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December 2018 Moms
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STM Check In 9.4
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Seems like based on feedback, we're not going to answer the typical list of GTKYs. Instead, post your nails/fails here, cute stories about your other littles, questions you have about adjusting to life with one more spawn to care for, whatever.
Or in case you don't have anything on your mind just yet, read this and tell us what type of mom you are: https://www.babygaga.com/15-different-types-of-moms-we-all-know/
Or in case you don't have anything on your mind just yet, read this and tell us what type of mom you are: https://www.babygaga.com/15-different-types-of-moms-we-all-know/
Pass the sheet cake.
Re: STM Check In 9.4
Fails: I was failing at patience some over the weekend because DS is in the ask eleventy million questions phase. Shhhhh. For just 2 seconds, shhhhh.
As for which type of mom I am; a smidge of helicopter mom, a splash of exhausted mom, and probably the rest hot mess mom
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
If I had to pick ONE, I'd say zen mom but with a ton of intentional effort.
If I'm allowed to cheat, I'll say zen-free-range with a tinge of career (without the superiority) mom.
Nail: My cousin & his wife gave us their crib, mattress, car seat w/ two bases! Not my first choice carrier, but it was freeeeeee!
Fail: I meant to go to yoga Sunday morning and 1000% spaced it. And I ate so. much. this weekend. I need to order a scale because I'm pretty sure I've already gained back the 17 total lbs I gained with DD. Not feeling great about it, especially with three months to go.
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
I feel like I am a helicopter mom or a free range mom, depending on the situation. I am definitely more free range at home or around people we know, but when we get around other children I tend to be a little bit more helicopter. Also, being honest I feel like internally I have some of the competitive mom in me. I don’t say it out loud, but I am always wondering/ worrying if my son is hitting the milestones and doing the things that other children his age are (so not zen haha)
Nails: I feel like I have already mentioned this 100 times today, but we got our attic project done so the rest of the house feel so much less cluttered and I can finally get things situated where I want them.
Fail: My thigh has started randomly going numb. This happened in my last pregnancy and lead to randomness everywhere. I ended up not being able to feel my left leg for like the final 15 weeks of my pregnancy. I am hoping it is just because I overdid it this weekend and that it does not become a permanent thing.
@hoosiermama-2 go easy on yourself (easier said than done, I know). This is a difficult 9 months anyway, without all the added pressure we pile on ourselves
@katy0990 did you pinch a nerve or something? I've never heard of that happening!
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
Fail: well, DS still isn't pooping in the toilet. It's like he knows he needs to, but just won't. And I think he's starting to hold it in, then when he lets loose he ruins 2-3 pairs of underwear. Really hoping he gets past this soon.
Nail: to counteract the above, we've managed to go out in public without pee accidents!! We haven't really been out long enough for him to have to use a toilet in public, but he does hold it in at least!
DS2 due 12/12/18
Nails: We got feedback on our one showing of our house and it was really good. Crossing my fingers it turns into a bid.
What kind of mom: Oh my gosh some of those were harsh haha! I would say for the most part I’m a combo of zen and free range mom. Like @hoosiermama-2 though that comes with some purposeful effort on my part. I certainly have my helicopter mom moments, especially because DDis still at an age where she thinks putting everything in her mouth is a grand idea. But I hope as she gets older that I will be comfortable in giving her some independence.
@katy0990 Oh no! I really hope the numbness was a fluke. That sounds awful having your leg go numb for that long. You were able to walk ok with that much numbness?
I feel eel like I fall into a lot of the Mom buckets. Free range? Check. Wine? Check. Work out? Check. Hot mess? Double check.
@hoosiermama-2 Try not to be too hard on yourself.
DD turned 2 in May, so I guess we can say 2 1/4.
Nail: She's been really good about saying thank you to people other than DH, me, her daycare provider and her family members. We went out to eat on Sunday after the 7k and every time the waitress brought her something, she would say thank you and giggle with a cheesy smile. The waitress was super impressed and told her she was the sweetest little thing...I felt all proud and shit!
Fail: There were a few moments this weekend where she was being absolutely tantrumy and I just lost my patience with her. So, the fail is on me, not her.
Is it possible to be a free range mom and a helicopter mom at the same time?! That might be me.
DS2 due 12/12/18
(Would y'all believe me if I told you DH [teacher] has been in school for more than a month already?! July 24. "Balanced" schedule.)
@clbness Buddy!! I love it.
Random aside: i have the "Daniel Tiger gets a baby sister" two-parter on DVR. There's a part where Miss Elaina says something like, "sure, toots!" and it cracks me up every. time. Toots??
I love the baby Margaret birthday episode. It came out right around the time DS was born, so perfect for DD to watch. I have a niece named Margaret now, and my kids refuse to use her nickname. It’s 100% because of that show.
@clbness lol at all proud and shit
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
Fail: I don't want to think about the poop-tastrophy of our bath on Sunday. Poop in the tub, pee on the floor, poop on the floor.
