@harrierwife@ncm1919 I love your guys responses here. And in no way am I saying I disagree where the thoughts came from. Because trust me responding rudely is always tempting. I’m just trying to think about any new members who are lurking during their wait period and comin across that when it’s not a true reflection of the awesome ladies here! This was a hard day especially for some and and a hard hit for the group as a whole.
@cricket1688 Quoting for the sake of making a point
"No thanks! I’m way too old to “sink back into the shadows.” 😂😂😂 I was trying to remove it from the feed for the benefit of those who are on here daily. I just joined, but am not a new mom and don’t spend my days dealing with people like you. I have too much to do than sit on forums daily. I hope you find something more productive to do with your life. Maybe you need to create a private group if you don’t want “randoms” stopping in. ✌️"
Yeah, somehow I don't think this one cares about participating fully, or the community. Some people genuinely get lost and don't pay attention. And then they apologize and go back and read the obvious read this first post and introduce themselves and lurk around and become awesome new members like you. Honestly didn't even remember that you haven't been here all along. Heck, I joined an already well-established board BOTH times, the first because I was too scared to join until 8 weeks, and this one because I'm just late in the month (as in, actually have a due date of July 2nd). And ya know what? I lurked BOTH times, to find out who was on here, and how it worked, and what was and was not cool and what kind of ladies are here. I believe the most telling part here was the "have too much to do to sit on forums all day" etc. etc. Part of being here is following the way things are already run here and knowing your audience and reading the room. And for the love of god READING THE GIGANTIC PINNED POST READ THIS FIRST. For corn's sake, unless I'm remembering incorrectly when you JOIN the bump it tells you to go lurk and read some stuff during your three day or whatever it is hiatus from being able to post.
So my sympathy for these people is very very limited. For all the mom groups I have joined and internet forums I have been in, I have never had the audacity to walk in and just do whatever I felt like. I always look around and read some posts for a while and get a feel for how things roll. At most, I might do a brief introduction in the beginning IF that is something I see coming up in the feeds and what not. Would you walk into an AA meeting and start shouting about all your problems without following the way the meetings go? No. And it's just as rude to do it here. This board is tame and rather nice in how it reacts to these people. I invited her to participate properly and she called me "one of those people". I am very happy to see that she is uninterested in participating and I hope she stays far away from these boards.
As a general rule, I don't even get involved in any of the drama that goes down here. 1) I know how hard the flaming can get and 2) I don't like to waste my limited energy on, well, waffles if you know what I mean, who are just worried about themselves. But this entire board is grieving two very serious pieces of news today, and that is exactly why these random things are so flamed and sort of marched out with pitchforks. This is legitimately a community, and if you aren't going to add to that community then you deserve nothing in return.
Plus also, I have never ever ever seen someone flamed for participating in the appropriate spot. You want to pop in and out? Cool. Do it within the structure of the board. The ONLY time I have seen a random who is following the board organization get flamed is because its an AW thing (like the sex announcement, or the ultrasounds). And they don't get called out by name, it's more of a "why the heck is that the only place I'm seeing your name pop up? Kind of deal. I wish and hope that those people who WANT to jump in but somehow only feel comfortable doing that? will start posting in symptoms or randoms. We don't care who you are or how minor your symptoms, just join in within the way the board is already running. Say something! Say ANYTHING!! I'm being hyperbolic, but really, I would love to see more members and more activity. I've been thinking about some GTYK threads and other weekly stuff that we used to do on my old BMB to maybe help the lurkers come out of the shadows and to boost participation of the ladies we have here.
Also, I'm wordy, in case you didn't pick that up yet. And I'm super salty today for a whole lot of reasons, the top of which being that we have a lot of sadness running around and my patience for nonsense is below 0. And I still want to go back there and call her all kinds of names that would definitely get me a TOU violation but that isn't going to help anyone at this point so I will settle for my above waffle comment and attempt to go find food for my hangriness.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
It has been an absolutely terrible day and emotions are high, I agree @cricket1688. I think it can be tough to judge a random one-off poster on being a potential troll/AW/drive-by or a good community member albeit board noob, I know the “read this first” can be almost considered like terms of service where you skim through and click agree to be done with it.
