I’m so grateful DH got this job before he missed a paycheck, but I f-ing hate that he doesn’t get home until 7-8pm. I don’t see him in the morning because I leave for work before he wakes up and then I’m in bed by 8-830 so I maybe see him 45 minutes every night which he usually spends in the bathroom because men
hes also in meetings more than half the day so we barely talk at all. I’m starting to forget what he even looks like.
@lilpotatomama I just shaved my legs today for the first time in a month or two too. My dd walked in the bathroom and was like “what’s that?” And I said makes my legs smooth and she said “oh, good I don’t like them scratchy” haha not yet three and still knows smooth legs feel nicer.
Today I bought 3 packs of blueberry bagels because I’m afraid of running out again. It’s all I want for breakfast.
My my dog is coming over and laying head on me. Or leaning on me when I sit on the floor. She’s a greyhound so that’s their form of affection. Leaning. It’s not usually this often.
@harveyisaboysname I feel the same! DH commutes 1.5h to work every day and almost never comes home before 7, followed by at least half an hour in the bathroom of course lol. I usually manage to stay up a bit later though, but it sucks to not be able to eat together (I get hungry at 5...).
@professormama: I'm totally the one who tries not to use the TV, even when I'm at the end of my wits, and DH uses it all the time. Ugh. But awesome work, mama. You're amazing!
@harveyisaboysname, that's how it is with us except reversed (I work evenings). Some days it feels like I don't see him at all. It sucks, but it does save us money on childcare since we just swap the kid most days.
@kbirchtree, I'm out of bagels and now I want bagels... . Also, that's super cute! My dog has been more affectionate lately also, but I think that's because he's now on anti-anxiety meds, hah.
So we had our gender ultrasound yesterday and baby kept their legs cross. By the ultrasound tech was 100% sure it was a girl because of the 'Nub theory" which I looked up and seems legit?
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@harveyisaboysname Sorry about your DHs long/skewed hours. It’s tough to not see each other.
It’s tough when you run into people on the board (and internet in general) who should follow up with their doctors but you get the impression they won’t. There’s a poster in 1st tri that I’m actually pretty concerned for but me and another poster can only say so much and she’s probably just going to ghost
@lin0442 I was reading her posts. So strange. I don't understand how some people can be so flippant about their health or the health of their potential baby. You're probably right that she'll just ghost. I hope she's exaggerating everything and it's not that serious.
Me: 31 H: 36 L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
@lin0442 I’m posting this before I go and snoop that thread, but I’m technically supposed to go see a neurologist for my excessive migraines. My grandfather died of a brain tumor so it’s a huge red flag. I’m trying to just ignore it unless it gets worse before I see a specialist because this pregnancy is so rough that if I find out I have something wrong up there I will likely seek treatment which means baby won’t survive. I have like zero other symptoms so I’m hoping the only growth I have is this baby who is being an a-hole to me for some reason.
I read an article this morning about the shooting that took place in a bar in CA last night. Which while unbelievably awful in and of itself, apparently gets worse. There were several people who survived the mass shooting in Vegas last year in the bar. I guess the bar was a big place of comfort and family and even helped raise money for the victims after the shooting in Vegas.
The pregnancy hormones are making it all so much worse but i'm just really angry at this whole thing. And saddened that this is somehow something we are constantly dealing with.
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In far less depressing news...Sir David Attenborough is doing a huge awesome nature documentary for Netflix that comes out in April. So the first few weeks of this kids life will totally have a nature background. Maybe it will make them calmer. The first couple of weeks after DD was born we watched a lot of Mythbusters and maybe that's why she's an explosion contained inside a person.
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@harveyisaboysname I really get it re putting off the neurologist appointment. Less seriou / immediate. But during my last pregnancy I had hypertension / pre-e. After the baby came my doc told me I might want to get tested for kidney disease (genetic and runs in my family) because my pregnancy complications could have been related. I mulled it over and ended up not doing it for now. I’m just not ready to know how I’m going to die - it sounds melodramatic, but it’s a huge deal to find out that kind of health information. There is a kind of bliss in ignorance.
@thatbaintforbetty it’s a really fun bar too - and since it’s the best country bar in dozens of miles, it also has tons of regulars that go to dance all the dances I never went often enough to figure out. It breaks my heart but makes perfect sense that there were people there who had been at the Vegas shooting too.
Ugh. Everyone at our house is sick. I hate using the TV in the evenings, I get so little time with my kid. We usually try to limit TV to morning while we are showering / getting ready. But tonight is definitely going to be a “movie night” in our house. I’m justifying that my son probably needs it too, because he was up for like 1.5 hours last night due to a nightmare, so he’s probably exhausted too. I felt bad even sending him to school knowing how tired he probably is, but I had to teach and had meetings today. I’m usually so anti-mom-guilt, but I’m feeling it tonight. I just feel like I’m crappy at everything and everything sucks (plus as y’all brought up, the news is depressing and tragic).
