@sparklingdiamond SAME. I dont know if it's a regional thing or what but DH's family ALWAYS addresses mail to me like that, even when it's just to me (vs Mr and Mrs Greg Blahblah). You literally wrote my name on the inside of the birthday card, so can you address it likewise on the envelope? Drives me batty.
UO? I've had Fre and HATED it. Thought it tasted like cough medicine. I might try it again now that it's the next best thing but I was NOT a fan when I had it before. (This is also from the girl who literally cried the day after my BFP because, among other reasons, the wine I had been saving for Halloween -- a red blend aged in whiskey barrels -- is a total fall wine and will be unappetizing in July...like, hello first world problems and pregnancy hormones. But still.)
@antera23 Me too! The only alcohol I’ve ever had was a glass of wine in Italy, and it was disgusting.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@ki1244 yea, fre wine would never compare to a wine like you described! It sounds amazing. But the NA stuff gets me through 9 months, I may have a glass every 2 weeks so it’s not terrible. But I would be lying if I said I wasn’t looking forward to a nice beer or glass of wine next June 😁
UO: I think if people want to have a glass of wine or a beer occasionally while pregnant it’s not a big deal. I’m literally talking A drink. I abstain for first trimester but had a few beers throughout my last pregnancy. Drinking for taste not for any kind of buzz obviously. I totally understand why people would totally abstain but I put it in the lunch meat category.
UO: I think if people want to have a glass of wine or a beer occasionally while pregnant it’s not a big deal. I’m literally talking A drink. I abstain for first trimester but had a few beers throughout my last pregnancy. Drinking for taste not for any kind of buzz obviously. I totally understand why people would totally abstain but I put it in the lunch meat category.
Totally agree! As you said, drinking for taste not buzz. I also had a few half glasses of wine toward the end of my last pregnancy and everything is fine. Emily Oster's book talks about this which helped ease my mind. (It also helps that I'm in Europe where having the occasional sip of red wine while pregnant isn't A Thing.)
@spacepiraterunner forgot to mention this last night but Grogg + orange slices + ice (and an optional splash of club soda) makes a pretty decent sangria knockoff. At least pre-pregnancy it did. Warmed up it's a good swap for mulled wine (or add a hit of that to warmed apple juice or cider...I had one bartender friend create a cocktail with something similar, with a hit of rye and a candied bacon garnish, and I considered divorcing DH and marrying her instead). I had forgotten ALL about it! Give me Grogg over Fre ANY day.
UO: I absolutely HATE Christmas music. I worked retail for most of my 20s and I just cannot listen to it all day (or at all) anymore. I can’t even tune it out. The worst to me is Santa Baby. Ugh.
(Also to my drinker buds: I miss the daylights out of my good dark beers. Worth it though!)
@hiveofpente I feel the same way. I feel bloated and like crap and the due date just seems SO far away. I feel a million times better once I’m in 2nd tri. Something about your bump actually showing that makes things better (in my opinion 😂)
@battleangel yes!! I've hated Christmas music for a long time and I never really wrapped my head around why. But, I worked retail for several years and that is probably it.
But, I use to love working black Friday. It's probably the only thing I miss from retail.
I don’t think the song “Baby, Its Cold Outside” is creepy or rape-y. I guess maybe because I know the cultural context that it was written in? DH is super creeped out by it though.
Welchs makes some good sparkling juices around holiday time too. I basically lived on Welchs sparkling sangria two Christmas' ago. But, be warned, its pretty sweet. I love my wine to be sweet so the Welchs sparking sangria hit the spot for me.
@sparklingdiamond that grates my nerves to no end. Oh, so you got married and had to trade your identity and your gender too?! i didn’t change my last name, so anyone who does that to me gets aggressively laughed at (or that’s what I imagine). I have also sent mail back
Can someone explain UO to me lol. I thought I would catch on reading posts.... but apparently not entirely lol.
@sparklingdiamond and @wendyann19 i didnt take my husbands last name either. It was actually a condition of me accepting his proposal that i kept mine. We made a fb event for our wedding and used a combination of our last names. Its actually one of my fears about naming baby... do we hyphenate mine and his? Mine is 8 letters and his is 9 so that makes for an annoying last name...
@canuckbaby I wanted to make up a new name for our son, something that had meaning for both of us. My husband thought that was silly and suggested we just give the kid my last name. We gave him his last name as a middle name.
@marijaa333 i went as far as suggesting we use the combined last name as baby's last name. it will prob end up with my husbands which is fine - just complicates things crossing the border potentially lol
i had also told him a long time before engagement that I had 0 intention of changing my name. Our wedding was all our first initials “W & M”. I make sure to sign everything with my last name. Hubby is also great about giving people a heads up on the right way to send mail.
We’ll either do two last names or hyphenate. I nipped that in the bud early too. I said “If I’m carrying a baby for 9 months and taking on all the health and medical risk,you can bet it will have my last name” we just can’t decide which would be first/second. Ours are 6 and 8 letters. I’m not worried about it, if the child doesn’t like it they can choose to go by one or go by initials: John K-B. I had a professor do that and I thought it was the coolest thing.
@canuckbaby, @wendyann19, @marijaa333, @sparklingdiamond We’re giving our baby 4 names. A first, middle, my last name (as a second middle name), and his last name. It’s a tradition in my family. I have 4 names in that style also.
