June 2019 Moms

PGAL Week of 10/23

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Re: PGAL Week of 10/23

  • @sparklingdiamond maybe she is on vacation? Either way, that’s frustrating and maybe not someone you want to help you if they can’t reapond in a timely manner. 

    I was also hoping we were going to escape that chart. I know my boys suffered from something specific for identical twins and my last MC was a BO. But I feel like once you have been struck with bad luck, “statistics” mean squat. 
    *TW* Spoiler
    Me: 33 DH:30
    DD: Aug '16
    10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
    10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
    11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
    11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
    Benched 6 months 
    BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18  BO
    BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18



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  • @meatballs37 It's been over a 2-3 week period I've tried contacting her. My mom is actually a counselor too and if she's out always puts an out of the office voicemail/email. But maybe this one didn't?  Who knows.  Oh well I guess I wasn't meant to see her.
  • bumblebee0210bumblebee0210 member
    edited October 2018
    YES-- that chart. It also gives a lot of false comfort re: MMCs. Like I thought I was 8 weeks, but I had already miscarried in week 7. And for many it goes way longer than that. We can't predict the future. Sometimes we just have to live in the discomfort of uncertainty. That chart cannot tell you if you are going to have a miscarriage, sorry. 
    TTC History
    TTC #1 Sep 2017-Sep 2018 
    BFP 11/30/2017 | MMC 12/31/2017
    BFP 6/22/2018 | CP 6/27/2018
    BFP 10/5/2018 | EDD 6/14/2019
    Baby girl born 6/19/19

    TTC #2 May 2020-November 2021
    BFP 7/18/2020 | MonoDi Twins | MMC 9/10/2020
    BFP 11/7/2020 | CP 11/9/2020
    RE Consult January 2021 | Dx "borderline DOR"/RPL
    IVF with PGT:
    Standard Antagonist:
    ER #1 3/27/2021 7R | 5M | 3F | 2B | 1 PGT-A Normal, 1 low-level mosaic
    ER #2 4/22/2021 10R | 7M | 3F | 2B | 0 normal, 2 aneuploid
    ER #3 5/19/2021 2R | 1M | 0F
    Estrogen Priming Antagonist:
    ER #4 7/10/2021 5R | 4M | 3F | 1B | 1 PGT-A Normal
    Duostim  (Standard Antagonist):
    ER #5 9/22/2021 13R | 11M | 8F | 5B | 2 PGT-A Normal, 1 low-level mosaic, 2 aneuploid
    ER #6 10/9/2021  9R | 6M | 4 F | 1B | 1 aneuploid
    FET #1  11/5/2021 | EDD 7/24/2022
    Baby boy born 7/19/22

    TTC #3 since May 2023 (ntnp)
    IVF Started Fall 2023 (Standard Antagonist)
    ER #7 10/6/2023 | 9R | 6M | 5F | 3B | 2 aneuploid, 1 high-level mosaic
    ER #8 10/31/2023 | 5R | 4M | 3F | 1B | 1 PGT-A Normal
    FET #2 11/27/23 | CP (bHCG = 8)
    FET #3 planned Jan 2024



  • @meatballs37 @sparklingdiamond Im so sorry that FB is determined to show you memories that bring up painful memories. 

    @bumblebee0210 it sucks that your US didn’t reassure you. FX that your doctor will get you back in soon and you’ll see baby is growing at a healthy rate. Sometimes if feels like no matter what they say, it won’t take away the fear. 
  • The chart frustrates me too. Sometimes the statistics help me a little to remind myself that I am more likely to not have a miscarriage than have one (some days for me it feels like the statistics are reversed and that I’m almost definitely going to lose this one too). But, I saw a healthy heartbeat at 8 weeks last time, I only had a 4% chance of miscarriage when it happened, and I got within a day of being 12 weeks before I even suspected anything was wrong, so I thought I was finally in the safe zone. So, most of the time, statistics are just a cruel reminder of how unlucky I was.
  • elliecele17elliecele17 member
    edited October 2018
    Hi ladies. Here’s my update 

    due date/ W+D: June 28/ 5w+0d

    previous losses: MMC July 2018 suspicious at 7 weeks & confirmed at 10 weeks. 

    appointments: I had blood work #4 today & had my 2nd OB appointment.  He wants me to go for blood work on Monday & possibly Friday too.  My bhCG is on the low end & my doubling time is slowing down.
    bhCG Oct 16 @ 3w4d = 19
    bhCG Oct 19 @ 4w0d = 98  doubling time 30 hrs
    bhCG Oct 22 @ 4w3d = 315 doubling time 42 hrs
    bhCG Oct 26 @ 5w0d = 708 doubling time 82 hrs.  I was really hoping for it to be around 1,500 at least. 
    OB says US will be no earlier then 6w+3d.  

