Weekend Randoms 7/21-7/22

bearmomma1

What’s going on this weekend?

bearmomma1

Anyone else not left the house since coming home from the hospital? We came home Wednesday evening, went out Thursday to the pediatrician, and right back home. That’s the only time I’ve been outside really. Sat outside on the patio for a few mins while baby was napping. Hoping to go for a small walk down the street when it gets a bit cooler. 

nimmle

@rachelsogo I hope it cools off enough to get out more soon!

AFM - Going out for our last official date night before due date. Crazy to think I’m a week from my due date! I’m getting impatient and want this little baby out of me!!

SmashJam

@nimmle my last official date night before the due date is scheduled for...two days after my due date, lol. I do not even care if I make it that far, lol.

My pelvis and hips hurt guys. I think I've reached the done phase.

Worked at the library today and only two kids showed up for my program! I was so sad. But they had fun and working the library is so fun! DH is so tired from watching DS alone h it t he took him to the science museum. ON A WEEKEND. that was his first official alone outing with DS that wasn't to family's house. I'm so proud.

zande2016

@smashjam I’m glad you love your job! 

@nimmle have fun on your date! I was just thinking today about when/where our first Official post baby date will be. With my first we went to a James Taylor concert when he was a couple months old and pumping in the car on the way there and back kind of really sucked. 

My H is going back to work Monday (well, he’s been working all along, but staying home with me and only working a couple hours a day) and I am SO nervous. My mom has said she’ll come whenever I want to help, but I honestly get kind of annoyed having her around a lot. I just don’t know how you juggle a toddler and newborn though. I guess I’ll figure it out, but for instance, how do you put the toddler down for a nap? He still gets rocked to sleep, so do I just leave the baby in the living room in his rock n play while I rock the toddler to sleep? Then what if he starts crying? And how do I entertain my toddler ALL DAY when I have a baby atrached to my boob all day? So many questions. Kind of freaking out a little. 

zande2016

@rachelsogo I went out yesterday with my H and both boys, and even though we kept the baby in his car seat, in the stroller, and outside, people still acted like  I was insane for having him out. whatever it felt good to get out. Aside from that I’ve been on a short walk around the block, and two trips to the pediatrician. I am thinking tomorrow we may brave the grocery store. Maybe I’ll wear the baby and have H push the cart with the toddler in the cart seat. Ah. Logistics of juggling 2 under 2. 

bearmomma1

@nimmle enjoy your date night!

@SmashJam sounds like a great job!

@zande2016 We’re going for sushi for our first date night! Not sure when, but I’m excited! Also, I have no advice being a FTM, but I’m freaking out about when my H goes back to work. We have until the beginning of August, but still scary. 

wildtot

Our first outing with baby was to the pedi and target at 6 days old. We’ve gone out a few more times since then but usually open spaces with not too many kids or big crowds. I avoided the dmv when H had to go in a few days ago. 

elizabethrn87

rachelsogo said:

Anyone else not left the house since coming home from the hospital? We came home Wednesday evening, went out Thursday to the pediatrician, and right back home. That’s the only time I’ve been outside really. Sat outside on the patio for a few mins while baby was napping. Hoping to go for a small walk down the street when it gets a bit cooler. 

We will go to a doctors appointment tomorrow. But I do tend to “leave” the house. Target runs- brunch- I just leave baby in car seat. I’d go stir crazy staying inside. 

acunamatada

We’ve been busy with baby since getting out of the hospital, went to the IL’s at 4 days old, ped and target at 6 days and we took DS and DD to an outdoor aquarium/zoo this week at 12 days (but she stayed in her car seat). I’m getting around a lot more than we ever did with DS, mostly because DH is off of work and it’s been beautiful out. 

@zande2016 I’m dreading a real grocery store trip! I’ve been ordering off peapod

@SmashJam sounds like a fun job! And props to your H, I don’t think my H has taken DS anywhere other than family or walks to the park on his own in 3 years 

We had DS’s 3rd birthday party today, which was a success! I’m so so tired.. I’ve been stressing about his cake for the past 56 hours but it came out pretty good despite a major rice crispy triceratops fail. DS kindly donated some of his dinosaurs to put on top of the cake
And my sister is taking him for the day tomorrow so DH and I can just be potatoes on the couch all day with the baby and I cannot wait. This whole two kids thing is exhausting, I’m dreading DH going back to work next week. 

acunamatada

@zande2016 I just did my first bed time alone with both kids. DD was fussy, I had to swaddle her up and rock her in a bouncer with my foot while I read books and cuddled with DS in his bed lol. Somehow I got him to bed on time and the time bomb of a newborn was quiet. Idk how I’ll do this full time at all. 

bearmomma1

Do you all just feed them while out and about? I’m having major fears of the cluster feed session striking or inconsolable baby when out. 

