WTF mum... She's been super excited and supportive of this pregnancy but the one thing she is negative about is ultrasounds. Her evidence for why they should be avoided: 1. She had one done 30+ years ago when she was pregnant with my brother and it made him squirm so she concluded it was unpleasant for him. She never had another one for him or me. 2. My sister had doctor scare the shit out of her when he misinterpreted a scan and gave her really high odds of a genetic abnormality for no good reason according to subsequent doctors she saw. So I should just not have them?! Even after what she experienced my sister doesn't feel that way.
Lately, when it’s my husband’s turn to unload the dishwasher, he only takes out the big items. Then he just leaves all the littler things in to get cleaned again. He thinks I don’t notice. I notice.
Wtf @jessier19! That's so silly... Have you called him out on it? I keep forgetting to unload the cutlery because it's in a third drawer instead of a basket but never to the extent that I re-run with it!
@becks_726 that’s ... ridiculous. My mom doesn’t like that we vaccinate our kid on the schedule suggested by his doctor (“that’s too many shots at once! You know how much shots hurt! His little legs will hurt!”) so we’ve gotten really good at saying “oh that’s interesting!” or “huh, we’ll think about that” and then swiftly changing the subject. Or just not telling her about things she’s going to be stupid about.
@becks_726@BourbonBiscuits I have a crazy mom too! My mom is convinced that the doctor can tell you the exact date and time of when you will have your baby. This didn't occur during her pregnancies, didn't happen with me with DD, but she still believes it and then gets mad at me! Trust me if doctors can do this that would be amazing!
@becks_726 that’s ... ridiculous. My mom doesn’t like that we vaccinate our kid on the schedule suggested by his doctor (“that’s too many shots at once! You know how much shots hurt! His little legs will hurt!”) so we’ve gotten really good at saying “oh that’s interesting!” or “huh, we’ll think about that” and then swiftly changing the subject. Or just not telling her about things she’s going to be stupid about.
I feel your pain, moms can be crazy.
My mom is the same way with vaccinations and we respond just like you all do. “Oh ok.” “Oh really? that’s interesting” and then stick to the schedule. She’s also weird about US and doesn’t want me getting too many because it may ‘harm the baby’s ears’ or whatever. We just use the same response as above.
That seems like a good way of handling it @BourbonBiscuits. The wild thing is that she was a nurse! And maybe there was reason to distrust USs back then but this is 2018 for goodness sake. @adough27 I'd never heard that one! Like... how can her life experience in any way allow her to believe that?
@becks_726 I haven’t called him out on it. I’m a neat freak and he’s a slob, so the battles about housekeeping are constant and never ending. It isn’t one of the battles I’ve chosen to fight yet. If I could get him to stop putting dirty dishes away in the cabinet, rerunning some things in the dishwasher is a price I might happily pay.
My mom also tried to tell me that I was harming my kid with ultrasounds, and that I shouldn’t vaccinate on schedule. I called her out on it and she actually sort of backed down, which was lovely. But my extended family believes similar things MUCH more aggressively (like, no vaccinations at all, little to no prenatal care at all) and there is no arguing with them about it. When I try to point out flaws in their arguments they always just dig in deeper, and I want to scream.
Ugh @jessier19 anti-vaxxers can suck my dick. It’s dangerous, selfish and ignorant. My husband’s cousin hasn’t vaccinated her kids and I will refuse to let my baby near her family until s/he’s old enough to have received the necessary vaccines. It’ll make for some awkward family gatherings but I don’t even care.
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
@becks_726 - That's dumb. It also sounds like something my MIL would say with no scientific rationale. She's the queen of misinformation based on anecdote, her opinion or things she heard or read online. For example, she doesn't think kids need car seats because her kids didn't really have them.... Oh ok, sounds legit.
I love my job most of the time, but there is no downtime anymore and I'm worried I may burn out sooner than I'd like. We have 3 people doing the work of 5 or 6.
We only delay one vaccine - it's one usually given at birth (Hep B ) that we delay until their first check up at 2 days. It's actually super normal to delay this one and a lot of doctors recommend waiting the two days anyway. Give my kids all the vaccinations if they can have them (my brother, for example, was allergic to MMR) - herd immunity is too important to be stupid about.
