@sleepy33 I don't know Culver's or Freddy's, but 5 Guys is in a different category of fast food than Wendy's. It's like how Chipotle and Taco Bell aren't the same.
@RoseShadow873 I can't do Chik Fil a because of their funding for homophobic legislation. Before that, I would have agreed the sandwiches are delicious.
@sleepy33 I don't know Culver's or Freddy's, but 5 Guys is in a different category of fast food than Wendy's. It's like how Chipotle and Taco Bell aren't the same.
@RoseShadow873 I can't do Chik Fil a because of their funding for homophobic legislation. Before that, I would have agreed the sandwiches are delicious.
I definitely concur 5 Guys is more fast casual. Not drive thru. You're totally right. But I am sad that you have no Culver's or Freddy's bc they are drive thru with legit delicious burgers. Kinda like steak n shake but better
@willmisspumpkinbeer I’m curious where you’re from too. My friends and I are normal middle class folks, and we don’t have night nurses and nannies, unless you consider our own mamas helping us. 🤷🏼♀️
@msb615 I’m gonna guess northeast. I’m in lower NY and night nurses and all those consultants are VERY popular among the wealthy. So Boston maybe? NYC? Jersey? It’s my guess lol
@journey721 You were right. Haha I just saw that she responded while I was posting that she lives on NYC. Definitely not the norm where I am in Georgia.
I’m not going to lie, if we could afford it and it was available out here, I would totally get a night nurse. DS was up every 1.5 to 2 hrs until he was over a year old and still at over 2 isn’t consistently sleeping through the night. I could use like a week of good sleep.
@msb615 not the norm here, either. It's super crunchy, hippy-like here. Not a bad thing at all, but I'd really be surprised to hear someone talk about their night nurse or live in nanny.
@msb615 not the norm here, either. It's super crunchy, hippy-like here. Not a bad thing at all, but I'd really be surprised to hear someone talk about their night nurse or live in nanny.
Yes, the annoying woman here all take pride in who can subtly out-martyr the other for working the hardest, sleeping the least, breastfeeding the longest, avoiding antibiotics the most, etc etc. #painolympics
@eatinwatermelonseeds It’s neat to me how different, different places are when it comes to parenting. I feel like it’s very regional in Georgia. In Atl, you’ll have the “crunchy” moms, and generally speaking it seems to get a bit less crunchy the further south you go. Haha I’m in middle GA. I’m crunchy when it comes to car seat and sleep safety. I was crunchy about food at first, but now that he’s 2, I don’t care as long as he’ll eat something more substantial than chips for dinner. Confession: Chef Boyarde ravioli has been dinner the past 3 nights. 🤷🏼♀️ Where are you from?
@willmisspumpkinbeer I am in Jersey too so I think this has more to do with wealth than location because this is not the norm in my circle at all. We're solidly middle class. That would be exhausting to think that all of those things are normal.
@eatinwatermelonseeds wait, do people think you talk funny? I say "rum" instead of "room" (which was pointed out to me while living in NYC) and can slip back into "wicked" when I'm around others who say it but no one ever thinks I have a regional accent.
My brother went to visit his ILs in Montana and they were going to dump out some coffee. SIL said to put it in the fridge and he would drink it as iced coffee in the morning and he said "if there's room" which his MIL heard as "if there's rum" thinking he wanted to make it alcoholic
@eatinwatermelonseeds and @kvh22 I LOVE the different accents and “funny” talk. I met a girl on a work trip from Michigan, and we went on for probably an hour about how they say this, and we say that.
I only know wealthy people who had had night nurses, no one around me. Honestly, DS didn’t have problems but if he was truly a horrid sleeper and I could afford it, I have no idea what I would do. It’s hard for me to judge if something is really ridiculous unless I’ve been on the other side of it - though I for sure could see people not even trying to deal with their children themselves and just hiring someone.
My UO is that I think people have gone so over the top with the number of "baby consultants" they hire. I am the only one of my friends that never even thought to get a baby/night nurse or post-partum doula. I just feel like those early days are meant to be hard and it's about the memories you make with your partner and going through it together. I don't want a nurse giving my baby her first bath. I want to nervously do it with my husband, etc. Also-- "sleep consultants", "baby-proofers" etc. It's gotten out of control! I can't say anything to my IRL friends, so I'm venting here. The only expert I can understand is a lactation consultant. I only used the one that was there in the hospital, but if I was having major trouble, I would hire one. But, I had a woman complain to me at a birthday party the other day that her 15 month old doesn't walk yet, so she's worried about when her second baby comes along (was supposed to be the next week) she would have trouble. So, I suggested a "mother's helper" for a few hours a day and she informed me that her 15 month old has a nanny (ok, normal) ... but she's also getting a "live-in" so that should help. So, two nannies and you're still "worried". WTF.
