@eatinwatermelonseeds I’m a 36F cup and have been since I was 13 years old. I don’t want to say I hate them cause they are a part of me, but they cause nothing but problems. I was super self conscious about them growing up because grown men would leer at them and hit on me, then claim I couldn’t be underage with “tits like those”. Clothes shopping is impossible because I’m either busting out of my top or I look like I’m wearing a giant tent and there’s literally no such thing as a comfortable bra. When I work out I either have to wear a sports bra so tight I can barely breath properly, or deal with them bouncing up and down painfully. I have no clue how I’m ever going to find nursing bras considering I can hardly even find my normal size anywhere. I seriously can not think of a single positive to having large breasts.
@DressageDarling That is totally different. Our neighbors leave their VERY elderly dogs outside, who sit at the steps of the patio wanting in but they are never let in. They have even left them outside for a week while they went on vacation! I mean, why own dogs at that point?
I'm so jealous of you all smaller chested ladies (just a short pause here to point out that my auto correct put mallet chested there and I almost had to keep it😂). I'm either a 40 DD or a 42 D regularly. Luckily the ladies haven't gotten much bigger so still in my normal bras.
@beccaneu I have had great luck with BreakoutBras.com and hotmilk, Elomi, and Cake bras. They are pricy, but your bra needs to work overtime when you're nursing, and imo they were more than worth what I paid.
ETA: I think all three of those brands use UK sizing, which is slightly different than US, so you may need to measure to make sure you're getting the right size.
I'm a 40H...I probably need an I but I refuse. I hate it and plan on working towards a reduction after I'm done nursing this one. I just can't. It's awful...even my SO is on board with a reduction because he knows how bad they bother my back.
Every time I lose weight, my boobs go missing, so I'm hoping when baby is born and I get serious about getting in shape they will go back down to normal size. I plan to do keto again, and I lost 30+lbs on it not this summer, but last summer. My boobs shrunk like crazy. Buuuut then i started nursing school back up and gained it all back 😂 (also, can we ignore my hair in that before? I was going through a thing 😂).
@DuchessOfCambridge - Yes, I should clarify - on parenting sites that's totally fine! But when it's not really parenting related like a cooking forum or some of my craft social media sites I think it's super annoying. I get it, you're a parent and you're proud of your kids. I am too. But it's just irritating. And like I said, it's not just restricted to parents. The lesbians really grind my gears. I hung out with a group of women who would LITERALLY talk about nothing but their sexual orientation, roles in society, and intersectionalities of their identity. It was exhausting. Yes, gays are marginalized. Yes, queer women of color even more so. And yes, gay men can be sexist. Can we PLEASE talk about something else now???
We stopped hanging out. I found cool lezzies who enjoy other topics of conversation. I do enough deep talking at work. When I'm with my pals I like to drink, gossip, and bullshit. They were too damn serious for me.
Double yes to disliking large boobs! I’ve gone from a G pre pregnancy to an I at 12 weeks. I dread trying to find a bra in a couple of months time. I’ll probably go up to like an O or a P or something 😭 I’ve also started getting rashes and all that other shit health stuff that comes with large boobs because not a single maternity or underwire free bra separates your boobs, and I work in a quite physical job so I sweat a lot. In Australia if you have evidence that your large breasts cause you health problems you can get a free breast reduction! I definitely plan on getting one once I’ve finished having children.
My UO is that I really don’t like super over the top nurseries. I posted that in my other BMB and may have got a bit over the top with why I don’t like them, but I then had someone tell me my child will miss out on development opportunities because there’ll be no colour or shapes in my nursery 😪 lots of people rent and I don’t know about the US but in Australia you can’t just paint a rental and put shelving, etc. on the walls, so lots of people don’t get a choice in what their nursery looks like. I’m also a huge advocate of only using the nursery for sleep time. I plan to bring my child into whichever room I’m in if it’s awake to try and encourage a sense of “this room is for sleeping, not for playing”.
My boobs didn't get too much bigger until my milk came in 2 days postpartum which I was thankful for. Maybe it was a mistake but I never got sized while nursing. I literally lived in nursing tanks and size L nursing bras which were a bit small for a while but they worked okay (like from Bravado). With the overnight nursing pads and how full they got, it was fine. I bought a few bras before which was a mistake as I tried to size up but they were still too small and I just didn't make the effort to go anywhere to get sized during. I was only a full C before so not huge by any means but now I'm a full B (have some bras in that wrong size from college...oops). I don't think it's going to make a G or H comfortable but I've heard *most* women go down about a size after nursing (the opposite was true for my mom so I had no idea until my last BMB). Once you wean, some of the fat starts building up again so they don't stay as small as when you're weaning, but most don't get as big as they were. One of the owners at the barre studio I was going to said she was an A pre-pregnancy and when she weaned, she went to get sized and they told her she was no longer even an A. She was like "it's a good thing I have a career where I wear a sports bra for a living."
Regarding Elf on the Shelf, I WAS against it for all the reasons you've all listed. I also think it's so stupid and uncalled for to have your elf give presents to the kids. Everyone is getting enough presents! We don't have to add more!
But now that I'm seeing the elf in action with family and friends' young kids, it's somewhat of a different story. The kids really believe in the elf's magic and I don't want to be the one to confuse them when they come to my house and don't see an elf. Moreover, if my daughters' cousins and friends all have elves and we don't, that would be confusing as well. Believing in Santa and all things Christmas magic is probably the best part of my childhood and I don't to strip any of that away for another kid or my own. I don't really plan to do anything special with the elf other than move her every day, which doesn't seem that big a deal.