We did just take a stroll down the street with the dogs and had her the stroller and a pacin in and she did great! 

acunamatada

@rachelsogo I feel like at this age all the extra noise and stimulation mostly puts them to sleep. I had to actually wake DD for feeds when we were at the aquarium this week. I feed on demand when out and about, if it’s a bad time I’ll hold her over with a paci until I find a place we can sit. 

zande2016

@rachelsogo I find these babies dont usually wake up much when in the car seat or being worn. They’re good for a couple hours I’d say.

babygagnon2018

Called off work yesterday (was supposed to be my official last day but i said screw it) and just got a bunch of chores done. my family came up to NH from CT to celebrate my bday today and we went to breakfast and hung by the pool. the weightless feeling and cool water on my swollen legs/feet was so amazing. at the drive in now bc my family really wanted to go, bc there arent many in CT but I am SUPER uncomfortable and having tons of BH.  plus we took DH car for the sound system and his seats are sporty like bucket seats- bad call.  baby is due in 2 days and i cant even imagine going past 40 weeks.  my pelvis feels like it is splitting in half when i sit down, ouch.

kc1293

We go out with the baby. I would go stir crazy otherwise (Target, grocery store, restaurants). We just keep her covered. 

DH has had a cold for a couple days. This morning I, DS, and DD1 woke up with coughs. Ugh.

AFM - DH had to go out this morning. First time I was by myself with all three kids. Went a lot better than I thought!

morethanamama

I went to the pediatrician at 3d old and to get some takeout on my own the day after. Aside from that I left the house with DS at 6 days and went for a walk at the bay and he was sleeping in the bassinet. We actually time outings when he is sleeping. Because when he is awake he is most likely wanting to feed constantly! We do usually get a 2-3 hour guarantee nap and he transfers amazing from and into the car seat. 

So far we have gone around the block a few times, walked by the beach twice, out to eat 3 times. Yesterday my mom took him for a stroll at an outdoor mall while I got a massage. He is always in the car seat with the cover or in the uppababy bassinet. Speaking of, the bassinet has been a life saver given how tiny LO is, plus it's nice to have an alternative to the car seat.

flockofmoosen3

@rachelsogo I have gone out, and you should too! With the baby, consider baby carrier or baby in stroller with a light blanket covering the top (hopefully where it isn't too hot to do that). As for feeding, we BF and I do it anywhere anytime if I can sit comfortably. You will do yourself lots of favors if you get used to nursing in public places with or without a cover. It means being able to extend any trip out of the house as long as necessary. If you're FF then just have powder and water ready to mix as needed.
Today we had a picnic at the park and I nursed while the kids played on the playground. I am one of those who don't cover up, and no one even seemed to care anyway. Or if they did they didn't let me know.

@zande2016 baby wearing will probably be the easiest means of getting you and both kids out of the house on your own. It's easier than you think provided baby is well fed before you leave and that there will be a good place for you to nurse/bottle feed while your older one is occupied. I always do grocery shopping with the kids and without DH, and one time I ended up having to nurse DS from the cart. He was like 6 months old and still exclusively nursing and he was crying and hungry so I just said F-it and let him nurse sitting in the cart seat while I continued to push the cart around the store haha!

When we finally get to go on our next date (for our anniversary) I want Indian food. I miss it.

nimmle

Thank you everyone! DH took me out for a delicious italian dinner last night and the waitstaff was so great and super attentive. Probably because I'm so preggo, lol. We were going to take a walk but the skies opened up and it was raining like crazy.

SmashJam

Going to the grocery store and forgot about the rolling road block scheduled for today and am now in standstill traffic. My oil light went on and then off and I'm 2300 miles from my next oil change. 3/4 of a mile from the next exit. I hope my car doesn't explode.

nimmle

When one of your friends who was due 4 weeks after you had her baby and you're still preggo 

p.s. Her baby is doing great despite being born so early. Looks like she won't have to have any extra NICU time.

hillbillywife

I’ve been super busy with baby too! My mom and stepdad have been here and we only see them once a year and I’ve been feeling pretty good so I haven’t wanted to sit at home. 

@nimmle I’m glad you had a nice date night! 

Im also not looking forward to grocery shopping with 3 kids. I’m planning on using Walmart grocery pickup instead of actually dragging the 3 of them into the store. 