    Rants: part of me is so glad I got my
    BFP at 3w3d but part of me wishes I didn’t. Its been an emotional roller coaster since my LMP ended. 

    Raves: I decided to seek some emotional support & had my 1st appointment with a psychologist whos speciality is in fertility & prenatal support.  I’m going to see her weekly for now.  

    Milestones.  My MMC this summer was my 1st pregnancy. I spotted at 7w1d & then again @ 8w3d. Both days I also had an US but I never got to hear a heart beat so those days plus staying spot free & hearing a heart beat are my milestones. 

    Feeling: tierd, sore breasts, disinterested in all food, bloated & hightened smell. 
  • krcagnokrcagno member
    edited October 2018
    1. How many weeks are you? 5w+5days

    2. Previous loss(es)? MC April 2016 @ 11 weeks

    3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Very stressed! Slightly nauseous and my hips are sore - definitely wish I felt "more pregnant".

    4. Any appointment updates? Had an appt. for Nov 8th but moved it up to Oct 29th because I think I found a lump in my breast. Still nursing so hoping it's just lactation related. And since my appt is at 6 weeks exactly, hoping we're able to see the baby!

    5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Anyone else have experience with finding lumps the year after giving birth? 

    6. Any milestones coming up? We saw our first babes heartbeat a few times before we lost them to a large hemorrhage. Had a hemorrhage my 2nd pregnancy as well but it was smaller and resolved. My milestone would be not seeing any hemorrhage on the first ultrasound! Praying for no bleeding this pregnancy.

    7. GTKY: Are you dressing up for Halloween? If so, what’s your costume? What has been your most favorite costume you’ve worn in the past? I didn't dress up but took my 14month old around for the first time. She just started walking last week so it was perfect timing! She was a ballerina :)
  • @krcagno I’ll be thinking about you on monday 
  • @krcagno so glad you are being proactive about that. Breast health and being your own advocate is soooo important! 
  • DcwtadaDcwtada member
    edited October 2018
    1. How many weeks are you? 6 weeks 6 days

    2. Previous loss(es)? MC 

    3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Feeling symptoms so I am encouraged, honestly trying not to get excited or invested though

    4. Any appointment updates? Drs office is calling me back in the morning tomorrow! 

    5. Rants/Raves/Questions? TW*** Rant - I saw the post on plus size mama check in about babies starving in utero and it almost broke me. I get annoyed at overly PC language but I can’t handle that. I almost want to walk away from the group because I am not sure I can take it