I dont know the best answer, I truly see both sides and as a previous FTM on here with more than one faux pas I cannot judge too harshly unless someone shows their ass. Then I will have fun, I have the warning messages to prove it lol.
ETA - I have a tendency to leave crucial words out 🙄
@tuxielove93@Dcwtada I hear you ladies and agree to a degree. I love love the idea of GTKY to get the lurkers out! But I also totally know there’s only so much you can do. People either want in or they don’t care enough and in some cases don’t care enough to respect the rules.
@Dcwtada I remember feeling like such a badass with my first warning. I haven't had one since, but that person I got warned for totally deserved it. As a rule of thumb, I try to not tell people to go join baby center anymore. lol
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Me: 33 DH:30 DD: Aug '16 10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Hi ladies. A few of us have agreed that not only has today been very hard, but we are all pretty heartbroken for emerald. If you would like to, we (being members of the board) are going to light a candle (tonight, but really anytime in the next couple days) in memory of baby emerald and post the photo in her TW post. You can light a real candle in your home and post the photo or just post a GIF of a candle. Just posting this here and in PGAL for anyone who doesn’t check the TW thread again after posting their condolences.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Gosh today ended up being kind of crappy. So first, I had something really sad happen at the end of my day of work. I just recently went back to a client I used to work for and I was trying to catch up with people I used to work with. I found out one of my previous clients who I really liked and admired passed away from pancreatic cancer a month ago. It crushed my heart. It took everything I had not to break down sobbing at my desk. So I waited and cried the whole commute home. Then I get back to see more bad news on our board. Ugh, hopefully tomorrow will be better.
Fuck guys (pardon my french) I forgot my phone this morning so I was disconnected all day. then I open the bump and just sobbed. what a blow to our group. I'm only glad I missed the AW post. I usually don't get involved but today that may have brought my ugly side out.
It's been rough yesterday and today. Yesterday was the anniversary of my brother in law's passing, and a coworker suddenly passed away. Then today I log in and read the sad news. So heartbreaking.
DH got orders and they were a real blow. The Navy has fucked up and are trying to fill orders for June. Guess who is scheduled to move less than two weeks after her due date? I really f*cking hate the Navy.
@harrierwife girrrrrl with you there. Got a gift pack from Omaha Steaks once that I HOARDED for like a year. And then I realized it wasn't doing me any good in the freezer. So so so good.
My BIL's family bought a cow this year (raised in their town in western NE) and his mom gave us a couple porterhouse steaks from it and we have ground beef or pot roast from it at my sister's house all the time and if you can imagine such a thing, it's better than Omaha Steaks.
@amaren-2 that SUCKS. Dang. Do you know where you'll be moving to yet?
@amaren-2, girl, ALL the commiseration. Sometimes it feels like the Navy is actively looking to screw us all over. For what it’s worth, we’re being forced into an unwelcome and undiscussed year long geobach starting in March, so I’m right there with you on the shitiness. We can bitch about it together.
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
@KissMeImScottish oh they are. DH has been up for orders for over 6 months. He has put in order everywhere. But still trying to stay at the same area (NE Florida has a lot for his job). He has talked with varioud commands to take him as their first pick. Which they do. But his detailer is a dumbass and didnt give him any. So he went needs of the Navy twice and still didn't get orders. (He is coming from a training commands so apparently it is hard to actually get orders because he can't leave earlier than contracted.)
So his detailer said that he was going to recommend to big Navy to give him orders in this area because of all this bullshit. But big Navy wants him going to to VA. Not Japan or Guam so that is good. But still a PITA.
It isn't the worst, but my hormones are telling me it is. I basically can't set up for baby at all and it is just a whole bunch of emotions.
@amaren-2 - Girl. I'm so sorry. MH is a Marine, but I get it.
We're on a Navy base right now and MH's Navy friend was on the road from Lemoore to Mississippi with a 3-day-old newborn and a wife with a fresh c-section scar last year. The thought of it makes ME turn red with anger.
