Lol, happy Thursday and Thanksgiving! I am in sunny California trying to take a pre-dinner nap, because that's what all pregnant women should do on Thanksgiving. DH has been a saint - made our side dish contribution and took DS outside for a swim.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone! Today was a super busy day but I felt like I grazed all day. I wore yoga pants today and my MIL told me I definitely have a bump, it’s not just bloat! Ha maybe I do have a bit of one...
hope everyone had a great time with family and had a chance to enjoy some delicious food. Even if it all came back up 😉
I was so ready to leave my brother's house yesterday evening. I was so sick of watching the way my niece treated my sweet DD1. All she wanted was to play with her cousins but everytime they started playing with something they would give her the left over dolls or whatever it was that they didn't want. Then, at the end of the day, all DD1 wanted was to have the Princess Elena and Rapunzel doll and my niece refused to share them. What did my SIL do? Absolutely nothing. So I finally had to just start pulling things from my daughters hands explaining to her that her cousins didn't want to share so she couldn't play. My poor little girl buried her head in my shoulder and cried her eyes out. I was so mad. Now we are planning to spend several days in a cabin with them. I'm already dreading it.
TLDR, my nieces are horrible little mean girls and they made my little girl cry and feel like crap.
I ended up using the situation as a teaching moment for her.
@emeraldcity603 that sucks! So hard to watch stuff like that. I'm spacing how old your DD1 is, but if it's any consolation, when I was little my cousin was awful to me but I never really remembered it (like in the 1-3ish years) and she became my best friend by the time I was 4 or 5 (Mom never forgot though...she had to basically guard me whenever we were around them so I didn't get choked when they made me "be the puppy on a leash", or steal my toys or stuff like that, and was very wary when we did finally become friends -- but we're still close now, 30 years later). They might grow up to be horrible kids, but things can still change -- and either way, DD1 is so lucky to have a mom like you who actually cares and invests in her instead of just letting her get over it.
@emeraldcity603 well damn. In that case give her a toy they'd want and don't let them play with it. (This is why I will be a bad mom...no learning opportunities, just looking for ways to get even.) But seriously, that's rough, and I'm sorry.
@ki1244 there is a new wave of parents who are not teaching there kids to share these days. They say it is because they, as adults, don't share there wedding ring (<<real example given to me during one of these discussions) or car, etc. I truly believe it is because they don't want to deal with the tears that come with kids learning to share.
For me, I want my kids to know that it is never ok to make another kid sad because they are being selfish. We can play with our toys whenever but we can't always play with our friends. So we put our friends, and in this case, family first.
I however, don't allow my kids to take a toy with the pretense of another kid not sharing. My kids have tried to pull that with one another and I always put a stop to it.
@emeraldcity603 I am so sorry you had to go through that. That’s so frustrating. It drives me crazy when parents just let their kids be rude to other kids and don’t do a thing about it.
So, yesterday I found out that my uncle and aunt are expecting in July. It’s going to be her fifth but his first. It was great being at Thanksgiving and having someone to commiserate with about nausea. Both of us felt pretty bad all day.
@emeraldcity603 that makes me so mad and sad at the same time! it makes me most mad at your SIL because seriously sitting there and letting a 4.5 year old cry just because you rather not teach your children to share.😡 You handled it beautifully I must say and I know your baby will get through it. I hope your time with them isn't to stressful and you and your baby manage to have a good time!
@emeraldcity603 I'm sorry your DD had to deal with that. Hopefully the next few days in a cabin go more smoothly. That example of adults not having to share (wedding rings?!) is crazy! I'm glad I haven't come across that yet.
Thanks ladies! I ran to Target this morning and bought her a Barbie set that has 3 barbies and something for them to ride on. I figure if my nieces won't share at the cabin she will have something new and fun to play with.
I bought my other 2 LOs new toys too. Plus I got the Gracco Snugride carseat that was on sale. My mom is going to drive down at Christmas and bring it with her.
Here’s something random: we went to visit the LBJ presidential library today and they wouldn’t allow me to bring a bottle of water in the library with me. Please note it’s not a library that you really walk through. You’re basically walking through a museum so it’s just a lot of things behind glass. Anyways, I felt so unnnecessarily ragey about it. Haha. I was like “Fine! Hopefully I don’t pregnancy vomit on your important artifacts!”
Sometimes I forget this thread is public and want to post certain things about other threads. And then I realize that’s not the best idea 😂 Nothing bad, I promise I’m not a mean girl, just observations lol
So DH and I are really minimalistic and that applies to Christmas too. We always get the kids just a few things each. Usually a couple of toys, a book or movie, some clothes, and a stocking. DH is really adamant about them not growing up thinking Christmas is about the stuff, which I get.