There must be something going around again. I’ve been feeling super gross and weird all day. But!!! I’m so happy and excited today because I found out that my time off for thanksgiving week got approved. I’m off Tuesday-Friday! I can’t believe it. Our anatomy scan is on Wednesday of that week, and I’m so happy to have some time to just enjoy this time with family (and online shop!)
@professormama - we usually don't do TV on the weekdays either. We only get about 1.5 hours with DD after work so its our time but at least once a week the last few weeks I have let her. I am just too tired. So I cuddle with her and she watches tv and everyone is happy lol Mamas got to do what mamas got to do.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
re: hospital bags. I didn't have one w/ my first b/c he came 10 days early & when I went to L&D, I was 100% sure they were going to send me home. but this time, I've been looking for ANY reason to buy the new ju-ju-be weekender bag & it will make the perfect hospital bag!! I'm so excited for it.
I second what @professormama said about discomfort w/ subsequent pregnancies, although it's not confirmed by my OB. I've just been doing a ton of reading on the boards & elsewhere on the internet & have realized that RLP & back pain & other discomforts are just gonna be my norm until april that being said, I did buy a couple of blanqi belly bands to wear during the day (and a pair of their leggings- AMAZING!) and I'll say I feel like they help a lot in keeping me in less discomfort than usual.
but re: ignoring doc's orders or whatever, I have had more symptoms this time around that are sucky, but I haven't mentioned to my OB b/c I'm pretty sure her response will be to exercise (which I know I need to do, but I'm not) and/or, yeah, those symptoms are normal. I've had terrible headaches semi-frequently. in fact, I woke up w/ one at 2am, ignored it, and woke up w/ the same headache at 4:30 this morning. tylenol didn't do too much, so I had some coffee, and it's dulled down, but it's still there. idk what's normal and what isn't concerning head aches.
I also fear that I might be diabetic for a small handful of reasons. but 90% of my diet w/ my first was mcdonalds and haagen dazs and I didn't even come close to being diabetic then, so why would that change now? I'm afraid to ask for the glucose test, and also afraid not to
@thatbaintforbetty, I get brazilians regularly and any time my husband & I crunch down on our budget, I offer to cut out brazilians & he's like NO! I'm willing to bet your husband would be the same men never know what they're talking about.
I'm barely halfway thru this pregnancy & I already am tying my shoes like a fat lady (you know- where the knot is on the inside of my foot instead of centered on top).
my first pregnancy ended at the end of summer, and while I'm looking forward to keeping cozy during this pregnancy in the winter months, I am sort of dreading the first few months w/ baby, b/c I'm a religious baby-wearer and I know the summer heat will make baby wearing not as enjoyable
my 4yo is newly obsessed w/ "JACK! the pumpkin king..." aka nightmare before xmas (what's in quotations is what he sings every time he wants the movie or the soundtrack) so I'm thinking about putting a nightmare before xmas-themed gift under the tree for him this year, and maybe turn it into a tradition. like, santa visits, and so does the pumpkin king. but I'm terribly uncreative! anyone have any ideas/suggestions for me? all I got is gift-wrapping it in a scary way, which I think is easy- I'm more stumped on what to put inside it...
@batmama31 DS is also obsessed with Jack. But his favorite part is the curly mountain? IDK, he's weird. I can't think of any gift ideas for you but that's a cute idea!
The social services office lost my proof of income/photocopy of my passport and now I have bring that stuff again so they can approve/deny my medical. I’m so upset. I don’t understand misplacing important information like that and on top of it, the people at my local office have been so incredibly rude to me.
@batmama31, my son just watched The Nightmare Before Christmas this year and loved it! It's one of my husband's favorite movies, so even though I was worried it would be too scary, we let him watch. I can't think of any cute ideas off the top of my head either. Do they make a soundtrack of the songs? My son loves listening to music as he goes to bed, maybe your kiddo would like to hear Jack the pumpkin king every night til you're sick of it .
@kangstadt, my son is very attuned to music from movies & tv shows he loves. example: his favorite track from the lion king soundtrack is the instrumental when mufasa dies (which may be a sign I have a serial killer on my hands, final verdict tbd) but my point is, he has a thing for music, period! you can find all the nightmare before xmas songs on spotify. I've created a playlist just for him in the car that includes his favorites from beetlejuice and fantastic mr. fox (which, btw, actually is a great soundtrack). but yeah, I am already sick of the music
@loveanddatadriven I just checked out Expecting Better from the library today and I’m loving it so far!
