@liliumstargazer13 Ummmm yeah. Right when DH and I started dating, he went to a destination wedding in Domican Republic and got a room by himself (we were super new). It cost him almost $500/night for 5 nights bc it was all-inclusive. And the wedding was free for people who got married. I mean what the actual hell- I come to your wedding and pay for it? So freaking tacky!
Add Zika now to the mix and you are not only asking people to take an expensive vacation to celebrate your wedding, BUT you are asking all your friends and family to postpone their plans to have children to come to your wedding. It’s awful.
@chloe97 one of my best friends got married in Mexico, and I was undergoing fertility treatment for ds. I knew I couldn’t go, so I definitely went to bachelorette etc...but her mom told me that my friend was very upset I wasn’t coming to the wedding. I felt bad she was sad, but I didn’t regret my decision at all. Her SIL got pregnant at the wedding and that’s too risky for me!
everyone’s circumstances are different and the order of marriage or child first may depend on so many things from priorities, past experience or life stage but not being married doesn’t necessarily mean less commitment to each other. We got married first and waited over 5 years to realize that we wanted to have children and get off BC but if we had met a bit older we may have done things the other way around.
On clothing, I prefer the form fitting shirts, I am 5’2” so loose shirts just maybe me feel bigger and shorter but I hadn’t thought about clothes for post birth, I like the idea of looser dresses, since it will be summer.
i had always been quite open about talking about my period to my husband, although I have never yet asked him to get me tampons. We had never discussed poop or bowel movements until this pregnancy but given I have had a few issues ....it has become a topic of conversation.
@dfirstimer that sounds like a lot of fun and like you were very generous! I think of “destination weddings” as ones in locations the bride and groom don’t really have ties to — like a faraway beach — and wouldn’t consider having to travel to the brides hometown as a destination wedding. In that case, I’m always happy to make the trip! I’ve gotten to see a lot of places I never would have otherwise seen as a benefit of attending the weddings of a diverse group of friends.
@anonellis That's what I was thinking. My husband and I lived in NYC when we got married, but 95% of our guests, including both families, were in the tri-state area. So we got married in Connecticut, and I don't consider that a destination wedding. I was thinking along the lines of, take a time off at a time that isn't necessarily convienent and pay to fly far away with people wouldn't pick to go on vacation with.
@dfirstimer yes! Love that. My husband’s friend married a woman from France over the summer, and since it was such a long trip for most guests, she had a huge touristy week set up for us. It was wonderful and I learned so much. Also got this new dd out of the trip ;-).
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Add Zika now to the mix and you are not only asking people to take an expensive vacation to celebrate your wedding, BUT you are asking all your friends and family to postpone their plans to have children to come to your wedding. It’s awful.
On clothing, I prefer the form fitting shirts, I am 5’2” so loose shirts just maybe me feel bigger and shorter but I hadn’t thought about clothes for post birth, I like the idea of looser dresses, since it will be summer.
i had always been quite open about talking about my period to my husband, although I have never yet asked him to get me tampons. We had never discussed poop or bowel movements until this pregnancy but given I have had a few issues ....it has become a topic of conversation.