However, my mom constantly goes overboard with the stuff. So far she has bought just DD (3) a tent, a Jessie from Toy Story costume, a Jessie from Toy Story doll, a 9 pack of Disney princess Barbies, a Little Tikes car, a shopping cart, and cowboy boots. She isn’t even done for DD and hasn’t started on our other kids. DD also gets gifts from both sets of grandparents and great grandparents, which is fine because they only get her one thing. My mom makes it SO HARD and I know she does it because she loves her but we have no room for all this shit and I don’t want her to expect a mountain of toys every Christmas.
I'm sitting up here at Winter Park and there is a blizzard tonight. It's expected to dump 18 inches of snow. Plus 70 (the main road down the maintain) is closed and they are suppose to be closing part of the road so they can do blasting and cause an avalanche. They do controlled avalanches so they don't just happen randomly. I'm really worried about the drive home, if we can actually get through the roads. My husband drove up here in my van and it doesn't have snow tires or chains and isn't 4wheel drive. All I can picture is my husband sliding off the mountain.
I haven't really used a Doppler before. Never had one with my son and started feeling my daughter move early so never felt the need. I am 11 weeks today so know it's still early but tried to use mine yesterday but couldn't find it. I also don't 100% know I'm doing it right lol. The doctor found it with the Doppler at my appt on wed. But 11 weeks can still be hard to find at home can't it?
@desoky01 we are packing up and getting ready to head down later this morning. They have opened the roads so we are going down before they close them again. I'm riding down with my mom because I can't handle the stress of me and all my kids in my van going down the mountain.
@sparklingdiamond try looking much lower than you would expect. I could find mine at 12 weeks just half an inch in from my bikini line. Haven't tried since...
@sparklingdiamond watch some videos. I've been finding it since 9 weeks. Finding the placenta which makes a "woosh woosh" sound and then working out from there is the easiest way to find it right now
I do know with the Doppler if you have an anterior placenta it can be much harder to find the HB and you feel movement later, which can be quite worrisome if your doctor doesn’t tell you that!
No idea if this is true but I heard the “whoosh” noise of the womb is why babies find the “shhh shhh” sound calming when you are trying to relax or settle them down especially as newborns.
I tried with my Doppler yesterday. I have a tilted uterus and anterior placenta. I didn’t find baby, just the lovely whooshing sound of my own heartbeat. Not surprised since they didn’t find DD until close to week 14. She was also an anterior placenta.
Maybe I should try a stethoscope? JK!!
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Me: 33 DH:30 DD: Aug '16 10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Re: Weekly randoms 11/19
I'm breaking out the maternity pants today. Lol
hope everyone had a great time with family and had a chance to enjoy some delicious food. Even if it all came back up 😉
TLDR, my nieces are horrible little mean girls and they made my little girl cry and feel like crap.
I ended up using the situation as a teaching moment for her.
I never to black Friday shopping, but my brother wanted my help looking for a few things so I am braving it and going.
For me, I want my kids to know that it is never ok to make another kid sad because they are being selfish. We can play with our toys whenever but we can't always play with our friends. So we put our friends, and in this case, family first.
I however, don't allow my kids to take a toy with the pretense of another kid not sharing. My kids have tried to pull that with one another and I always put a stop to it.
So, yesterday I found out that my uncle and aunt are expecting in July. It’s going to be her fifth but his first. It was great being at Thanksgiving and having someone to commiserate with about nausea. Both of us felt pretty bad all day.
I bought my other 2 LOs new toys too. Plus I got the Gracco Snugride carseat that was on sale. My mom is going to drive down at Christmas and bring it with her.
edit because I hit post too soon
However, my mom constantly goes overboard with the stuff. So far she has bought just DD (3) a tent, a Jessie from Toy Story costume, a Jessie from Toy Story doll, a 9 pack of Disney princess Barbies, a Little Tikes car, a shopping cart, and cowboy boots. She isn’t even done for DD and hasn’t started on our other kids. DD also gets gifts from both sets of grandparents and great grandparents, which is fine because they only get her one thing. My mom makes it SO HARD and I know she does it because she loves her but we have no room for all this shit and I don’t want her to expect a mountain of toys every Christmas.
No idea if this is true but I heard the “whoosh” noise of the womb is why babies find the “shhh shhh” sound calming when you are trying to relax or settle them down especially as newborns.
I tried with my Doppler yesterday. I have a tilted uterus and anterior placenta. I didn’t find baby, just the lovely whooshing sound of my own heartbeat. Not surprised since they didn’t find DD until close to week 14. She was also an anterior placenta.
Maybe I should try a stethoscope? JK!!
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
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