I maybe log in
once a day but scroll through my newsfeed with zero interest. It's bad memes, nonsense right-wing articles from elderly relatives, and duplicate photos that I already saw on instagram. I stay for the
occasional big news from someone (engagements, babies, etc.), but otherwise it's so lame now. I'm pretty proud of the fact that I don't spend a lot of time on my phone staring at this crap.
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
I get irrationally annoyed when I see a screen name like abbysmommy124 or jacobsmom87. Even more annoyed when I see social media profiles with shared names like JasonAndRachel Smith. Really, anyone with a singular identity (and they're proud to display it) annoys me. If you're not more than your kids, career (don't get me started on the people who use Facebook as their LinkedIn profile), spouse, or sexual orientation/gender identity (I know way too many lesbians who are like "I'M GAY!!" and I'm like "Great. What else is there to know about you?" and they're like "...I'm gay!!!!") then I just don't want to waste my time getting to know you because you're boring.
@wishiwaspreggo the trope on FB with the joint accounts is "Ok, which one of you cheated?" the exception to this is old married couples who barely have enough tech savvy between the two of them to navigate social media.
@peachy13 I deleted mine. I have a fake account solely to be a part of my old pregnancy group. I don't have any friends and there's nothing to scroll through. I have reactivated my previous one a couple times but I have zero interest and typically deactivate again about 5 minutes later. I'm so over the drama and negative feelings it produced in me.
@sleepy33 fascinating! OK, this makes so much sense. A girl I used to work with has a joint account with her fiance and the two of them seem like a total mess. Her FB profile is all her info and photos, but every now and then he will come on and post something bizarre and grammatically incorrect or do a random "I love u Heather ur my rock" post. Got it now. Makes so much sense.
Me: 33 DH: 34 Married: Oct 2015 TTC #1: Sept 2016 BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16 BFP: 3/24/17 DD1 born 12/2/17 TTC #2: July 2018 BFP: 8/26/18 DD2 born 5/16/19
If I had to choose (for some reason) between being a SAHM and having no kids, I'm almost positive I'd have no kids. Disclaimer: this is not a dig at SAHMs, I just know I personally would be terrible at it and would hate it.
Hahaha @peachy13 I am glad to have shed some light on it! It's amazing, nowadays, a lot of younger folks use FB to try to hookup. Like they will just randomly PM people and hit on them. And I know some couples had issues with spouses doing some extracurricular communicating via FB messenger instead of text, because I think sometimes it's easier to hide those messages maybe? I don't really know.
@sleepy33 Anout a year into dating DH I met a friend of his who I friended on FB. He was married at the time and still somehow took me friending him on FB to mean I was into him? He regularly pm-d me flirty messages and I would politely respond with a 1-2 word answer, a year or 2 later I found out that he regularly cheated on his wife and it all made sense. What balls to hit on your friends gf.
@sleepy33 exactly. I have known friends to face infidelity and do that but my mil and fil also have a joint account and it's for the second reason exactly.
@wishiwaspreggo the trope on FB with the joint accounts is "Ok, which one of you cheated?" the exception to this is old married couples who barely have enough tech savvy between the two of them to navigate social media.
Yaaaaas. I always wonder which one was the one who got their facebook taken away. I know it's probably not true for *all* of them but everyone I know who has a shared FB, has one because one person cheated or has strayed in some way...
Bringing this over from another group- but I don’t get the elf on the shelf and I never want to do it. That little devil doll creeps me the F out and is just one more thing I would need to do when some days I’m barely holding it together.
@merrylea saaaaammee!!!! I don't need that creepy shit in my house!
I have FB but only for my two previous BMBs. If not for them, I'd delete it. Even so, I don't feel like I get on there or comment as much as I could.
My UO is that I wish the inflatable Christmas decor trend would die. Lights are so much prettier. Although I do high five our inflatable Santa from time to time since he looks so lonely out there.
I feel like any other day, I can come up with really good UOs, but by the time Thursday gets here, I lose it.
Umm... I've never seen any of the original star wars movies. (H has made me see a couple of the recent ones but I never really know who anyone is, I only go because I like the movie theater lol).
I think it's super weird when adults are allllll about Disney. I mean, Disneyland/world is awesome and really fun, but I don't really get being all about it.
I hate FB. I’ve tried deactivating but there are a handful of my friends who refuse to communicate through anything but FB messenger. And these are the same friends who are also in charge of organizing all the hang outs in our group of friends, so when I’m deactivated we suddenly miss everything because they can’t be bothered to text or call or email. So instead I have an account that I just never go on or update.
@merrylea. I agree! I’m all for the magic of Santa but I really hate the idea of telling kids they are essentially under non stop surveillance by some creepy elf doll that’s going to rat them out if they are naughty. That shit totally would have given me nightmares as a kid.
@beccaneu I deactivated Facebook a year ago, but messenger isn't connected to it, so I still talk to many friends on there while not actually having a Facebook account.
Oh, and I don't plan on using the elf to threaten my son. Just to have him do funny things for him. But I guarantee it won't be a daily thing. I'll probably set the standard at once a week. So this year I'll do it twice 😂
@beccaneu YASS it was a huge reason it took me so long to deactivate, but as long as you go into messenger and log back in there, your Facebook account remains deactivated but you can still communicate with friends. It's amazing.
If I had to choose (for some reason) between being a SAHM and having no kids, I'm almost positive I'd have no kids. Disclaimer: this is not a dig at SAHMs, I just know I personally would be terrible at it and would hate it.