@amaren-2 That sucks. A lot. For all of you Navy and army ladies. It would make me crazy to have to wait so long to get the orders and seriously?? They can’t do better than 2 weeks after your due date!
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@amaren-2, yeah, I don’t know what’s up with detailers sucking recently. MH’s detailer when he got back from Afghanistan hooked him up and we’ve never had issues before like we’ve had with this dude, who refuses to do any more than the bare minimum, which is infuriating when you’re literally deployed during every availability window. Fifteen years, and this is the first time it’s been a major issue.
Im glad you’re not headed to Guam or anything, but any move, especially when you have just had a baby, is beyond frustrating, especially because it effectively limits your ability to do even basic stuff like setting up a nursery before baby is born and establishing a pediatrician relationship. I seriously feel for you.
You totally don’t have to tell me, but is your husband a submariner? I only ask because the bases you named (and the areas you mentioned) are sub heavy (King’s Bay, Norfolk, Guam, etc).
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
@KissMeImScottish - The Marine Corps seems to be just as bad. MH's monitor called him two weeks ago with new orders for the Spring cycle and MH laughed. MH dropped his resignation papers last year. The monitor had no idea......like, how does a Monitor/Detailer not see that XYZ Service Member has a resignation date in the system prior to setting up orders?
I was in the Coast Guard for a while and I had the same experience. I really wonder how on earth our military manages to function on a daily basis.
Got my Fabfitfun box last night!!!! So much fun, may have spent too much on the add-ons, and I may be keeping a couple that were supposed to be gifts...
The funny part is he did have orders to Guam and I pitched a fit (I'm a bad military wife) we just found out I was pregnant and I told him no way, I'd see him in 2 yrs. Luckily someone in Guam wanted to stay in Guam so they then took his orders away.
But you are right It has been a cluster lately. Apparently the detailers hands are tied a lot more now than the past. They cant actually do their job. In the past if DH put something as #1 and he talked with the command and asked them to pick him as #1 he got it. Apparently it has all changed and they don't even look at that anymore. So your picks mean nothing.
@harrierwife DH mentioned that it was related to the new top Navy guy (I'm bad with titles) apparently in the past Navy ships are pretty reliable with where they go, and when they go and how long they stay. He wants to shake up the Navy (I'm sure the MC is also affected) so keep it fresh and make sure no one gets too comfortable. That is why detailers suck and can't do anything that you actually want to do.
@amaren-2, I’m a bad military wife, too, then, because I basically did the same thing recently. He was looking like he was going to get orders to Hawaii and I was like, nope, we own our house, I’m pregnant, we have 3.5 kids and one with a speech delay in preschool. See you in 3 years. Even as it is, I still refused to move for 9 months to a year to New Hampshire (his ship is headed to shipyard, I’m opting out). Hopefully, the extra 9 months get us an extra 9 months to secure the orders where we want.
That’s what he’s been saying about the orders situation as well (though his detailer is still a lazy sack of s***, and not just in my isolated opinion). They revamped the system recently and it’s just a total clusterf***. I’m over it. My mantra at this point is “five more years, five more years...”
@harrierwife, that’s actually a little bit hilarious. Like, um, I appreciate that you’re trying to square me away, but dude, I’m out. Haha. Or rather, it would be funnier if it didn’t scare the crap out of me (even temporarily) that they either disregarded or informed separation papers. I wouldn’t put it past military bureaucracy these days (can you tell I’m just a little bit jaded? 😒)
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
@kissmeimscottish - Well, honestly, both of our blood ran cold when the Monitor called because we wouldn't put it past the military to disregard sep papers either. MH is a pilot and the Navy/Marine Corps pilots are dropping like flies to go to the airlines - he was afraid that they were going to start extending contracts... the shortage is that bad.
MH is a Harrier pilot by trade and they're phasing it out for the JSF so he'd inevitably end up in (another!) ground billet in Bahrain. No. Way. Not when the airlines are falling over each other to recruit military pilots with their fancy pensions, paychecks and no deployments.
