@lovesclimbing were you in June 16? Because that's my board that moved to a private group. We stuck around for probably a year after the babies were born before making the move.
@lovesclimbing@mayoduck I agree. Even in relatively small groups I'm in on FB the replies to post and replies to other comments get so nested and hard to follow. And half the time I don't see new comments on threads I might have started because they were replies to other people replying to my original post. I think that for the sort of topics that go on here, it's much more organizes as a message board.
I think when people talk about it being easier, they just mean that they are already on facebook and it's not as glitchy as the bump app tends to be sometimes. I don't think they necessarily mean the ease with which you can follow a conversation.
Whoops! I meant June '17. I read that and was like "what??? I don't remember a private group!"
The bolded, exactly!!!
I always see people complain about the app being glitchy, and I want to scream "SO STOP USING THE APP!" I exclusively use the mobile site in a browser on my phone. I've had very few issues. The browser logs me in automatically. All I have to do is type in the URL (or you could bookmark it) and I'm instantly on the forum and logged in.
@lovesclimbing ah, ok. It doesn’t matter if I use the app or browser, I’ve had the same issues all year. I can’t love-it or post pictures from my WiFi at home. It’s fine on cell data, but crashes my iPad and iPhone on my WiFi. The bump tech support is useless too.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
I didn't know private groups was a thing on bump either but I'd be down for that over Facebook. I have a fb account but I don't pay much attention to it and I never get on ig or any other social media.
As far as when the move is made... I don't care. Just don't wanna be left out. Haha
@meggyme, I did have issues with love itting on wifi, but not recently. It seems to have gone away. No clue about photos because I don't post photos on here.
So this morning as I was taking my daughter to daycare, my building manager asked if I wanted a diaper sample that was delivered here and no one has claimed. I actually said, “no thanks, she’s not in diapers anymore” (referring to my daughter). I literally forgot that I am pregnant with another baby who will need diapers.
I am 20+ weeks now and I haven’t done anything, bought anything, or planned anything, which is very unlike me. Any other STM having trouble wrapping their head around this baby thing?
@maggiemadeit I was literally just thinking last night that I really need to get a move on with the baby prep. DD1 is out of the crib, but as I was setting up her humidifier she was kind of climbing on it and said something like it was her crib. I thought "I've got to get this thing moved so she gets used to it not being here". I've thrown together a registry, but mostly because my mom was asking for Christmas lists and I know people will probably buy for DD2 as well.
In all honesty though *TW stillbirth* I have a friend that recently lost her baby at 35 weeks. It was heartbreaking. But because of that I'm a little hesitant to do much until we pass viability. I feel like it's jinxing it even though I haven't personally had any losses and am low risk. *end TW* So most of my preparation has been in the form of planning, lists, and talking up having a sister to DD1.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
re: facebook, i just stopped logging in after we moved (i think jan 17). im not usually on fb, and each time i logged in the last few times there was a horrible story that would pop up/ someone died, etc. I don't get anything ready early. I haven't even thought about it. No reason to prep early for me. If this one comes early it'll be a long time in the NICU and lots of time to prep. Dont really need much anyway. We put the crib in our room, will use clothes from #1, and can go grab some diapers...
@litzi-2 yeah, for the most part we just need to rearrange some furniture, but I want to do it early enough that my daughter will get used to it being that way before her sister comes (since most of the furniture is coming out of her room).
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
FTM and I am fairly hesitant to prep the nursery too early too. We have a crib but only because an old highschool friend was selling one for a discount price. We haven't even put the crib together though, it's sitting in pieces on the floor of what will become the nursery.
@meggyme - I'm really sorry to hear about your friend. I wish it didn't happen anymore but medical technology has only come so far. It's good to support her during this time.
