Checking in from the longest cheer event ever. Luckily it’s at a convention center at a rather large casino which means I’ve spent too much money at Sephora, blew $20 on penny slots, had an enormous latte from Starbucks this AM and now a cone from Ben & Jerry’s. 8 hours down, 6 to go.
If I remember correctly the other “woman” is not married and they are living with her in-laws so there’s not a lot she can currently do to as far as locking him out.
I’d gladly sock him in the dick for you, @cmjenkies.
@cmjenkies- I have no idea how you are holding up through it but I am impressed that you are. I hope this weekend also involves some self care time for you, especially with it already involving having to face the horror that is your jacka$$ soon to be ex H. I am so so so very sorry. He should have some respect and empathy after all these years. 👿
@kayjay44 - @madreofdragons is right, we’re living with my in laws right now, but my house is almost put back together finally so I get to go back home soon.
This has been a very when it rains it pours few weeks for me - major water leak that turned into an unplanned kitchen renovation and full plumbing upgrade, sudden divorce dropped out of thin air, Adam’s car transmission went out and we had to replace a vehicle, my iPhone bit the dust and I had to replace it, and I had a consult with an attorney. The money we had saved for my maternity leave is dwindling quickly and I’ve had to use PTO to leave work early twice when I had a complete meltdown at the hospital. (Thank goodness I have the most supportive work family.) My 28 week labs are this coming Friday. I’ve lost almost 10# the last month (I was already overweight so it’s not a huge concern), but I’m going to ask for updated STD testing just for my peace of mind, even though we have not been intimate since they were. We still haven’t told my son (he’s almost 8) what’s going on and I am struggling to find the right words to say when that does happen. I don’t want to break my sweet baby’s heart, I just want to protect him from the fallout of his daddy’s poor choices.
I’m trying to focus on getting things prepared for the baby because I honestly haven’t done anything at all, but I’m just not motivated to do that right now. I need to sell some baby carriers/Kickee/fabric out of my stash to supplement my leave and I need to get Lou her big girl bed so she can hopefully transition to that before big sister time starts. I can’t believe it’s already third trimester time - with the holidays coming, it’s going to fly. I remember with Eli, he was due a week before this one is, it was like a blink of an eye and poof! Baby time. I hope that I can bring myself to a better place mentally and emotionally so I can be ready when the time comes.
I've been having what I guess is BH contractions all day. I had to come into work a bit today, so I've done a little more walking than normal, but nothing unusual. But they're pretty regular and seem to radiate to my lower back. Ugh. I have an appointment first thing in the morning, but man these are pretty uncomfortable. I'm going to go home and put my feet up and hope they stop. I didn't have this with DD so it's a bit concerning.
@cmjenkies I know your ILs have your kids this weekend, but are they being supportive of you at least? I Remember you saying how close you were to them. My heart breaks for you. Just keep you and that baby healthy
@cmjenkies I am giving you creepy internet hugs. I’m so sorry you’re going through that it makes me really angry so I can’t imagine the emotions you’re going through. Take it one day at a time - yes baby is coming quickly but you’ve got this you know what you need and what to do. It’ll come together once you’re home and I would go with your gut in regard to telling him to take a walk or what. We’re here for you!
@cali1710 they’re super supportive of me. Everyone wants to strangle him because he has been compulsively lying to everybody in his family and they’re really fed up with it.
And thanks to all of you for the continued love and allowing me to vent in this space. I promise I’m not always drama, this just isn’t my decade apparently!
I’m looking forward to a hopeful FB transition at some point in the next couple of months so it’ll be more streamlined to communicate. I hate this stinking app. We use a daily randoms thread with my A’16 girls that is so much easier to keep up with.
@cmjenkies When my dad pulled similar crap on mom, his entire family was incredible supportive of her and embarrassed of him too. Glad to hear your IL’s are being so great about it! I can’t believe he thinks it’s no big deal when the kids are out of town, what an asshole. I bet moving back into your house soon will be such a relief.
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
I just did 2 solid hours of leaf raking and clean up. Dh did most have the bagging. Body please have mercy on my tomorrow.... laying on the sofa bow and babys like tha fuxk get moving lady!!
@cmjenkies so sorry you are going through all this but glad at least your ILs ate supportive! It’s amazing how strong you are staying through all of this!