Same. When I'm home alone with my son on a Saturday I just about nearly lose my mind. I gave birth to him and have somehow kept him alive for almost 4 years but whenever I'm alone with him I get this panicked thought of "Oh my god, what if he stabs himself with scissors or he chokes on a strawberry again or he sticks a knife in the socket while I'm in the bathroom?" Between that and his witching hours when he's really tired but won't go to sleep and the colossal mess he leaves in his wake I would die as a SAHM. Add twins to that? Send me to work with a hot cup of coffee and let me do my job in quiet!
All of that @wishiwaspreggo. I also just recognize that being a SAHM, much like being a preschool teacher, takes a certain type of patience that I just don't possess. That plus the fact that I am super extroverted and I NEED that adult interaction every day. I love my kid, but I'm a much better mom when someone else does the heavy lifting for 7 hours a day.
I'm the opposite. I worked until DD was almost 2 and I cried frequently that I couldn't be with her. Now I fear the day its time to go back to work, because I have no idea what I want to do with my life after raising children.
I don't think it's weird to have a sn with mommy in it on a site that's about being/becoming a mom 🤷 A few women in my first BMB had names like that and there is so much more to them than being mothers and they are not even close to boring. Like there's more to me than being obsessed with what Kate Middleton is wearing 😂 It's just a name to me.
I'm not about joint FB profiles unless you're old, though. My friend's sister and her husband have a joint one and have since they were dating because neither trusted the other one enough to have their own and THEY STILL GOT MARRIED. WHAT.
@DuchessOfCambridge that did cross my mind, that lots of ladies on here have mommy-centric names, but I think she meant more on instagram/twitter/snapchat.
I know 2 couples with joint facebooks. One uses it for their photography business that they do together, the other is from my last BMB - I'm not 100% sure how old she is but she was having her 4th kid in our BMB so I think she and her hisband might not have had FB in college and never got into it so I assume her husband just ins't interested in having his own (DH is 31 and I believe in the first 2-4 years of it being prolific). Honestly, my sample is so small as I don't have many married friends.
@mrskoz428 I worry people judge us for how much our dog is outside. I have to bribe or force him to come inside at night so he is probably out about 12 hours a day. He has a heated water bowl and I routinely check to see if he wants to come in, but chooses to be outside. I do make him come in if we aren’t home or if I am showering or napping.
I feel like this might've been said one week, but I actually LOVE pineapple on pizza and was super surprised when I found out that's a thing people hate. I actually think I'm about to go order a Hawaiian pizza because it sounds really good 😂
I also feel like this may not be a UO amongst other women with my issue, but I hate having large breasts. I spent my whole life wishing I did, and now when I don't wear a bra they tickle my belly button, I just can't. It's not cute, my back hurts, they clap when we have sex and it's weird... Just no. I don't necessarily want to go back to my A cup, but my cute large B's with my teeny body was nice. But 40something DDDs is just... No.
@eatinwatermelonseeds I LOVE pineapple on pizza! I also think it's weird that others don't. And I have too many friends who hate their large breasts to be envious. I was a full C before DD, they got huge (which looked weird) and now they're probably B's since I'm BFing but not a ton at 15 months PP. Even as a C, there were things that looked cute on my friends with large A's/small B's that I was envious of because I just looked like a flousy (can't think of a better word lol). I can only imagine DDDs all the time.
@eatinwatermelonseeds I used to be really self conscious about being small chested but I've grown to like it since I've been out of college. I think a lot of it had to do with me trying to rock a style that didn't look good on someone with no chest but I've learned to dress myself in a more flattering non-college way 😂 I wouldn't mind, say, being a B but oh well. I can see what you're saying though and I'm sorry it's uncomfortable 😔
Re: UO
I maybe log in once a day but scroll through my newsfeed with zero interest. It's bad memes, nonsense right-wing articles from elderly relatives, and duplicate photos that I already saw on instagram. I stay for the occasional big news from someone (engagements, babies, etc.), but otherwise it's so lame now. I'm pretty proud of the fact that I don't spend a lot of time on my phone staring at this crap.
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
Married: Oct 2015
TTC #1: Sept 2016
BFP: 10/19/16 ~ blighted ovum ~ D&C 11/23/16
BFP: 3/24/17
TTC #2: July 2018
BFP: 8/26/18
I have FB but only for my two previous BMBs. If not for them, I'd delete it. Even so, I don't feel like I get on there or comment as much as I could.
My UO is that I wish the inflatable Christmas decor trend would die. Lights are so much prettier. Although I do high five our inflatable Santa from time to time since he looks so lonely out there.
DS1 is 7. DD is 1. DS2 is coming in late April.
Umm... I've never seen any of the original star wars movies. (H has made me see a couple of the recent ones but I never really know who anyone is, I only go because I like the movie theater lol).
@merrylea. I agree! I’m all for the magic of Santa but I really hate the idea of telling kids they are essentially under non stop surveillance by some creepy elf doll that’s going to rat them out if they are naughty. That shit totally would have given me nightmares as a kid.
I'm not about joint FB profiles unless you're old, though. My friend's sister and her husband have a joint one and have since they were dating because neither trusted the other one enough to have their own and THEY STILL GOT MARRIED. WHAT.
I know 2 couples with joint facebooks. One uses it for their photography business that they do together, the other is from my last BMB - I'm not 100% sure how old she is but she was having her 4th kid in our BMB so I think she and her hisband might not have had FB in college and never got into it so I assume her husband just ins't interested in having his own (DH is 31 and I believe in the first 2-4 years of it being prolific). Honestly, my sample is so small as I don't have many married friends.