I'm def a mix of the exhausted, hot mess, and wine mom. Will come back to tag tomorrow probably BECAUSE I HATE THIS DAMN APP. #FacebookPlease
@hoosiermama-2 When I was teaching I would have liked that schedule! We had to go back Aug 6th, but we only got 3 days for thanksgiving, 1 week in March, and a 2 week Christmas break.
@runrinserepeat I feel you on wanting to just have some pizza rolls in peace!
@clbness it sounds like you had a great weekend with your daughter. I love it all!
@Jens_Hoes so sweet with the sign language!
Nails: Just having a 3 day weekend with all of us home and going to do things together. This pregnancy has been rough on me mentally with the mom guilt. A normal summer we would have done many more activities than we did this year. My doctor didn’t want me going very far right after my SCH was found, and I was nervous about over doing it. Now I’m free to head out and am really looking forward to taking the boys somewhere over their fall break. I know if I asked them they would say their summer was great - it’s all me and my mom guilt.
Fails: I pulled out my 1st graders book logs this morning and realized we hadn’t read in a week. Oops! I really think I just forgot to write books down, but with pregnancy brain, it really could be either scenario.
Parenting nail for the week was an easy (ish) travel experience yesterday, despite being repeatedly delayed and diverted and stuck on the tarmac to the tune of an arrival at the gate 7.5 hours late. I was traveling alone with my 2 year old, and she was, for the majority of the experience, the most cheerful person on the plane.
Parenting fails are still pending, but if this week for the adults in the house is any indication, they should be doozies. Aside from the plane ride, she HAS been in a mood, though. I think it's the transition into the big kid room at school; hoping it's short-lived.
Nails: I've made small goals for myself each day in regards to getting shit done that seem attainable so I don't set myself up for disappointment. Also, DS (2 yo next month) has been FREAKING OUT at bath time lately, like temper tantrum central, clawing and practically climbing up my arms not wanting to take a bath, so I've been having to physically get in with him. The other day for the first time in a while he didn't completely lose his shit when DH gave him a bath. I'm hoping that's a trend! He's also been so much better when we go out to restaurants which is a sigh of relief.
Fails: I spent a good portion of the day worrying about DS's speech development and comparing it to other toddlers his age. I know all kids develop at their own pace and my pedi (who I adore and trust) has been adamant about waiting until 2 to talk about developmental delays, so I've trusted him on that. His 2nd birthday is next month though and he only says 7 words, and I'm not sure he's even using them in the correct contexts. Either way, he's perfect the way he is and I hate when I fall into the black hole of comparing his development like that. My fail, not his.
Type of mom... I'm definitely a mix. I can be a part hot mess and part zen depending on the day, sometimes mixed in with a little helicopter. I personally don't see myself as a textbook helicopter mom, but I look at a lot of the other moms I know and I definitely hover a little more.
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
@hoosiermama-2 Ugh yes, I feel like I ate way more this weekend than I intended.
@CecilB93 Have you tried treats when he poops on the potty? We never needed to do anything when DS peed but he had a harder time pooping, so we give him two m&ms every time he poops and I think it's helped. He's been really good about telling us when he has to poop.
@Jens_Hoes Oh no about the poop! I loved when my DS started to use the signs we were teaching him. It was so nice when he was able to actually communication he wanted more food or if he wanted milk or something.
@westcoastfoodie It is so hard not to compare our kids to where other kids are developmentally. I do it all the time. I hate that I do it, but I can't help it. My DS is 2 years 3 months and he speaks 2-3 phrases. Some of the other ones his age can speak full sentences. They all have their own pace, they'll all end up in the same place!
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!Nails: DS started his daycare last week and he did AMAZING! He didn't have a really difficult time adjusting like I thought he would. The first day he stayed just over an hour, the next day it was almost three hours, the next it was 4. The rest of the week he went a full day and he did great. I was also worried about potty accidents but he only had one small accident that week. He did have an accident yesterday though, which makes me sad. I keep trying to tell him that he has to let people know when he has to potty. Another nail is he's been really good at telling us when he has to poop.
Fails: I cannot figure out a way to get DS to stop hitting and biting us. If he is tired sometimes he will just hit us for no reason, and if we still him not to hit or grab his hand, he will try to bite! We try putting him in time out, but I'm not sure that is really helping. He is he tried and isn't getting his way or is upset, it's even worse. Anyone have any tips??
Cute Story: Well, I think it's cute. When we were driving home from FL I took DS to potty and he tooted. I said, "uh oh, did you toot?" He goes, "I toot!" Now every time he toots or someone else days he goes "I toot" or
"daddy toot". It's adorable.
I'll have to update what type of mom I am once I get to read the article, but also this post is long enough already.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!@westcoastfoodie Will your son take showers? We've recently started giving ours more showers than baths only because he loves them so much and it's easy for us to get showers in then too. He's okay in the bath, but doesn't love when we dump water on him.