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
@peachy13 I told my son that the idea of the elf is creepy, but not to tell other kids that it isn't real. I told him that some parents like to add extra magic to Christmas and we shouldn't ruin it. We simply tell other kids that "mom didn't invite the elf into our house because she doesn't like to be watched". In fairness, I have also told him that we have to invite Santa into our house. It explains why some people don't have Santa and it also explains away the whole "we don't allow random people to roam our house" thing. I've obviously thought way too hard about this.
Speaking of the Christmas magic, both my girls don’t believe in Santa anymore. DD1 ruined it for DD2 even though I told her multiple times to not say anything to her sister. Why she had to be brat and tell her sister Santa wasn’t real, I don’t know. DD2 only just turned 6. Makes me sad!
Ivy: July 2010 | Stella: Dec 2012 | BFP#3: MMC at 11Wk's, July 2017 | Wyatt: April 2019 | BFP#5: Twin Girls due Sept 2020
We told our son that we’d have a magic elf come visit for Christmas and he’d report on his behavior to Santa. When he realized he would be policed and watched he started crying. Oops! We’ll give it a go when he’s a little older and less sensitive.
MIL bought us an elf but I wasn't sure if we really wanted to do it. I would have started last year but we weren't sure where the Elf had been put at that point so we used our Fairy instead. 2 Easters ago, the Easter Bunny brought the girls a Fairy door. I bought ours through the Irish Fairy Door Company and I love their app, email updates and stories. It helps with ideas and keeping the magic alive through the year. When you get a fairy door, you invite a fairy into your home. You give her a name and sign a contract. BUT, fairies lose their magic if humans see them so the fairy can bring trinkets and notes in the night but doesn't ever appear. Its cute to see the kids making little crafts for their fairy, writing her notes, etc. I've set a precedent for our fairy that she really doesn't leave notes more often than every week or two unless the kids have left her a craft or a note. She also acts as our tooth fairy, and now our liaison to Santa. She left the girls a note last week reminding them that her weekly reports to Santa were beginning and just the mere mention of hearing a flutter of a fairy wing in the wall straightens their behaviour right out these days
I'm a 36 or 40F, GG or H, depending on the brand. I don't hate my big boobs I just wish they were more naturally "up". Hubs is on board with getting them lifted after we are done having kids but not reduced. They give me a feminine shape and honestly my fashion style is pin-up-ppy so the big boobs really work with it. So I don't love them or hate them but I've come to terms with them.
Oh hell yes to the big boobs thing. Funny story- I was probably a B cup befor having kids, then went up to a 32DD while pg/bf... had 3 kids back to back, and bf them all for at least 2 years. Right after I had my 3rd, I got super fit, lost weight and gained a lot of muscle- then stopped bf’ing. Yeah, my titties looked like oblong pancakes hanging off a pectoral muscle. Not cute.
Sooo, assuming I was totally done having kids (my H had a vasectomy), I went and got implants! I was SO happy with them- they were beautiful and natural looking and perfect for my body type.
Fast forward 4 years, I find myself divorced and unexpectedly pregnant! Now my nice, natural looking implants look like giant porn star boobs, except all veiny:( I don’t even wanna know what’s gonna happen while I’m bf’ing.🙄
Re: UO
ETA: I think all three of those brands use UK sizing, which is slightly different than US, so you may need to measure to make sure you're getting the right size.
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
My UO is that I really don’t like super over the top nurseries. I posted that in my other BMB and may have got a bit over the top with why I don’t like them, but I then had someone tell me my child will miss out on development opportunities because there’ll be no colour or shapes in my nursery 😪 lots of people rent and I don’t know about the US but in Australia you can’t just paint a rental and put shelving, etc. on the walls, so lots of people don’t get a choice in what their nursery looks like. I’m also a huge advocate of only using the nursery for sleep time. I plan to bring my child into whichever room I’m in if it’s awake to try and encourage a sense of “this room is for sleeping, not for playing”.
But now that I'm seeing the elf in action with family and friends' young kids, it's somewhat of a different story. The kids really believe in the elf's magic and I don't want to be the one to confuse them when they come to my house and don't see an elf. Moreover, if my daughters' cousins and friends all have elves and we don't, that would be confusing as well. Believing in Santa and all things Christmas magic is probably the best part of my childhood and I don't to strip any of that away for another kid or my own. I don't really plan to do anything special with the elf other than move her every day, which doesn't seem that big a deal.
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
2 Easters ago, the Easter Bunny brought the girls a Fairy door. I bought ours through the Irish Fairy Door Company and I love their app, email updates and stories. It helps with ideas and keeping the magic alive through the year. When you get a fairy door, you invite a fairy into your home. You give her a name and sign a contract. BUT, fairies lose their magic if humans see them so the fairy can bring trinkets and notes in the night but doesn't ever appear. Its cute to see the kids making little crafts for their fairy, writing her notes, etc. I've set a precedent for our fairy that she really doesn't leave notes more often than every week or two unless the kids have left her a craft or a note. She also acts as our tooth fairy, and now our liaison to Santa. She left the girls a note last week reminding them that her weekly reports to Santa were beginning and just the mere mention of hearing a flutter of a fairy wing in the wall straightens their behaviour right out these days
Sooo, assuming I was totally done having kids (my H had a vasectomy), I went and got implants! I was SO happy with them- they were beautiful and natural looking and perfect for my body type.
Fast forward 4 years, I find myself divorced and unexpectedly pregnant! Now my nice, natural looking implants look like giant porn star boobs, except all veiny:( I don’t even wanna know what’s gonna happen while I’m bf’ing.🙄