I HAVE A QUESTION! Would you ever think it was weird if you got invited to a baby shower thrown by the pregnant lady? I want to plan a baby shower for myself at my house. RSVP would obviously be to me. And I'll just plan the party. It would be small. And I'd order some sandwiches and do a little diaper raffle to win a prize. Does anyone look down on this?
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@asun it depends. My group of people would likely side eye that. But I guess if you had family not around, then maybe I'd side eye it less. What baby # is it? Are you sending out registry information? If it is just a "party" to get together and celebrate the baby and less about getting gifts, I'd be less likely to side eye it.
@asun123 I tend to really dislike expected etiquette for things like showers. I was fully intending on helping to plan my own shower and having it at my house (although my mom probably would have been the "host"). If this is your first child, then I say go for it. However, I might side-eye if it isn't your first child. But most of it really depends on what type of gifts you're asking for. If you have a registry full of gifts just because you want shiny new things, then I would be suuuuper put off by that. But if you didn't really ask for anything and just want to have a party, then I probably wouldn't be all that bothered.
@asun123 I have to agree with others. I was invited to one recently that was hosted by the expectant mom and I have to admit, I did side-eye a little. She didn't even have a registry but it still felt gift-grabby to me. Personally, If I was going to host myself I would be more likely to host a meet and greet (sip and see, whatever you want to call it) after the baby is born.
@Activebaby I can completely relate. The other day my toddler was climbing me and Bumped into to my belly a few times. Within seconds, the baby started kicking like crazy. Poor LO already has to stand up for him/herself!
@asun123 I would also do more of a sip and see, if you feel you will be up to hosting. Is there someone who would be willing to be the official “Host” while the shower is at your home?
@asun123 I agree with @katy0990. Is there someone who could "host" the shower at your house? A friend is doing that for me and it feels a lot better than if I were to host it myself. It's still not within "etiquette" to ask someone to host for you, but I think you'd have less side-eye from folks for that (since it'd only be a few people who know that) vs you just hosting the whole thing!
@asun123 I’d think it was interesting, but probably not much past that. As far as a shower at your house - those are the best! My sister hosted the shower for my first at my house and it was so nice that I didn’t have to drag everything home. I got myself ready while she got everything set up and I wasn’t allowed out of my room until she was done. She also did clean up.
@asun123 like everyone else has said, it depends on your social group and how you think they might react. I’d be totally fine with it. I was going to through my own shower (FTM here), but then I decided it was too much work and hat I didn’t care enough. So everyone asked when my shower was (expecting me to host one), and I said I didn’t feel like it, and now I’ve got 3 showers planned by other people in 2 different towns.
I don’t personally care about the etiquette rule because I see showers as like an exciting pre-birth party and people throw their own b-day parties all the time. No one calls that gift grabby.
@asun123 I wouldn’t look down on any of my friends. I think everyone’s situation is different.
I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable throwing one for myself. My group of girlfriends is having a sprinkle for me and I am very uncomfortable about the registry I made for myself to keep track of what we need, now knowing other people might look at it. *cringing*
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@Jens_Hoes@katy0990@lippy625 Registry stalking is seriously so addicting! I'm just so excited to have baby things in the house soon! My shower is October 14th! I agree, it's totally for the baby to be surprised. Plus, we registered for it so we already know people's options haha!
@lippy625@Jens_Hoes@katy0990@mamajudec2018 I'm so bad about registry stalking, I do it every day, sometimes multiple times a day. The worst is I keep ADDING items! Like I started a whole new registry at PB kids for the new HP collection (thanks a lot, @hoosiermama-2 !). And I keep seeing adorable swaddle and bow/hat sets, and now that I knows she's a girl, I can't help adding them ALL. I promised SO we could keep things neutral...oops.
I also just bought an entire fall wardrobe for my nieces (they are horse themed, how could I not???) from Carters yesterday, but selfishly because I want then all back for my baby once they outgrow everything! She can wear them for spring, I don't care! Lol My sister tells me to stop buying clothes because she has enough clothes for all of our kids until they are 4. I can't stop, I think I have a problem.
But someone bought 4 things off our registry too, so definitely getting real. Crazy my shower is only 7 weeks away. What????
This might sound weird and ungrateful, but my husband's coworkers have been getting a ton of stuff off our registry and I'm a bit jealous. One of them even got us the stroller and an extra car seat base. That stuff ain't cheap! I wish my co-workers and friends liked me as much as my hubby's coworkers clearly love him. It's kinda stupid that I feel this way, especially since it clearly benefits baby and I too, but still. WHY ARE YOU MORE LIKEABLE THAN ME??
