@MRDCle yeah the nursing sleep association was very strong in my DD and it was very hard to break. I definitely want to do things different this time around with #2. I think the sleep deprivation triggered a lot of my PPD/PPA and it was a vicious circle because I kept thinking DD cried because she needed to breastfeed.
@gollygeeitsamy and @MRDCle - I couldn't nurse DD for very long and she never took pacifiers so take this with a grain of salt. But I really think that the simple things like, keeping it dark if/when tiny wakes up in the MOTN, having a bedtime routine (bath, PJ's, bottle, snuggle, then bed, etc) is honestly the most crucial part. I've talked to friends who don't understand why their baby won't go back to sleep at 2am but fail to realize that by turning on all the lights, it's messing up their internal clock. We just cracked open the closet door with DD. We've moved since and will probably invest in a dim nightlight this time around.
@mrstmoose I did all of those things except in the very beginning. I literally just thought every cry was because she was hungry. She was jaundice and lost weight at the beginning and it took a long time for my milk to come in and afterwards I thought every cry meant she was hungry. I definitely blame my PPA but didn't understand it when I was in it. I think this time around I want to do better following a schedule, doing the bedtime routine like you mentioned (we did that once I went back to work which helped), and understanding there are other soothing things to try other than straight to breast.
@gollygeeitsamy - PPA is so real. I struggled with anxiety pre pregnancy but it worsened after I had DD. I still sometimes panic at nighttime. Last night she was trying to refuse to go to sleep and I immediately thought that she was going to be up all night. The night before she kept covering her face up no matter how many times I sent DH in there to uncover her. I don't think it goes away for awhile. Hugs.
@gollygeeitsamy we did really badly getting our first to sleep in the beginning (he was cluster feeding and basically sleeping only in my arms at night, so I survived on naps in the evening and early morning), then got into a great rhythm for a month or so around month 3 or 4, then around 4-5 months we hit a sleep regression and crashed and burned...still haven't recovered at 8+ months.
These are the things I definitely plan to do differently with this baby: - Find a swaddle that works right away. My son hated being confined to a swaddle right off the bat, so I moved on immediately. Months later I introduced an arms up swaddle and that kicked off the start of him sleeping on his own, and pretty well for a little guy! I can't even think about the months of sleep I probably could have enjoyed. - Start transitioning out of the swaddle slowly, before the baby starts rolling over and it's absolutely necessary. - Fight through the sleep regressions, illness, etc.! We used to bring the baby into our bed only in the morning as a treat, but he hit a sleep regression at 4+ months, then got vaccines, then got an awful cold, then took a cross country trip, and we were just taking him into our bed as soon as he would cry because we felt so bad. Now he usually ends up in our bed by 2am the latest every night.
Aside from finding the right swaddle, the bedtime routine we added at a month or two worked great for us as well. We do the same thing every night (change/pajamas, book, milk), and he knows it's time for sleep. Usually he's out pretty quickly. We also saw an improvement after starting probiotics - sometimes their little tummies will keep them up and restless at night.
@mrstmoose are there really people who turn on all the lights when their kids wake up? That sounds insane to me.
@Piccola1988 oh lord the dreaded 4 month sleep regression did us in as well as continuous ear infections. I think DD started doing better around 8-10 months but we decided to sleep train which really helped tremendously though I'd probably do things a little differently with that as well. Hindsight is 20/20. It's really just survival mode when your sleep deprived.
@gollygeeitsamy so everyone has diff styles on kid sleep, it’s it’s an area where I’m probably the odd one out on this board. I won’t sleep train. It felt unkind to my child to leave him to cry, even for a few minutes. I let my child struggle, but I like to be there to coach him through it. I don’t expect him to reach himself to ride a bike even for a second, without my help; or learn to read in a room by himself; why would I leave him alone in his room to try to sleep by himself? We bedshared (had a co-sleeper until he was too big, then he slept in our bed). Then when he was older we bought a queen size bed for his room. I would lay in bed next to him while he fell asleep, then we’d move him to our room when we went to bed. Now he falls asleep with me sitting in his room, then usually just comes in to our room sometime between 3-5am and climbs up into our bed. This has been an amazing and perfect solution for our family in terms of all of us getting sleep and having peaceful bedtimes. My son has basically slept through the night ever since I night-weened him, largely because he’s secure touching me or my husband. When we travel he sleeps just as well, because he sleeps in bed with us like normal. And we are working on getting him to stay in his bed overnight now, mostly because I don’t want his sleep disturbed by a new baby. But we are doing it very gradually and just by keeping a sticker chart of successes. But he knows he’s always welcome with us. And honestly, my husband and I both loved bedsharing - we will definitely be doing it again.