@harrierwife, A. Men. Seriously. Right there with you. MH’s rate is at 60% manning. They’re actually having to extend shore orders to some because they don’t have enough instructors to train the next set of people. He wanted to move back to the Division Chief side of things (as opposed to his specialty rate) and they said no f-ing way. We actually are actively hoping he doesn’t put on Master Chief before he retires because the chances of them denying retirement are that much higher at that rate. So, blood running cold is a good way of putting it. If he wasn’t at 15.5 right now, we’d be running so fast to that six figure job with bonuses and paid time off and no deployments and normal working hours (you mean most people DON’T work 14 hour days 6 days a week and don’t get paid overtime?? 😂)
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
@KissMeImScottish - Seconding your A-MEN. Yeah, 15.5, you may as well stay. MH will be right at 12 when he gets out - he's even thinking about NOT doing the Reserves and just walking away. It kind of breaks my heart because he was so excited to be a Marine, but the job has sucked his soul right out of him.
60% manning is deplorable. Many of MH's colleagues are sandbagging their promotions for very similar reasons as you guys. When we try to anticipate what might happen next, we think of what would make the most sense and then guess that the military will do the exact opposite.
I take back what I said about yesterday’s nub theory after seeing today’s (face palm) I don’t really take it back but I cannot believe we’ve got another double poster for it today. I guess I see where you ladies were coming from now 🤣
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
I take back what I said about yesterday’s nub theory after seeing today’s (face palm) I don’t really take it back but I cannot believe we’ve got another double poster for it today. I guess I see where you ladies were coming from now 🤣
See? It gets harder to forgive
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@amaren-2@KissMeImScottish@harrierwife Can I sit with you guys? DH isn't military but we're in a similar we-may-move-but-maybe-not position (depending on how the season goes)...and if we do move, I'll have like two weeks' notice (at best) to go anywhere in the country where there is a college, and probably moving to a new house or apartment sight-unseen, any time from mid-March until the end of May (generally when hiring season starts wrapping up, and my EDD is June 25). We've briefly talked about me staying put to deliver here, if he winds up in a new job later in the spring than earlier, but that freaks me out too because he very well could miss the delivery and with any luck, this is a first-and-only (I want to adopt #2). I'm just kind of pretending the world ends in March because anything after that is a huge question mark.
@amaren-2 for whatever it's worth, it isn't Florida but the Norfolk/Virginia Beach area is GREAT. (If we had our druthers, that's right about where we'd move.) DH's grandparents live there (his grandpa was an Orion pilot and flight instructor for the Navy) and we visit whenever we can, a few times a year. TONS of support there for military families. Doesn't make it any easier to move with a newborn, that's for dang sure, but it's at least a nice place to go.
@harrierwife my husband left active duty after 12 years back in 2015 but stayed in the reserves for an eventual retirement and health insurance. SO worth it! He's also a Marine. He's part of an IMA billet that does environmental inspections for other units around the country and abroad. Its super flexible and he does a lot of the work at home actually. He physical drills in person only 3-4 times a year vs every month.
I'm a teacher, he's now a sheriff's deputy and even with those great benefits packages $220/month for Tricare was too good to pass up! It would cost either of us about $1000/month to insure the family. Added bonus...the county he works for takes their employer contribution ($915/month) and puts it in an HRA forus so we actually pay NOTHING for insurance. We pay our premiums for Tricare and any OOP expenses with that HRA and it's amazing. It's going to be nice into retirement as well to never have to worry about medical or dental expenses...like...ever!
@Erin1510 - Yeah, definite benefits to getting a retirement, but the MCRIP program he qualifies for is notorious for booting guys at 17/18 years. He'd go Navy or another branch, but it would require extensive training away from home on a new platform. Frankly, the job opportunities he's facing pay so well that the Tricare/Retirement isn't worth his aggravation. Poor guy is SO over the military. Who knows, though - he may change his mind! I'm leaving this decision entirely up to him - I'll support him either way. Just some things you can't put a price on...
Also, I just cried watching a stroller/car seat review. SO MANY FEELS.