@rachelsogo we feed on demand when out and about and hold over with a binkie if it’s not a good place to stop or if we’re driving or something. Also plan on things taking a little longer than you expect them too. It’s kind of a hurry up and wait situation with a newborn lol. We went to an amusement park yesterday and S needed to eat as soon as we got there, but then slept in the Moby until we left. It took us like 9 years to get out of he parking lot because of traffic, so of course he got pretty upset and we used a binkie to get him to the restaurant we were going to. Not his favorite thing, but it worked. 

zande2016

Ugh so I probably shouldn’t have looked, but I randomly decided to look at jobs on indeed this morning (ya know since I was up the entire night/morning nursing, and ran out of things to occupy myself on my phone), and found 3 jobs I really want to apply for. The problem is, all 3 were posted a few weeks ago, and I’m not willing to go back to work until around October 8th when the  baby will be 12 weeks old. So I feel like applying now would be ridiculous, BUT I work in an extremely specialized field, and I’m lucky to find just one position posted anywhere near my area in months, and here are three,
all in my county, all fitting my experience, all at well respected firms in my field. I guess it couldn’t hurt to just apply, but I can’t imagine any of them would want to hire me and then wait 10-11 weeks for me to start. 

SmashJam

@zande2016 apply anyway! You never know, it could be that you are the best qualified and they think you are soooo super awesome they will wait. 

So I flipped out about my oil change light going on and no one had my oil except Jiffy Lube, so I drove all the way there. I get there and they ask, "was it the orange or the red oil light?" I told them orange and they were like, "oh, you're just a quart low then. Subaru had a lawsuit because their cars tend to leak oil so they now have a 'warning' light and a 'Your engine will explode' light. the warning light is orange." I had no idea! I was losing my mind the last three times its been the orange light and I was well before my oil change date/mileage, and this time I was 2300 miles away! I was starting to get super annoyed. Anyway they topped my oil of FOR FREE and everything is fine. Phew.

hillbillywife

@zande2016 I agree with @SmashJam- you should apply anyways! You never know. And if they aren’t able to wait for you- then at least you tried!

ETA: @SmashJam I’m glad they topped it off for free! And that it wasn’t as dire a situation as you thought it was. 

rkk0002

Haven't gotten out with baby besides dr visit, but only 1 week pp, and these stitches are in the itchy healing stage. I am super nervous about my first solo trip with baby and DD, but I have DH home for another week. Hoping DS likes the ergo carrier that just came in. Also, my Mom is leaving today and she's a huge help with DD, so nervous about that as well. So basically I'm a huge bundle of nerves/anxiety today

elizabethrn87

@babybakie yay! Congrats !!!!

moguippy

@zande2016 definitely apply anyway. Sometimes the hiring process can be long anyway. I’ve been job searching since I got laid off at 6 months pregnant (beginning of April) and while most places move on to someone else, I’ve had 2-3 places say call us back when you’re ready to work and we’ll see if we have a position then.  Another possibility is they hire someone else but that person doesn’t work out after a few months and they call you up because they keep your info (this happened to my SIL when she had her second baby) 

zande2016

Thanks everyone I think I will at least submit my resume and just see what happens. It can’t hurt. 

michelle_bird

@zande2016 exactly! Do it.

I bought this for DD on Prime Day and it's been great at keeping her busy times when I'm feeding LO. She's 28 months.

ALEX Discover Button Art https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003AP4JPE/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_78mvBbWW8W5NK

Anyone else having acid reflux issues when wearing your post partum girdle? Mine just came in yesterday - I can't wear it to sleep and we just ate lunch and I feel like I'm going to puke now. But my chiropractor recimnended it for my hernia!

nimmle

@zande2016 Yassss, apply for those jobs! I'm totally with you on wanting to switch jobs during Mat leave!

Big day today getting the baby monitor set up and finally starting to receive all of the goodies I ordered on prime day. Woohoo!

zande2016

@MichelleAG05 ooh I might order that! We
got an amazon GC from H’s work as a baby gift and I was thinking I should use some of it on things to keep the toddler occupied since he’s Been watching wayyyy too much tv lately 

SmashJam

DH is being super wonky about playing with DS. I think he's having a moment because DS and I were out for two hours today, then DS and I napped and he had another 1.5 hours to do projects and he's like, "I didn't have time to do anything! It felt like you were only gone for a bit!" I think he is overwhelmed by the amount of stuff he wants to accomplish before Bernie gets here, and doesn't feel like there is enough time to get it done. Join the club buddy! 

My SIL just messaged me to tell me that my bro is going to rehab in california tomorrow because it turns out he has insurance and from the job he quit for the month of July and they will help him get on medicaid to cover the last couple weeks, then help him get a job and a placement in a sober living house. He told my SIL he's not coming back, but he doesn't want a divorce. I told her I'd believe that he was going to get help when it happened...about 33% of me thinks he'll use the rehab for a plane ticket and then disappear into the crowd and we'll never hear from him again. But I'm just jaded lol.

michelle_bird

@zande2016 yes, I've been trying to get her away from the TV too! She hasn't been watching a ton but more than I would like. We didn't turn it on at all today! 

morethanamama

@zande2016 definitely apply, I agree! If they are looking for the right fit and think you're it they may be willing to compromise on start dates. That has happened to me in the past.