@binxybaby maybe it has nothing to do with you vs them, and more so about the generosity of your coworkers vs his? At my last job when I was pregnant I got a party (with food, cake, etc) plus a card with like $300 in gift cards to buy buy baby and the same for my wedding shower at work. I was seriously in awe at their generosity. This time around, I imagine my coworkers at this job (albeit a much smaller group of people and those I've known for a much smaller amount of time) will maybe get me a cake? We've had birthdays or whatever and people complain about giving $5 for stuff. Insert eye roll emoji.
@scaredunprepared Any time! I wish the HP line was around with my first!
I do have a few private registries for discounts. I just made the Amazon one public because my family has been nagginnnng for a party, and I've given in. Though, there are DD-specific things I need to take off so I don't get side-eyed haha... or maybe not - I want the discount!
@binxybaby It's a little weird but I'm a lot weird, so I get it. Are many of H's coworkers DINKs? Is it a higher-paying industry? At least you got some big ticket things checked off.
@binxybaby I definitely agree that it's probably just the work atmosphere or industry that sparked YH's coworkers to get some nice gifts. I felt a bit offended when I left my one job after telling them I was pregnant and literally got a candle holder lol. But I think that's just the climate. I expect to get a few gifts from my other job, but SO's coworkers are actually hosting us a legit baby shower (though I was told it would be a diaper shower, which I'm 100% cool with). My own coworkers never even offered to host me a shower!
@hoosiermama-2 I say leave the DD specific items. They asked for a registry, so they can work around it! No need to jeopardize your chance at a discount.
@hoosiermama-2 I would just leave them, so you get the discount. Personally, I wouldn’t side-eye them.
@binxybaby Is your H’s work having a shower befor yours? At the school I worked at, we would usually put a shower together for about 3-4 weeks before delivery. Plus, a lot of the time we went in on one large gift instead of individual purchases. Maybe your work is doing something similar?
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@morgantu I definitely do not understand some of the fruit comparisons. Like, my LO was 1 lb 3 weeks ago, but you are telling me he or she is only the size of a grapefruit now?
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Re: Randoms Week of 9/3
Would you ever think it was weird if you got invited to a baby shower thrown by the pregnant lady?
I want to plan a baby shower for myself at my house. RSVP would obviously be to me. And I'll just plan the party. It would be small. And I'd order some sandwiches and do a little diaper raffle to win a prize.
Does anyone look down on this?
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Personally, If I was going to host myself I would be more likely to host a meet and greet (sip and see, whatever you want to call it) after the baby is born.
@asun123 I would also do more of a sip and see, if you feel you will be up to hosting. Is there someone who would be willing to be the official “Host” while the shower is at your home?
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I don’t personally care about the etiquette rule because I see showers as like an exciting pre-birth party and people throw their own b-day parties all the time. No one calls that gift grabby.
I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable throwing one for myself. My group of girlfriends is having a sprinkle for me and I am very uncomfortable about the registry I made for myself to keep track of what we need, now knowing other people might look at it. *cringing*
edited: wouldn’t corrected
I also just bought an entire fall wardrobe for my nieces (they are horse themed, how could I not???) from Carters yesterday, but selfishly because I want then all back for my baby once they outgrow everything! She can wear them for spring, I don't care! Lol My sister tells me to stop buying clothes because she has enough clothes for all of our kids until they are 4. I can't stop, I think I have a problem.
But someone bought 4 things off our registry too, so definitely getting real. Crazy my shower is only 7 weeks away. What????
maybe it has nothing to do with you vs them, and more so about the generosity of your coworkers vs his? At my last job when I was pregnant I got a party (with food, cake, etc) plus a card with like $300 in gift cards to buy buy baby and the same for my wedding shower at work. I was seriously in awe at their generosity.
This time around, I imagine my coworkers at this job (albeit a much smaller group of people and those I've known for a much smaller amount of time) will maybe get me a cake? We've had birthdays or whatever and people complain about giving $5 for stuff. Insert eye roll emoji.
I do have a few private registries for discounts. I just made the Amazon one public because my family has been nagginnnng for a party, and I've given in. Though, there are DD-specific things I need to take off so I don't get side-eyed haha... or maybe not - I want the discount!
@binxybaby It's a little weird but I'm a lot weird, so I get it.
@binxybaby I definitely agree that it's probably just the work atmosphere or industry that sparked YH's coworkers to get some nice gifts. I felt a bit offended when I left my one job after telling them I was pregnant and literally got a candle holder lol. But I think that's just the climate. I expect to get a few gifts from my other job, but SO's coworkers are actually hosting us a legit baby shower (though I was told it would be a diaper shower, which I'm 100% cool with). My own coworkers never even offered to host me a shower!
@hoosiermama-2 I say leave the DD specific items. They asked for a registry, so they can work around it! No need to jeopardize your chance at a discount.
@binxybaby Is your H’s work having a shower befor yours? At the school I worked at, we would usually put a shower together for about 3-4 weeks before delivery. Plus, a lot of the time we went in on one large gift instead of individual purchases. Maybe your work is doing something similar?
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*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
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