@professormama I refuse to sleep train also. My daughter took awhile but she's sleeping in her big girl bed on her own and she's 2. It took until a month ago to get here and it was a lot of figuring things out but I love when she used to crawl in bed with me. I would rather know she feels safe and secure than listen to her cry it out in her room alone. Sleeping is the one thing that we feel kids should do on their own from an early age and I feel like it's unrealistic.
I totally sleep trained and it was the best thing ever. I co-slept until about 10 months until neither of us were sleeping well. The first night was rough but after that it was easy. We regressed around 20 months and then got her back on track. Also the term "sleep training" is used to describe the extinction method but there are MANY different ways to do it. I know DD feels safe and if she cries in the middle of the night we go in there. but she can also put herself to sleep all by herself which means when she cries I know its bc something is wrong and not just because she woke up.
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@angelob88 100% with you. Plus I found that having my kid next to me all night meant we both got more/better sleep, especially early on. I would wake up when he’d fuss, flop my boob out to nurse, then we’d both just doze until he was done, and I’d just roll back over. No getting up and forcing myself to stay awake before putting him back down in a crib. It just worked for us. My son has also always been small, so he needed to eat at night for a lot longer than many babies. And even after we weaned, he was comforted just by being near me. And I was too, because I knew he was safe and not scared. Most adults don’t even sleep alone! It’s so unfair that we expect an infant who literally cannot tell the difference between itself and it’s mother, to teach itself to fall asleep.
I did a bunch of research on sleep training training and long term effects on sleep. There’s no connection at all. By 2 years old, sleep duration and quality are the same for all children regardless of how they were taught to sleep. So sleep training is really for the parents, not for the child.
Sleep is so personal. We could not bed share. DS absolutely hated it the few times we tried and having him in bed with me made me infinitely more anxious (also I could never figure out the logistics of nursing while laying down). He was actually in his crib in his room at two weeks completely his choice. I had him in the pack n play next to our bed, and then one night he woke up and I took him to his room to change him, and I had to pee so I put him down in his crib for a minute and when I came back he was asleep. The same thing happened the next night so after that we just put him in his crib all the time and he slept much better.
I personally hate sleeping next to anyone (part of the reason I knew DH was “the one” was that he’s the only person I’ve ever been able to get a full night’s sleep next to) so I think DS inherited that from me. It does make me a little sad that he has never fallen asleep on me since he was 5 months old, but again, it’s his choice to only sleep in his crib. This kid stayed up for 8 straight hours once because we didn’t have a place to lay him down. Definitely not my choice.
I subscribe to the “whatever works” philosophy. For him it was nursing to sleep and “fuss it out”, a technique I made up where if he’s crying I got him but if he’s just whining I let him go. Then one day he just stopped needing to nurse to sleep, and another day he stopped fussing. He enjoys being in his crib and can play in there for about an hour before he needs to be rescued (normally I get him well before then).
The one thing I do advocate for and think works for everyone is a routine. We started a bedtime routine very early on, and very simple (change diaper, dim lights, play white noise, and nurse) and the routine has evolved over time but he always knew that it was time for bed. There’s a difference between routine and schedule; some nights he goes to sleep at 7 sometimes at 9, it all depends on when he gets tired, but he knows once we do that routine, it’s time for bed, and even if he doesn’t go to sleep right away he never complains about being in his crib.
@wearegroot true. Sleep is really personal. I don’t even know what I would have done with a kid who wanted to be in his crib all night! And I don’t want it to sound like I think sleep training makes ppl bad parents or anything. It’s just REALLY not for us. I think (if ppl are honest) it’s usually for the parents, not for the kids. One of my bffs sleep trained her kid for her own mental health. And it worked for them at the time. Now they have actually a totally identical bedtime routine to us, even though we started out so differently. Hah
Totally random. I’m stuck in my kiddos bedroom since he’s not quite asleep yet. But I watched “the Notorious RBG” movie today and it was SO inspiring!! If you haven’t seen it yet, I highly recommend! I’m def getting back to work after my kiddo falls asleep. Just hearing her story again and again makes me so motivated.