@SmashJam ugh such a sad story about your bro. I understand your feelings, I hope the move ends up being a good thing and that he can actually make it through rehab. I missed it yesterday, but I'm glad you're enjoying your job!

AFM, LO decided to stop napping hard in the morning like he used to. A couple of times he fell asleep, we put him in the bassinet, and he woke up literally 10 min later screaming to eat. Lol.
However, after 3 rounds at the boob he went down at 4pm and going on 2 hours now. DH gave me the green light to get a mani pedi so I did exactly that. Had to be quick because I was afraid DS would wake up and wanting milk (we got some out of the freezer just in case) but it was still enjoyable! Now bumping and relaxing until he wakes up.

gingerbride26

ended up doing a crazy deep clean weekend....just sitting down now to catch up with crazy leg cramps.  Last load of laundry is in the wash, and then we are super ready for baby to come Tuesday.

RE: going out with newborn - we def waited a few weeks with DD for a REAL outing besides driving to Starbucks for caffeine and lull her to sleep or Ped checkup.  When she was on a typical feed every 2 hour scheduled I'd just BF in the car between errands (or in BRU I'll miss the nursing room there).  TBH if DD was cluster feeding mood I'd rather just stay home than deal with it while trying to do anything other than sit on the couch.

@zande2016 i know you already said you'd put your resume in - but I had an experience where a place was willing to wait 2-3 months for me because I had a tonsillectomy scheduled and needed to stay on my current insurance or be a pre-existing condition - so you never know!

@SmashJam sorry the family drama continues - I hope he sobers up and doesn't just peace out on you all

AFM - so in-laws came over today...

before DH could bring up schedule for the week and such, MIL started the conversation in a sort of aggressive tone.  DH told her they should not plan on coming to the hospital on Tuesday since we have no idea how i'll be doing and need time the 4 of us, but they should plan to come up Wednesday. Then she started asking about when we're discharged saying she wants to come get DD the night before for a sleepover and we said no one here day we come home (Friday) and thank you but DD will be in daycare so we should be good.  WELL that didn't go over well.  MIL is a waitress at a family run restaurant and works lunch Tues, then doubles Wed and Thurs and is off Fri-Mon.  She says she can't take a shift off or swithc shifts (she's done it all the time in the past) so I guess she won't see baby until Saturday and she was basically silently crying while DH was talking to her and then went off to smoke and get Dunkin and came back mostly composed.  It's not like we got to choose the day and planned this just to make it difficult on her.  I actually figured they'd come up around/after dinner time on Tuesday...but DH has a point that with all the unknowns and high risk status no one should PLAN on coming up on Tuesday and if everyone is doing well and we are up to it we'll call them around dinner time, but this way they're not breathing down our necks and blowing up the phone to come see him.  I warned SIL in case she doesn't want to mention she's coming to the hospital on Wed and therefore meeting LO first..... said i wouldn't tell if she didn't...  I just get annoyed that sometimes dealing with our families is more like middle school than dealing with adults.  On the bright side MIL didn't mention names ONCE today!!

kbernal2021

Just joining in on this thread this weekend. As far as outings go we have been out a ton since DD was born 3.5 weeks ago. I have a 6 year old and am doing it all by myself so i really have no choice. We have been to the pediatrician, grocery store, DS had a summer camp for his gifted and talented program, we've been to the mall, restaurants, a baby shower, and we have even gone out of town. I keep her covered everywhere we are unless I am baby wearing and even then most people just comment on her and haven't had anyone physically try to touch or get to close. I feed right before we leave anywhere we go and if we are out when she gets hungry I will feed while out. DD sleeps great in the carseat so we haven't run into the clusterfeeding dilemma yet, but we can normally hold over with a paci until I can get to a point to feed.

DD has been spending more time awake and is so alert and loves to sit up and look around. She makes the sweetest sounds while awake too and loves to be talked to. Shes such a happy baby and seriously melts my heart so much. At this point her awake times are pretty routine everyday almost as if shes got an internal schedule, which also makes things a little easier. 

AFM big week with lots of news coming up. DH gets his duty station this week so we will officially know where we will be moving come December. Which puts lots of pressure on finding a home and schools which is a little terrifying considering the areas we have been presented with we have never been to and theres not many "safe" choices. So we may have to take a weekend and meet in the location to scope out the area. So hard when DH only gets Saturdays to do anything. DS also has his consult on Tuesday to schedule his tonsillectomy surgery and we are hoping to get that in prior to school starting on Aug 15.