@becks_726 I honestly have no idea, I think she makes this stuff up or her friends make her believe something is true. The vaccinating thing would drive me nuts, there is so much information and data now compared to when we were kids that prove vaccines and car seats (@kayjay44) for that matter are safe for our children.
There will be probably more stories about my Mom in the future (sorry!), since we don't have the best relationship due to the fact that she is very selfish and likes to have the attention on her.
I cannot stand anti-vaxxers. Their blatant disregard for medical science and the well-being of others annoys the hell out of me. They rank right up there with climate change deniers on my list of people I avoid at all costs.
Tacos from Chipotle sounded fantastic today, so I went there for lunch. As soon as I walked in, the power went out and they shut the place down. Had to settle for a salad from the hospital cafeteria on campus. WTF.
My aunt studied “herbal medicine” and was totally anti-vaccines. Her kids ended up getting whooping cough (surprise!) so that made her change her mind. Now she’s anti-chemo therapy and claims chemo killed my grandpa
Last week I told my mom I am pregnant and asked her if she could come and stay with my son when I go into labor because she’s retired and has time. This week she calls me and tells me she doesn’t want to stay at my house for 2 to 3 weeks and I need to find someone else. First of all, we didn’t even discuss the length of time she would be staying. Second of all, who could I ask to come help with my son, that doesn’t have to go to a job?
Last week I told my mom I am pregnant and asked her if she could come and stay with my son when I go into labor because she’s retired and has time. This week she calls me and tells me she doesn’t want to stay at my house for 2 to 3 weeks and I need to find someone else. First of all, we didn’t even discuss the length of time she would be staying. Second of all, who could I ask to come help with my son, that doesn’t have to go to a job?
My parents took DD and will take our kids this time. Both of them work. My ILs are both retired (and closer) but MIL can’t handle kids, even for a single night. It’s bullshit. Your mom isn’t really being fair about this either
My MIL is an exec at her company and will take off work to watch both of my kids when this one is born. I didn’t even have to ask her. My ILs are awesome though, sometimes I like them more than my husband haha
@disneybaby84 any chance your mom might change her mind again? My mom will say stuff like that to start drama, then ends up bending over backwards to help. It sucks, and is really annoying, but maybe give her some time, but hopefully she changes her mind. Having your in laws on board as a plan B might be a good idea, just in case...
Re: WTF Wednesday 8/1
WTF mum... She's been super excited and supportive of this pregnancy but the one thing she is negative about is ultrasounds. Her evidence for why they should be avoided:
1. She had one done 30+ years ago when she was pregnant with my brother and it made him squirm so she concluded it was unpleasant for him. She never had another one for him or me.
2. My sister had doctor scare the shit out of her when he misinterpreted a scan and gave her really high odds of a genetic abnormality for no good reason according to subsequent doctors she saw.
So I should just not have them?! Even after what she experienced my sister doesn't feel that way.
I keep forgetting to unload the cutlery because it's in a third drawer instead of a basket but never to the extent that I re-run with it!
I feel your pain, moms can be crazy.
@adough27 I'd never heard that one!
My mom also tried to tell me that I was harming my kid with ultrasounds, and that I shouldn’t vaccinate on schedule. I called her out on it and she actually sort of backed down, which was lovely. But my extended family believes similar things MUCH more aggressively (like, no vaccinations at all, little to no prenatal care at all) and there is no arguing with them about it. When I try to point out flaws in their arguments they always just dig in deeper, and I want to scream.
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
I love my job most of the time, but there is no downtime anymore and I'm worried I may burn out sooner than I'd like. We have 3 people doing the work of 5 or 6.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
There will be probably more stories about my Mom in the future (sorry!), since we don't have the best relationship due to the fact that she is very selfish and likes to have the attention on her.
Tacos from Chipotle sounded fantastic today, so I went there for lunch. As soon as I walked in, the power went out and they shut the place down. Had to settle for a salad from the hospital cafeteria on campus. WTF.
Now she’s anti-chemo therapy and claims chemo killed my grandpa
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019