On the sleep subject. I think it all depends on the child. DD was the perfect baby....slept 6hours at night the first week home and by one month was sleeping 10-12. I could nurse her before bed, swaddle then lay her down awake and she’d fall asleep with barely a fuss. Now DS was the complete opposite. He could never stay awake to finish a feeding. Like 30 secs on the boob and he was out! (Yes I tried all the ways to keep him awake during nursing). So he was up every 2-3 hours for the next year. That’s why at 6 months we started co-sleeping so I could get some rest, I was barely functioning at the time. He also hated his crib. He’d always wake up 30 min after laying him down screaming like he was hurt. I agree with what someone else said, I can’t do cry it out. I tried it once and he screamed bloody murder for 45 min with no signs of slowing down. But I do understand that method works with some. DS didn’t start to sleep thru the night till around 18 months when we switch him to a toddler bed. He’s still a pain to get to fall asleep but at least he stays asleep now I hope with this one I at least get somewhere in between the two. Doesn’t have to be a perfect sleeper but I’ll take 4-6 hour stretches by 4 months
I knew I had recently seen a post on weird dreams...and wow, I woke up crying from my nap because I dreamt that I was pregnant with a raccoon LOL. They told me “sometimes this happens.” At the end of the dream, my good friend who I apparently lived with, evicted me because I refused to clean the cat litter and it was taking over the house.
...gonna be an interesting 7 months of dreams LOL.
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@baya5 My DD screams like we’ve put her in baby jail and are about to abandon her forever whenever she is put in a crib or pack and play. DH thinks it stems from her NICU life in an isolette then a crib, so much without us there. I lean towards it just being her independent personality. Nevertheless, the girl spent less than two weeks at home in a baby box before I just slept with her in bed for both of our sakes. I’m with you on being Team Sleep.
@lyse01 I like that “Team Sleep”! Definitely have to do what’s right for both momma and baby. We co-slept on and off before 6months, but that’s just when I decided to commit to it.
I agree with previous posters that you've gotta just do what's right for you and your family. With my son, he slept beautifully while swaddled for the first few months (like all night long as a newborn), then when he started rolling over I chose to bring him into bed and cosleep just so I could get some sleep myself. I would nurse him back to sleep and fall asleep with him. It did take a little while to get him to adjust to sleeping in a crib, and that's why DH is against the idea of cosleeping with this one, but he's now 4yo and sleeps 11-12 hours every night. Occassionally he'll crawl into bed with us around 5 or 6 and go back to sleep, and personally I love the snuggles. I will definitely be cosleeping again with this one if necessary because I exclusively breastfed last time and all the brunt of nighttime wakings were on me. Oof. I'm positive the lack of sleep contributed to my PPD. But again, whatever works for your family is the right answer!
Also, for any FTM (or STM!) reading this and considering co-sleeping, I just want to throw out there that there are safe(r) and unsafe ways to do so. unsafe: any adult being a heavy sleeper or intoxicated/drowsy medicated; excess bed linens and pillows; gaps between mattress and wall/headboard that baby can get trapped in
Also, for any FTM (or STM!) reading this and considering co-sleeping, I just want to throw out there that there are safe(r) and unsafe ways to do so. unsafe: any adult being a heavy sleeper or intoxicated/drowsy medicated; excess bed linens and pillows; gaps between mattress and wall/headboard that baby can get trapped in
guidelines/discussion at cosleeping.nd.edu
Yes!!! I highly suggest a “cosleeper”, which is basically a 3sided crib attached to your side of the bed. I bought a used arms reach cosleeper and it was great. Kept my baby on a firm surface, away from covers and pillows, but allowed for the comforts of cosleeping. Later when he got older we brought him in to our bed, but got rid of pillows and sheets (comforter only, which we kept at waist level on us and off of him). Do what works, but be safe!!!