Dude. My MIL got us a night nurse with DD and it was magical. For 3 weeks I got to sleep 8 hours a night while I recovered from my csection. I will admit that I felt sad that I lost that bonding time with DD, but I was a much much much better mom and actually able to enjoy the newborn stage bc I was getting sleep. We are planning to do it again with this one. Already booked her. Hoping MIL shells out the cash bc it ain’t cheap!
@sleepy33 I live in Chicago so we have them here. I think it’s more of a thing is areas with high Jewish population though, bc my DH is Jewish and it seems a lot more common with his friends and family. I didn’t even know it was a thing til I met him.
@kvh22 no, not accent wise, just the words I use sometimes lol. No one ever guesses where I'm from. There are some words I say funny, but I don't know if it's just me or an accent of sorts.
UO but I think tomatoes are gross and ketchup is the worst. Thanks to my new enhanced sense of smell I almost vomited the other day when my husband put ketchup on his fries.
Another UO: mostly because I just talked to her, but I actually really love my mother in law and wish we were closer. She gets on my nerves a bit sometimes, but I really love her.
@chloe97 omg you're right! didn't think of it! All my friends are Jewish haha I'm a halfie but my mom isn't jewish, so that's why it was prob weird to me, yet I'm surrounded by it My dad (the jewish one) had a live-in too lol
@secicc12 I wouldn't put straight mayo on fries, but there was a restaurant I used to go to that had a Tuscan chicken sandwich that came with a side of garlic mayo and fries, I would order it JUST so I could dip my fries in my garlic mayo...so.good.
If i could afford it, i would TOTALLY have a night nurse, sleep trainer, live-in nanny AND a diaper changer! Who are these people?! Lend some of your consultants my way! Also, tarter sauce on McDonald's fries are da best and overall, Arby's curly fries, HANDS DOWN!
If I could I'd just hire someone to take my kids too and from school so I wouldn't have to. I don't know about a night nurse though.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@psychobutthead, this is actually something I looked into this past summer. I was doing my preceptorship working 12 hour nights, my son was in daycare in the morning and then needed to be driven to therapy in the afternoon, my husband worked so he couldn't help. I really really wanted to hire someone for the sole purpose of picking him up from daycare and bringing him to therapy because I felt like I didn't sleep all summer. I'd get home at 8am, wake up at 12:30 and then maybe get a quick nap before being up for the night at 3-4pm. After many missed appointments because I thought I might die from exhaustion, therapy moved his appointments to 3pm so I could sleep a little longer. But man would a chauffer have been helpful lol.
@eatinwatermelonseeds Yeah In total I am in the car rider lines about 2 hours a day for both kids. Ds is in prek for his speech delay so he only goes half a day to school and DD started middle school this year. Between all of my daughters clubs and after school tutoring I feel like all I do is drive. And I take DS to private therapy every wednesday and my daughter goes to her ADHD appointments every 3 months.
I was just thinking how everything will be a never ending stream of appointments adding on my OB ones. I did ask my mil if she would take my kids to school for a week or 2 depending on when this baby is born. I will probably be induced before my due date. I'm now due May 22nd and my kids last day of school is May 24th. Hopefully MIl doesn't skip out on that.
Maybe they have uber nanny's? lol
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@psychobutthead I only have one, but I can definitely relate. He has behavioral therapy every day at 8am, but he buses to preschool which is also half day. Wednesdays he has ABA (behavioral therapy) at 8, then we drive over to speech and OT at 1030, then whatever I can fit in after. I can't totally relate to the picking up from school and car lines since we do a bus from therapy to preschool and then home. In the summer he wasn't in school, so bus wasn't an option. I think you should patent Uber nanny, it's brilliant 😂
We haven't put him on the bus because here where we live once he gets to real school like kindergarten he won't be able to ride the bus because we live to close to the school. So he can ride the bus to his pre-k but since hes only in pre-k until he either starts talking for his age or goes to kinder I didn't see a point in getting him use to it. Because after prek he won't be able to ride the bus again here until he goes to highschool. The elementary school and middle school are less than a mile from our house.
My son doesn't have autism but my friends son the same age as mine does. And omg she has so many appointments to take him to just like you! she has 2 other kids of her own plus 2 stepkids shes raising. I can't keep up with all the therapies and specialist she takes all those kids to. I feel overwhelmed some weeks with just the speech therapy.