Also, I’m reading while waiting to see the OB. I straight up feel like my vagina is falling out, y’all. I really don’t think this is an emergency because I’m fully able to walk, no cramping, no bleeding. But I’m so damn uncomfortable. And probably a little over dramatic.
@loveanddatadriven I just checked out Expecting Better from the library today and I’m loving it so far!
Also, I’m reading while waiting to see the OB. I straight up feel like my vagina is falling out, y’all. I really don’t think this is an emergency because I’m fully able to walk, no cramping, no bleeding. But I’m so damn uncomfortable. And probably a little over dramatic.
ETA: the bump hates me and I’m sorry for the double posts!
Does anyone have any recommendations for sitting more comfortably in an office chair all day? Or something I can buy that will help? I didn't really have a problem with my DD because she was very high. I'm starting to get really uncomfortable and can't seem to find an ok way to sit at work. I have an office job so I really need to be able to focus.
@gollygeeitsamy My doc said to get up at least every 2 hours and take a bit of a walk/stretch. There is a blood clot risk with sitting for long periods while pregnant apparently? Does your work have or can you get a sit-stand desk? My doc offered to write me a note to get one at work if i felt the need for it.
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The school bus accident where the 3 kids lost their lives happened near me. I went to go to the prayer vigil and I lost it. I saw their mother and the pictures and I was a sobbing mess. Those poor babies and that mother! I’m so heartbroken for her! Can’t stop crying.
@loveanddatadriven@lilpotatomama I looove expecting better. I’m definitely getting her parenting book when it comes out. Emily Oster is so good!
I’ve been trying to let my kid do more messy / sensory play lately. Tonight he was just mixing paint and water with his hands. It was such a huge mess, but I just put a towel down on the floor and let it go. Ended up keeping him busy for like half an hour. I’m officially a fan.
@lyse01 I think I'd have to buy a short stool or something to do that. @thatbaintforbetty I used to have a standing desk but had to move it because they upgraded my monitors and both of them didn't fit on it. My boss doesn't mind me taking breaks but I get super uncomfortable, especially in the afternoons. I feels better when I stand or lay down because everything isn't all squished. I guess I'll keep trying stuff out.
My children will never fully potty train. They'll be in college and need to leave their lecture because they shit their pants. I'm so over cleaning poop out of panties.
Me: 31 H: 36 L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
I have chicken tortellini soup in the slow cooker and it smells so good. I cannot wait for dinner.
I have never wanted to purposely hit another car as much as I did today. Giant super duty truck with one sticker that said “global warmer” and another pointing to his 5 lbs of black shit spewing exhaust that said “Prius deterrent”. It’s good thing DH was with me even though he thought the same as me. Serious rage moment.
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My children will never fully potty train. They'll be in college and need to leave their lecture because they shit their pants. I'm so over cleaning poop out of panties.
My daughter was refusing to poop on the potty. I took away her right to underwear if she had an accident until she went on the potty instead and also talked about how yucky and gross poop outside of the potty is. She decided the potty was better than nude. But she was also afraid it would just fall out of her and get on things... she was 2.5. Now we are doing good except for occasionally peeing too excitedly and hitting her pants instead of the toilet.
My children will never fully potty train. They'll be in college and need to leave their lecture because they shit their pants. I'm so over cleaning poop out of panties.
My daughter was refusing to poop on the potty. I took away her right to underwear if she had an accident until she went on the potty instead and also talked about how yucky and gross poop outside of the potty is. She decided the potty was better than nude. But she was also afraid it would just fall out of her and get on things... she was 2.5. Now we are doing good except for occasionally peeing too excitedly and hitting her pants instead of the toilet.
My son was right about 2.5 when he potty trained as well. He also had a VERY hard time with poop. He was terrified, which is apparently normal. I could always tell when he needed to poop but was trying to hold it in, so I’d just switch him to a diaper. But, I’d take him (in the diaper) and have him still sit on his little potty. I always explained that now that he was a big boy he needed to poop on the potty. After about 3 or 4 times of that he decided he didn’t need the diaper. We really haven’t had trouble since. I felt better about him deciding he was ready than having to force the issue. My mantra was that he wasn’t going to go to college wearing a diaper.
@thatbaintforbetty that is horrible that there were survivors of the Vegas shooting at that bar too. Both my cousins go to Cal Lutheran college near that bar. They’re both safe but really shaken up by everything.
@harveyisaboysname I’m the same way. I’ve been putting off my thyroid bloodwork.