    6. Any milestones coming up? 

    7. GTKY: Are you dressing up for Halloween? If so, what’s your costume? What has been your most favorite costume you’ve worn in the past? My 1 year old will be a lion, my 3 year old a dinosaur and frankly whatever we can get my daughter to wear will be her costume. This is the first year we live in the country so we used to get dressed up to hand out candy but now we will have to go and get candy :) 
  • @Dcwtada So of course I had to go check out what you were referring to. I'm not super sensitive generally, but no. Just no. 
  • @Dcwtada I’m so sorry you were hurt by what was said on that thread. I hope you feel
    heard by that poster. I think the way you spoke up was very considerate and got your point across In a constructive way. 
  • @antera23 thank you, I know she had no mean intent and it is not a common trigger by any sense (I didn’t even realized I had one until I read that comment) and I certainly don’t want anyone feeling the need to censor posts or walk on eggshells because of me. I’d rather walk away as opposed to that. I can explain my story so she doesn’t think I am being unreasonable but the other story isn’t mine to tell.
  • I was looking at my new OB paperwork and super annoyed that it says abortions instead of miscarriages. I know that's the medical term but can't we be sensitive to loss people??
  • @sparklingdiamond totally agree. I cried when I read my post op report and read that (even though a friend went through it years ago and I was prepared to see). Luckily so far any paperwork has not mentioned it or said "history of miscarriage". 
  • @sparklingdiamond how inconsiderate of that practice. I’m sorry you had to read that 
  • I have so much anxiety for tomorrow. I want to be hopeful but I'm stuck in "this isn't going to go well" mind frame. I'm trying to tell my self there will be a HB, baby will be perfect. But everytime I try I just immediately go back to what happened last time. I feel so aweful for just assuming the worst. I really just want to cry (but I'm at work.....). I don't know what to do with myself.
  • @prpl11butterfly I'm sorry today is going to be such a hard/long day for you - it gives me anxiety just thinking about US day. Just remember that you are strong and you will get through it. And I will be sending you all the positive thoughts today and tomorrow.  <3
  • @prpl11butterfly I am right there with you.  My first ultrasound is tomorrow morning and part of me doesn't even want to go because I half expect to get bad news.  I hate it so much.  I'll be thinking of you.
  • @sparklingdiamond it's such a terrible feeling. I wish we didnt have to have it. Thinking of you too ❤
  • @prpl11butterfly I felt awful for thinking the worst too. It's so hard not to after multiple losses. I will be thinking of you all day tomorrow! What time is your appointment? 
    TW
    Me: 33 DH: 32
    DS:  March 2014
    DD: May 2015
    BFP: 12/24/17 CP: 1/2/18 @ 4w 3d
    BFP: 1/26/18 CP: 2/2/18 @ 4w 4d
    BFP: 5/16/18 MMC: 6/15/18 @ 7w 5d
    BFP: 9/25/18! EDD: 6/9/19 TEAM GREEN  <3 

    Babysizer Cravings Pregnancy Tracker
  • srscott3srscott3 member
    edited October 2018
    @bakerstreetboys oh girl..thinking of you today and crossing everything that you see something ❤️

    @prpl11butterfly @sparklingdiamond I’ll be thinking of both of you tomorrow!
  • @bakerstreetboys @sparklingdiamond @prpl11butterfly I know that feeling all too well, it’s so hard to get out of your head. Even going in weekly I’m on edge each time. I hope everything goes well for you today and tomorrow. 
  • @bakerstreetboys I have everything crossed for you. I know a yolk sac doesnt seem like much to most, but to us it's a lot.

    @eleven_ it's at 830am. So luckily I just have to get through today and make some slight attempt at sleeping tonight.....
  • @bakerstreetboys Hoping so hard your US goes well and you see a yolk sac  <3
  • Oh @bakerstreetboys I'm so hopeful for you  <3 I seriously will be glued to TB until you update. FX SO HARD!!!
    TW
    Me: 33 DH: 32
    DS:  March 2014
    DD: May 2015
    BFP: 12/24/17 CP: 1/2/18 @ 4w 3d
    BFP: 1/26/18 CP: 2/2/18 @ 4w 4d
    BFP: 5/16/18 MMC: 6/15/18 @ 7w 5d
    BFP: 9/25/18! EDD: 6/9/19 TEAM GREEN  <3 

    Babysizer Cravings Pregnancy Tracker
  • @balerstreetboy all my hope and wishes for a great ultrasound today. I will be holding my breath. ❤️
  • @bakerstreetboys Thinking of you and hoping it all goes well!
  • @bakerstreetboys I am thinking of you! I hope everything goes well! 

    @prpl11butterfly it’s so unfair that things like ultrasounds which should be happy are instead huge sources of anxiety. I’m so sorry. Take some time for yourself today. I’ll be thinking of you. 

    @sparklingdiamond I hope everything goes well tomorrow and you have a beautiful experience. I’ll be thinking of you. 
  • @bakerstreetboys I'm so happy and relieved for you!
  • Omg @bakerstreetboys so happy for you!! I mean, the no sex sucks but small price to pay IMO.
  • @bakerstreetboys yay! So exciting and what a relief for you guys! 
    *TW* Spoiler
    Me: 33 DH:30
    DD: Aug '16
    10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
    10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
    11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
    11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
    Benched 6 months 
    BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18  BO
    BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18



  • I may not be as active this week. Having a bit of guilt being pregnant again with my son’s first birthday on Friday. I’m in a funk. But I will be popping in to see what is up with the pgal ladies. 
    *TW* Spoiler
    Me: 33 DH:30
    DD: Aug '16
    10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
    10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
    11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
    11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
    Benched 6 months 
    BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18  BO
    BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18



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