Still not pregnant after IUD removal 6 months ago...

makuahine

Hi everyone im new to the bump community and have been trying to get pregnant for 6 months (I had my IUD removed). Im trying not to get frustrated and im tired of hearing “dont worry it will happen”. Ive tried everything imaginable...from natural remedies like essnetial oils, teas and acupuncture, to prenatals, sex every day, and every other day but no luck. Im 31 years old and am feeling disouraged. Any advice on how to deal with this emotionally?

brookert615

Take a minute to search the boards. Look at the top three threads and read through them. Typically posts like this are discouraged. When you’re ready introduce yourself in the Newbie thread! 😊

makuahine

I did read through them, I didn’t think I was in violation of anything, I was just hoping to get some advice. Am I in the wrong discussion thread? Do you recommmend I post elsewhere?

kels0091

Not in actual violation but if you stick around you'll quickly learn that this is a community full of amazing women who are all on their own fertility journey. this is a community that has a wealth of information and support however you have to participate in order to receive support. 
As @brookert615 stated above, theirs 3 threads you should read through, post an intro to the most recent newbie thread and then participate in the weekly threads so we can get to know you. 
Lastly, and I mean this with no snark at all, we aren't doctors. It seems like you have tried a LOT already to try to get pregnant and if I was you, I would make an appointment with your gyno to just make sure that everything is working inside also know that it takes some women significantly longer to get pregnant compared to others.
Hopefully you choose to stick around (for a short time of course) and get to know us so we can get to know you. 

holly321

It can easily take a year to conceive, and since you are under 35, I suggest being patient.  If you aren’t already, track your cycles by temping and if you still aren’t pregnant in 6 months, talk to your doctor.

Dilynne

I’ve been trying to get pregnant over over 2 years ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

AlohaKumu

I'm still not pregnant after IVF, 2 FETs, and enough testing to drain my bank account. But cool story, brah.

lulu1180

Dilynne said:

I’ve been trying to get pregnant over over 2 years ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

Same

makuahine

Thank you for everyone for sharing, maybe I just needed some reassurance? I appreciate those of you who sincerely replied. I know 6 months isn’t a long time but everyone around me is getting pregnant and even my close friend, it took her one try. I’m very happy for them it’s just hard on me because I’m trying so hard and I want this so much. 

makuahine

I bought the Eva bracelet, I have the ovulation sticks and I track my cycles. I understand there are a lot of struggling with this, I don’t mean to upset anyone I just wanted to connect and have a support system.

holly321

What reassurance is there, we don’t know the future.  Many of us may never have a take home baby.

rallykat14

Could I get some reassurance too? I mean I'm approaching 3 years and have never seen a line on a test. 

makuahine

Reassurance may not have been the best word. Again I’m not trying to offend or upset anyone, I know this is difficult to talk about, it wasn’t easy for me to open up about it, I’m just trying to connect. 

lulu1180

OP, if you're trying to connect, you should have read the pinned posts and followed the rules.  Which means not posting your own AW thread, introducing yourself in the weekly newbie thread, and join other ladies in the daily WTO or TWW thread depending on where you are at in your cycle.  

I know that 6 months sucks and I know how it can feel.  I've been there, but I'm also way past that at 28+ months with no hint of a line ever.  First of all, it can take a healthy couple up to a year to get pregnant.  Second, if you had lurked, you would have realized that this wouldn't go over well because there are many on this board struggling with either infertility or multiple miscarriages.  Many of us have been in your shoes and vaguely remember the disappointment and pain of the 6 month mark.  If you hit 1 year then make an appointment with either your OB or an RE (reproductive endocrinologist).  

Otherwise, if you're looking for support, I suggest you first change your name (go to the knot, change it, come back here, log out and back in again) so that others can get to know you, lurk a little bit and join the other ladies in the daily threads, giving just as much support as you are getting, if not more.

irohspupil

Start participating regularly on this board and you will feel a strong connection with these women. Look into the other threads in the board (they tend to track with temperature rather than ovulation sticks). 
Good luck

makuahine

Thank you so much for the info @irohspupil I will look into temping instead. Good luck to you as well 🙂

meatballs37

Knottie666ab8a0550d2073 said:

Thank you so much for the info @irohspupil I will look into temping instead. Good luck to you as well 🙂

::lurking::
 
You forgot to thank @lulu1180 she gave some great real advice. 

makuahine

@meatballs37 I was getting there, just waiting till I get to my computer to write a lengthier message. 

makuahine

@lulu1180 Thank you for the info, maybe its best if the moderator deletes this thread, I really don't want to cause any more pain and anger. In the future I will just lurk and comment in other threads. I have posted in the newbie thread like you suggested and updated my username, sorry it took so long I couldn't figure out how to do it on my phone and had to wait till I had access to a computer again. 