I can’t stop thinking about the fact that we may possibly find out the sex of the baby in 10 days. I’m so excited, but I’m surprised I managed to be so patient and just wait it out. I had always thought I’d want to find out as soon as possible, but I’ve really enjoyed this time with my unnamed mystery baby who I’ve been calling “wiggle worm”. I had always thought I wouldn’t feel as bonded to the baby if I didn’t know the sex right away, and now I know that is far from the case. Heck, maybe I’ll be team green for any future kids!
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hes also in meetings more than half the day so we barely talk at all. I’m starting to forget what he even looks like.
Today I bought 3 packs of blueberry bagels because I’m afraid of running out again. It’s all I want for breakfast.
My my dog is coming over and laying head on me. Or leaning on me when I sit on the floor. She’s a greyhound so that’s their form of affection. Leaning. It’s not usually this often.
I'm totally the one who tries not to use the TV, even when I'm at the end of my wits, and DH uses it all the time. Ugh. But awesome work, mama. You're amazing!
@harveyisaboysname, that's how it is with us except reversed (I work evenings). Some days it feels like I don't see him at all. It sucks, but it does save us money on childcare since we just swap the kid most days.
@kbirchtree, I'm out of bagels and now I want bagels...
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@harveyisaboysname Sorry about your DHs long/skewed hours. It’s tough to not see each other.
It’s tough when you run into people on the board (and internet in general) who should follow up with their doctors but you get the impression they won’t. There’s a poster in 1st tri that I’m actually pretty concerned for but me and another poster can only say so much and she’s probably just going to ghost
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
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But!!! I’m so happy and excited today because I found out that my time off for thanksgiving week got approved. I’m off Tuesday-Friday! I can’t believe it. Our anatomy scan is on Wednesday of that week, and I’m so happy to have some time to just enjoy this time with family (and online shop!)
ETA just forgot some stuff.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
I second what @professormama said about discomfort w/ subsequent pregnancies, although it's not confirmed by my OB. I've just been doing a ton of reading on the boards & elsewhere on the internet & have realized that RLP & back pain & other discomforts are just gonna be my norm until april
but re: ignoring doc's orders or whatever, I have had more symptoms this time around that are sucky, but I haven't mentioned to my OB b/c I'm pretty sure her response will be to exercise (which I know I need to do, but I'm not) and/or, yeah, those symptoms are normal. I've had terrible headaches semi-frequently. in fact, I woke up w/ one at 2am, ignored it, and woke up w/ the same headache at 4:30 this morning. tylenol didn't do too much, so I had some coffee, and it's dulled down, but it's still there. idk what's normal and what isn't concerning head aches.
I also fear that I might be diabetic for a small handful of reasons. but 90% of my diet w/ my first was mcdonalds and haagen dazs and I didn't even come close to being diabetic then, so why would that change now? I'm afraid to ask for the glucose test, and also afraid not to
@thatbaintforbetty, I get brazilians regularly and any time my husband & I crunch down on our budget, I offer to cut out brazilians & he's like NO! I'm willing to bet your husband would be the same
I'm barely halfway thru this pregnancy & I already am tying my shoes like a fat lady (you know- where the knot is on the inside of my foot instead of centered on top).
my first pregnancy ended at the end of summer, and while I'm looking forward to keeping cozy during this pregnancy in the winter months, I am sort of dreading the first few months w/ baby, b/c I'm a religious baby-wearer and I know the summer heat will make baby wearing not as enjoyable
my 4yo is newly obsessed w/ "JACK! the pumpkin king..." aka nightmare before xmas (what's in quotations is what he sings every time he wants the movie or the soundtrack) so I'm thinking about putting a nightmare before xmas-themed gift under the tree for him this year, and maybe turn it into a tradition. like, santa visits, and so does the pumpkin king. but I'm terribly uncreative! anyone have any ideas/suggestions for me? all I got is gift-wrapping it in a scary way, which I think is easy- I'm more stumped on what to put inside it...
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Also, I’m reading while waiting to see the OB. I straight up feel like my vagina is falling out, y’all. I really don’t think this is an emergency because I’m fully able to walk, no cramping, no bleeding. But I’m so damn uncomfortable. And probably a little over dramatic.
ETA: the bump hates me and I’m sorry for the double posts!
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I’ve been trying to let my kid do more messy / sensory play lately. Tonight he was just mixing paint and water with his hands. It was such a huge mess, but I just put a towel down on the floor and let it go. Ended up keeping him busy for like half an hour. I’m officially a fan.
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
I have never wanted to purposely hit another car as much as I did today. Giant super duty truck with one sticker that said “global warmer” and another pointing to his 5 lbs of black shit spewing exhaust that said “Prius deterrent”. It’s good thing DH was with me even though he thought the same as me. Serious rage moment.
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@harveyisaboysname I’m the same way. I’ve been putting off my thyroid bloodwork.