Also, for any FTM (or STM!) reading this and considering co-sleeping, I just want to throw out there that there are safe(r) and unsafe ways to do so. unsafe: any adult being a heavy sleeper or intoxicated/drowsy medicated; excess bed linens and pillows; gaps between mattress and wall/headboard that baby can get trapped in
guidelines/discussion at cosleeping.nd.edu
Yes always be safe! I was actually a pretty heavy sleeper before kids. But as soon as DD was born I became a very light sleeper. I also don’t move in my sleep which is a main reason I was comfortable co-sleeping. For a long time DH preferred to sleep on the couch because he was afraid of rolling on DS. @professormomma I’m definitely looking into getting a co sleeper this time. Hopefully I can get one as a Christmas present because the ones I like are kinda pricey
I would also like to add for anyone reading this (especially the FTMs) that co-sleeping is not the best way for everyone, and putting your child in a crib, sleep training, nursing to sleep, rocking to sleep, leaving the room and any other method of sleep is not bad and does not mean you’re putting your own interests above your child’s. Everyone has to find what works for them and every child and every family is different. There is no “right” way to do any of this, just find what works for your family and don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it.
FTM, I do not plan to co-sleep, and +27437364590 to doing what is best for you and your family, without letting anyone make you feel bad about it. Perfectly said @wearegroot
Reading all of this was overwhelming, but it’s really neat to see how everyone does things. It’s hard to not feel pressured by friends/family members to do things their way, especially since I have no previous parentjng experience to base this on.
@EveryStormX2 I’m keeping a dream journal, and the entries are hilarious because I’m writing them as soon as I wake up! It’s not really a “journal”, just a note on my phone, but it’s fun to keep track.
@sdelg09 it may or may not happen for everybody but I feel like having a kid helped me find my voice. It’s MY child and therefore MY decision. Just because you choose to listen to someone else’s advice does NOT mean you are obligated to use it. I felt really strongly about not doing purees/baby food and going straight to solids at a later time. My husband agreed when we talked about it. My parents didn’t understand and would try to convince us otherwise. But I told them it was my kid and as long as the pediatrician was cool with it they needed to STFU.
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@sdelg09 I learned to just nod and smile and politely just say that’s not what we’re doing. My MIL and her mom are very vocal about their opinions and obviously their way is the BEST since their kids turned out just fine(
@sdelg09 I learned to just nod and smile and politely just say that’s not what we’re doing. My MIL and her mom are very vocal about their opinions and obviously their way is the BEST since their kids turned out just fine(cue eye roll) My MIL hated and still does that I exclusively breastfeed for the first 6 months and then continued until they wean(10months DD and 18 months DS). She thinks if I’m coming over I should bring bottles so SHE can feed the baby. (FYI no one in DHs family breastfed, even his grandmas didn’t!)Also according to her I should be putting cereal in their bottles at six weeks and that would solve all their sleep problems. My best advice for you is do your own research and decide what is right for your family. And yes all the information is overwhelming so take it slowly and don’t let bossy family members bully you into doing something you don’t want to.
@baya5@thatbaintforbetty Why does everyone think that the way you feed your child is their business?! My mother told me to put cereal in his bottle at 1 day old (and he wasn’t even taking a bottle then), and even when he was sleeping through the night she told me to do it to help him sleep better. She was constantly telling me how she was feeding me lasagna and ice cream at 2 weeks old, and when we finally introduced solids she told me I was being ridiculous by only introducing one food at a time, and then fed him more foods behind my back, which is why she’s no longer allowed to babysit.
I could list a million more things she’s done and said, but for @sdelg09 and all the other FTMs, the point is just because someone raised a kid before, even if they raised you, doesn’t mean they know what’s best for your kid.
Agreed @wearegroot . I think that, just like anything, people give unsolicited advice about food, sleep, etc. because it's what worked for them and for the most part- they're coming from a good place. They are hoping to be helpful, but...not so much . Then there are the jerks who just go WAY too far. My MIL would be one of those - but we've got six months to start that convo.
And this may be an unpopular opinion, but I think we (mothers as a general population) can get offended a little quickly about things when it comes to being told what to do, which is natural because child rearing is such a sacred, hard, important thing.
@wearegroot absolutely! I am a ddd, my entire family is well endowed in the boob department and yet I never had my milk fully come in. My mother had the hardest time understanding. She BF all her kids with no problem, joked she must have a cow in another life. Me? Not so much. She was always saying what is the point of all that boob if it’s not doing what it should. Gee thanks for the guilt mom.
