UO Thursday

asupernovablizzardstorm

Let those opinions fly!  

indulgentgypsy

I miss the snark and sass of the old bump. 

You ladies are wonderful, and I love you, but my dirty mouth, dirty mind, sarcasm, and hard eye rolls feel out of place here 😘

erynpdx

@indulgentgypsy only problem is that I’m just not sure that’s an UO. 😂

I’m mostly hanging out here waiting for the fb group. 

cindler

@indulgentgypsy you know I love your potty mouth! I'll join your dirty mouth and dirty mind! I'm not very good at snark, though...

Also, I agree with @erynpdx, that's not an UO. I feel like we're all engaged in lengthy small talk with no one really showing their true colors. This is my first time participating in a group like this, so I could be wrong.

ETA: Would it be inappropriate to start a "dirty mouth, dirty mind" thread? 

cindler

I really wish the traditional midwest Christmas dinner came with fewer carbs. Why can't we have salads and veggies with our prime rib? I've tried to eliminate the carbs but my family always insists on spaghetti corn, mashed potatoes, etc.

msimi

I hate “themed” rooms and refuse to have a themed nursery. My MIL looked at me like I had three heads when I said the baby’s room wouldn’t have a theme but the idea of having an entire room in my house be all train/butterfly/baseball/princess themed makes want to die. Sorry, baby’s room will be decorated like the rest of my house but with more baby stuff in it 🤷‍♀️

Happyin14

Guys. Don’t think any of these are UO’s. In fact, third time the safe new Bump came up. 

@indulgentgypsy, let’s keep watching all the new Knottie threads and weigh in before they shut them down. 

indulgentgypsy

@cindler I'm down for a dirty mouth dirty mind thread 😂

@Happyin14 I love the idea of weighing in with subtle snark on the Knottie threads.

@msimi I've never actually had a baby room no space, no money... with this one I will grab some mouse themed stuff because it's nickname is already Mouse. My 2 boys are Monkey and Moose, Mouse seemed appropriate. 

asupernovablizzardstorm

Farmhouse decor is over done.
I don't get the appeal of the Gaines.

thycapanj

@indulgentgypsy I was on the bump back in parts of 2014/2015/2016 and remember the snark lol. Wasn't another forum started for a short time maybe on a different site? My memory is terrible these days!

indulgentgypsy

@thycapanj I think there was. I came in right after people started migrating back here.

Happyin14

@thycapanj & @indulgentgypsy - yep. ProBoards and it was called Then Comes Family. And THAT had drama and dissolved. 

I will probably get shut down for saying the name. But I assure you, it’s dead and gone. So... 

thycapanj

@Happyin14 ahhh that’s the name, ProBoards, now I remember!!!! It’s been awhile...... 

literatureandink

Totally agree with everyone that this has become a board of small talk and it’s...boring. But yeah, not an UO. 

nopegoat

Yes! I was on the boards in 2010, 2012, 2014, and 2016 and my last two BMBs were much different experiences than with my first two. I still met an amazing group of women whom I still talk to today, but totally different bump vibe. 

nopegoat

I hate the way self care has been promoted/pushed on mom's. Honestly going to a salon for a haircut, pedicure, massage etc is absolutely miserable for me. Let me take a bath or go outside with the animals alone for a bit. Or take a nap. The last thing I want to do is have to put real pants on and deal with even more people.

ETA I feel like I should clarify I am 100% for moms taking time for themselves. It's so important!! But I hate being shamed for not taking time for myself in ways society says I should. 

mamanbebe

We need more people interested in steering the boat on our board. I don’t mind starting threads but I’m terrible and getting good conversation going. It seems like June has a lot of dynamic personalities with time to post and a desire to keep things going. Hopefully July gains some momentum soon. 

ameliabedelia-2

@msimi, me too. And so many themes are overdone and basic. Like woodland or arrows/teepees. I also can't stand the kitschy canvas paintings that say things like "let her sleep for when she wakes she will move mountains". Basically, anything you'd buy at hobby lobby. 

indulgentgypsy

@mamanbebe the only reason I have started some more thread is nerves. A few more weeks, or even just my NIPT results coming in ok and I will happily stear a few more threads (especially naughty ones and especially if I remember how to gif! )

Happyin14

I think it’s funny when people say “introduce yourself in the pinned post so we know who you are”. Does ANYONE read that and actually know when someone introduced themselves? I’m gonna guess no. 

Without looking... did I? 



Honestly, I don’t remember if I did or not. So, I can’t tell you if you are right. 

nolemomma14

I thought my Jan 17 board was tame compared to the old bump, but so far July 19 is the tamest ever. Not a bad thing neccesarily, but it does feel like a bunch of small talk and not really getting to know each other. Hoping we can have some meaningful conversations on here and really get to know each other. The anount of knotties is annoying. Totally get that that is the sn you are given, but please take 2 seconds to read the pinned posts. It currently feels like our board is being used as google and to just AW.

skatejawn27

*lurking from June*

@mamanbebe There aren't "dynamic personalities" over in my June BMB.  It's an echo chamber of friendly small-talk without room for people with actual personalities.  I'm a late-June EDD, so sometimes I peek over here just in case I go late and end up with a July delivery.  Is that weird?

hestia-is-wearie

I agree that this BMB is a little dull right now. But I need to get over my phobia of sharing. I was on The Knot back in late 2011 (on the "Not Engaged Yet" board) and I got flamed off immediately for starting a thread on promise rings. Yeah, apparently promise rings are only given out by men who are too flighty to really commit, so I should force that guy to buy me a real ring or ditch the loser man-child for someone who will. (sarcasm) (I tried to explain that I was a recent unemployed college grad in a long-distance relationship, but the flames kept on coming.) (Oh, and "that guy" became DH.)
I know it sounds ridiculous, but I'm afraid of that situation happening again. That's why I've been starting a few threads and replying to the group check-ins but not doing much else. I wanted to give The Bump a fair chance but don't want to risk saying something I think is innocuous and triggering a landmine.