STM here, and i haven't gotten a THING. i havent suffered any losses myself but i am paranoid i guess. besides the fact that my DS is 9, and i am starting over with a girl, so i know i will need things, i just feel like, @meggyme said, that it would be jinxing it somehow. I remember with my son,*TW* my grandmother wouldn't get anything for him until he was born because she suffered a stillborn before she had my mom ...and she passed a few weeks ago and for some reason it is really in my head now. *End TW* I just feel like its too soon. i will be 20 weeks on the 28th, but it feels like March is a long ways away...plus i know i am having a shower since it is my SO's first and im sure i will be getting a lot of things then, so i think i am just gonna wait until after that, which will probably be January. it still doesnt feel real for me, maybe when i feel her more it will make it more real in my head. I think that i have a little anxiety because I almost feel like i am too happy and everything is going so well and I am having a little girl which is what i wanted that i feel like something has to come along to mess up everything.
@zionsmama85 I’m sorry you’re feeling like you’re waiting for something bad to happen too. Definitely come January I will start doing more stuff because then it will practically be game time!
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
We are right there with all you STMs I literally just told DH about a week ago that I felt like we hadn’t done anything to prepare for this LO. A lot of it with us is because we still don’t know the gender. If it’s a boy we basically have everything we need other than diapers, a breastpump, and a few more newborn clothes. If it’s a girl well we still don’t need much. Ive looked at clothes here and there when out (we did not have enough NB clothes last time and won’t make that mistake again) but so many aren’t gender neutral so we are waiting. We are moving when this one is 5-6 months old as well so we aren’t setting up a full nursery just getting a dresser/changing table for them and moving the nursing chair from DS room into the office/their room. We will have this one in our room a bit longer than we had the first one in the room with us. I suppose unless we get DS his own bed before we move and move the crib into the office but it’s really not big enough for that. I just can’t believe how quick this pregnancy is going!
I’m sorry to hear about all of you struggling with “waiting to see” if something bad will happen. I get that way around my appointment time. I have a feeling it’s only going to get worse for me too because it was after the mid-point last time that I had so many complications in the pregnancy.
TW* ftm here with three losses. My last was at 20 weeks due to a cord accident* end of TW.
Pulled out the few things I have from before, but besides that and the registry mostly put together. Basically nothing is done. We know lo will be in our room, and so we have a dresser/ changing table already in there. It was my brother's dresser as a baby. I think I'm holding out until 24 weeks. I'll just feel better by that point.
Re: Facebook/private group - count me in wherever / whenever!
I definitely get the fear of jinxing anything (MiL always makes faces/comments at me when I talk about buying something anything which always makes me extra nervous) but I have started preparing. With some of the prior pregnancies we already began babystepping DD out of the crib/baby room and she is so excited about her baby brother she hasn’t put up a fight at all. We have a crib and one of those cube organizers in the room but will be doing something with the old chair and getting a new glider & dresser. Hopefully sooner than later I remember just sitting in the nursery when I was pregnant with DD and enjoying the space/daydreaming and am looking forward to doing that in a “completed” nursery.
Yesterday we hung up new “boy” curtains and when DD saw the first stuffy we got for the baby she was was completely ok giving it a hug and putting it back down. I’ve bought 2 blankets & some clothes and will probably hold off on additional clothes until we decide if we’re having a shower or not, and then waiting until March so I can get “seasonal” stuff.
I have a pretty large registry on Babylist but I don’t plan on sharing it, it’s mostly just a list of all the stuff I want to buy. If we do a shower there’s a feature to mark as private/ only the parents can see it so that’s what we will do with the bigger/expensive/personal items. I’m really uncomfortable with a second shower and would be mortified if people thought I wanted them to shell out big bucks (again!)
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married: 2012 BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016 | BFP #3 May 2017, MC July 2017 | BFP #4 Jan 2018, MC Feb 2018 | BFP #5 July 2018, fingers crossed
@mamakate1616 I've done my registry, mostly as a checklist like you said. I made mine public just because Christmas is coming, but I haven't sent it to anyone. Mostly I just want all the samples. I registered on Target and Amazon.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
Hi, long time reader, first time poster. I've been nervous to jump in for whatever reason but hi! FTM.
This is a random, and I'm not sure where else to put it on the board. I'm 18 weeks and just got diagnosed with shingles today. I've been struggling with the painful rash all week but thought it was just a heat rash or something. I've been prescribed some meds, which the doctor and OBGYN assured me were safe for the baby. I hope to feel better soon!