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@thatbaintforbetty Ugh! Aren’t moms supposed to be supportive? I once said something about how DS loves blueberries and she immediately sent me some “article” (click bait) on 8 negative side effects of eating too many blueberries (7 of which couldn’t possibly apply to him, and the one that could was just that he might poop more due to fiber). I can’t even feed my kid fruit without her putting a negative spin on it!
@wearegroot MIL is concerned that too much fruit means too much sugar and too little protein. Look. I’m not feeding her frosting, and when I do, it’s her birthday and she can damn well have cake. In the meantime, if her diet is purely fresh foods from the edge of the supermarket and generally consists of several colors, I’m happy and you can be too.
@thatbaintforbetty it’s funny how people always think bigger boobs equal more milk. My best friend is a AA(when not pregnant). And she had such an oversupply that she stopped pumping at 6months and had enough in the freezer to make to to a year! On the other hand my cousin is a DDD and really struggles with her supply. I actually gave her my extra milk when DS was done weaning. @wearegroot blueberry diapers are the worst lol. My husband is a blueberry farmer and my daughter eats a quart at a time if you let her. But I’ve never heard of health issues with eating too many Im lucky that my mother is completely supportive in 99% of my parenting decisions(unlike my crazy MIL)
What is it with people condescendingly asking are you sure you want more kids whenever DD isn’t an absolute angel?!? She’s 4, she is going to have tantrums, she isn’t going to listen all the time, this is normal. And half the time the person asking has kids. Wtf people did you raise perfect children? Cause I really doubt it.
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@professormama, that stinks. My dog gets anxious sometimes and has accidents in the house too. Luckily we only have laminate so it doesn't soak into carpets and cleans up fairly easily. I did miss a pee accident the one time when he managed to only pee on his stuffed animal toy and nothing else...
@thatbaintforbetty, I'm convinced people want to make everyone else miserable if they're the least bit unhappy. I was so depressed my first pregnancy because my boss was going through a hard time with his own kids and would say things like, "It only goes downhill from here!" "Get sleep now, cause you never will again!" "Kids ruin everything." Etc. It was bad. But while my kid is in no way percect, he is the light of my life and I wouldn't change it for anything. Can't wait to add this peanut and watch their relationship evolve.
@kangstadt when I was pregnant with DD my boss at the time came in one day handed me a bottle of wine, started spouting off about how vaccines are evil, and that if I wanted my kid to be intelligent I had to drink the whole bottle with my husband. At like 6 months pregnant.
I always knew knew he was off his rocker but that totally took the cake.
And that actually describes the person who said it pretty well. She’s a newish friend of my mother. My mom has a habit of quasi adopting “problem people” and it drives the rest of the family nuts. She has her own issues she needs to fix before she starts on random people’s.
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These are the things I definitely plan to do differently with this baby:
- Find a swaddle that works right away. My son hated being confined to a swaddle right off the bat, so I moved on immediately. Months later I introduced an arms up swaddle and that kicked off the start of him sleeping on his own, and pretty well for a little guy! I can't even think about the months of sleep I probably could have enjoyed.
- Start transitioning out of the swaddle slowly, before the baby starts rolling over and it's absolutely necessary.
- Fight through the sleep regressions, illness, etc.! We used to bring the baby into our bed only in the morning as a treat, but he hit a sleep regression at 4+ months, then got vaccines, then got an awful cold, then took a cross country trip, and we were just taking him into our bed as soon as he would cry because we felt so bad. Now he usually ends up in our bed by 2am the latest every night.
Aside from finding the right swaddle, the bedtime routine we added at a month or two worked great for us as well. We do the same thing every night (change/pajamas, book, milk), and he knows it's time for sleep. Usually he's out pretty quickly. We also saw an improvement after starting probiotics - sometimes their little tummies will keep them up and restless at night.
@mrstmoose are there really people who turn on all the lights when their kids wake up? That sounds insane to me.
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I did a bunch of research on sleep training training and long term effects on sleep. There’s no connection at all. By 2 years old, sleep duration and quality are the same for all children regardless of how they were taught to sleep. So sleep training is really for the parents, not for the child.
I personally hate sleeping next to anyone (part of the reason I knew DH was “the one” was that he’s the only person I’ve ever been able to get a full night’s sleep next to) so I think DS inherited that from me. It does make me a little sad that he has never fallen asleep on me since he was 5 months old, but again, it’s his choice to only sleep in his crib. This kid stayed up for 8 straight hours once because we didn’t have a place to lay him down. Definitely not my choice.