Also re: speech, man. I totally get the concern. My son is pretty consistently behind in every category...he goes at his own pace. It's SO HARD not to compare and then you feel bad about yourself for not just loving your kid the way he is. (Also those gosh darned girls with their early speech, amirite?) That said, it definitely wouldn't hurt to look into Early Intervention and at least have him evaluated if you're worrying your pants off. My son recently started speech therapy with around 10 words, generously -- although his receptive speech and imitation is also a bit behind and he was flagged on the MCHAT (modified autism screening) as being at risk, primarily for communication stuff. So if he's really good about bringing you things, showing you things, following directions, etc then probably it's not a huge concern. But anyway, hugs.
Nail: My son (just shy of 20 mos) loves playing our keyboard but couldn't get on the stool himself. So I brought the Ikea stool over and he figured out pretty quickly how to get up there on his own. Then we taught him how to turn it on. The kid entertains himself now! (Although he does have a tendency to press the power button a million times because it takes a few seconds to get the sound started, sometimes he turns on really hilarious sound effects or tracks, and yesterday he fell off the stool. Oops. Still totally worth it.)
Fail: Just. Rough weekend. He caught a bad cold at the CDC and we had three very hard nights. I tend to turn into Scary Mean Mom (not proud of this) when I'm extremely sleep-deprived and he's screaming and won't be calmed, so there was a lot of yelling around midnight. He eventually settled, and then I was worried that he had croup and I needed to take him in to the ER for a breathing treatment. We made it through the night and the next day he was back to his normal chipper self, and has been fine and back to STTN since. Thank goodness!
As for what type of mom I am...I'd say a combination of all of them. Sort of depends on the day and who we're with! I'm half-crunchy, half-lazy, too-much-cell-phone, definitely free-range but at times helicoptery, and I don't know about competitive so much as always freaking worried. Exercise Mom comes out when we take our walks.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@AGK2015 I’m glad the flight went well! Flying with a toddler can be so stressful!
@westcoastfoodie I’m sorry you are worried about your son’s speech. Have you looked into having him assessed by the county? Idk about other states, but in Ohio, if a parent requests a (free) assessment, they have to comply and provide no cost services to the child at their home or childcare facility.
@AdorkablePixie I’m glad the transition is going smoothly at daycare!
@scootsmcg Yay for your kiddo sleeping in a pack n play!!! SUCCESS!!!
@AGK2015 Holy cow, good job for your daughter! I'd have been a grumpy mess!
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
Derp. I don't know how I missed your other comment. I've heard toots! It just feels so randomly thrown in by Miss Elaina - idk, I'm easily amused.
I'm sorry @runrinserepeat I definitely chuckled at your burrito saga
@westcoastfoodie when is your appt with the pediatrician?
@AdorkablePixie you could try talking to him about how he hurts people when he hits them, physically taking his hand and showing him how you want him to touch people, there are definitely books about hitting and biting that you could read with him. You can also give him things that are ok to hit and bite like a soft pillow, or teether.
@AdorkablePixie I've been telling him from the beginning if he poops on the toilet that he can have any candy he wants. Sucker, jelly beans, chocolate, whatever. And hell, I just ordered some new icing bags and cake pans, so I'm tempted to bake him a freaking cake when he finally does poop on the toilet! Partially because I want to use my new icing bags and it seems like a good excuse lol.
@ScootsMcG woo!! FX for you that he continues to sleep well in the PnP! We moved my son out around 10 months I think, but now I have 1-2 cats who sleep in the bed, so that'll be interesting lol.
@wedtcoastfoodie I feel like it can't hurt to have his speech evaluated, but I do know some other two year olds who barely say anything. Have they ever checked his ears? Our friends kid had to have tubes put in and since then his speech has exploded because he can understand better!
DS2 due 12/12/18
@texas_t I tend to use "and shit" casually in place of etc, haha...whoops!
@AGK2015 High five to your kiddo for being a champ on a delayed plane! Mine probably wouldn't have fared so well.
@AdorkablePixie SO SO SO glad DD is loving daycare (and you are too)! I know how hard it is for you.
@jens_hoes Trust me, I felt so crazy last time until we ere abe to attribute all of the random symptoms to the same root cause. This time, I am not sure. I really o not feel like I have polyhydramnios again, so I am baffled about the random numbness. So far, that is the only odd symptom this time *knock on wood*.
I feel like that was kind of word vomit lol. This parenting thing can be hard sometimes.
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
@westcoastfoodie @PensiveCrayon You guys are doing amazing & your kids are wonderful people who will flourish in speech. Just remember you're doing great.
Nails: DS (1.75) is now saying Please & Thank You consistently & it's the most adorable thing ever. From the back seat "Chip!!" "here ya go buddy".. "taaank you!" He started getting his blankie and initiating bedtime himself. On his sweet days he is so damn sweet, and then there's the cranky days.
Fails: He bit the same kid twice on the same day last week. Siiiigh
I'd say I am a free range wine mom
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
DS2 due 12/12/18