@karatepickles that sucks, I’ve heard shingles are brutal. I hope it heals up quickly. How have you been feeling otherwise? Welcome and feel free to jump in anywhere.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
@karatepickles That sucks! I have known people with shingles and I saw how uncomfortable they were. I hope the medicine works quickly and you are feeling better soon!
@karatepickles Welcome!! As others have said feel free to jump in anywhere I’m so sorry to hear you arent feeling well! My friend had shingles this spring and she was pretty worn out for a few weeks. Hopefully you can get some much needed rest I’m sure dealing with shingles and pregnancy is a whole new level!
@karatepickles oh no! I've heard terrible things about shingles and can't imagine having to deal with that while also being pregnant! I hope you feel better really soon!
I'd say anything is game to bring up in this thread; that's what's so great about having a randoms thread.
@karatepickles ugh, sounds miserable, sorry you’re dealing with that - the joys of suppressed immune system during pregnancy. Hope you’re feeling better soon! And welcome!
We went to Mexican for dinner around 5... needless to say the indigestion from that meal is making me hate my dinner choice ... and I really love tacos ...
Completely random but I'm pretty excited about it. My mom's adopted and so her side of the family has always been a complete mystery to us. I recently did one of those online DNA tests and now I'm in contact with someone who we are all reasonably confident is my biological half-uncle.
Well pregnancy hormones finally hit me tonight. Long story short I full on cried over literally having to walk up a hill. I made it a day before 20 weeks to full on ugly cry over something so dumb. Thankfully my family was understanding and let me have my moment. Here I thought I was going to be a heartless ‘B’ this pregnancy.
We have two sleeping beauties in heaven. Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016. Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015. They will be forever missed.
@bdesterhouse Oh girl, it’s happening to me too! I am normally pretty tough and not overly emotional, but pregnancy turns me into a marshmallow.
Reasons I cried this week: 1. I saw baby boy on ultrasound 2. I was really proud of my 2 year old 3. My husband made me eggs and cleaned up afterwards 4. I was reading my daughter a “famous women in history” bedtime story 5. I was really hungry
@bdesterhouse@maggiemadeit Same here, ladies! I’ve started referring to the 2nd trimester as the 2nd cry-mester. (I’m a nerd.) I cry all the time. Last night, I couldn’t sleep and just started bawling. I cry at sappy videos on FB and things on TV. Pretty much everything. It’s ridiculous.
@karatepickles - welcome!!! and feel better soon!!!! as someone else said, the joys of a suppressed immune system during pregnancy are SO real.
@bdesterhouse - i am suchhhhh a crier right now too! in fact everything i watch on TV affects me in some way. i watched 2 hours of dateline (what my husband likes to call 'murder porn') last night and this morning woke up from a crazy nightmare that was oddly similar to the story on TV.... then i cried as i recapped it verbally...........
Re: Randoms 10/15-10/21
Whoops! I meant June '17. I read that and was like "what??? I don't remember a private group!"
The bolded, exactly!!!
I always see people complain about the app being glitchy, and I want to scream "SO STOP USING THE APP!" I exclusively use the mobile site in a browser on my phone. I've had very few issues. The browser logs me in automatically. All I have to do is type in the URL (or you could bookmark it) and I'm instantly on the forum and logged in.
As far as when the move is made... I don't care. Just don't wanna be left out. Haha
I am 20+ weeks now and I haven’t done anything, bought anything, or planned anything, which is very unlike me. Any other STM having trouble wrapping their head around this baby thing?
In all honesty though *TW stillbirth* I have a friend that recently lost her baby at 35 weeks. It was heartbreaking. But because of that I'm a little hesitant to do much until we pass viability. I feel like it's jinxing it even though I haven't personally had any losses and am low risk. *end TW* So most of my preparation has been in the form of planning, lists, and talking up having a sister to DD1.