InesCH

I too was on this back in 2015 and totally remember all the drama and joined the alternative TCF board as well! I was just thinking about it the other day-things do seem pretty tame around here 😁

im just so focused on trying to get out of the pit of discomfort that is this first trimester (definitely tougher than the last pregnancy) that I don’t have anything interesting to say or contribute 😂

UO- not even a half naked Jason momoa could get me even remotely interested in watcing Aquaman 😂

Happyin14

I don’t think it’s the people here! I think it’s just sort of the way it all is now. Threads get shut down pretty quickly for a variety of reasons... I am nervous about any sarcasm getting called out as “an unwelcoming tone”. 

Moderators before were volunteer based, I think? And now they are staff with stronger rules. Anyway, we will get there. There’s also just SO MANY PEOPLE HERE. Eek. How can I remember everyone with pregnancy brain? Impossible.

ameliabedelia-2

@InesCH, I’d watch anything for Jason Momoa. Hottest man on the planet.  Ping pong tournament, CSPAN, paint dry.....sign me up!!! 😂

quinniebear

@Happyin14 😂😂😂😂 "unwelcoming tone" wtf ..... we're all adults here, I hate it when people get their panties in a wad bc of strangers on the Internet 

mamanbebe

I don't think there is anything wrong with our community members, I just think that things will pick up if/when people start posting more and steering the boat. I totally appreciate that it is early and many posters aren't really comfortable being fully engaged until they are further along. I agree that it is really tame here, but I am sure with more time things will liven up. 

@Happyin14 I definitely read all the intros but I typically don't recognize someone until they have started contributing regularly. 

@skatejawn27 I disagree. I was on TTGP with a fair amount of the women from June bmb and I think there are a lot of entertaining personalities between them and many of the other posters. I enjoy following their threads. 

babyginjuly

  @mamanbebe I'm with ya. I've actually read every single intro but if you haven't contributed beyond that, I don't remember who you are. I'm finally familiarizing myself with who some of the ladies are. We have some great personalities here as well, I can absolutely see it! I just think it's still early on, most of us at the most are 13 weeks along.

@indulgentgypsy I'm also here for the dirty mouths and the dirty minds

meatballs37

@mamanbebe muah!

She doesn’t like our snark on a drive by post(someone asking an opinion on who the father is). You can see it unfold in the holiday random thread. 

tuxielove93

Yeah skatejawn both doesn’t like our snark and only uses us for entertainment during downtime on her job. She doesn’t want to actually participate and be part of the community, and her tone definitely
comes off as snubbing her nose at anyone who does want to spend time investing in something like this online. She may have said as much but my memory is crap and a couple posts got TOU removed 

but anyone interested in her real opinions on this platform
can go check it out in our holiday randoms thread. 

ameliabedelia-2

heading to June BMB to read holiday random thread obvi

mamanbebe

@meatballs37  

babyginjuly

@meatballs37 why don't we have some of this entertainment around? I can't wait for some MUD around here

ameliabedelia-2

Funny how @skatejawn27 acts a fool on June, and then decides she might have her baby in July.  "She doesn't even go here!!".....

indulgentgypsy

So disappointed the daddy A daddy B thread got TOU deleted! That could have been entertaining 😂

babyginjuly

@indulgentgypsy I really wanna know what was so bad about daddy A? like did she cheat? is that why she took the Plan B? why is she not happy its daddy B and just took the doctors advice and moved on? there's so much more I want to know, now we'll never find out..

@ameliabedelia-2 that's what I was thinking!

xtinecatherine

@indulgentgypsy-agree.  I have been a part of other message boards and this one is very PG and polite in comparison.  Not that nice is wrong, but sometimes we have to be realists. Also, I actually am still in contact with quite a few people from past baby boards and it's fun building those relationships over time.  It seems to be very much business as usual around here. 

What of this Daddy A and Daddy B thread?  That sounds awesome.  Maybe I should start a Daddy A-D thread to see what happens. . . 

indulgentgypsy

😮😮😮😮😮 go to the baby center July 19 board!!!!! New drama thread may be the troll from June 19!!!!

nolemomma14

I really hope that once the holidays are over, and we get into the 2nd tri, we can all really connect and make friendships on this board. The support I’ve received and that has been given by my J17 board is amazing. I’ve met quite a few moms from the group in person now, and many others have met up as well. There has been drama of course, but overall it’s a wonderful group of women. 

I think people often mistake being honest on these boards as snark or being rude and that isn’t the case. Just because someone posts something and people done agree with them 100% or give them the answer they’re looking for doesn’t make them rude. You get out of these boards what you put in. 

When a FB group gets made, I guarantee you there will be people coming out of the wood work about wanting to join fb. Do you really want to join a fb group with people who rarely participated or who only use the group as their own personal google? 

mamanbebe

My UO is I really hate FB for all its data-mining and dear diary posts. I hard-deleted my account a year ago. I'd be pretty bummed if everyone migrated and wish there was some other avenue that was easy to use.