Re: Weekly randoms 12/10
"No thanks! I’m way too old to “sink back into the shadows.” 😂😂😂 I was trying to remove it from the feed for the benefit of those who are on here daily. I just joined, but am not a new mom and don’t spend my days dealing with people like you. I have too much to do than sit on forums daily. I hope you find something more productive to do with your life. Maybe you need to create a private group if you don’t want “randoms” stopping in. ✌️"
Yeah, somehow I don't think this one cares about participating fully, or the community. Some people genuinely get lost and don't pay attention. And then they apologize and go back and read the obvious read this first post and introduce themselves and lurk around and become awesome new members like you. Honestly didn't even remember that you haven't been here all along. Heck, I joined an already well-established board BOTH times, the first because I was too scared to join until 8 weeks, and this one because I'm just late in the month (as in, actually have a due date of July 2nd). And ya know what? I lurked BOTH times, to find out who was on here, and how it worked, and what was and was not cool and what kind of ladies are here. I believe the most telling part here was the "have too much to do to sit on forums all day" etc. etc. Part of being here is following the way things are already run here and knowing your audience and reading the room. And for the love of god READING THE GIGANTIC PINNED POST READ THIS FIRST. For corn's sake, unless I'm remembering incorrectly when you JOIN the bump it tells you to go lurk and read some stuff during your three day or whatever it is hiatus from being able to post.
So my sympathy for these people is very very limited. For all the mom groups I have joined and internet forums I have been in, I have never had the audacity to walk in and just do whatever I felt like. I always look around and read some posts for a while and get a feel for how things roll. At most, I might do a brief introduction in the beginning IF that is something I see coming up in the feeds and what not. Would you walk into an AA meeting and start shouting about all your problems without following the way the meetings go? No. And it's just as rude to do it here. This board is tame and rather nice in how it reacts to these people. I invited her to participate properly and she called me "one of those people". I am very happy to see that she is uninterested in participating and I hope she stays far away from these boards.
As a general rule, I don't even get involved in any of the drama that goes down here. 1) I know how hard the flaming can get and 2) I don't like to waste my limited energy on, well, waffles if you know what I mean, who are just worried about themselves. But this entire board is grieving two very serious pieces of news today, and that is exactly why these random things are so flamed and sort of marched out with pitchforks. This is legitimately a community, and if you aren't going to add to that community then you deserve nothing in return.
Plus also, I have never ever ever seen someone flamed for participating in the appropriate spot. You want to pop in and out? Cool. Do it within the structure of the board. The ONLY time I have seen a random who is following the board organization get flamed is because its an AW thing (like the sex announcement, or the ultrasounds). And they don't get called out by name, it's more of a "why the heck is that the only place I'm seeing your name pop up? Kind of deal. I wish and hope that those people who WANT to jump in but somehow only feel comfortable doing that? will start posting in symptoms or randoms. We don't care who you are or how minor your symptoms, just join in within the way the board is already running. Say something! Say ANYTHING!! I'm being hyperbolic, but really, I would love to see more members and more activity. I've been thinking about some GTYK threads and other weekly stuff that we used to do on my old BMB to maybe help the lurkers come out of the shadows and to boost participation of the ladies we have here.
Also, I'm wordy, in case you didn't pick that up yet. And I'm super salty today for a whole lot of reasons, the top of which being that we have a lot of sadness running around and my patience for nonsense is below 0. And I still want to go back there and call her all kinds of names that would definitely get me a TOU violation but that isn't going to help anyone at this point so I will settle for my above waffle comment and attempt to go find food for my hangriness.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I dont know the best answer, I truly see both sides and as a previous FTM on here with more than one faux pas I cannot judge too harshly unless someone shows their ass. Then I will have fun, I have the warning messages to prove it lol.
ETA - I have a tendency to leave crucial words out 🙄
I remember feeling like such a badass with my first warning.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
DH got orders and they were a real blow. The Navy has fucked up and are trying to fill orders for June. Guess who is scheduled to move less than two weeks after her due date? I really f*cking hate the Navy.
My BIL's family bought a cow this year (raised in their town in western NE) and his mom gave us a couple porterhouse steaks from it and we have ground beef or pot roast from it at my sister's house all the time and if you can imagine such a thing, it's better than Omaha Steaks.