We arent married yet but when we do I’m just slapping his last name on the end. So i’ll have 5 names, lol. I feel like my name is important to me because it’s who I have been my whole life. I don’t just lose that when I get married. So adding on his last name is symbolic for me in that I am adding him into a life that is already fully formed.
@harrierwife same! My maiden name ended in "douch" sooooo middle school was super fun. By college I was screening potential dates by whether their last name was an upgrade, and by grad school I'd decided my life goal was to marry someone with a last name that was a derivative of "bag" (duffle, sack, etc) so I could hyphenate. My married last name is Eaton...can't hyphenate that one either way without it sounding super gross. God's sense of humor FTW.
It’s interesting to see how many just tacked their husband’s name on the end. @antera23, I love your explanation - that’s a well worded break down of exactly why I did the same thing (though I only have 4 names, not 5). So, it’s First Middle Maiden Married for me. It’s astonishing, how many people genuinely have trouble wrapping their head around the concept that I kept my maiden and added my married without hyphenating. When I went to renew my passport, the post office woman actually had the audacity to argue with me for almost 10 minutes that I wasn’t legally allowed to have 4 names and that she was sure I had made a mistake on my application and that the government wouldn’t issue it without a hyphen. She legit almost didn’t allow me to submit it - even my social security card didn’t convince her. 🙄 When my new passport showed up with no issues three weeks later, I almost went back just to prove my point to the crazy lady.
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
I took my maiden name as my middle name. Most people who knew me before call me by both last names together. I didn't want to give up that part of me. I also have a big tattoo of a tree with my maiden name carved into the roots and my parents and brothers initials in the branches. That name and those people made me who I am.
My partner posted in one of his forums about the last name changes and 98% said “she’s not committed it she doesn’t want to take your last name”!! I was shocked! My partner and I have discussed it and when I was younger I used to want to change my last name so badly, but now I’m older I’m like “there’s no boys in our family to carry on our name 😞” so I think we’ll keep my last name. We’ve also contemplated just choosing an entirely different last name for all of us. Haha. Both our last names were the cause of heaps of teasing in school, so why not? Haha
I guess I’m old school? I love having my husbands name, and I like it when people call me “Mrs. Husbands Name”. I couldn’t change it fast enough. Then again, I never liked my maiden name and didn’t have a great childhood, so maybe that’s part of it.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@tuxielove93 I hope you don’t feel like we are putting down taking your husbands last name. I think it’s wonderful when people take their husbands last names because it means so much to them! No one way is the right way. It’s such a personal decision
@antera23 not stubborn, you just know what you want. 😉
definitely not not putting down any other way, but society has built up an expectation and it makes it really hard in some situations, like for @KissMeImScottish . I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Some people really have no idea that it’s a tradition, not a law.
Re: UO 11/1
UO? I've had Fre and HATED it. Thought it tasted like cough medicine. I might try it again now that it's the next best thing but I was NOT a fan when I had it before. (This is also from the girl who literally cried the day after my BFP because, among other reasons, the wine I had been saving for Halloween -- a red blend aged in whiskey barrels -- is a total fall wine and will be unappetizing in July...like, hello first world problems and pregnancy hormones. But still.)
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
(Also to my drinker buds: I miss the daylights out of my good dark beers. Worth it though!)
But, I use to love working black Friday. It's probably the only thing I miss from retail.
I don’t think the song “Baby, Its Cold Outside” is creepy or rape-y. I guess maybe because I know the cultural context that it was written in? DH is super creeped out by it though.
that grates my nerves to no end. Oh, so you got married and had to trade your identity and your gender too?!
i didn’t change my last name, so anyone who does that to me gets aggressively laughed at (or that’s what I imagine). I have also sent mail back
@sparklingdiamond and @wendyann19 i didnt take my husbands last name either. It was actually a condition of me accepting his proposal that i kept mine. We made a fb event for our wedding and used a combination of our last names. Its actually one of my fears about naming baby... do we hyphenate mine and his? Mine is 8 letters and his is 9 so that makes for an annoying last name...
thank you!
i went as far as suggesting we use the combined last name as baby's last name. it will prob end up with my husbands which is fine - just complicates things crossing the border potentially lol
i had also told him a long time before engagement that I had 0 intention of changing my name. Our wedding was all our first initials “W & M”. I make sure to sign everything with my last name. Hubby is also great about giving people a heads up on the right way to send mail.
We’ll either do two last names or hyphenate. I nipped that in the bud early too. I said “If I’m carrying a baby for 9 months and taking on all the health and medical risk,you can bet it will have my last name” we just can’t decide which would be first/second. Ours are 6 and 8 letters. I’m not worried about it, if the child doesn’t like it they can choose to go by one or go by initials: John K-B. I had a professor do that and I thought it was the coolest thing.
We’re giving our baby 4 names. A first, middle, my last name (as a second middle name), and his last name. It’s a tradition in my family. I have 4 names in that style also.
We arent married yet but when we do I’m just slapping his last name on the end. So i’ll have 5 names, lol. I feel like my name is important to me because it’s who I have been my whole life. I don’t just lose that when I get married. So adding on his last name is symbolic for me in that I am adding him into a life that is already fully formed.
Yes, I have been this stubborn my whole life
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
Then again, I never liked my maiden name and didn’t have a great childhood, so maybe that’s part of it.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@antera23 not stubborn, you just know what you want. 😉
definitely not not putting down any other way, but society has built up an expectation and it makes it really hard in some situations, like for @KissMeImScottish . I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Some people really have no idea that it’s a tradition, not a law.