Curious - when how are you sharing to others?
I am currently 6w 4d. I haven’t told anyone yet. One of my friends caught on though already when we were celebrating Halloween. She’s sworn to secrecy.
I am having my first appointment next week Friday. I think I want to tell my mom next week. I am on the fence though because we aren’t ready to tell DHs mom as we aren’t close to her at all. My mom though we see at least 1-2 times a week. DH and I will be discussing it more.
I wanted to wait to tell his immediate family at Christmas when I’ll be 12 weeks. I haven’t thought of any creative ways yet. I am looking for ideas!
Not entirely sure about a social media announcement. That I think would be closer to 20 weeks
Re: When are you announcing
My u/s is 11/26. I think I’ll tell my mom on 12/1, which is the next time I’ll see her. Not sure if I’ll do any type of real announcemt for anyone else.
We’re waiting until 12 weeks to tell my daughter because she’s just shy of 3 and I wouldn’t begin to know how to explain a miscarriage to her. And we’ll probably “announce” to everyone else right after Christmas when I’ll be past the 12 week mark!
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H got over excited and told everyone about my last pregnancy just a few days after my BFP. A couple weeks later I miscarried and it was very hard untelling people, though family and our close friends were very supportive.
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This go around we are waiting till after my first appt to tell close friends and family. Though we did tell MIL to try and ease the blow for us not coming to Thanksgiving this year.
There is no right or wrong answer here. It's all whatever you are comfortable with.
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We wont be telling our children until after we see a doctor. When my sister had her loss, the girls didn’t understand why the baby wasn’t coming anymore so I don’t want that to happen again.
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Because our last 2 pregnancies were losses at 13 and 10 weeks I'm not planning on telling anyone else.
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Honestly I'm just going to watch as people awkwardly figure it out as my belly grows:) We'll probably tell MIL after we get a good us under our belts but that's about it.
Can I get away with not telling DD anything until baby is actually here? Because if I can I'll do that:)
Our best friends know and we're going to tell DH's parents and my grandpa this weekend. I'm 4+1 today and I know these people will be very supportive if I end up with a loss. I'd like to tell the rest of my family on Christmas when I'm 10+5, but I'm not sure. I'd like to announce to social media on Valentine's Day, which will be around 18 weeks
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Will probably tell work in Jan as my place of work is super supportive and, well, last pregnancy I was so tired all the time I accidentally fell asleep at my desk once or twice.
*TW* I only told my BFF last time, when we had a CP only a few days later. We ended up telling our moms to avoid the "when are you having another" questions and no one else about the loss, and honestly for us, that made it easier to bear, having not shared it.
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My last ended in a miscarriage, and I suffered in silence for the most part as a ton of people didn't really know. Although suffering in silence is usually my MO (I don't like to share my pain/shame with others), I think this go around I'll definitely need extra support.
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As for the rest of the world.... we will announce at Christmas time when the first trimester is almost over.
Boden Gray 8-13-16
BB Girl Expected 7-10-19
I feel like I'm going to have to announce around Christmas, it will feel too early but my husband and I are hobbyist wine connoisseurs and EVERYONE will be asking why I'm not doing the wine pairing. Thanksgiving will be hard enough, I think I'm going to pretend I'm on antibiotics or something just to ease the pressure, my family is VERY boisterous!
And like you, I’ve been forced to share the news with a couple friends because I haven’t been drinking 😂 I saw some old friends from high school recently and they wanted to go to a new brewery here. With nothing to do at a brewery but drink beer, I was totally forced to spill the beans.
I’m sure you are missing your wine already!!! With these miscarriage nerves, I could sure go for a glass... or two or three 😉
Boden Gray 8-13-16
BB Girl Expected 7-10-19
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So worried something could happen even though it's out of my control.
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We are likely going to tell family at Christmas and social media next year as end of 1st trimester is NYE.
We're hosting Thanksgiving and I'm a little worried people will notice I'm not drinking, so I have some alcohol-free wine to keep my glass full. Worked last time!
We are celebrating Christmas early with my parents because they live out of state and it will be just after my first appointment so we will tell them then. We will tell DHs family on Christmas and are waiting to tell our girls until we are ready for the world to know because our oldest will NOT be able to keep it quiet. I have a cute idea for a Valentine’s Day themed announcement so Id like to wait until then. I will be 18 weeks at that point so hopefully we will know the sex too so we can include that in the announcement!
Baby #2 due April 2017
Im not sure how I’ll let people know, but I have plenty of time to worry about it.
We are telling our our parents this weekend, at about 7weeks. I don’t have much info on family health history, so I’ll have to tell them before asking for that! I’ve also told my two best friends and my coworkers. I work in a super tight-knit place with some women who have been cheering me on since we started TTC, and are like second moms to me with their advice and support. We are only telling people we would trust to support us if the worst happens for now. Likely going to tell the rest of our family and friends closer to Christmas, after our first appt at the end of November, so a photographer I know through my best friend also knows (we wanted to set up a session for announcement photos right away). I’m anxious to tell the world!! I work in cosmetology, and I’m usually an open book with my clients. It’s so hard not telling everyone! Anyone experiencing that too? 😭