FFFC 8/17

ladystout08

ladystout08

 DS has been at my in-laws all week. I was supposed to go get him from MIL on Sunday. DH's cousin died earlier this week and the funeral is tomorrow so I decided I’d go down and go to the funeral and just bring him back with me. I’m bummed I get two less days at home alone.

Kabazaba

I have kinda a two-fer. Monday was crazy at work, and I ended up skipping lunch before having to leave early for my anatomy scan and then drive mom to the airport. So it was like 5pm and I hadn’t eaten anything since 8 or so. I was starved. I went to my favorite Italian store and got a turkey sandwich on hard bread (deli meat! #noragrets). Then I started eating it so fast I got hard bread UP MY NOSE. that shit is way sharper than I realized. Still #worthit

Kabazaba

@ladystout08 so sorry about the death, and the less down-time he must’ve been young if he was your DH’s cousin. 

ladystout08

@Kabazaba she actually was 64. He has a very large family with each grandparent having ~10 siblings so he has tons of great aunts/uncles/cousins but she was super healthy and 64 isn't old so it was a big surprise. 

tosh24

I think being a SAHM is waaaayyyyy harder than being a working mom (not that it's a competition AT ALL, just sharing my feelings based on my own experience). I already knew I felt this way from being on mat leave (I went back to work early the second time lol) but I have been on vacation with my kids all week and I swear to god if someone asks me for another snack for the millionth time, I'm going to lose it (for some reason, this is the one thing that really gets on my nerves). I love my kids to pieces, but I just feel like I, personally, am a better mom when I am also working. Truth be told, I would love to work 3 days a week and be home two days a week because I always feel like I'm behind on something on the home front, but that's not possible in my field of work so my only option is to work FT.

kianarain

@Kabazaba so jealous of your turkey sandwich!!! 

I've been trying to be strict w/diet, but then I realized that I've been eating eggs over medium my whole pregnancy...… Lol idk why it didn't register that the yolk is still uncooked, but I made one the other day on toast and was like WAIT a second, this isn't fully cooked. Whew thanks pregnancy brain!

pttomato

@tosh24 I think I’m going to try to go back to work after the second one is born just so I don’t have to spend all day with my toddler anymore. I like the stuff I am able to do with her being at home, but she is driving me crazy. She’s a super active extrovert and I’m starting to suspect she has some sensory-seeking as well. I also miss working, but getting a break from DD is my primary motivation.

sparkymcgeee

I think I need the medium option of working. Work part time so I can still get stuff done around my house but not go crazy because I'm not around grown ups. 

sfgiantsgamerbabe

+1 to the need to be working at least part time. Staying home with DS all summer has made me realize I need to be working. Last summer wasn’t so bad because he was 2.5 and still napping once day. Now he’s a 3.5 year old tyrant that I love with all my heart but I need to be away from for a little while each day. 

Mandamay1414

another +1 to working part time. I love the balance. I think I would go nuts if I was home with DD all the time. @pttomato my DD is also super high energy and doesn't stick to one activity for long, so it's exhausting taking care of her all day. She's getting a bit better at playing by herself (on some days, lol), so I'm hoping it will be easier soon. I think that I also need to work to have something that is just mine. When I'm at home, I feel like everything is about DD's wants/needs.

FFFC: I only work Tue and Thurs but send DD to daycare Tue, Wed, Thurs. Wednesday is my "mental health" day to do housework, errands, read, nap, whatever I want. Granted, 3 days a week is the min my daycare will allow for part time, but even if it allowed less I would still send her on Wed. I feel like I am a better mom when I'm with her because of that break I get. 

beachmama14

I am a SAHM and I still send my kids to morning activities because I need a break. Sometimes I feel guilty because I technically could care for them all the time. My 3.5 year old is such an extrovert and needs social time with friends, and my almost 2 year old has special needs/delays and his therapists highly encourage him to have time away from me and around peers his age to encourage his development. I know it’s whats best for my kids, but it seems silly to pay to send them somewhere when I don’t work. I’m hoping the two mornings I have alone during the week will be a great time to bond with the new baby soon. 

kaf1788

I’m going to a dear friend’s wedding tonight and I honestly just don’t want to go at all. It’s going to be full of old coworkers (who I genuinely like) but I’m just feeling really blah and uncomfortable with the way I look right now and do t know how I’ll survive the whole night sober. I’m already planning my scheme to leave early..

galactickates

@kaf1788 that's how I feel with the pool party Sunday,  so instead i'm hanging out with my best friend and painting trees on the walls in the nursery and go to the old spaghetti factory.  Sounds much more pleasant then a pool party that I can't drink and don't feel like swimming at

AliKay20

I know SAHMs and working moms all have their own struggles but damn, my 3 months of maternity leave was nice in the fact that I didn’t deal w needy clients and work BS but I lost my sanity for sure just being holed up in the house w my newborn at the time. 

I definitely appreciated getting back in the groove going back to work but then also struggled how to balance work life as a new mom. Answer: No such thing as that perfect balance (at least not yet)

I plan on sending toddler to full time daycare & preschool once she’s 2.5 yo even though I’m taking 14 weeks off to be home w new baby. Kudos to the SAHMs who I think go unnoticed for the amount of things they take care of day in & day out. I could not do it...that’s for sure.

My FFFC: Brb, I forgot... (of course)

LeahNicole

I work 3 12 hr shifts, and then am home the other days. I feel like I am a SAHM 4 days a weeks and work full time in 3 days. I struggle sometimes. I never get to relax.