had a say. 
DS: Shared gender but did not even discuss names with people. My friends totally understood, this has become common practice in my circle. MIL was piiiiised and thought we were being so selfish. 

This time, no names, no gender. All of it will be a surprise. My friends who know we are team green are excited, MIL has no idea yet and I can not wait to break it to her. 

sourlemon

We just ordered the nursery furniture since all looked good at Wednesdays ultrasound.

I'm currently eating a salad with romaine and cold deli meat.

I've done zero work at work so far today.

BigBadWolf12

I took off my spanx shorts yesterday. ..in the corner of the train station....because I just couldn't last another 30 minutes home after a long day at work sucking in my blump and then parents night. Nothing to hide under my winter coat,  TYVM. (Decided if I wear spanx again to work I will put them on and take them off at school haha.)

olivemomma

They got the money shot of the baby at our nuechal scan today and I’ve been analyzing it nonstop trying to figure out if I see something or not! 

lilmamabebe3

We always leave work early before a holiday weekend, and really I am only here to show my face since I have been working from home so much. So my confession is that I have done nothing but online shop, talk shit with coworkers, and sit on facebook and the bump. I am not doing any work today, and I'm not even sorry. My VP told me that with my hyperemesis, to just let him know if I need more time for anything so I got an extension on a project so I can just do nothing today.

Allycat11

Our girl scout cookies arrived Monday. DH and I hid them and have not shared single one with the kids. 

ElcaB

Every time a FTM say she's going med-free, I wonder if she really will. 

peachy0709

@Allycat11 - I was an adult before I tried samoas because my mom told me my whole life that "[I] wouldn't like them." I 1000% plan to use this tactic on my own children. 

olivemomma

@Allycat11 I have been known to hide them from my husband as well and eat an entire box in one sitting. They really just don’t put enough in there...🤦‍♀️

zamoraspin

I ate a ball of mozzarella for lunch and a lump of brie for snack (yes, pasteurized). Wondering what my dinner cheese will be...

@dogmomma096 I don't really look forward to telling my MIL for the reasons you describe. She is an "expert" on every topic, she has allegedly met every famous person you mention, and any historical figure in a movie is someone she is related to because she used ancestry.com. Exhausting. 

Allycat11

@peachy0709 DH hates coconut so I always just get a box of samoas for myself that I do not have to share! 

aevan011

@zamora_spin I was just telling DH how good breaded/baked camembert sounds right now. It's probably a good thing we don't have 24 hour grocery stores here...

aukeev

I know everyone says you're supposed to eat the healthiest when you're pregnant, but I've been living on PB&Js, macaroni and cheese and canned tomato soup. With the occasional frequent donut and/or cookie. Carbs are life right now. 

lilmamabebe3

Add us to the list of people who haven’t told in laws. My in laws are really annoying and have made rude comments about our and SILs family planning choices so I don’t see them reacting in a joyful way even though there is zero reason not to. I’m going to be annoyed so I’m just letting DH tell them and he hasn’t felt like dealing with it so whatever!

Also this confession makes me super sad but I can’t bring myself to buy anything for the baby. I was at target and wanted to buy a cute, neutral outfit for the baby and I couldn’t. I just couldn’t be excited. And I’m so excited about the baby but it still doesn’t feel real and I wonder if knowing the sex will make it feel more real or what. I’m just a ball of nerves still and I didn’t realize it until today. I want to be able to bond with the baby during my pregnancy but I can’t yet. It makes me sad. 

caz_mama

@lilmamabebe3 I relate so much to the second part of your post. We tried for a long time to conceive and the fertility docs told us it was a long shot. Im happy of course but I’m so nervous to lean into being pregnant and get super excited. I hope my NIPS results will help me feel more reassurance. You’re not alone. Hugs. 

suzycupcake

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hillaryo14

I ate way too much at work today. And I still want more.

Beauxbaton

I've told my H that I don't want to tell my parents yet because I want to see what the MFM doctor had to say so I can know what to expect. But really it's because I don't feel like my mom is going to be excited at all.

Allycat11

@lilmamabebe3 it is really tough when people do not react appropriately to your pregnancy announcenents. One of my dad's reactions in the past has been, "Well they must be doing well financially." This time my mom's response was, "Oh boy, well okay...I guess you always wanted 3." 
This time we did not tell SIL because in the past she has thought we are being selfish by telling her before we are ready to let her tell everyone...so she found out this time when a friend texted her our FB announcement. 

I also am not buying anything for the baby yet and just started allowing myself to get attached a week ago and even then I am hesitant. 

grangerhp37

I did absolutely nothing all day except eat while sitting on the couch. H is on his way home from work so I just showered and ran around cleaning up the house so it’s not so obvious I’ve been a lazy bum 😂

purplg8r

@jrm_14 ok. Dumb question but I really don’t know (I’m sorry!!!).  What the difference between UO and FFFC?