@cmjenkies- just caught up on what you have been going thru and just want to send you creepy internet hugs. You are one tough lady and you will come out on top, I know it
History in Spoiler
Age: 32 (same with DH). Together since 2006, Married June 2013 and TTC since August 2015 Diagnosis: Mild Endo, DOR (AMH of 1.5), Poor Quality Eggs/embryos, Displaced Window of Implantation (ERA Post Receptive) March-May 2016: 1 TI and 2 IUIs- BFN June 2016- Laproscopy- found/removed mild endo and confirmed only 1 normal healthy ovary. August 2016- IVF #1 with Antagonist Protocol- Cancelled (2 lead follies), converted to IUI- BFN Oct-Nov 2016- IVF #2 with Estrogen Priming Micro Lupron Protocol, 2 eggs retrieved, day 3 transfer of 1- BFN January 2017- New RE, IVF#3 with Estrogen Priming Antagonist Protocol, 12 eggs, 8 mature, 6 fertilized, 2 day 5 early blasts transferred (none to freeze ), BFN May 2017- Sept 2017- Starting Donor Egg process! Waiting for donor to be available... and then she is pregnant at baseline Oct 2017- Donor #2: 25R, 22M,18F, 12 blasts frozen! Fresh transfer cancelled due to thin lining with fluid Nov 2017- Hysterscopy to remove polyp Dec 2017- DE FET #1 on 12/8 on 2 perfect blasts- BFN and devastated Jan-Mar 2018- ERA #1- Post receptive by 24 hours, ERA #2 RECEPTIVE with 4 days of Progesterone Apr 2018- DE FET cancelled for lining issues Jun 2018- DE FET #2 of two 1AA blasts- first BFP ever! Beta 10dp5dt- 378, Beta 14dp5dt- 2840, Beta 16dp5dt- 4035, beta 18dp5dt- 10916. Due on 2/20 with one baby after a vanishing twin Baby Born born early @ 33.5 weeks due to Pre-e Back for # 2!
@cmjenkies Girl, I just can’t imagine everything on your mind right now. I’m so glad your in-laws are supportive of you. You need every bit of support right now. He’s so many things I can’t say without the mods getting all uptight. All of the love and support for you and your kids.
@cmjenkies man do I just want to throat punch this guy! I’m so sorry you have to deal with his immature selfish bullshit on top of all the other stresses you have. I’m glad his family is being so supportive though and that you have great support at work too!
@danixbanani24 hope the meds do their thing and you feel better soon!
Re: Weekend Randoms {11/10 & 11/11}
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
I’d gladly sock him in the dick for you, @cmjenkies.
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
This has been a very when it rains it pours few weeks for me - major water leak that turned into an unplanned kitchen renovation and full plumbing upgrade, sudden divorce dropped out of thin air, Adam’s car transmission went out and we had to replace a vehicle, my iPhone bit the dust and I had to replace it, and I had a consult with an attorney. The money we had saved for my maternity leave is dwindling quickly and I’ve had to use PTO to leave work early twice when I had a complete meltdown at the hospital. (Thank goodness I have the most supportive work family.) My 28 week labs are this coming Friday. I’ve lost almost 10# the last month (I was already overweight so it’s not a huge concern), but I’m going to ask for updated STD testing just for my peace of mind, even though we have not been intimate since they were. We still haven’t told my son (he’s almost 8) what’s going on and I am struggling to find the right words to say when that does happen. I don’t want to break my sweet baby’s heart, I just want to protect him from the fallout of his daddy’s poor choices.
I’m trying to focus on getting things prepared for the baby because I honestly haven’t done anything at all, but I’m just not motivated to do that right now. I need to sell some baby carriers/Kickee/fabric out of my stash to supplement my leave and I need to get Lou her big girl bed so she can hopefully transition to that before big sister time starts. I can’t believe it’s already third trimester time - with the holidays coming, it’s going to fly. I remember with Eli, he was due a week before this one is, it was like a blink of an eye and poof! Baby time. I hope that I can bring myself to a better place mentally and emotionally so I can be ready when the time comes.
I’m looking forward to a hopeful FB transition at some point in the next couple of months so it’ll be more streamlined to communicate. I hate this stinking app. We use a daily randoms thread with my A’16 girls that is so much easier to keep up with.
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
Diagnosis: Mild Endo, DOR (AMH of 1.5), Poor Quality Eggs/embryos, Displaced Window of Implantation (ERA Post Receptive)
March-May 2016: 1 TI and 2 IUIs- BFN
June 2016- Laproscopy- found/removed mild endo and confirmed only 1 normal healthy ovary.
August 2016- IVF #1 with Antagonist Protocol- Cancelled (2 lead follies), converted to IUI- BFN
Oct-Nov 2016- IVF #2 with Estrogen Priming Micro Lupron Protocol, 2 eggs retrieved, day 3 transfer of 1- BFN
January 2017- New RE, IVF#3 with Estrogen Priming Antagonist Protocol, 12 eggs, 8 mature, 6 fertilized, 2 day 5 early blasts transferred (none to freeze
May 2017- Sept 2017- Starting Donor Egg process! Waiting for donor to be available... and then she is pregnant at baseline
Oct 2017- Donor #2: 25R, 22M,18F, 12 blasts frozen! Fresh transfer cancelled due to thin lining with fluid
Nov 2017- Hysterscopy to remove polyp
Dec 2017- DE FET #1 on 12/8 on 2 perfect blasts- BFN and devastated
Jan-Mar 2018- ERA #1- Post receptive by 24 hours, ERA #2 RECEPTIVE with 4 days of Progesterone
Apr 2018- DE FET cancelled for lining issues
Jun 2018- DE FET #2 of two 1AA blasts- first BFP ever! Beta 10dp5dt- 378, Beta 14dp5dt- 2840, Beta 16dp5dt- 4035, beta 18dp5dt- 10916. Due on 2/20 with one baby after a vanishing twin
Baby Born born early @ 33.5 weeks due to Pre-e
Back for # 2!
Eta: hope you’re feeling better @danixbanani24
@danixbanani24 hope the meds do their thing and you feel better soon!