I subscribe to the “whatever works” philosophy. For him it was nursing to sleep and “fuss it out”, a technique I made up where if he’s crying I got him but if he’s just whining I let him go. Then one day he just stopped needing to nurse to sleep, and another day he stopped fussing. He enjoys being in his crib and can play in there for about an hour before he needs to be rescued (normally I get him well before then).
The one thing I do advocate for and think works for everyone is a routine. We started a bedtime routine very early on, and very simple (change diaper, dim lights, play white noise, and nurse) and the routine has evolved over time but he always knew that it was time for bed. There’s a difference between routine and schedule; some nights he goes to sleep at 7 sometimes at 9, it all depends on when he gets tired, but he knows once we do that routine, it’s time for bed, and even if he doesn’t go to sleep right away he never complains about being in his crib.
And I don’t want it to sound like I think sleep training makes ppl bad parents or anything. It’s just REALLY not for us. I think (if ppl are honest) it’s usually for the parents, not for the kids. One of my bffs sleep trained her kid for her own mental health. And it worked for them at the time. Now they have actually a totally identical bedtime routine to us, even though we started out so differently. Hah
Now DS was the complete opposite. He could never stay awake to finish a feeding. Like 30 secs on the boob and he was out! (Yes I tried all the ways to keep him awake during nursing). So he was up every 2-3 hours for the next year. That’s why at 6 months we started co-sleeping so I could get some rest, I was barely functioning at the time. He also hated his crib. He’d always wake up 30 min after laying him down screaming like he was hurt. I agree with what someone else said, I can’t do cry it out. I tried it once and he screamed bloody murder for 45 min with no signs of slowing down. But I do understand that method works with some. DS didn’t start to sleep thru the night till around 18 months when we switch him to a toddler bed. He’s still a pain to get to fall asleep but at least he stays asleep now
I hope with this one I at least get somewhere in between the two. Doesn’t have to be a perfect sleeper but I’ll take 4-6 hour stretches by 4 months
...gonna be an interesting 7 months of dreams LOL.
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unsafe: any adult being a heavy sleeper or intoxicated/drowsy medicated; excess bed linens and pillows; gaps between mattress and wall/headboard that baby can get trapped in
guidelines/discussion at cosleeping.nd.edu
@professormomma I’m definitely looking into getting a co sleeper this time. Hopefully I can get one as a Christmas present because the ones I like are kinda pricey
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@EveryStormX2 I’m keeping a dream journal, and the entries are hilarious because I’m writing them as soon as I wake up! It’s not really a “journal”, just a note on my phone, but it’s fun to keep track.
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My best advice for you is do your own research and decide what is right for your family. And yes all the information is overwhelming so take it slowly and don’t let bossy family members bully you into doing something you don’t want to.
I could list a million more things she’s done and said, but for @sdelg09 and all the other FTMs, the point is just because someone raised a kid before, even if they raised you, doesn’t mean they know what’s best for your kid.
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had my milk fully come in. My mother had the hardest time understanding. She BF all her kids with no problem, joked she must have a cow in another life. Me? Not so much. She was always saying what is the point of all that boob if it’s not doing what it should. Gee thanks for the guilt mom.
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@wearegroot blueberry diapers are the worst lol. My husband is a blueberry farmer and my daughter eats a quart at a time if you let her. But I’ve never heard of health issues with eating too many
Im lucky that my mother is completely supportive in 99% of my parenting decisions(unlike my crazy MIL)
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@thatbaintforbetty, I'm convinced people want to make everyone else miserable if they're the least bit unhappy. I was so depressed my first pregnancy because my boss was going through a hard time with his own kids and would say things like, "It only goes downhill from here!" "Get sleep now, cause you never will again!" "Kids ruin everything." Etc. It was bad. But while my kid is in no way percect, he is the light of my life and I wouldn't change it for anything. Can't wait to add this peanut and watch their relationship evolve.
I always knew knew he was off his rocker but that totally took the cake.
And that actually describes the person who said it pretty well. She’s a newish friend of my mother. My mom has a habit of quasi adopting “problem people” and it drives the rest of the family nuts. She has her own issues she needs to fix before she starts on random people’s.
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