WinchesterGirl

I bought a pair of bright pink baby booties. I just have the world's strongest feeling this one is a girl. But we shall see!

jrm_14

@purplg8r Unpopular Opinions in my books are “I don’t like cheese”, “I don’t plan to vaccinate on schedule”, “Home births are selfish”, “TV is a mind suck”, “Old people smell is great.” 

FFFC’s, again, in my book are “I ate raw meat today”, “I lied to my doctor about xyz so I could get a scan”, “I cheated on my husband when we were dating and he doesn’t know”, “I hit an old lady with my car and drove off.”  

I am not sure why I’m so passionate about these being straight lol. 

*These are all random examples. 

suzycupcake

@jrm_14

cato99

@jrm_14 your examples list is a masterpiece. 

My FFFC is that I’ve let DD watch Moana pretty much every night this week with dinner (she only watches the first 20 or so minutes before finding other shenanigans to get into). Tonight even after she wandered off I kept watching it, and cried copiously at the end (we’ve seen it a hundred times. So it’s not like a shocking unexpected plot moment). Pregnancy hormones, man. 

BigBadWolf12

@OklahomaK first tri gets a pass.  sure,  pregnancy is supposed to be a healthy time,  but all that starts in second tri.  First tri is about surviving 😂 I mean,  if you CAN be healthy,  do it! But if you live on pasta and bread lying on the couch exhausted for 3 months,  it's not the end of the world

aukeev

@BigBadWolf12 well I’m glad to hear that because it’s ezacrly what I’ve been doing 😂

Babylovecali

@Allycat11 My DH doesn’t like the coconut Girl Scout cookies either so I always get my own box. Also I relate to what you said about telling names and gender. With my first I shared my girl name and boy name with my friends before I knew the gender and one of my friends took my girl name because I had a boy and she had a girl around the same time. It really pissed me off because now I can never use it. This time I am not discussing names with anyone except DH until that baby comes out of my uterus, lol. I do want to find out the sex though.

Babylovecali

@dogmomma096 Wow, I can totally understand why you wouldn’t want to tell your in laws with the whole dog incident. Is this their first grandchild too? We haven’t told my in laws yet either because they can’t keep a secret and will tell everyone. Last time my SIL was bugging me to put our announcement on FB so she could share our news with everyone. Not sure when or if I will do a social media announcement this time, people are just so nosy sometimes. I will do it if and when I’m ready. 

grangerhp37

@Babylovescali Yup first grandchild. It’s mainly my MIL (H’s parents are divorced and both remarried). She means well but can be WAY over the top.

When we bought our house, my MIL and SFIL came to help us clean before we moved in. They brought us boxes and boxes of crap (like cleaning products and the entire contents of their junk drawers) that we didn’t need, because they were also moving and didn’t want to throw things out. So we had boxes of junk all over our new house before we even moved in that we had to deal with getting rid of. They also picked all these random projects to help us with, like painting our closet and completely taking apart our oven to clean the parts you can’t even see, rather than helping us vacuum and steam clean carpets, clean windows, etc. She means well and I appreciate her wanting to help, but usually causes way more stress than she does actually help. 

I feel like it’s going to be 1000x worse with a new baby. Thankfully they live 7 hours away 😂

purplg8r

@jrm_14 aha!!!  So FFFC are things you’ve done and UO are just your thoughts. Thank you!

deecherise

@Babylovecali if anyone takes my name(s),  I will cut them 🔪🔪🔪

No but seriously, I'll just use the name anyway. The only people currently due around me are a cousin I'm not speaking to and a classmate I don't like...and they both supposedly already have names picked out for their sons. There's zero reason why I can't use the same name.

Babylovecali

@dogmomma096 Wow, that sounds crazy. Good thing they live 7 hours away!!

@deecherise The name just isn’t special anymore since she took it. Now I think of her child every time I say it. We still have play dates with them and it would be confusing for my son I think if I chose the same name. Who knows maybe I will have another boy?  

aevan011

@dogmomma096 I LOVE my ILs and they are overall very helpful, but they like to come up with projects too. When we bought a house and moved from VA to TX, they drove with us and I made it very clear I needed cleaning help, and we would like time in the house to decide paint colors. Literally 24 hours in, we were forced into choosing paint. They did the painting which was helpful, but not my priority! They lived 15 hours away but would still bring sh** with them. 

We are now a 12 hour flight away from them and trying to find a nice way to keep them from coming for yet ANOTHER visit prior to the birth of this baby. (They've been to Germany twice in 8 months now and keep mentioning their "spring" visit).

So. FFSC ... I've been creating a mental list of excuses to prevent them from visiting until July. Because I want MILs help with the kids but I need my effin space.