I don't get anything ready early. I haven't even thought about it. No reason to prep early for me. If this one comes early it'll be a long time in the NICU and lots of time to prep. Dont really need much anyway. We put the crib in our room, will use clothes from #1, and can go grab some diapers...
STM here, and i haven't gotten a THING. i havent suffered any losses myself but i am paranoid i guess. besides the fact that my DS is 9, and i am starting over with a girl, so i know i will need things, i just feel like, @meggyme
said, that it would be jinxing it somehow. I remember with my son,*TW* my grandmother wouldn't get anything for him until he was born because she suffered a stillborn before she had my mom ...and she passed a few weeks ago and for some reason it is really in my head now. *End TW* I just feel like its too soon. i will be 20 weeks on the 28th, but it feels like March is a long ways away...plus i know i am having a shower since it is my SO's first and im sure i will be getting a lot of things then, so i think i am just gonna wait until after that, which will probably be January. it still doesnt feel real for me, maybe when i feel her more it will make it more real in my head. I think that i have a little anxiety because I almost feel like i am too happy and everything is going so well and I am having a little girl which is what i wanted that i feel like something has to come along to mess up everything.
I’m sorry to hear about all of you struggling with “waiting to see” if something bad will happen. I get that way around my appointment time. I have a feeling it’s only going to get worse for me too because it was after the mid-point last time that I had so many complications in the pregnancy.
Pulled out the few things I have from before, but besides that and the registry mostly put together. Basically nothing is done. We know lo will be in our room, and so we have a dresser/ changing table already in there. It was my brother's dresser as a baby. I think I'm holding out until 24 weeks. I'll just feel better by that point.
I definitely get the fear of jinxing anything (MiL always makes faces/comments at me when I talk about buying something anything which always makes me extra nervous) but I have started preparing. With some of the prior pregnancies we already began babystepping DD out of the crib/baby room and she is so excited about her baby brother she hasn’t put up a fight at all. We have a crib and one of those cube organizers in the room but will be doing something with the old chair and getting a new glider & dresser. Hopefully sooner than later
Yesterday we hung up new “boy” curtains and when DD saw the first stuffy we got for the baby she was was completely ok giving it a hug and putting it back down. I’ve bought 2 blankets & some clothes and will probably hold off on additional clothes until we decide if we’re having a shower or not, and then waiting until March so I can get “seasonal” stuff.
I have a pretty large registry on Babylist but I don’t plan on sharing it, it’s mostly just a list of all the stuff I want to buy. If we do a shower there’s a feature to mark as private/ only the parents can see it so that’s what we will do with the bigger/expensive/personal items. I’m really uncomfortable with a second shower and would be mortified if people thought I wanted them to shell out big bucks (again!)
Married: 2012
BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016
This is a random, and I'm not sure where else to put it on the board. I'm 18 weeks and just got diagnosed with shingles today. I've been struggling with the painful rash all week but thought it was just a heat rash or something. I've been prescribed some meds, which the doctor and OBGYN assured me were safe for the baby. I hope to feel better soon!
@meggyme I've been feeling pretty good otherwise. Was tired in 1st tri but had better of late. Hope to get back on track soon! 😊
I'd say anything is game to bring up in this thread; that's what's so great about having a randoms thread.
Well pregnancy hormones finally hit me tonight. Long story short I full on cried over literally having to walk up a hill. I made it a day before 20 weeks to full on ugly cry over something so dumb. Thankfully my family was understanding and let me have my moment. Here I thought I was going to be a heartless ‘B’ this pregnancy.
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
Reasons I cried this week:
1. I saw baby boy on ultrasound
2. I was really proud of my 2 year old
3. My husband made me eggs and cleaned up afterwards
4. I was reading my daughter a “famous women in history” bedtime story
5. I was really hungry
Like I said, total marshmallow.
@bdesterhouse - i am suchhhhh a crier right now too! in fact everything i watch on TV affects me in some way. i watched 2 hours of dateline (what my husband likes to call 'murder porn') last night and this morning woke up from a crazy nightmare that was oddly similar to the story on TV.... then i cried as i recapped it verbally...........