@amaren-2 that SUCKS. Dang. Do you know where you'll be moving to yet?
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
@amaren-2 that's really bad timing to have to move. That seems like short notice too. But I don't know how those things work with the Navy.
So his detailer said that he was going to recommend to big Navy to give him orders in this area because of all this bullshit. But big Navy wants him going to to VA. Not Japan or Guam so that is good. But still a PITA.
It isn't the worst, but my hormones are telling me it is. I basically can't set up for baby at all and it is just a whole bunch of emotions.
We're on a Navy base right now and MH's Navy friend was on the road from Lemoore to Mississippi with a 3-day-old newborn and a wife with a fresh c-section scar last year. The thought of it makes ME turn red with anger.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Im glad you’re not headed to Guam or anything, but any move, especially when you have just had a baby, is beyond frustrating, especially because it effectively limits your ability to do even basic stuff like setting up a nursery before baby is born and establishing a pediatrician relationship. I seriously feel for you.
You totally don’t have to tell me, but is your husband a submariner? I only ask because the bases you named (and the areas you mentioned) are sub heavy (King’s Bay, Norfolk, Guam, etc).
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
I was in the Coast Guard for a while and I had the same experience. I really wonder how on earth our military manages to function on a daily basis.
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The funny part is he did have orders to Guam and I pitched a fit (I'm a bad military wife) we just found out I was pregnant and I told him no way, I'd see him in 2 yrs. Luckily someone in Guam wanted to stay in Guam so they then took his orders away.
But you are right It has been a cluster lately. Apparently the detailers hands are tied a lot more now than the past. They cant actually do their job. In the past if DH put something as #1 and he talked with the command and asked them to pick him as #1 he got it. Apparently it has all changed and they don't even look at that anymore. So your picks mean nothing.
*Eye roll*
That’s what he’s been saying about the orders situation as well (though his detailer is still a lazy sack of s***, and not just in my isolated opinion). They revamped the system recently and it’s just a total clusterf***. I’m over it. My mantra at this point is “five more years, five more years...”
@harrierwife, that’s actually a little bit hilarious. Like, um, I appreciate that you’re trying to square me away, but dude, I’m out. Haha. Or rather, it would be funnier if it didn’t scare the crap out of me (even temporarily) that they either disregarded or informed separation papers. I wouldn’t put it past military bureaucracy these days (can you tell I’m just a little bit jaded? 😒)
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
MH is a Harrier pilot by trade and they're phasing it out for the JSF so he'd inevitably end up in (another!) ground billet in Bahrain. No. Way. Not when the airlines are falling over each other to recruit military pilots with their fancy pensions, paychecks and no deployments.
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
60% manning is deplorable. Many of MH's colleagues are sandbagging their promotions for very similar reasons as you guys. When we try to anticipate what might happen next, we think of what would make the most sense and then guess that the military will do the exact opposite.
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
See? It gets harder to forgive
NOW YOU ARE REALLY ONE OF US. ONE OF US. ONE OF US.
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lmao lol lol sorry
@amaren-2 for whatever it's worth, it isn't Florida but the Norfolk/Virginia Beach area is GREAT. (If we had our druthers, that's right about where we'd move.) DH's grandparents live there (his grandpa was an Orion pilot and flight instructor for the Navy) and we visit whenever we can, a few times a year. TONS of support there for military families. Doesn't make it any easier to move with a newborn, that's for dang sure, but it's at least a nice place to go.
I'm a teacher, he's now a sheriff's deputy and even with those great benefits packages $220/month for Tricare was too good to pass up! It would cost either of us about $1000/month to insure the family. Added bonus...the county he works for takes their employer contribution ($915/month) and puts it in an HRA forus so we actually pay NOTHING for insurance. We pay our premiums for Tricare and any OOP expenses with that HRA and it's amazing. It's going to be nice into retirement as well to never have to worry about medical or dental expenses...like...ever!
Also, I just cried watching a stroller/car seat review. SO MANY FEELS.