New girl... need some input

someluck

loss mentioned
other child mentioned


Thank you for taking the time to read this!
Here’s my back story...
I’m 42, trying to conceive my second child.
My 3 year old was conceived via IUI in August 2014. (Lucky 1st attempt)
Last summer we started to try for #2. We did 1 IUI that failed then got pregnant naturally to our surprise but lost that baby around 10 weeks. Continued to try on our own with clomid but nothing. Started IUI again in May and had a chemical. 2 more failed IUI after that and in August we began ivf. 
I responded really well for a 42 year old and it looked like they would be able to retrieve from 12-14 mature eggs. The morning of retrieval I was in so much pain. As soon as we got to the office I told them I was in pain & it felt like I was ovulating. Nobody checked to see and they went ahead with the retrieval. I was right I was ovulating before the retrieval. The big/good ones got away and they were only able to grab 6 eggs out of which only 2 were mature. One fertilized but yesterday we found out it didn’t make it.

The day of retrieval they gave me a doppler and suggested I put some sperm ‘up there’ but no sex so soon after the procedure. I did the doppler twice. 

So now I’m at the point where the ivf was a failure but I’m still praying/wishing/dreaming the Hail Mary attempt at self insemination will work. I’m still taking the estrogen and progesterone. Question #1. Should I even bother continuing the meds?

2nd question. Has anyone ovulated before retrieval? Can you tell me about it?

3rd question. How does everyone deal with the constant appointments having to go to work? I’m a teacher so this August ivf attempt was no issue but I cannot miss that many days now that school is starting. 

someluck

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mbradfo2

I have a friend who ovulated before retrieval at both of her IVF cycles. It's extremely rare but it does happen.

How early does your clinic open for testing/how late? Maybe you can get appointments to fit your schedule. Maybe say you have some health stuff going on and need to take brief appointments during the week. If you are close to any of the officials, would you be comfortable opening up to them and explaining your need for the occasional appointment during school hours?  When a doctor in our practice was going through IVF, she spoke to the practice owners and they were able to work out a schedule.

someluck

Unfortunately b/c I teach High School I have to be there by 7 and that’s when the office opens. The office is 45 min from school. They stop monitoring appointments at 9:45. So it would be asking for 3 hours off each day. I was in everyday the last week. I’m going to ask it they would allow for me to go to a basic radiology office and blood lab after school. Worth asking. 

rachelbeth130

I’m a teacher as well and have to be at school by 7am. We did fertility treatments for 5 years and during that time did 5 IUIs, 3 rounds of IVF, 7 embryo transfers and 4 ERAs. I would get to the clinic before 7am when they opened so I could be the first in and out, then drive 30-40 minutes to work. I would only need someone to cover my homeroom and 1st period, sometimes 2nd if I was running late. In the beginning I used half sick days, then realized I was blowing through too many. I spoke with my principal and some of my close coworkers about what was going on- everyone was really supportive and pitched in wherever they could. Sometimes they would sort out their own ‘coverage’ schedule so I wouldn’t have to worry about it. I’m not sure if you spoke with anyone at school, but it might be worth talking about. I hope everyone is supportive, this definitely isn’t an easy thing to go through. Best of luck!

NicWalker10

Hi @someluck I had my son via IVF due to make factor almost 2 years ago now and we've been cycling to try for another with no luck so far so I feel your pain.  I do not have to do the full cycle and retrieval because we are using frozen embryos so I am just doing FET  (3 negatives so far )  My clinic starts monitoring (blood and ultrasound at 6am.  I understand this came about by patient demand so maybe you can ask your clinic first if they can accommodate you. I'm sure you're not the only one.  Or if there's a clinic somewhere closer to your work that opens earlier even though it's not your,  they might let you monitor there.  I have seen that happen before.  They will want you have your blood work  and ultrasound done in the morning because they need results back that day to give you your mediation for the afternoon/evening so I think they will look for you to go somewhere in the morning.   If they wont accommodate you, maybe they can find someplace for you.   For me,  I  am always there before 6 and make a mad dash home.  my husband has to leave for work early and I have to rush back so someone is home with our son before childare comes so I can work.  I wont like, it's super stressful....frankly another element of stress that isn't needed in this already stressful process.  GOOD LUCK!!!!