I'm hoping since they get out for summer soon after it won't be super crazy and we can all sleep in for awhile.
I think nights wouldn't be so bad if I buy a baby brezza or maybe its brezzo? Seriously tempted its like a baby formula keurig. I wish I had gotten one with DS kid never slept through the night till he turned 3.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@psychobutthead that makes total sense about the bus. We'll likely experience that, too, but he won't be in kindergarten until next year and he has been in developmental preschool since last year. We honestly probably don't need it anymore at this point since I'm not working, but 1. I really hate going to the school and waiting and then taking forever to get through traffic. And 2. I plan on trying to find work as soon as I pass my test and don't want to have to change everything again.
It's honestly easier now, we're in a groove, but I'm really grateful we waited this long to have another (or well, that my body made me wait 😂). I know this is probably a terrible thing to say, but I'm really afraid this baby will be autistic too and I have no idea how I'll handle all those appointments and 2 kids with special needs. Obviously I'll cope, but it's definitely a concern. My boy is freaking amazing, and having autism is just one of the things that makes him amazing. He's inquisitive, logical, has an incredible imagination, he's sweet and caring. And I know if he's anything like my husband (who I suspect is also on the spectrum but never received interventions), he's going to be very successful and do well in life. But as a baby, and toddler, and fighting for the diagnosis (or for anyone to take me seriously that something was wrong), and the meltdowns, learning sensory issues, not sleeping, constant crying, being hit and screamed at. It's hard to imagine doing it all over again but with two kids. But I honestly feel like it'll be okay because of the age gap between them. Phew, sorry for the novel 😂 obviously this is something that's been on my mind all day.
Re: UO
@RoseShadow873 I can't do Chik Fil a because of their funding for homophobic legislation. Before that, I would have agreed the sandwiches are delicious.
A lot of people here aren't from here so they don't have moms to help I guess. I'm lucky my mom is relatively close by.
My brother went to visit his ILs in Montana and they were going to dump out some coffee. SIL said to put it in the fridge and he would drink it as iced coffee in the morning and he said "if there's room" which his MIL heard as "if there's rum" thinking he wanted to make it alcoholic
@sleepy33 I live in Chicago so we have them here. I think it’s more of a thing is areas with high Jewish population though, bc my DH is Jewish and it seems a lot more common with his friends and family. I didn’t even know it was a thing til I met him.
omg you're right! didn't think of it! All my friends are Jewish haha
I'm a halfie but my mom isn't jewish, so that's why it was prob weird to me, yet I'm surrounded by it
My dad (the jewish one) had a live-in too lol
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
Also, tarter sauce on McDonald's fries are da best and overall, Arby's curly fries, HANDS DOWN!
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
I was just thinking how everything will be a never ending stream of appointments adding on my OB ones. I did ask my mil if she would take my kids to school for a week or 2 depending on when this baby is born. I will probably be induced before my due date. I'm now due May 22nd and my kids last day of school is May 24th. Hopefully MIl doesn't skip out on that.
Maybe they have uber nanny's? lol
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
My son doesn't have autism but my friends son the same age as mine does. And omg she has so many appointments to take him to just like you! she has 2 other kids of her own plus 2 stepkids shes raising. I can't keep up with all the therapies and specialist she takes all those kids to. I feel overwhelmed some weeks with just the speech therapy.
I'm hoping since they get out for summer soon after it won't be super crazy and we can all sleep in for awhile.
I think nights wouldn't be so bad if I buy a baby brezza or maybe its brezzo? Seriously tempted its like a baby formula keurig. I wish I had gotten one with DS kid never slept through the night till he turned 3.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
It's honestly easier now, we're in a groove, but I'm really grateful we waited this long to have another (or well, that my body made me wait 😂). I know this is probably a terrible thing to say, but I'm really afraid this baby will be autistic too and I have no idea how I'll handle all those appointments and 2 kids with special needs. Obviously I'll cope, but it's definitely a concern. My boy is freaking amazing, and having autism is just one of the things that makes him amazing. He's inquisitive, logical, has an incredible imagination, he's sweet and caring. And I know if he's anything like my husband (who I suspect is also on the spectrum but never received interventions), he's going to be very successful and do well in life. But as a baby, and toddler, and fighting for the diagnosis (or for anyone to take me seriously that something was wrong), and the meltdowns, learning sensory issues, not sleeping, constant crying, being hit and screamed at. It's hard to imagine doing it all over again but with two kids. But I honestly feel like it'll be okay because of the age gap between them. Phew, sorry for the novel 😂 obviously this is something that's been on my mind all day.