Thank you for sharing your story about trying to conceive, I know it can take up to a year to get pregnant and for many women it can take years. I had a moment of weakness, I couldn't help but be upset at my own misfortunes and I didn't take into account how long others have been trying. I was having a bad week, everyone around me was announcing and as happy as I was for them I couldn't help but feel pain inside and I needed to reach out to someone. Sometimes it's just hard talking to family and friends because I feel like they feel sorry for me and they don't understand what I am going through. I feel more comfortable reaching out to the women here about this. 

lulu1180

@wifey_furmom I truly do understand where you were coming from.  The only thing we ask new members is to read the pinned threads.  Your feelings are valid and I don't like to play the pain olympics with others; just because you have been trying for a shorter period, doesn't make the pain you feel any less real or valid.  Thank you for coming back, thank you for apologizing.  I hope you find the support in this community as great as we have all said it is!

knottie0017155c8d3f2f18

I came across this thread, I know it’s quite old but I had google searched and this came up. I was looking for stories or how common it is to have no luck 6 months after IUD removal. All I can say is I’m disappointed in the responses. If this is the bump’s definition of a strong supportive community then count me out. I’ve found much better luck on Fertility Friend or even FB groups. This is not a pissing contest, it’s real life, emotionally taxing, and people need to understand we seek out advice to lean on eachother- not be dropped to the floor. Wishing you all luck but @makuahine I commend you for trying to seek support here and still being kind when faced with unwelcome responses. 

allthingscozy

knottie0017155c8d3f2f18 said:

I came across this thread, I know it’s quite old but I had google searched and this came up. I was looking for stories or how common it is to have no luck 6 months after IUD removal. All I can say is I’m disappointed in the responses. If this is the bump’s definition of a strong supportive community then count me out. I’ve found much better luck on Fertility Friend or even FB groups. This is not a pissing contest, it’s real life, emotionally taxing, and people need to understand we seek out advice to lean on eachother- not be dropped to the floor. Wishing you all luck but @makuahine I commend you for trying to seek support here and still being kind when faced with unwelcome responses. 

QFP
until you actually look at every thread on this board the. Please do not lecture the ladies here. The bump is incredibly supportive and the ladies on this board amazing. You resurrected a zombie thread and made an account to tear down people. How are you any better then what you are trying to argue against? You have not offered any support to us, you have not offered any kind words. Support is not a free for all, it is a two way street. You give support just as much as you should expect to get it. Also having organization is not bad it helps us actually be able to support and engage with one another and actually build a community where we get to know one another, care about each other and walk through the hardships, the successes and good and the bad with each other. Not like other forums where every other post is a pee stick or everyone makes their own thread for every little thing. 

People were honest. It wouldn’t be helpful if people said I’m sure you will get pregnant next cycle. What if it ends up taking her years? That isn’t hope that is false info. So please if you only created an account to tear down the ladies on this board over a post that is nearly 6 months old take a look in the mirror. 

We are good here though and will continue to be so despite of this post. 

gingermama29

knottie0017155c8d3f2f18 said:

I came across this thread, I know it’s quite old but I had google searched and this came up. I was looking for stories or how common it is to have no luck 6 months after IUD removal. All I can say is I’m disappointed in the responses. If this is the bump’s definition of a strong supportive community then count me out. I’ve found much better luck on Fertility Friend or even FB groups. This is not a pissing contest, it’s real life, emotionally taxing, and people need to understand we seek out advice to lean on eachother- not be dropped to the floor. Wishing you all luck but @makuahine I commend you for trying to seek support here and still being kind when faced with unwelcome responses. 

[Deleted User]

@knottie0017155c8d3f2f18 you realise that the OP hasn't been active in almost a year, so... 

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